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a teen parent
iam a 17 year old female and I just had a baby and jessica's about 2 months old now and it's becoming hard,I live with my parents and my boyfriend broke up with me when i told him i was pregnant so iam a single mother and even though my parents are still letting me live with them they say i have to get a job and raise jessica without any of their help they won't look after her while iam at school so i have to pay for daycare while iam at school and now iam looking for a parttime job also and it's getting hard to pay the babysitter to watch her i love jessica with all my heart and i am going to stay in school so quiting school is not an option for me becouse i want to be able to go to collage to be able to take care of my baby girl properly and make sure she's healthy.I quit cheerleading and I hardly ever go anywhere so I can take care of my child what should i do please help me.
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I am going through the same thing kind of, I got pregnant at 14 and the father got sent to a group home, he now is very involved with another girl and doesn't see his son or help me pay for anything. You should be able to find a part-time job somewhere in town at either a restaurant or something. Also about the day care, do you know anyone that would be willing to watch her, like a family friend or a sitter that is close to your family? If so ask them if they could watch her for you during the day so you can go to school. If not you could always do the homeschooling thing online, and watch her. Try to get a job at a daycare center and you could just have them take the time she spends there that would cost you out of your pay check or something. I really hope everything works out for you and wish you the best, if you have any questions about anything else about your child you can drop it in my inbox.
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I see that you don't want to quit school, but you can get your GED and take an extra class to get your high school dimpola(sp). It's hard. I'm a teen parent too. I live with my parents and my fiance. He didn't leave me. And I stay home. If you would like to talk more. Message me if you have yahoo or msn messenger. xxforevermommy
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I see that quitting school is not an option, so I won't suggest the GED. Most likely you are a Senior and so close to walking down the isle with your class. One thing that probably hampers you from getting financial help is that you have to count your parents income. You are a minor, so in order to move out & get services, I think you will need to become emancipated through the court system. You can then seek help through the State social services or Catholic charities, or Luthern social services. You will be able to get health benefits for the baby, help with formula through WIC, rental assistance and help with day care. Social services can help you find an apartment where rent is based on income. For now, go to school during the week & take the day care assistance that the state will provide. You may possibly work on weekends and perhaps find a baby sitter for those hours. Is the baby's father or his parents willing to help? If so, allow them to do so. In addition to all this, you can still use any assistance to go to college after graduation and then once you graduate and get a good job you may no longer need any assistance.
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First of all, I just want to say I'm really glad you want to stay in school and take care of your child properly. Most teenage mothers just drop out and life gets even harder later.
I will give you some advice with what someone I know did to take care of her child.
She didn't attend Highschool, but she did go to computer school and got her Highschool degree there. And now she has plans to attend a community college. So that'd give you more time at home with your daughter to watch her, and still have time to get a degree in school and continue onto college.
You might want to try sitting home one night and plan out a schedule so you're a little more organized, and a little less stressed. Maybe put your daughter to bed around 10:00ish, and then have friends and people come over to hang out for awhile or go out somewhere so you can socialize and have a good time cause you still are a teenager.
Maybe for now do you know any of your friends who'd be willing to watch her for free or at least for a little less cheaper than what a babysitter might normally offer? Or maybe your friends have a little sister, or ask your parents if they know somebody, maybe even with a kid so your kid and theirs can have a little play date or something.
And once your child starts to get older and you're attending college it'll get easier cause you'll be able to take evening classes or night classes randomly throughout the day so you'll have more time to come home and spend time and take care of your daughter for awhile and work.
Best of luck you, and I hope everything goes well.
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First study for and take your GED. I know you probably want the social life high school has for you but, you have more important things to do right now.
Once you get that that GED get a full time job. If you can type decent enough try for work in a hospital as a receptionist or something. I say a hospital because I have worked in them and know they
pay well and give regular raises. You can find anything that you like this is only a suggestion.
Some also have daycare right in the hospital. Should you want to go into nursing some will help pay your way.
Regardless of where you find employment, once you find it you can take a couple of evening classes at your local college. It will take longer to get a degree but you can do it and raise your child at the same time.
Good luck. :)
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