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an affair
well i have a lil problem im kinda in the middle of an sffair ,
and i dnt no how to prepair for when wife finds out.....
if eny futher questions please email me at
andreairianda20@yahoo.com
thanks
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I suggest not waiting until she finds out.
either end it with the other girl.
or grow a dick, be a man and tell your wife.
Sad. A grown married man can't take the truth.
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First, on this site, it is inexcusable for you to type so horridly unless English is not your first language or you have a mental disorder, in which case we need to know so that we can try to understand your question.
I assume you meant to type, "Well I have a little problem. I'm kind of in the middle of an affair, and I don't know how to prepare for when my wife finds out...If you have any further questions, please email me at...blahblahblah."
Now onto the advice...
I hate to break it to you, but no one here is going to cut you any slack. We don't pity you for cheating on your wife; you did this to yourself. Now, having said that, you can also control this situation. You can TELL YOUR WIFE what's going on. You must realize that very few marriages will survive an affair. Though given the state of your typing, I have my doubts. You may not even want your marriage to survive this, which is probably part of the reason you're "in the middle of" this affair. Your wife deserves to know what's going on, and decide for herself whether or not she wants to continue being married to a cheater.
If your marriage is in peril to begin with, and you're unhappy, file for a divorce. There's no reason for either of you to remain stuck in Hell. Fix the problem.
If your marriage is not in peril to begin with, it's in peril now. File for a divorce. There's no reason for your wife to remain stuck in Hell. Fix the problem. Single, you'll be able to sleep with all the women you please and not have to worry about being "found out."
You "love" your wife and don't want to lose her? Too late. By having an affair, you've already lost her. You clearly don't love her enough to be loyal to her.
First, end this affair before she can "find out." Second, acknowledge what's going on in your mind - figure out why it is, exactly, that you're having this affair. Then once you do that, you need to go to your wife and tell her the truth. There is a small chance that she can forgive you if YOU go to her and tell her what's going on, as opposed to if you continue to lie to her and she catches you. If you're honest, she can at least say that you opened up to her and told her the truth and justify trying to forgive you. If, that is, you want her to. If you don't want to be in your marriage any more, she still needs to know. Following that, man up and discuss what you two want to do with this new information.
It's a sad, sad world when someone has to actually ask how to "prepair" for when his wife finds out he's having an affair.
Use some common sense. I'm sorry, but I can't wish you good luck. I can, however, wish you clarity. It seems that you need some.
-Siren
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I think you need to tell her, she has a right to know.
because loving some one is putting enough trust in them not to break your heart. how do you think she's gonna feel if she finds out the hard way and not the more trusting and respectfull way?
Its gonna hurt like hell either way on her side so you might as well especially if she's been faithfull to you.
you got the ball's to do it?
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Wha?
xoxo,
dottie4
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for you to be prepared?? in the middle of one?? either you love your wife or you dont. why wait for her to find out either tell her your having an affair and you want a divorce. Or0 tell her how sorry you are dont wait for her to find out that makes it worse and you should just feel how bad it is going to hurt her. not how you should prepare how should she handle this.. what is she going to do. you should be worried.. who knows she may already no and loves you and is just putting up with the bull shit. no offence but think about your wife not your self.
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