my friend always says the word tushay [sp?] wht does it mean?
The actual word is "touché," which comes from fencing. Basically, when you got someone, you would say touché. In similar fashion, if you hit something on the mark, you say it now.
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Can you really be skinny or burn off fat other than surgery? Because I'm just wondering..wouldn't you be skinney but then you'd have skin sagging out after your workout because your skin was stretched when you're fat? if not, then how?
Pinch the skin on the back of your hand.
No, seriously, do it. Then let it go and watch what happens--it sinks back into place.
Skin is stretchy, especially when we're younger. If you exercise along with weight loss, chances are you'll be fine.
And even if you have saggy skin, well, it's still healthier than being overweight.
But skin is a living organism--the largest on the body. It adapts.
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I have a lot of time on my hands and am looking for some good books to read. I am not sure what to read though. I like books about teenagers going through tough times, kind of books that a teenage girl can relate to. I liked Crank and Speak. So anything kind of like either of those two books would be great. Thank you.
I love "More Than You Can Chew" by Marnell Tokio. "Shoulder the Sky" by Lesley Choyce is fantastic (although perhaps hard to find if you don't live in Canada, specifically Nova Scotia). "Never Let Me Go" by Kazuo Ishiguro is amazing. "The Handmaid's Tale" by Margaret Atwood is lovely, and a bit of a classic (especially if you're Canadian). "Gingerbread" (and subsequent titles) by Rachel Cohn is a pretty good read. "Lord of the Flies"--another classic, but it's definitely a classic for a reason.
You might want to check out Jodi Picoult, too. "Tenth Circle" and "The Pact" are probably my favourites by her, but many of her books pertain to youth ("My Sister's Keeper" is also good and definitely deals with adolescents).
And those are the ones that immediately come to my mind.
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Hi. I'm 13/f. I am a very unhealthy eater and am not active what-so-ever. I am very skinny, just not in shape. I am 5'3'' & weigh about 95 lbs. I am not worried about my weight or anything, just am worried about my health.
This is where you come in.
I need a plan.
I need some breakfast ideas, lunch Ideas
& for dinner, I have no control, but its usually home-cooked & healthy so I should be okay with that.
I need some exersizes also. I am going to try and start running once around my block 3 times a week [my block is small, but I will increase the distance gradually]. I will also TRY and do 30 situps a night. ANY OTHER IDEAS?
Thanks so much in advance.
First of all, let me say that it's incredibly refreshing to hear a weight/exercise question from someone purely concerned about their health. Good for you for that.
You might want to consult a nutritionist when it comes to your food intake. You're underweight which could be because of your age, or it could be caused by something else. A nutritionist could assess this, as well as giving you healthy food ideas.
If that's not an option, there are many, many sites that will tell you approximately what you should be eating. Canada's food guide might give you a bit of a start:
http://www.hc-sc.gc.ca/fn-an/food-guide-aliment/index_e.html
Exercise wise, anything that gets you moving is good for you. Cardio (running, walking, etc.) is excellent. Weights can be good but aren't necessary. Are there any sports you enjoy? Badminton, swimming, volleyball, skiing (I don't know where you live), or even something unconventional like juggling? If you like what you're doing, you're more likely to be able to stick to it.
If you're really out of shape, you might want to start by walking around the block, or running half and walking the other half--don't push yourself too hard or you'll crash and hurt your body. Slow with gradual increases (which is what you seem to have in mind) is the best way to avoid injury and have a better chance at sticking to it.
It's great to see you being responsible about this--I can't say that enough. Good luck!
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I have a question.
How do you make your mascara not - so - clumpy when you apply it?
Please don't say 'buy better, more high quality mascara,' because I'm sure it all works fine...
but any tricks?
Thanks in advance.
If you buy an eyelash comb (or even use a clean wand from an older mascara), you can run it through your lashes after you apply the mascara and remove the clumps. It doesn't really stop it from clumping in the first place, but if none of the other advice helps, that might be a last resort. Worked for me!
