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Okay, i've liked this guy for about 3 years, and i told him during this summer, he told me he liked me since the 6th grade, but now that this school year started, he says that i'm annoying and i should stop talking to him, at first i was pissed but i understood that you can't force people to like you, but whenever i see him in the halls or at lunch, i find him staring at me and whenever i catch him staring, he immediatly looks away, what does that mean? my friend says that he might just think that i'm easy on his eyes, but i'm not so sure he's right cause i don't think i'm very pretty, but i just don't know if he does or doesn't like me, i just don't know what he thinks?

Every guy is different when it comes to them liking girls. But, he's like you since the 6th grade and he might just think you don't like him anymore, since that was summer when you told him. So, he might of told you to stop talking to him to try to get over you or something. Or he might know you still do like him and might be playing hard to get. I mean, thats kind of weird he tells you to stop talking to him but yet he stares at you when you two walk past each other. Thats really odd. Hmm. Well maybe you should try talking to him again. You can write him a note or tell him yourself. And just be like "Well, you know how during the summer I told you I liked you? And you told me you liked me since 6th grade? Well, I don't know what your deal is or anything, but I do still like you. But, its like ever since school started, you told me that I'm annoying and I need to stop talking to you. I just want to know whats up with that.." Just say something like that, and then you'll know what his deal is. I hope this helps and good luck hun. Tell me how it goes. If you still need help, just post a message in my inbox.

xoxo Kourtney

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hi im 13 and this may sound really dumb, but there is this girl i really like. she calls me alot. i like that. she is attractive, not by that much but still i like the whole thing, only one problem.......my friends hate her, she is a year older than i but she is new (so she doesnt really know anyone else) i get embarrased wen she calls around my friends and make up lies to them about how i feel. help.

Hi! That's really cool that you like her for her and not just by the way she looks. But, if you like her, don't worry about what other people think. You can't control who you like. I mean, since you are a boy, boys are going to make fun of one another when a girl calls. Even if they thought she was so hot, they would still make fun of you, they would dawg on you and stuff. My guy friends still do that to one another, its just a thing they like to do I guess lol. But, instead of just making up lies just be like "hey let me call you back my friends are over and I don't want to get distracted and ignore you or something." Just say something like that. But, I mean don't just ignore her because your friends don't like her. She's new, so be her friend and introduce her to people. I hope this helps and if you still need help, just post a message in my inbox.

xoxo Kourtney

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ok i like this guy... ALOT! but there seems to be this little rat face bitch always in my way. and she keeps flirting with him. and i know she is doing it to piss me off. but i dont know what i should do?

AHH! I hate when girls do that. They make it competition for you or something. But, just flirt with him right back, show her who's boss lol. Just show her you don't care and she can't get in the way of you flirting with him. Just talk to him and flirt and if you want, give him your screen name or number. Get to know him better and then you'll win him. I hope this helps and good luck! If you still need help, just post a message in my inbox.

xoxo Kourtney

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Theres this girl. We were dating for a year( i know thats preety sad) Now i want to break up with her. How do i brake up with someone without hurting their feelings?

She's going to get hurt if she really did like her. But, that's sweet that you care about her and don't want to hurt her. But, just tell her something like "I know it's been a year and I'm not trying to hurt you, that would be the last thing that I would want to do, so I'm trying real hard here, but I just think we would be better off as just friends. I mean I'm not going to just leave you like that, I want you to know, that I'm still here for you, I'll be you friend still, I just think it would be better as friends than a relationship..." Just say something like that. Something sweet and honest. Just break it to her easy. It was a year and it will be hard on her. Just tell her you'll still be there for her though, you'll be her friend, but there's just no more of the relationship anymore. I hope this helps and good luck hun. If you still need help, just post a message in my inbox.

xoxo Kourtney

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Hi!Ok...me and my ex b/f broke up a couple months ago and we still became really good friends after that and he tells me he loves me and he calls me his "boo".lol.But..anywayz..He wrote me a note not to long ago and he said he was sorry for treating me like shit in the past and last time he apoligized for doing something bad we ended up back together.Do u think he still has feelings for me?I still have feelings for him.We went out for a year by the way.I RATE!!Thanx.

