Let him know you think he a great guy, and tell him specifically all the cool stuff you love about him. Then just sit back and smile....see what happens next. Everyone loves to hear genuine compliments and it is hard to resist someone that can't resist you. The very fact that you like him, will help him to like you more.

Hmmm...I am glad you used protection. Cramps can be alleviated several ways. Hot water bottle on your stomach, hot tea, excercise, ibuprofen, and a warm bath or shower. Sex itself should NEVER hurt, so it was probably just the normal menstrual cramps. Some women say that orgasm lessens their cramps, but for many others the muscle tightening during sex makes them worse. It is personal, but if anything does seem out of the norm, then see your physician. You should be having regular appointments, especially now that you are sexually active. Keep using condoms no matter what to protect against diseases.

Learn to stand up for yourself and do your own hair...it is not worth being manipulated by this pushy girl. You have already hurt this guy by using him to get your hair finished...being dishonest about your intentions. The best thing to do is to own up to your mistake and have more integrity in the future. He will get over it, believe me. I am more concerned about you and your lack of self-esteem. Practive being assertive and telling others "NO." I mean it, this will make your life miserable if you continue to let others make decisions for you. Practice several ways of saying "NO", like "I don't think so", "Not this time", "No Way", "Not feelin it!", "Not now", "No Thankyou.", and just "NO!"....Be kind when you tell this kid you were feeling rushed and feel bad about letting someone else pressure you, but that you just can't commit to a date. Or whatever sounds best to you, Good Luck!

I really don't understand why he would give you his password to his private account. Nonetheless, like for most anyone, the temptation to read his private mail was too much to resist. Some people will always flirt and desire attention from the opposite sex to boost the ego and it is not really cheating. However, if the flirting is hurting you, you need to move on. We cannot change people and they will not change for us...even for love. The beauty of this is that you are learning from this experience and you have the freedom to date a huge variety of guys with different personalities. The hardest thing in the world is to not take it personally...but you must. The sooner you can master the humility of understanding that you alone can make yourself happy and that everyone has different ideas of what it means to be happy, the better off you will be. This guy may always be a flirt, but if he is an honest flirt, I say that is better than a dishonest man. The only opinion that matters here is yours, and you alone know if he is worth the trouble.

You are right to be offended by their behavior. The problem is that even if she leaves in May, you are still stuck with him...sounds harse I know, but is this the man you really want? If this is the ONLY weird thing about him, then ignore me. If it is not and you are starting to see other things, then I would leave. I don't think his behavior is the sign of a healthy and mature man or that it was in any way acceptable. At the very least, he is self-involved and does not consider your feelings in general. Men don't change, so before you go having four kids with him, think about how you want to be treated for the next seventy years.

You broke up with him, remember? This is a case of you not like being on the other side of rejection...it hurts your ego that he does not want you after you broke up with him. Get over it and be friends. You would not be pining away for him right now if he was begging you back. I am glad he has some self-respect and you should be, too. Sometimes we take something for granted while we think we own it, and then one day we realize we own nothing in this world and anything and everyone in our lives that is good is a true gift. Learn from this and appreciate this guy for who he is and don't mess with his head. You will both move on, but that does not mean you will always be apart. Sometimes people circle back into each others lives years later or months....be positive, keep an open mind and heart and you will find love soon if not with him, then with someone else.

Your roomate offered this "guest" without your permission? If one really is a guest, asking them to split any bills would be rude, but pitching in with chores is not, especially after the first few days. The real problem is in communication between yourself and your roommate. This stuff should have been agreed to by both of you prior to the guest being invited to join you for any length of time. Now would be a great time for you to nicely sit down with her and explain your feelings without pointing fingers or blaming. You both need to feel at home with one another and secure enough to be honest and set up standards of living that will accomodate both of you. Compromise is key, so don't dwell too much this time on getting your way. If this person was not invited by you, and refuses to pitch in with chores or food, then ask your roomate if she/he will cover the cost of his/her guest this time. Most guest will offer to at least buy some groceries or take you out for dinner, but every situation is different. If you can afford to be generous, this could be a good experience.

Now you know the position that your ex-boyfriend was in and why he wanted to spare your feelings, and how it is often that people want to blame the "messenger" of bad news...Okay, everyone knows but the wife, or at least that is the assumption. The wife may have more knowledge than you know, or may have affairs herself. None of it makes a difference, because none of it is your business. Sometimes doing what is right is not what feels right. This information you found out was gossip and not either one of your businesses really. You are afraid that you are somehow to blame for continuing the secrecy and lie. You are not continuing the affair...they are. It is not your job to inform people of their personal marital problems, or to even pass judgement on the ones having the affair. NO, I don't condone affairs, cheating lies, etc...but, we don't know everything and every marriage is between the individuals in that contract. Telling someone that their spouse is a jerk is usually not a revelation or appreciated. If you really just have to tell the wife, don't be suprised when she questions your motives for telling her. Your character will be called into question. Stay out of Drew and Laura's relationship, too. Laura seems to put a lot of burdens on you by giving you too much information about stuff she should probably not, since you are uncomfortable with having it. You need to ask your friend to stop or it will ruin your friendship with her. Who do you feel most loyal to? Remember that the "truth" is subjective, so be careful whom you sacrifice in the name of the "truth."

