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I am 48 years old (yes that's old compared to some of you).
I have worked in nursing and/or healthcare management positions for 24 years. Primarily OB, Neonatal, Mental Health, Occupational Health and Geriatrics. In Jan 2008 I started my own business to board horses and do equine/human education. I am also a certified dog trainer.
I've been around the block so to speak and seem to be always helping others. I've been told that the reason people seek me out for advice is that I am approachable and caring. But on the same token even though I consider the person's feelings. I tell it like I see it. I've dealt with people in trouble with the law, dysfunctional families such as those with abuse & marriage problems. Not to mention problems with employees and employers.
I don't ever claim to know it all, and always keep an open mind.
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i slept on my shoulder wrong the other night and had mom massage it in the morning. but it made it worse. now, it feels like a huge bruise spread across my upper back. it hurts quite a bit. but im wondering if i should go to a massage therapist or just take asprin until it goes away.
If you are under 21 you shouldn't take aspirin due to the possiblity of Reye Syndrome. Ask your Mom and/or the pharmacist about taking Ibuprofen or Tylenol. It's not logical for one to suggest OTC meds due to the potential for complications when the persons medical history is unknown. Use a cold pack three times a day for 20 minutes each. Try not to do anything strenuous with your arm/shoulder for a few days aside from gentle range of motion exercises. Those with shoulder problems should sleep on their back with a pillow behind the head that extends below the posterior shoulders. Using topical pain releiver creams or gels would be a good idea. If the pain does not resolve in a few days or gets worse, seek further treatment advice from a licensed health practioner.
I have a sore breast, it started about six months ago and i have already been to the doctors about it.
They reffered me to a clinic who said there wasn't a lump and refused to give me a mammogram, the doctors said it was just due to my age.
She also said it should go away by itself in a couple of months, that was 3 months ago.
Should i be worried, should i go back to the doctors or am i just being paranoid? There is a history of cancer in my family but not breast cancer.
I just need some reassurance that its okay!
Since the pain didn't go away as the Doctor said it would, yes you have every reason to go back. The doc can't do anything for you if you don't report that you are still having symptoms. If you return and you are still not satisfied with the answer you recieve, then seek a second opinion from a physician that is not in the same practice.
hi, im a 15 year old girl, never had a bf, but have made out with TOONNNS of guys, and have had plenty of admirers.
the problem?
im not happy with life, but i dont think my love life has anything to do with it..
but everyone else seems to, everywhere i go people are always like "life is nothing without love" so i get it, love is important. i belive so too, if i live life for my career or firends, i will not be happy,,i need true love.
but is it realy THAT important? really?
like does my whole happyness depend on love?
and does having a bf realyy matter?
ive heard people who have steady relationships often do better in life, better in school, with friends and s on.. but i dont get it? why does having a bf make life easier??
do you have any experciences of this in your own personal life?? care to share?? thx.
From my experience no, a steady boyfriend will not help you do better in life. Happiness does not depend on being in love, it will depend on how much you love yourself. You are the only one who can make you happy. So in otherwords, happiness starts from within. I believe we only have so much energy to give, and being in love with the wrong person is draining and taxing. There are usually more "wrongs" than "rights" so from personal experience it is best for one to take time and develop their true self before trying to devote their life to another.
Okay ijust started highschool and like im realli stressed out cause like my dad has cancer and i think im already failing classes and stuff.... sooo i went to a counsiler and like i started counseling today to help me with all this.....
so my question isi how do i tell my parents about counsiling without like freaking them out???
Look up Hospice in the local phone book and give them a call. A person who is used to helping families affected by cancer will be able to help. If you are afraid your parents will get freaked out by you needing counseling, it might just be best to have someone else tell them. What you are going through can be expected, and really your Mom and Dad are going to need some help too. It's just that they have probably had to focus on other things right now. You are doing the right thing by seeing a counselor, and your Mom and Dad will most likely be relieved.
well be aunt and uncle just died in a car crash leaving 3 boys ages 3, 5, and 9. i am really sad about it and all of the sudden will have a breakdown. anything i should do to try and get over it or comfort their boys? the 3 year old is constantly asking questions about his mom. thanks!
Don't fight the sad feelings, it's part of the grieving process. If you have pictures of the boys parents, make sure they are out where the boys can view them frequently. Reassure them how much their Mommy and Daddy loved them and would want them to be happy. If at all possible, talk to your parents about some counseling for the boys. The counselor can offer a lot of solutions to help them move on with life.
there this guy and i have a huge crush on him, but he has a girlfriend. ive like had dreams about him and cant stop thinking about him its driving me crazyy!!! what can i do??