Hi!! Aww that's sweet, the whole Boo thing. Adorable. But anyways! Yea, I think he does have feelings for you since he wrote that letter to you and appoligized for everything. Because I mean he still says 'I love you' and says 'Boo' to you and stuff. Just kind of seems like it. But, I'm not 100% sure. The only way you can find out is by talking to him or you could use his technique and write a note back to him. Basically just tellin him how you feel and stuff. And just be like "I know we broke up a couple of months ago, but we have managed to become good friends with each other. You still tell me you love me and still call me boo and stuff, which I'm not complaining about. And then you wrote me a letter for appoligizing about everything. I really appreciated that. But, I still have feelings for you and I just want to know how you feel about me and if you think we could try a me and you again..." Just say something like that and how you feel. I hope this helps and good luck hun! Tell me how it goes. If you need anything else, just post a message in my inbox.

xoxo Kourtney

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how come people say it is bad for a 13 year old to be friends or have a realationship wit a 16 year old?

There's nothing wrong with hanging out with a 16 year old. But some guys take advantage of girls (having sex or telling them to do something they don't want them to do). But not every guy is like that. They may really love the 13 year old and wouldn't do that. You just have to be lucky to find that guy. But, some people will call the 13 year old a slut or something because they just think you are since you're with someone older and not your own age (and you're at a young age.. 13). People just assume things sometimes. I hope this helps and if you need anything else, just post a message in my inbox.

xoxo Kourtney

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If u liked a guy so much that u were in love with him, but then u haven't seen or said anything to him in a few months, would u even take a chance to try and make it work? (o and by the way he kinda liked me too the last time i talked to him and stuff).

Yea!! You should definatly go for it. Don't ever hide your feelings. You can't control who you like or who you love. He might feel the same way about you but just hasn't said anything. Just say something like "I know we haven't talked in a few months, but I want that to change, and I hope you do too. But, I just can't hold this in anymore. But, I still have feelings for you and I just want to know if you still have feelings for me and if we could just give us another chance.." Just say something like that and how you feel. I hope this works and good luck hun! If you still need help, just post a message in my inbox.

xoxo Kourtney

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hey i was just wunderin..... mii bday is in 18 days nd i hav no clu wat to do 4 mi party nd i want alot of frends ova includin boyz....one prob. i cant hav it ova mii houz.....anything elze i coold do????.....plz ansa this as soon as possible!!!!

thnx

Hey! Well Happy early Birthday! You could all put your money in and go to like a club or something and have fun that way. Or you could go like to an amusement park (six flags or whatever you have there) and then go bowling afterwards. Or you could all go to someone elses house and just hang out there and have a party. Or you could just rent out a place and have a party there. Get a band (if you know any) to play there and just hang out there. I hope this helps and if you still want ideas or whatever, just post a message in my inbox.

xoxo Kourtney

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hey im 17...almost 18, and i like a 23 yr old....is that bad?

Hey! Well, you're almost 18 so it won't matter that you like a 23 year old. And it's only like a 5 year difference. It's really no big deal. You can't help who you like. You can't control that. But, I would wait til you turn 18 years old until you do anything with this other person so you and that 23 year old don't get in trouble. I hope this helps. If you still need help, just post a message in my inbox.

xoxo Kourtney

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well me and my best friend havnt talked for a a month and a half, and im just finding out now that he is mad at me because one of my old friends and i aernt talkin now, and he doesnt like me cus i dont like his friend, so now i lost a best friend, what should i do? oh and he hasnt told me any of this, my GF had to talk to him cus he is ignoreing me

