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First off that's my special man friend with me way back from high school, and been dating now for almost four years now. Yeah he's pretty spectacular, and I love him to pieces, and that's all I have to say about that. I'm a full time college student and working on my gen ed, but I would like to get my bachelor's in gerontology and eventually get my nursing license. In fact I work at a nursing home now as a CNA and I love it so much. Anyways ask questions if you want. I'll try to help you out anyway I can. I love helping people after all. :)

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Im pregnant, and my boyfriend doesn't want the baby, neither do I, but he would like me to get an abortion, and I don't believe in that. What should I do?

It's your option so do what you want. I would say giving it up for adoption is a better option,if you don't have the finanical stability. He's not the one giving birth, you are. In the future use a form of birth control.

xoxo,
dottie4

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my boyfriend is 21 years old .. and we never had sex .. but i always blow job him and when i do it , it takes him like 2-3 minutes and then he comes ... so is it normal to come that fast ??? and is there a chance that it'll effect our sex in the future ???


18/f

That's not fast. What do you expect, that he'll last for an hour? That's not fast. That's all I have to say.

xoxo,
dottie4

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Ok so prom is on Friday and I feel all bloated and gross right now. Are their any quick remedies that'll help me not be bloated by Friday?

There's medicine that gets rid of that problem.

xoxo,
dottie4

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i am a virgin but i really want 2 have sex,but i cant find any 1 2 have sex with wat shud i do have sex with a random person or just keep masturbating 13/f

Just from the way you asked this question, no I don't think you should be having sex. You can't even spell.

xoxo,
dottie4

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If someone, like, had mono before, could they give it to someone later if they kiss them? And if you, like, had mono once, can you get it again? Or can you, like, not get it again like chicken pox?

Like yes like the mono could like lay like dormant like in your body like and stuff like. I like heard that like once you get it that like you don't like get it again. And like with like chicken pox you like can only like get it bad again if like you didn't like have it like that like bad before and stuff.

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dottie4

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ok, so people get STD's when they have sex with someone who is STD positive. But, like, where does thaat person get the STD? You can say that if they were sexually active with someone in the past, that they could have contracted the disease from them. But what I'm saying is, everyone who has an STD couldn't have gotten it from having sex; there has to be a beginning to this. I was thinking that possibly a person can be a carrier of an STD, and not be affected by it. Hence my question, can one get an STD from having sex with a virgin?

Yes it is possible. If someone says there a virgin they could have still practiced oral sex and you can still get an std from that. You can get herpes, gonorrhea, and many others. So I would get your partner tested before taking it any further.

xoxo,
dottie4

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how do you turn on a 16 year old guy? with out having to touch him in places?

Usually just breathing will turn on a sixteen year old guy.

xoxo,
dottie4

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ok i need serious help. I'm in love with my boyfriend, but the way he's acting is ridiculous.
the other night someone told him that i had started smoking again, he fliped and took my ciggarettes and then yelled at me for not coming to him first. He is so convinced that i'm going to cheat on him with one of my brothers friends that he had a panic attack that put him in the hospital. He wont let me go around my bro. and he is constantly reminding me of how i started smoking behind his back. He told someone behind my back that i dress like a slut around other people(a turtle neck is slutty to him). He went through my fone and called eveyone who txted me!
Thats just the bad though.
i absolutley adore him. i'm in love with him. He's always calling just to say i love you and he always makes sure im comfortable.

but apparently the way he's treating me has caused my best friend to stop talking to me until i leave him because my BFF is tired of me being treated like this.

What should i do!?
PLLLEEEAAASSSEEE HEELLLLP ASAP

Thank you
Love always ~heather

I was once in a very controlling relationship much like the one you are in right now. It started out really good, and then got really bad. However I was so infatuated with him, and he chased off all my friends. As a result, he took over my life. I eventually cut all connections with him, and changed my number. Honestly his idle threats sound like crap, so I would just ignore it. You've delt with it for three years, and that is more then long enough to tolerate it. I know you love him, but it's not good for your health to stay with this idiot.

xoxo,
dottie4

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hey I'm 13 and like I've never had a bf. And sometimes I just feel so lonely. Most of my friends have boyfriends and they just seem so happy. And well I like this guy we talk just a bit over aim but thing is he's popular with people which makes it hard to talk to him during school but I just don't know I really want a boyfriend and sometimes I jus feel so disconected from the world like three times this week when my friends have said my name people are like who? And I just sit there like this is so depressing so I need ur help how to stand out .... Just something to make me feel like somebody cause right now I'm just like what to do with my life

Your only 13 years old and your worried about guys? Truth be told your friends relationships won't last that long, and then they'll be really upset. You have your entire life to worry about having a boyfriend. My advice with this guy is to just be friends with him. If something happens in the process, let it. Don't force it. I would just have a good time and enjoy life the way it is. Once you start becoming involved with guys things become really complicated, and you will probably have your heart broken tons of times. Just enjoy things as they come.

xoxo,
dottie4

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well, this has happened twice. I was doing the number two, lol. And after i was done, i wiped my rear and found some blood.. I'm only 17, and i dont know whats wrong.. Its freaking me out, especially because its happened twice. Please help!
Thanks..

Your turds were probably really big as they came out. You don't have anything to worry about.

xoxo,
dottie4

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is it normal too discharge alot when your getttin fingred? is that considered like being wet?

It depends on what the color of the discharge is. If it's red it's your period.
If it's brown there is something wrong with you.
If it's yellow you need to stop peeing.

