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15/f
hey
i did the hole bf/gf thing and i didnt really get along with it. now i just kindof feel like messing around and having fun instead of trying to figure out everything. meaning, i dont want to have a boyfriend, but i dont want to miss out on all the sexy-licious fun things having a highschool bf gives you. the only problum is, the rumors are spreading, and im starting to sound like a slut, and thats really not it at all. i have my limits, and if someone cant respect that i ditch them. besides that, i dont know what to do to keep the respect of other peoples. can someone help me out? just because i have fun doesnt make me a slut, and i dont know how to make other people understand that.
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well maybe you should think about haveing a friend (boy) that you can have all this fun that you want with and just sick with the 1 lad don't go out with him just have him as a friend you fool about with then maybe people will understand that you'r not a slut witch you'r not and try not to let the 1's that are saying these things about get you down aslong as you'r happy there just pissed off because you no what you want and they don't goog luck
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You're going through a phase that a lot of people, most people actually, go through. The main thing to keep in mind is...as long as you have respect for yourself, don't worry about what other people think or say. Nothing people say about you in high school matters. They just talk because they have nothing better to do. If you want to have fun, I think you should. I do advise you to be careful, though. Don't do ANYTHING you're not comfortable with doing yet, and always protect yourself from anything that could mess up your future. Eventually, you'll probably get tired of just having fun, and you'll want to find that one person to be completely serious about and committed to. If you think you might want to find someone like that later on in highschool, make sure he knows that you're not just using him for fun, because chances are, he'll know your past record with guys through all the high school gossip. Right now though, don't worry about what others say, but remember to STAY SAFE!
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Well first of all when you date someone new tell them from the beginning that you are not ready for a commitment. Explain what your limitations are, and that way they will be prepared and not so hurt when and if you ditch them. It may be because of the hurt feelings that the guys are saying bad things, and in turn you are getting a bad reputation.
Tell your close friends that you don't want to be tied down in a relationship. Explain how you feel in a way that they will understand. Hopefully when and if the friends are approached by others about your behavior they can stand up for you because they will know the truth. As far as others respecting you, it doesn't really matter what they think, it's how you think about yourself that counts.
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What exactly do you want to do with these boys?
I am 15 as well...and I think that if I heard about someone like you my first thought would be slut...because i dont know you, but really, I do not think you are...
and It is totally cool to have fun like that, I mean you're 15, live life to it's fullest!
Just dont go around bragging about it, or just dont tell people at all...they dont need to know..
Have you tried explaining to peopole that you are not looking to "settle" down because you are only 15, and you want to live a little?
well good luck!
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You want friends with benefits?
Maybe not, but thats what it sounds like,
if you feel like "messing around"
I wouldnt consider making out with random boys, or doing 'stuff' even though you know your limits. Because in the end, its still using yourself and the guy.
To keep respect, you must give respect. And if what you are saying/doing isnt respectable thats why people are being stupid.
& there is a huge difference between having good fun, and having 'fun' you know?
You are either having the slut fun, and thats why they are calling you a slut, because its sleezy to do.
Just contemplate what you are trying to accomplish you know?
And ignore the other people, dont act like it bugs you.
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