You should try talking to him and trying to work it out. Or if he doesn't listen to you, maybe your girlfriend could help you out. But, if you don't want her in the middle of this, then I would suggest calling him up or talking to him face to face or on AIM/AOL. Just basically telling him the situation. Just be like "You're my best friend and I thought we were suppose to be for along time. Are you mad at me just because I'm not friends with one of my old friends who is your friend now? I mean if that is, I'm sorry that I don't get along with him, I don't want this to make us NOT friends. I don't want us to be arguing over something like that. I had to have my girlfriend ask you because you're ignoring me. And I just want to work this out because I don't want us to just forget about our friendship, I want to try to work this out..." Just say something like that and how you feel about this situation and stuff. And how you still want to be best friends and stuff. I hope this helps and good luck hun. If you still need help, just post a message in my inbox.

xoxo Kourtney

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okay today has been 3 weeks since my best friend and i havent talked for..my best guy friend and he happens to be my crush thinks my worst enemy is hott..and wants to date her but thinks he has no chance n i think he deserves better and plus im moving..my life literally stinks and im going through major depression anyone wanna help??

I think you should try to talk to each of them and straighten it out before you leave. I know it must be hard, but you should atleast try, so it won't be so hard when you leave. So first, we'll start off on what to say to your best friend. You should say something like "It's been three weeks since we haven't talked and I don't like it at all. We're suppose to be best friends. I mean I want to work this out, I don't want us to be mad at each other, we need to work this out, we're best friends after all and we have to be forever. And I can't move knowing we're still not talking, do you think we could work this out...?" Say something like that to her. And then for your best guy friend/crush, say something like "You're one of my best guy friends. But, I want to tell you something. But, you know I'm moving and I just thought this would be the right time to say it, even though there would probably be no chance, but I just can't hold it in any longer. But, I like you more than a friend. And I also just want to look out for you, and I'm not just saying this because I like you, but that girl you think is hot, isn't the right girl for you, you could do so much better than that, I just don't want her to get hurt, that would be the last thing I would want..." Say something like that. Just tell them how you feel and that you don't want to move with her not talking to you and him going out with the wrong person. I hope this helps and good luck hun. Just stay positive and keep smiling. Life will get better, trust me hun. Tell me how it goes. If you still need help, just post a message in my inbox.

xoxo Kourtney

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Do u use an eyelash curler on your bottom eyelashes ? I dont think u do but my friend says ur supposed to.

No, you're not suppose to. I don't, I just curl the top. You're eyelashes on the bottom are too little to curl, there would be no point in curling them and it would probably hurt. Just stick to curling the top. I hope this helps! If you need anything else, just post a message in my inbox.

xoxo Kourtney

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aw y0ur soo pretty! that skirt n everything is so cute. but anyways~
im 13 and in 8th grade.. i have no clue wut to be for halloween!! i dont wanna like dress up to mucH* because that would be wierd.. but like idunno wut to be?.. have any ideas

Aww thanks sweetie! HAH! I remember I was like a skater boy one year lol and like Britney Spears another year. lol. IDK we all dress up like the same (me and my friends) and just do crazy stuff. You just have to be creative and think of things. Maybe you could do something with your friends too (even guys) just do silly things. Like Barbie and Ken maybe haha. Just funny things. Or like a bum/hobo haha my friend was that one year. You could be like your favorite celebrity or singer. You could be a guy if you want. IDK just be creative and have fun with it. I hope this helps and if you still need help thinking of some more, just post a message in my inbox!

xoxo Kourtney

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Ok im a 16 year old madly in love wit my boyfriend. we have been datin for over a year now. the only problem is that he doesnt know that im in love wit him. i mean he knows that I care about him soo much but i just cant get the courage to tell him that i do love him. i mean we joke around and i say yea love ya to and he just says you dont love me. his cuz even told me that he told her that he loved me but he hasnt told me. We have been through so much stuff that you couldnt even imagine. Rite now we are takin a short lil break i mean we still go out but im just not goin to see him all this week. We spend like every single moment together so we kinda fite alot. and im thinkin bout after this week writin him a letter and just tellin him how i feel. wut should i do.. plz help.. and soon.
thanks