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dottie4

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well i have a lil problem im kinda in the middle of an sffair ,
and i dnt no how to prepair for when wife finds out.....
if eny futher questions please email me at
andreairianda20@yahoo.com
thanks

Wha?

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dottie4

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i like this guy and everyone says im better than him but i like him alot .. i want to tell him i like him but how should i do it? either phone or person and how do i tell him? n what do i say?

thanks . i really need help :)
loveboys

It shouldn't matter what other people think as long as you like him. I would flirt with him first before just flat out telling him I like him. Send him the signals like touching his arm while your talking, and laughing at his jokes. Guys love it when you act interested in what they have to say, even if your not. Over a few weeks time if he returns your signals, it probably means he likes you so then I'd ask him if he wants to hang out and do something.

xoxo,
dottie4

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What are some good tattoo ideas? Just a small one, I mean it'd have to have a personal meaning for me.. so any ideas how I should go about picking something like that?

I would probably get it on my wrist.

Any advice or suggestions will be appreciated. thanks!

Tattoos are something that you should want to get yourself. You really shouldn't ask other people's advice on what you should get. I know a lot of people who rushed to get a tattoo as soon as they were eighteen, and they regret it. Plus it costs tons of money to get it removed. If you decide to do something like that you need to think of it yourself. You shouldn't have to ask other people what you should get.

xoxo,
dottie4

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thanks soo much if you read this i really need help =/

(im 16 hes 17 we're both juniors)

so a few nights ago me and my boyfriend had this huge like 3 hour talk. he lost his motivation to do like anything because his depression is kicking in again and he said he saw someone about it and asked why it was coming back because he thought that his life was going really good and they said he had to much stressors in his life like his school, sports, parents and girlfriend. he told me that i couldn't relate to what his parents were going through because my parents aren't divorced but then i told him that it doesn't matter and that you just need someone to help you get through it and it doesnt matter if they can relate or not. which he knows i completely would do whatever it takes to help him. then he was saying how he found "the one" way to early in life because we've been dating for 8 months now. (we're 17, juniors) and you're suppose to find them after college. and then i told him he was planning way to far ahead and that we're not even seniors yet and something might happen and as much as i want us to, we might not even last until then to stop planning so far ahead...so like i don't know what to do, i think the best thing for him would be for me to break up with him until he can get his life together but i'm worried that will just make him even more depressed because he told me he's so scared of love and definetly does not throw it around and he said he's 100% positive that he loves me, and i love him soo much, i actually cried the whole last night at even the thought of having to break up with him..but then again like his lack of motivation is downing me too because i understand his problem but he never wants to do anything anymore and i feel that im always the one trying to get ahold of him and he never calls me, so its not good for only one person in a relationship to be fighting...i don't know..please help.

Guys are horrible with communication skills. It sounds like he really isn't interested in you anymore. Your still young, and you deserve a lot better. Although guys aren't that great in expressing their feelings, they at least let you know enough. It doesn't seem he is doing that for you though. I would take a break from him, don't call him for a while, and let him call you. You've done everything you can for him, and you've done nothing wrong. Now it's his turn to let you in.If it doesn't work then you'll know you tried.

xoxo,
dottie4

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this is me ON THE RIGHT:

http://i286.photobucket.com/albums/ll119/iscream4bananas/cedarpoint033.jpg

and im debating between this color/style:

http://i286.photobucket.com/albums/ll119/iscream4bananas/scenehair107.jpg

and this one:

and this one:http://i286.photobucket.com/albums/ll119/iscream4bananas/scene.jpg

I don't think it matters. Your very pretty and you can pull either one off.

xoxo,
dottie4

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16/f i will keep it short. whenever i eat or drink anything hot or cold i get a stabbing pain in my gums and teeth on the bottom right side. anything room temperature doesnt seem to bother me. what could be the problem and how would i fix it? thankyou

I had the same problem. Turns out I needed to get my wisdoms pulled. I would make an appointment with the dentist. In the meanwhile get orajet for your toothache.

xoxo,
dottie4

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Today my mom walked in on my boyfriend and I having sex and now she doesn't trust me at all. I'm not allowed to have guys over and I knew that before today. But now it's all awkward between my mom and I and she expects me to feel terrible about what I've done, yet I don't and I can't! I don't think sex is a bad thing and I may be young at 17 but it was my first time and I was safe. I know we'll never see eye to eye on this but I just don't want this to be all messed up anymore. I pretty much feel like an idiot though, and she's making me feel worse. But even though I broke the rules I still don't feel like my decision was that horrible. Help? Anyone? Thanks.

Your mom will get over it with time. It may seem like she'll never trust you again, but she eventually will. Just explain to her that you were safe and how bad you feel about it. I'm sure she'll be understanding in time.

xoxo,
dottie4

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[l5/f]
is there anyway to shave down there w/o geting bumps and or irritation, and can you hair removal cream down there.
p.s. i rate all advice high!

get it waxed.

xoxo,
dottie4

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heeyy..
am a 16 year old female.. nd i already got too tired from life.. i wanna gt away from it.. its all that i want right now..
i just wanna know the best way to do it..
and please answer me as soon as possible.. cuz i wanna do it by next week max..
thnxx all xoxox

You need to get yourself some help honey. Talk to someone you trust, a teacher, whatever. Suicide is not the answer. I've had a few friends that committed suicide and everyone was so upset about it. Her parents will never be able to get over it because they think it's their fault it happened. Suicide may sound great right now but you really don't realize how many people you will hurt after you do it. Also, what if you are not successful? There are horrible affects after.

xoxo,
dottie4

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