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how do iget him to do this
ok so me and my boyfriend are a very happy couple of coarse we have fights but who doesnt in a healthy relationship? anyway sexually everything is great but i was wondering how to ask him to finger me more haha. For some reason this is embarrassing to ask even to a bunch of people i dont know. anyway ive asked a couple of times and his reply is not today. i aksed if he doesnt like doing it cuz if that was the case i wont force him to do something he doesnt want to do. his reply was why do it when you can just have sex. then he went on say ill do it just not today. Any advice on what i should do?
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He sounds immature or selfish or both. You should not have to beg for something so simple. It could be that he is highly sensitive to criticism and took it wrong, but don't back down. Sex is a great indicator of the whole health of the relationship. Is he in control or wanting to be all the time? Is he insecure? If he is a great guy otherwise, then patiently ask him to have consideration for all your needs as you do his. If he still refuses or is like this with other stuff, I would lose him.
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You say that your sex life is great that means that you have an open relationship where things are discussed and considered. Here is a question to ask yourself. When the two of you are together is he giving and willing to please you or do you do most of the pleasing? Is there foreplay or does he just grab you and take you? His comment about why finger you when you could have sex sounds a little selfish. It is what you like and he shouldn't have a problem doing it for you. Sounds like he isn't willing to do something to you that he doesn't get pleasure out of. If that is the case, have him to look at you (all of you) while he is fingering you so he can see how much you enjoy it. Sex is all about the mind. This can get him excited fantasizing about using his penis and not his finger(s). What do you do for him?
I am not sure how old you are I hope this is not too mature for you.
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Just tell him you aren't ready for sex, but you like to be touched. :)
But if you expect him to do a lot of work for you, you need to give him a reward from time to time.
Hope it works!
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