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This'll be long,but i really need help.for the past about,4 or 5 days, i've been REALLY out of it. im not focused at ALL. and when i am i cant think of anything to talk about,nothing,i dont think of any fun memories or anything.Right after i think of something to write down or to do,i'll forget,and it happens way too much.i havent had anything like this in the past,itsnot stress,its not lack of sleep.Im compleatly bored. I cant even think right now when im typeing this,its really hard. it takes forever to get things threw. Sometimes for 5 mins. i'll just stare off into space thinking of absolutly nothing. then i'll come back to reality and do nothing.i feel like a walking doll. Its really hard to explain. and also,i can barely smell anything,only if its up close. people might say "oh it smells nasty!" or "mmm i smell muffins",and everyone can smell it but i cant. its just very faint. I feel like something isnt connecting,i just cant think,no matter how much i try.I cant focus. When im reading i'll stop and pause for a long time for no reason,come back and read the sentance again,and its hard to focus on the texted books like the black print on white paper. I feel like im loosing my personality.And sometimes my eyes will create tears for no reason,and it makes me sad. Has anyone had this? Should i see a doctor? im only 13...and i told my mom,she thinks its nothing. Could you possibly tell me what this is? I feel so down right now,anything will help. thanks.
Have you been getting enough sleep? If not, that could be causing the problem. Have you been eating enough?
If you've been doing both of those, it's time to see the doctor. The thing that concerns me most is the loss of smell--the other problems could be symptoms of depression (which is serious in and of itself) or even just teenage hormones. But once you start having physical complaints along with cognitive problems, it's definitely time to consult a professional.
The worst a doctor will do is say that you're fine (well, worst in the case of whether your mother is right or wrong). And if it is something, the sooner you catch it, the better.
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(As a note, I changed the names and places to keep it anonymous)
To summarize, basically my friends and I got into a food fight with these other kids who does not like me at all! My friend Ryan stuck up for me basically because they have been calling me names, and he punched them out. I feel ashamed because the main reason they fought was because of me. The bad kids picked on me, and picked on my friends because they were my friends. They generally didn't like me because I am "too ugly and fat". I am overweight but I feel it's no excuse. However, as everyone in the crowd laughed and observed the fight, I cried. Because if I was not there, this would not have happened. They hate me, and they beat up my friend because of me! My other friend said it's not my fault because I did nothing wrong.. but that didn't change how I felt. How can I deal with this?
You can't control their actions; you can only control your own.
Your friends were trying to stick up for you and even though it's the wrong way, it's still sweet of them--but I think you know that, judging from the fact that you DO feel guilty.
It wasn't your fault. They made the choice to defend you and reap the consequences. They care about you. The jerks that treated you like crap will have their crap catch up to them eventually.
You didn't do anything wrong at all. I know that doesn't make it easier to deal with, probably, but maybe knowing that someone impartial feels that way will help?
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Okay, my mom thinks I have an unordinary obsession with death. Don't know why, but anyway..
I also -horrorhorrorshockshock- have been cutting myself for the past few months, nothing real serious. But now she feels like she needs to take me to Valley, this psychiatry hospital thing where the "suicidally disturbed" have to go for a while.
So, yeah. BUt I don't want to go. How can I convince my mo that I don't need to go?
And even if I do go, has anyone been to anything like this because I need to know what they're like so I'll know.
I'm scared and I really don't want to go. HELP!!
Could you agree to see a therapist? Or at the very least, to talk to a therapist to get the therapist's opinion on whether or not you need inpatient treatment?
Your mom is doing this because she's worried about you. My mom did practically the same thing, but my doctor did too--they sent me to a (regular) hospital because they thought I was in trouble. They assessed me at the hospital and essentially said my doctor was in idiot because I needed therapy, not IP care.
But if she does agree to let you see a therapist, you have to be honest. It will allow them to help you, and it will mean they can trust you. If you're dishonest and they find out, they'll have a lot of trouble trusting you later on, and you'll have much less control and influence over your care.
I kind of went off-topic there, but I hope it was even moderately useful anyway.
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I need to lose 15 lbs. in a month. I hate exercising. I need dieting tips!
You're not going to lose 15 pounds in a month, at least not in a healthy way. In fact, I doubt you could lose 15 pounds in a month in an UNHEALTHY way, either.
As said below, you need to exercise. It's as simple as that. No one says you have to go for a run or spend countless hours on a treadmill. Play badminton. Go for a walk outside. Go swimming. Take up juggling. Find something that gets you moving.
Eat properly and that too will help, but to be healthy, you need a balance of activity and nutrition. Cut out MOST, but not all junk food, or you'll get major cravings and end up binging. Allow yourself one treat a week, for instance. Then you know it's there, and once it's gone, it's gone.
Eat fruits and veggies. Don't drink away empty calories, for instance pop, high-calorie hot chocolate, anything along those lines. If you drink juice, it should be actual juice, not the kind that's almost entirely sugar and has virtually no fruit in it (I do recommend drinking a glass of juice in the morning, though--orange and apple are good and wake you up). Choose lean cuts of meat. Eat several small meals a day. Don't deprive yourself or that will lead to a binge.