For some reason a lot of people want what seems to be out of reach, or what we can't have. Sometimes it's about the challenge..once we get them they don't live up to our expectations anyway. Date other people, and live your life as if he is "untouchable" watch him from a distance though. If they ever break up, don't miss your chance and tell him how you have been feeling all this time. You never know what the future will bring. If you two are meant to be together, it will happen.
15/f
i have a friend but she's not close and we both like the same guy but she nor do my/her friends know that i do.
but me and this guy let's call him G well we know eachother and he's always messing with me he's put his arm around me and is a total gentelmen with me.
But he doesn't even know her that well and her/my friends are trying to hook them up.
what should i do?
ALSO i have a feeling he might ask me out and if he does should i say yes even though my "friend" likes him?
Help please!
The guy "G" might just like you better than the other girl. While I don't ever advocate stealing a friend's boyfriend. I think this situation is different. He doesn't know her well...and apparently if he has not asked her out yet his feelings for her are not what others percieve them to be. In this case, I think you should say "yes". He sounds like a nice guy. Go for it!
so i started birth control about a month ago. i was just ending my period. i'm on allesse. so i started taking the pink pills.. and i started the green ones three days ago. i still dont have my period and there's no chance that i'm pregnant because i've never had sex. is this normal?
Just continue taking the birth control pills as prescribed. If you do not have a period in three months go back to your Dr. It may be possible that he/she will adjust the strength of the pills. If you are still concerned, call the Dr's office and follow their directions.
15/f
hey
i did the hole bf/gf thing and i didnt really get along with it. now i just kindof feel like messing around and having fun instead of trying to figure out everything. meaning, i dont want to have a boyfriend, but i dont want to miss out on all the sexy-licious fun things having a highschool bf gives you. the only problum is, the rumors are spreading, and im starting to sound like a slut, and thats really not it at all. i have my limits, and if someone cant respect that i ditch them. besides that, i dont know what to do to keep the respect of other peoples. can someone help me out? just because i have fun doesnt make me a slut, and i dont know how to make other people understand that.
Well first of all when you date someone new tell them from the beginning that you are not ready for a commitment. Explain what your limitations are, and that way they will be prepared and not so hurt when and if you ditch them. It may be because of the hurt feelings that the guys are saying bad things, and in turn you are getting a bad reputation.
Tell your close friends that you don't want to be tied down in a relationship. Explain how you feel in a way that they will understand. Hopefully when and if the friends are approached by others about your behavior they can stand up for you because they will know the truth. As far as others respecting you, it doesn't really matter what they think, it's how you think about yourself that counts.
I have been having pain on my left side of my jaw on the bottom like underneath my skin. it hurts to touch it, or to turn my head. i know i didnt break it, because i dont remeber ever hitting it. is it because i use my vocal chords to much?
anyone wana help!?
I see this is an older question, so I hope you are better by now. Anyway, yes there could be a correlation to singing and or yelling. If that is the case, more than likely it is from overuse of the muscles that surround your jaw..and not so much the vocal cords. It's amazing how many muscles are in the face/jaw, and how many we use just for talking! Although, vocal cords do get inflammed and cause a hoarse voice.
If your pain has not resolved by now, I hope that you would see a Dr to rule out a more serious problem like an infection. Best of luck :-)
I play soccer and the other day I went to the trainer because the front part of my leg is hurting. They told me that I have shin splints. They said that it can only heal with rest and that if I am to practice or play in a game, they were gonna tape it up. When I'm just walking around, it really hurts and I've been limping because of it. Is there anyway to prevent it from happening again after it heals? How can I reduce the pain?
Usually shin splints will start when someone exercises (runs) after a period of inactivity. The trouble with the tranier giving advice is that stress fractures can cause the same symptoms as shin splints. So it's best to see a Dr for diagnosis and treatment. The best way that I know to treat shin splints is to rest, apply ice three times a day for 20 minutes each and take over the counter pain relievers. Healing usually occurs in about a week. The way to prevent this, is to warm up slowly, wear shoes that absorb the impact & keep a consistant exercise routine. But once again, the Dr. Is the best person for advice once you are certain of the diagnosis.
ok so there's this girl in school and well she's a big dork and she doesn't shower daily. She's pretty much the biggest skank ever.
well lately she has been getting this scab on her top lip and on her bottum lip i mean they are huge! The bottum covers 75 % of her chin and the top covers like 25% well her lips are gross to. but these scabs are like red around the edges and yellow puss looking stuff on top. i can't figure out wat it is. and i want to help her get rid of it cuz she's helpless to it. wat should i say to her about it? and wat do you think it is? i don't think she is sexual active so im guessing its not herpes or anything like that. shes only in the 7th grade so i really don' think thats a factor in this. its really gross and she is being made fun of for it i feel sorry for her please answer allllllll the questions!