I think that is a good idea on writting him a letter telling him how you feel. Make it cute and sweet and stuff. Just basically telling him the truth and telling what you want him to know. Just be like "Well, I know we're 16 and I'm sure some people think 16 years old is too young to even find love. But, I think thats wrong. I don't think it matters how old you are, you can find love no matter how old you are. Well, you know we've been going out for a year and we're taking a break from each other right now and we see each other every second of the day. And we even say 'just kidding around' I love you. But, lately I have realized I'm not just kidding around. I really do mean it when I say it. So, basically I'm trying to say, I am in love with you. And I just wanted to tell you this, because I dont want you to think that I'm not." Just say something like that and just how you feel and stuff. I hope this helps and good luck hun. If you still need help, just post a message in my inbox.

xoxo Kourtney

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I was talkin to a girl online and i had to go and she typed gtg, lybe. So...What does lybe mean when talkin on aim?

Hmm I don't know. I mean I know what LYLAB means... it means Love You Like A Brother. But, I'm not too sure what LYBE means. She might of typed it wrong. So, next time you're talking to her just ask her. Just be like "Hey, yesterday when we were talking, you said you had to go and you typed g2g LYBE, what does LYBE mean?" Just say something like that. I hope this helps. If you need anything else, just post a message in my inbox.

xoxo Kourtney

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Hi.Well I seriously need help! ASAP plz! Well ook I have a friend named *Kate who I was talkin to yesterday and told me about my best friend (which i haven't talked to in a long time) that *Lindsay is crazy bout her boyfriend and that said that Lindsay told Kates' boyfriend that "Kate won't have sex with you I will" Then she told me she also had sex with her boyfriend *Billy and that her dad raped her.. So I then asked my other friend *Sara about *Lindsay and so she had asked her and well *Lindsay came and IMed me and asked who had said that she had sex with her b-friend n I told her it was kate and she told me it wasn't true and I told Lindsay that I didnt believe Kate either.. Then me n her were talkin bout random stuff like old times then she put me on hold for a long time and so I dec. to put my away message until she got back but it was only a short time after I put my away message she came back then I IMed her again n we talked a lil n then shes like h/o again then signs off.. I go tom my other s/n and I see that she blocked me so I log onto my other s/n and IM her and then we started talkin bout random stuff and she said H/o BRB then signs off then I go to my other s/n and find that she blocked me again so I IMed asking why did she block me ... I don't think I did or said anything wrong to her she blocked my riight after I told her that I saved all our notes we wrote to each other... Can u plz tell me whats wrong??

Hi! Hmm, that's kind of odd. I'll try to help you out though! But, maybe you should try talking to her again and seeing whats up. Just be like "You know we're best friends and so I kind of assumed we were friends you know. I mean we were just talking about random stuff and then all of a sudden you kept blocking me. What's up with that? I mean did I say something wrong to you that affended your or whats the deal here?" Just say something like that to see what her problem is and to try to fix it. If she doesn't want to try to fix it, then I would try to give her some space and see what is wrong with her. You don't need to be dealing with her ignoring you for no apparent reason. I hope this helps and if you need anything else, just post a message in my inbox. Good luck hun!

xoxo Kourtney

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okay im 16 years old and in play football for my school. Well every practice i see this gurl there and she keeps on looking and smiling at me. well one day i went up to her but she ran off.

Does sher like me? WAT COULD I DO TO MAKE HER COMFORTABLE?

She might of gotten scared when she saw you (a football player) come up to her. Next time you see her smiling at you, kind of nod your head up and smile at her. And then after you're not all drenched in sweat and stuff go up to her and try talking to her again. But, when you're walking up smile at her so she feels more comfortable. I hope this helps and good luck hun! If you need anything else, just post a message in my inbox.

xoxo Kourtney

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hey im a 14 year old male and i need some help.see me and my family went on a camping trip well we camped next to this one family who had a 14 year old gurl. We kind of hung out and then it turned into a kinda love thing. She started getting up on me and we kissed. i dont no why but i like her alot. Well ne way they moved and we keep in touch by aim. but the thing is she is 3000 miles away and i cant strand being with out her. So one night i asked her outand she said yes

Is that fair to her to be so far away and go out wit her?

WAt do i do?