It's a balancing act. You can't just stop eating or change your diet and expect to lose weight. Not only will you be unhealthy, but it also simply won't work.
Move. Enjoy food. Make sure you even need to lose the weight in the first place.
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This is for people who are mental health professionals: I just want to ask should a therapist bring in his skeptiscm when he/she is treating someone. I mean my female cousin was seeing a male therapist who (1)never listens; (2) was hard to open to due to the fact that he never helped solve the problems he just acted the way a friend would. For example: My cousin told her therapist that her boss told her not to do certain things on the job and my cousins male therapist said; why that is the most ridiculous thing I have ever heard. Another example: Her previous boss wanted his old secretary to come back because he missed her so he was very mean to my cousin. However, the male therapist did not help her deal with it instead he said (1) what an SOB or (2) he really hates you. What do you guys think of a therapist like this? PS: She didnt fall apart but she had to deal with any problems that arose in her life on her own she couldnt talk to him.
I'm not a therapist, but I've seen several, and I plan to study psychology in university. I've also done SOME independent research.
Therapists can't tell you what to do or how to solve your problems. They can give you techniques to get what you want, and ideas, but ultimately, their role is to help you take charge of your own life. They're there to listen. They're there to bounce ideas off, but not to give direct instructions.
It sounds like the therapist is using active listening techniques--basically, you refer directly to the comment and how it makes the person feel so they know you're listening. It allows you a feeling of understanding and validation, and sometimes hearing it repeated back gives you a new perspective.
It's hard to know for sure, since I'm not the one in the situation, and nor are you. If she's not comfortable with him, then she should probably be looking for a new therapist. But if she thinks she can open up eventually, it might be that he's just the person to challenge her.
None of us can tell you for certain.
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somtimes I eat too much. Like.. mostly when Im watching TV, I get hungry for some reason.. maybe because the kitchen is right next to the living room where the TV is. I end up eating all this stuff.. like 1 or 2 sandwiches (with cheese, peanut butter, jelly, etc.) sometimes with wheat bread, wheat bread with no grain-thingies, or white bread (which we have now.. ugh my dad said the others were sold out) also, i have stuff with lots of sugar. i'll end up making tea just so i can pack sugar in it, and either pour out the tea right after the teabag leaves its taste, or drink it, then at the bottom, eat all the extra sugar. I know.. its a weird thing to do, but sometimes im addicted to sugar! like sometimes if im bored (TV again) I'll take spoons and eat sugar from them (white and sometimes brown sugar). or, like now I take some of my baby bro's baby cereal (it tastes kinda good) and put alot of sugar and milk in a cup, and just eat it all together. i dont wanna finish his cereal... and i really dont wanna get diabetes!! Im not that fat or anything.. I'm 5'4 and weigh like 155 pounds, which is heavy, but I dont look heavy which is weird. I checked my BMI and I'm like 1 point above overweight!! OMG THATS CRAZY!!! IM NOT SUPPOSED TO BE FAT! Im not the skinniest chick ever, but I do sports. I think this little overreating thing (also sometimes i have 2 bowls of cereal, a whole costco muffin, 2 servings of food..etc. i cant resist good food, sometimes.) is part of why I'm not as light as I used to be. Well.. I was never really that light, but in 4th or 5th grade I weighed like 125 pounds. I gained 30 pounds in that little time! (I'm a 13 year old girl) maybe its just hormones.. but I dont like it! I wont compare myself to other girls.. who like dont really gain much but eat whatever they like, so I wanna find out ways I can get rid of my habit (where I eat just because I like the food, not necessarily because I'm hungry) and get back in shape (so I can look hotter for the summer! haha). also, how many meals should you eat a day? or is it determined by how much you exercise? post a whole chart if it will help me.. and thanks a lot! who knows, you may actually save my life from going obese! lol
It sounds like you might have an eating disorder--either compulsive overeating, or binge-eating (which is classified under EDNOS).
First of all, this isn't your fault, and you're not alone. You might want to read about those here:
http://something-fishy.org/whatarethey/coe.php
and here:
http://something-fishy.org/whatarethey/be.php
This site also has more information, as well as suggestions on how to stop a binge, that might be useful even if you don't actually have an eating disorder:
http://www.empoweredparents.com/1eatingdisorders/binge.htm
I can't diagnose you, obviously. But it's something to look into. I highly doubt it's a lack of self-control since you desperately WANT to stop. If it was just a matter of stopping, you could.