First piece of advice...stick to the age you are on here and be honest. You have said you were a number of varied ages, so how old are you really? We don't know you, so it does not matter, but you will get better advice when we know your true age. I don't suggest you get married until you are at least graduated from college. You are going to miss out big time if you go right from daddy's little girl to soldier-hubbie's little girl. Enjoy what is left of your youth and don't get married or knocked-up for your own sake! If this very YOUNG man loves you, he will WAIT for you to grow up into a woman who can make the best choices for herself for the long run. I have no doubt you two are "in love," but life-long commitment is an adult decision...one that requires more than the legal age to be successful. You don't want to end up divorced or hating life before you graduate highschool, do you? There should not be any rush to do the right thing. People only get into a hurry or pressure you when they want you to do something stupid, before you change your mind. Be wise and give this time.

Females usually handle pain a lot better than the dudes, so that is a plus for you. The worst part might be afterwards when you resent getting it. I know a ton of gals who wish they would have never gotten that "Betty Boop" or butterfly or whatever was "in" at the time....you will change a lot in the next few years, so give it a lot of thought and do nothing on a whim that you can't easily erase.

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1.He should eliminate any medical conditions by getting a thorough physical. 2. Any medications he is taking could be the culprit. 3. If 1 and 2 check out, then therapy could be useful, especially if there is a pattern of porn use and or addiction. Masterbation is not a bad thing, but when self-focus is the only place one feels safe enough to "let-go" then relationships will suffer. This is not something to be ignored, but you can't force someone to get help. So, support him in getting help, but know he has to be the one that wants it or nothing will change.
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So...he can't during sexual intercourse? He probably has a mind block. Maybe worried about performance or coming to fast? Practice or better yet experience will help work it out, but he needs to be patient...something that young guys often lack.

Keep trying...once you figure it out, it will get easier. Everyone is a little different, just do what feels good to you. Sex is only partly physical, and a lot of sensuality is in your mind so get in touch with that organ, too.

You do sound pretty darn thin, but only a doctor can truly evaluate your total health. I urge you to see a physician about all your concerns...it is their job to help you. Write down everything and bring it with you, so you don't forget any question or concern. Your health and body are more precious than gold and you deserve to get a check-up. If you cannot afford medical insurance find a free clinic. If you are sexually active or plan to become sexually active within the year, you need to start seeing a gynocologist on a regular basis. Periods are sometimes a sign of what else is going on in our lives and health, and stress can effect them, too. Pain is also a sign of something that needs attention. Don't tuff this out, get to a doctor and get real answers.

Yes, he is interested. Now what? Let him know YOU are interested in HIM. Have fun and good luck. Congratulations on your new look!

Possible or probable? Well, most of the anal action women have is in pornos where they are continually FAKING any sexual satisfaction. There is the sex toy industry that would have you believe it is possible and sells books to those hoping to achieve the unlikely. Your clitoris is your best hope of female orgasm and is an incredible part of your anatomy worth exploring for multiple orgasmic possibilities that are also probabilities. The anal cavity is not made for sex and there is incredible risk of injury and disease from anal penetration. The vagina is made for sex and accomodates the penis perfectly. You can have vaginal orgasm, clitoral orgasm etc...are you thinking anal sex does not count as sex and you will still be a "virgin?" Except for pregnancy, anal sex is much riskier because of the tears and bleeding that occur, some who practice anal sex lose control of their ability to hold their number two...gross I know...pooping your pants is not sexy.

Everyone gets them and we have all had embarrassment, so don't freak out and feel like you are the only one it happens to. Most people won't even notice it. Don't wear anything pink or red, especially lipstick or blush, because it will draw attention to it. A green tinted concealer will counteract the redness and work best to cover it, but don't overdo the make-up. Learn to have a sense of humor about it just in case some lame person points it out.

Get to a doctor or clinic right away if you are still pregnant to discuss your options and health concerns. If you are pregnant, you can still make choices about your life and your future. If you are not pregnant, you should still see a doctor to ensure that you are back to normal and to get protection for future.

He sounds immature or selfish or both. You should not have to beg for something so simple. It could be that he is highly sensitive to criticism and took it wrong, but don't back down. Sex is a great indicator of the whole health of the relationship. Is he in control or wanting to be all the time? Is he insecure? If he is a great guy otherwise, then patiently ask him to have consideration for all your needs as you do his. If he still refuses or is like this with other stuff, I would lose him.

Periods can fluctuate for many reasons. It does not mean you were pregnant, although the possibility is there. Continue with the condoms everytime...yeah, good girl! I would only tell your boyfriend if you want to. You should definately get a back up plan in case a condom breaks again, like being on the pill. While at the doctor or clinic you can get a full check up, which you need to do regularly now that you are sexually active. Also, please ask your guy to go with you to get checked for STDs...It could save your life.

Depends on numerous factors, such as age and maturity of both persons, backgrounds, mental and emotional well-being, financial stability, life long goals, religion, education, family and lots more. Love is feelings right now and has little to do with reality. You can't really know him in six months and at your age you really barely even have begun to know yourself. Betting that you would both be happily married two years from now would be stupid. Enjoy the love feelings and build on them slowly. Leave room for lots of growth and get to know the most important person in your life....YOU.

"Being heard is so close to being loved that for the average person they are almost indistinguishable. To say something you value deeply to another and to have him or her value it equally by listening to it carefully and apppreciatively is the most universal way of exchanging social interest or demonstrating affection." David Augsburger, CARING ENOUGH TO HEAR AND BE HEARD.


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