It's hard to believe you that you can call someone bad names, and then want to be kind to her at the same time. I have my suspicions as to what the sores around her mouth are, and I agree it's most likely not sexually transmitted. However, to preserve this girls dignity I am not going to tell you what I think it is, and I am not going to suggest that you approach her about it. The best thing for you to do is go to the school nurse and ask if she can speak to the girl about it. If you want to be really nice, stand up for her when the others are making fun of her.
if someone stole your picture off of a website and made a fake myspace of it .. is there any way possible for them to get in trouble with the cops or something about identity theft or some type of law. or do you just let it go?
There is a law, but it's so hard to get information due to the privacy act. The best thing to do is to email myspace and ask them to remove the picture. If you suspect the person is underage, which they could be...that's why they stole the picture. Simply tell myspace that you know the user is underage and they will remove it with no questions asked. Less headaches for you, and it will get the picture down faster, which is your ultimate goal anyway.
okay my ex boyfrined told me that when he listened to this is thought of me but he didnt know what it meant.
what do you think he means?, i think he likes me again but he has a girlfriend.
its through the glass bye stone sour
I'm looking at you through the glass
Don't know how much time has passed
Oh God, it feels like forever
But no one ever tells you that forever
Feels like home, sitting all alone inside your head
Cause I'm looking at you through the glass
Don't know how much time has passed
All I know is that it feels like forever
When no one ever tells you that forever
Feels like home, sitting all alone inside your head
How do you feel? That is the question
But I forget, you don't expect an easy answer
When something like a soul becomes
Initialized and folded up like paper dolls and little notes
You can't expect a bit of hope
And while you're outside looking in
Describing what you see
Remember what you're staring at is me
Cause I'm looking at you through the glass
Don't know how much time has passed
All I know is that it feels like forever
When no one ever tells you that forever
Feels like home, sitting all alone inside your head
How much is real? So much to question
An epidemic of the mannequins
Contaminating everything
When thought came from the heart
It never did right from the start
Just listen to the noises
(Null and void instead of voices)
Before you tell yourself it's just a different scene
Remember it's just different from what you've seen
Im looking at you through the glass
Don't know how much time has passed
And all I know is that it feels like forever
When no one ever tells you that forever
Feels like home, sitting all alone inside your head
And it's the stars, the stars
That shine for you
And it's the stars, the stars
That lie to you, yeah
I'm looking at you through the glass
Don't know how much time has passed
Oh God it feels like forever
But no one ever tells you that forever
Feels like home, sitting all alone inside your head
Cause I'm looking at you through the glass
Don't know how much time has passed
All I know is that it feels like forever
But no one ever tells you that forever
feels like home, sitting all alone inside your head
And it's the stars, the stars
That shine for you, yeah
And it's the stars, the stars
That lie to you, yeah
And it's the stars, the stars
That shine for you, yeah
And it's the stars, the stars
That lie to you, yeah
Oh, the stars
Oh, oh the stars that lie
It means that the relationship on the inside, is different than it appears on the outside. When he looks through the glass he misses the person on the other side, but when he looks deeper it feels wrong. It's an interesting song, I am going to have to listen to it.
OK, I do not even know where to begin. I am 30 years old, married with 3 children. Lately, I have been feeling a real nervous breakdown coming on. OUr 2 younger children will not listen to anything we tell them & I mean ANYTHING. Yes, I understand they are little yet, but, we can smack their ass, ground them, put them in time out & they will keep on doing the very thing that gets them into trouble. My husbad has a decent job & I have a min wage job. Somehow, we are failng to make it! We have an outrageous mortage & other bills to pay & right now...we have no money & I mean nothing! Overdrawn in the bank & nothing in our pockets. I honestly don't know who to turn to right now. Everyone I know is sleeping & my husband is at work. I am crying & shaking as I write this now & my 3 year old is upstairs screaming as usual. I actually want to trash my house right now, which by the way is already a dump from no one picking aything up! I don't want to seem like a failure by checking into a mental hospital, but, I don't know what else to do! I don't think I can hold it in any longer. I hope someone out there is on here now. Thanks.