Whatever you do, don't turn to unhealthy methods of controlling it. I thought I'd add that in there because, well, it's easy to slip into. I have problems with binge eating and the steps I've taken to control it have left me further in over my head. Don't be like me.
Good luck to you.
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yesterday two of my friends died as well as one of my good friends in the hospital in critial condition because of it. she has a 50% chance of living and will have permant brain damage no matter what.
i'm the sophomore vice president and i am planning on talking to my priciple into having a memorial service for them. i would like to know if anyone had any other idea's than the ones i already had - letting go of balloons at the end
- getting maybeee a memorial stone
- about 5 people lighting a candle in memory
- a slide show
- talking about how they effect their life and just little stories to let other people understand what they were like when they were alive
-thanks
I'm so sorry for your loss.
Is there any music they particularly liked? Were any of them involved in school activities that could be involved in a tribute (a band playing a song, for instance, or a sports team dedicating a trophy)?
I hope this doesn't sound too insensitive but I'd really, really appreciate if you reconsidered letting go of balloons. The concept is beautiful, but the ramifications aren't--birds could easily choke on the pieces of rubber and die. It could also affect other animals, and the environment in general.
I think the most important thing is to remember them for who they were. Find little ways to make it personal. Maybe play to their little quirks. If they loved comedy, try and incorporate that in some way. If there were any class projects they were particularly proud of, maybe they could be displayed?
I think it's great what you're doing for them. I hope your friend in the hospital recovers as well as she can under her circumstances.
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Please Help
I have homework on the book Anthem by Ayn Rand and one of the questions is.
What word is Equality struggling to recapture on page 49?
We do not wish to look upon the Uncharted Forest. We do not wish to think of it. But ever do our eyes return to taht black patch upon the sky. Men never enter the Uncharted Forest, for there is no power to explore it and no path to lead among its ancient trees which stand as guards of fearful secrets. It is whipered that once or twice in a hundred years, one among the men of the City escape alone and run to the Uncharted Forest, without call or reason. These men do not return. They perish from hunger and from the claws of the wild beasts which roam the Fores. But our Councils say taht this is only a legend. We have heard taht there are many Uncharted Forests over the land, among the Cities. And it is whipered that they have grown over the ruins of many cities of the Unmentionalbe times.
That took me a while to type so please help me. I just need one word that Equality (the character) is trying to recapture by saying this.
THANKS ALOT!
Is that the entire page 49?
It has been a LONG time since I read this book, so I might be totally off the mark (and if I am, I truly apologise, but I figured I'd take a stab at it since no one else had), but is the word possibly "I?"
I know that "I" is very taboo in the culture Equality lives in, the supposed Utopian society. They are expected to live as a collective rather than individuals and thus it is forbidden to speak of oneself or have one's own feelings. So if the answer is not "I", it is perhaps related to individuality, or the time when individuality was still accepted.
Sorry if this is no help. :0(
If that IS the entire page 49, perhaps he's trying to recapture the word "freedom?" That just occurred to me now, but again, I couldn't tell you for sure.
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Hey-
this is embarassing to do, but I have a question. My breasts [around the nipples] have been sore lately-is this a problem? Should I be worried? I'm still a teenager and going through puberty, but this has never happened before.
My mom died when I was twelve, so please don't go saying that this is a personal matter I should discuss with her. My dad doesn't get it.
First of all, I'm sorry about your mom.
Breast tenderness and pain is relatively common around when you get your period, or even when your breasts are growing. Chances are, it's nothing serious.
If you're worried about breast cancer, you probably don't have to be--most types of cancer cause no pain, hence the difficulty in diagnosing at times.
If it continues, you might want to see a doctor just in case. Maybe embarrassing, but it is your LIFE, after all. You should be able to see the doctor yourself, so your dad wouldn't have to know (at least not what it's about, even if he has to drive you there).
So, basically, don't worry too much, but do pay attention to your body. And try not to be embarrassed! All women have breasts. ;0)
This site might be of some assistance:
http://familydoctor.org/571.xml
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Can your body get rid of strep throat naturally, without antibiotics?
Maybe, but you shouldn't do it that way. Strep throat can lead to extremely dangerous infections that can have a very negative effect on your body--for instance, rheumatic fever, and kidney inflammation. In rare cases, it can lead to heart failure.