Hey! Well, long distance relationships are hard. But, if you feel like you can do it, then no one can stop you from doing it. I mean it might be hard, but if you guys really like each other, then maybe you guys can keep it going. You just have to have trust and love in one another to keep it going. If you don't want to have this relationship, then maybe you two will be better off as just really good friends until you two can see each other more often. I hope this helps and good luck hun. If you need anything else, just post a message in my inbox.

xoxo Kourtney

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hey im 13.m 8th grade, i still like this girl that i went out with about a year ago, were still really close friends but whenever i try and tell her how i feel about her she thinks im jokin or juss tryin to mess w/ her.. tell me how i can get her back plz

Alright you should just call her up or sit her down and tell her how you feel. Just be like "Alright, I'm telling you the truth, but you're just not believing me, you think I'm joking and I'm not, I mean what am I suppose to say in order for you to believe me, I know we went out about a year ago, but I like you again, do you like me again too..?" Just say something like that, and just look her straight in the eyes so she knows you're telling the truth. I hope this helps and good luck hun. If you need anything else, just post a message in my inbox.

xoxo Kourtney

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17f
okay, me and my ex bf went out for a year and were TOTALLY inlove with eachother we even talked about marrying eachother..we broke up about a year ago over a big fight..It was becuase he was trying to get with this other girl at like the last few days of our relationship, and then when he would try and apalogize just to become friends again, he would go off and talk so much crap about me..he did me wrong and hurt me so bad..its been a WHOLE YEAR and im still not over his ass..plzzz dont tell me, girl its been a year get over him, because TRUST ME thats whut ive been trying to do :[...im a really good looking girl, smart, ambitious, respectful..and with him, yeah hes really good looking, funny, etc, but he didnt even graduate from highschool, he smokes/drinks all the time, gets in fights, back stabs ppl, etc, but like NO1 sees that in him because he is SOO funny and makes every1 laugh,etc so they dont see the bad qualities in him..he gets alota girlz, etc..i dunno i just cannot stop thinking about him and its been so friggin long, like 4 hours cant go by in my day that I dont think about him..He changed my life so damn much, for the better and for the worst...i wonder if he ever thinks of me, i mean i was his first gf, his first love, his highschool sweetheart, etc...im still only a junior, and still have 2 years left of highschool...im just really down...plz help me if you can..
thanks so much

I know how that felt, it took me almost a year to get over a guy I liked. So, I'm not going to say "Just get over him, there's other fish in the sea" but, there is a couple of solutions that you can try in this situation. Maybe you could try talking to him (calling him up, talking to him face-to-face, e-mailing him a letter, or talking to him on AIM/AOL) and just telling him kind of what you just told us. Just tell him how you feel and stuff and you would like to know how he feels about you. If you want to do this one, try saying something like "I know it's been a WHOLE year that we've been broken up from each other. But, I want to tell you the truth and I'm hoping you will tell me the truth too. So, I guess I'll start off with, I still love you. There's not a day that goes by that I don't think of you and I just wonder if you EVER think of me too. I mean I was your first girlfriend and we were BOTH our first love and high school sweethearts. You taught me so much and changed me for the best and for the worst. We talked about marrying each other and we went out for 3 years! And that's a long time to go out. I can't just get over you like that, I mean I know it's been a year, but you can't forget your first love... and I just want to know how you feel about me, if you're just having fun or if you're still in love with me..." Just say something like that and just say stuff you mean and you would want him to know and ask him things you want to know. If you don't want that, then I would suggest just TRYING to move on. I know it will be hard. But, if you really want to move on, then you're going to have to try. I mean after all you only live life once. So, try and have fun with it (not saying to do stupid stuff, you know what I mean by that). I mean go to parties, the mall, have friends introduce you to guys that they think you would like, etc. Do things that will keep your mind off of him. And the number one thing is, don't compare every guy to your ex boyfriend because that won't get you very far. And try to think of things that were mean that your ex boyfriend did or even said to you so then that will try to get you over him. So, I hope you pick the right one and go with it. Just follow your heart. I hope this helps and good luck hun. If you need anything else, just post a message in my inbox.

xoxo Kourtney

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