Oh Wow! I know it won't help to tell you this, but I have been there. Really we still live paycheck to paycheck. I used to be upset about the little things like a messy house and kids not doing thier homework, but then I moved on to bigger problems like--in trouble with the law and a host of other major issues with teenagers. Being a parent means a lot of joy and heartache. I have considered mental health, or running away. There has been countless days of frustration and tears on my part. You are not a failure, but a victim of circumstance. It's nearly impossible to seek out counseling or other resources without having the money, or being dirt poor. The middle class people seem to fall through the cracks. I know..been there too. Even though the day to day struggles are overwhelming. I did manage to do some things that made life a little more tolerable. The best thing is to turn to people who have been there. Since my answer is already so long, if you want send a private question and I will talk to you more in depth. For now, bless you and remember, this too shall pass.
iam a 17 year old female and I just had a baby and jessica's about 2 months old now and it's becoming hard,I live with my parents and my boyfriend broke up with me when i told him i was pregnant so iam a single mother and even though my parents are still letting me live with them they say i have to get a job and raise jessica without any of their help they won't look after her while iam at school so i have to pay for daycare while iam at school and now iam looking for a parttime job also and it's getting hard to pay the babysitter to watch her i love jessica with all my heart and i am going to stay in school so quiting school is not an option for me becouse i want to be able to go to collage to be able to take care of my baby girl properly and make sure she's healthy.I quit cheerleading and I hardly ever go anywhere so I can take care of my child what should i do please help me.
I see that quitting school is not an option, so I won't suggest the GED. Most likely you are a Senior and so close to walking down the isle with your class. One thing that probably hampers you from getting financial help is that you have to count your parents income. You are a minor, so in order to move out & get services, I think you will need to become emancipated through the court system. You can then seek help through the State social services or Catholic charities, or Luthern social services. You will be able to get health benefits for the baby, help with formula through WIC, rental assistance and help with day care. Social services can help you find an apartment where rent is based on income. For now, go to school during the week & take the day care assistance that the state will provide. You may possibly work on weekends and perhaps find a baby sitter for those hours. Is the baby's father or his parents willing to help? If so, allow them to do so. In addition to all this, you can still use any assistance to go to college after graduation and then once you graduate and get a good job you may no longer need any assistance.
i had a low fever yesterday now i just have a lot of sinus drainage, and runny nose and my head feels congested. any tips on making it go away faster?
If you can, ask your pharmacist about taking an over the counter decongestant. Take a couple of hot steamy showers a day to help clear out your sinuses and make you feel better. Drink a lot of fluids, such as OJ and water. This should help :-)
I have HUGE pores. What can I do to make them appear smaller. Also, are people with big pores more prone to acne?
people with large pores are more prone to acne and oily skin. If you have no sensitivities try using an astringent once or twice a day to firm the pores and make them smaller. Once a week use a peel off mask which will help tighten the skin.
My family and i had 2 dogs. my mom found a cute puppy and asked us [my sister and me] if we wanted one. i said no because the 2 dogs that we already have get no attention and are always chained up outside [my mom makes them, so don't point fingers at me] and i said that the puppy would end up exactly like the other dogs: with no attention and always chained up. we got another dog anyways. and what i said is what happened. what do i do? i feel bad but i never wanted that puppy because i knew what would happen
You sound like you are the mature one of your family. I have to agree with you, it's not fair for dogs to be chained all of the time. Some people just don't think....A puppy is cute and cuddly and fun to play with, but once one discovers the work involved the 'fun' wears off and they are tossed aside. It's unfortunate that we are such a 'throw-away' society. I am guessing that you are going to have to take full responsibility for the three dogs (since no one else will) unless you can get your sister involved. Since they have to be chained, at least make sure they have a nice dog house and plenty of food and water all the time. Take the dogs for walks every day, play with them and give them as much attention as you can. Inisist that they receieve proper vet care, and perhaps obedience classes so they can socialize better. If you can't do all this, perhaps you could try to convince your Mom to find the poor dogs a new home.
im 17 and i have a job but i work maybe 3 days a week. My dad never works around my schedule. he always plans Activities on the days that i work. And he does it purposely. Like the whole family will go bowling, out to eat, to an amusement park or the movies. And of course i have to work. And when i get upset or pissed about them doing things without me i get yelled at about it.
its drving me nuts. Im still part of this freakn family. What do i do?
thanks
- We can do these things everyday of the freakn week but its always the days i have to work. I have explained and begged and said please plan things when i dont have to work, but they dont.
I think it's great that at 17 you still want to do family things. Your Dad should appreciate that. In addition, it's great that you are working..I am giving you a pat on the back:-) It would be nice if your Dad would be more understanding. When my oldest was 17, he never wanted to go anywhere with us as a family. He always had some excuse, and would have rather been with his friends. That's pretty normal, chosing friends over family. I am guessing your Dad doesn't realize that he should be honored that you want to spend time together. You are growing up and will move on with your own life someday soon. Your Dad will probably regret that he didn't make an effort to make arrangements to include you in the family outings. Perhaps you could point that out to him.
In addition I am wondering what would happen if you would plan some family activities on your days off? Tell your Dad that since he overlooks your schedule, you just wanted to be sure you were included. Make him feel really important..tell him that you miss him! Guys (even if they are our Dads) like to feel important you know. Best of luck :-)