Mayo Health Clinic will give you more information:
http://www.mayoclinic.com/health/strep-throat/DS00260
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Ok so i am 13 5'2' and 120 lbs. My mom said that I need to lose 15-20 lbs before we go to Hawaii in March. but I love junk food. Any tips on how to give up junk food?
P.S.- If I lose it I get a designer swimsuit. So plz hlp!
You're mom's an idiot and she's fueling a potential eating disorder.
If you lose 20 pounds, you will be clinically underweight. If you lose 15 pounds, you'll be at the low range of healthy.
That said, exercise is your friend. You don't need to give up junk food entirely, just limit it. Allow yourself one treat per week, for instance. That way, you know you can have something, so it's easier to say no the rest of the time.
You shouldn't want to lose weight so you can get a designer swimsuit. You shouldn't want to change your eating habits so you can please your mother. You should change your eating habits because you want to be healthy. You should exercise because you want to be healthy.
If I were you, I would talk to your mom and show her the statistics related to your BMI. At you're current weight, your BMI is 21.9. A healthy range is 18.5-24.9. At 105lbs, your BMI would be 19.2. At 100lbs, your BMI would only be 18.3.
Please be safe.
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Ok so i need to lose weight because i just want to and yeah so any good ideas i dont really have alot of time so it cant take long i've been eating healthy but that wont lose weight really it will only keep you at the same weight your at so please help i'm only 13 so yeah if that helps in any way i can take diet pills but those dont really work so unless you know it works dont suggest it and yeah ok help please
There are no shortcuts. If you want to lose weight, you have to be dedicated to it. You have to watch what you eat and exercise--exercise is the most important part, really.
Make time for exercise. It will help you lose weight, but more importantly, it will help you be healthy. Besides, it can be fun!
Make sure you even need to lose weight. If you're in a healthy weight range--especially the low end of it--you shouldn't lose. Your body tends to know a weight it wants to be at and even if you lose five pounds, they'll tend to creep back on, in my experience.
I highly doubt you even need to lose weight. But if you're serious, make sure you exercise--and make sure you're actually eating healthily. It's easy to think you are, when you're really not--a can of pop per day, for instance, adds up. If you write down everything you eat for a few days, you might be surprised at how many calories you're actually consuming--just don't get obsessive about it.
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How come people write double 'and' symbols? And why? example: peaches && cream. What's with the '&&' ??
thanks. I know this must sound stupid!
Maybe they have a stutter? ;0)
Sorry, I felt like giving smart-alec answers today, and I should have resisted.
But yes, I suspect they think it's cute, or that it expresses a certain emphasis or excitement about what they're discussing.
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The women on my dads side of the family tend to have big breasts and barely any hips. I have D's and I've been working very hard to get a flat stomach...but I still don't have a defined waist and hips. Is there any type of diet or workout that can make my hips bigger?
Much as I hate to say it, not really.
To a certain degree, losing a bit of weight might help--it depends on where it comes off. If it comes off your stomach, you'll look like you have a more defined waist. If it comes off your hips, well, you're in a bit of trouble. The problem is, we can't spot reduce (or vice versa). It sucks, but it's the reality.
That said, exercise never hurts. It probably won't impact the shape of your body much, but it'll make you feel good (gotta love those endorphins)!
Unfortunately, you're pretty much stuck with the body shape you have. The best I can do is suggest that you try and embrace it. Easier said than done, I realise, but ultimately, it's the only choice you have if you want to be happy with yourself.
Wish I had better news for you.
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My acne seems to get worse and worse everyday.
It's very embarrassing to go to school now.
It has not been getting better.
I got this nutrogena stuff and it's not working and i'm not going to the dermatologist until next monday.
Is there anyway I could possibly get my face to clear up just a little over the weekend before school next week?
The people below me gave good answers, BUT I feel obligated to ask a few questions.
You said it's getting worse and worse everyday--has this been going on for long? Is your skin almost peeling? There's a chance, if it's only been getting really bad for the last week or so, that you have impetigo rather than acne. I had it once and initially thought it was acne but it wasn't--it was an infection that needed medication. So if it has been getting progressively worse and spreading over your skin, you might want to consider getting it checked out by a doctor.
You can find out more about it here:
http://www.mayoclinic.com/health/impetigo/DS00464
Just be forewarned that on the "Signs and Symptoms" page, there ARE pictures, so if you have a very weak stomach, beware. Might help you judge better if you have it, though.
But probably it is just acne. Just wanted to make sure you were aware of the possibility that it's not.
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