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My long-term boyfriend intiated a 'break' between us. He's working 7 days a week, long hours, to support his family. He repeated he didn't want to break up but I expected alot from him and at this point, he couldn't do it. He also asked me to 'wait' for him until all this is over and he can handle a serious relationship. I don't want to be mad since none of this is his fault, but I can't help feeling selfish, I love him! He's always been a loyal person, so I don't know what to do. He's an amazing guy that I want to hold onto, but it's also killing me not to have all of him.

I personally disagree with the columnist below.
Lots of couples go on breaks and it turns out for the best in most cases.
I understand how you feel and it's good you realize you are being selfish! However, try and put yourself in your boyfriends shoes. He's working long hours every day. When will he get time to himself in the process? Probably not often.. and lets face it, everyone needs their own personal space.
He told you to wait for him.. and I think you should do just that if you both love each other.
You can find a way to work around it if you don't want to break up.
Give him a bit of time and space, then see how things are. and THEN you ask yourself, is it actually worth it.
Hope things turn out just fine for you.

i had really bad acne on my back, chest, and shoulders last summer.. Well, it went away and now i have theese really weird scars. I did some research and apparently they're called Hypertrophic/keloid Scars. What I couldn't find though, was how to get rid of them.. Apparently, they are supposed to clear up in 2-3 years. Well, i'm 15 right now so they are still going to be there most of the years that I really don't want them.. I can't go swimming, and im worried about doing anything with a girlfriend because it would weird her out.. I got acne on my back again this year but it's not as bad as last year, so i don't think it will leave scars. But yeah.. anything anyone could tell me about how to get rid of theese things or at least cope with it would be cool..

thanks.

Get some Bio Oil and apply it a few times daily. After a few weeks, you will most definitely see results. I always tell everyone to get this if they have scars,blemishes,uneven skin tones etc. You can get it at most places.
Secondly, don't worry about potential girlfriends. They won't be weirded out by scars on your back. and if they are, they obviously are shallow and don't deserve you.
Lastly, acne on backs is very common.
Apply spot treatment to the new spots. Perhaps even add some Tea Tree oil to them. Works wonders.
It will clear within time.
Try not to worry about it too much.

I have played hockey for about 5 years now, And I havent had bad acne. But now since we started this season it has been terrible. I heard it's from all the sweat and stuff.
But,
Does anyone now some good ways to get ride of pimples, Or some good products. I use Green Tea oil and its not working anymore.

You have a few options.
*Get something prescribed by your doctor if it's as bad as you say.
*Look around for over the counter methods and see which one works best for you.
*Try out things from around the home (applying alcohol/toothpaste)
*Try tea tree oil instead of green tea. It's pretty darn good.
Remember to keep a healthy diet and drink plenty of water and no soda.
If you wear make up, always remove it before sleeping. Perhaps use an antibacterial face wash.

wtf is a "lap dance"?

http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=lap+dance

miss bad luckok i have this boy who i realy like but every time im around him my oldest brothers enbares me in front of his face but tthey dont no i like him do you think if they find out tell stop and oyeah should i tell the boy i like him please i need ur help anyone

They're your older brothers. It's what they do! ;)
No, seriously, I reckon you should have a little chat with them. You don't have to tell them you like him, just tell them to stop embarrassing you because it's not nice and it hurts you. Your brothers should understand.
Plus, I'm sure you know alot of embarrassing stories about your brothers! You could scare them and say you'll tell. I wouldn't really tell though, because it won't exactly make things better.
If all else fails, you could always tell your parents?

Ok so i have this friend but i dont konow if he likes me as a friend or wants to be more then that, anyway we have homeroom and last period together in last period we talk all the time and when i'm not looking at him he stares at me and when i catch him staring at me he smiles at me then if i tell him my dads picking us up he'll say your dads picking us up when he knows i mean my dads picking me my sis and my bro up but he says that stuf on purpose to make me laugh and when were going to the buses i was with my friend and he was in front of us and i guess he heard my voice so he turned around and smiled at me for like 5 seconds and almost fell down the stairs......he plays football too but he can't play rite now because he fractured his wrist i dont no if he likes me or not and thank you so much to everyone who answers this you've been a big help just saying this ahead of time

P.S. he's a little bit shorter then me and i don't no if i should worry about that i mean his hottness makes up for it by alot!!!!!!!

thank you so much

It's impossible for us to tell what's going on inside his brain!
Seems like he could like you, though, as he smiles, looks and jokes alot.
Look out for more tell tale signs.. or better still, strike up the courage to ask him - or keep your ears open and listen incase he tells his or your friends.
Best of luck!
p.s, if you like him, look beyond his shortness :P

hey..well, my friend and i are both 15/f. and we have an a.p euro class together. well, there we take notes. the teachers lectures us. and my friend was absent last week for one day. i took about like 45 pages of notes that day. not even kidding. and now she's asking me to scan them and give them to her. should I? I really don't want to. I know she's my friend and all. But I consider this course a strict "only study yourself" course. like, don't help people out, or you're gonna get stuck yourself. I don't know what to do. I would like to help a friend. But scanning 45 pages of the notes that *I* worked so hard on, listening to him and gathering info on. And letting her HAVE it without any effort on her part...well that's not very fair. And plus, when I used to ask her for help, she rarely helped me.

What would you do? :|

I've been in this position so many times. and considering she was my best friend, I just gave them to her. However, it wasn't 45 pages! I think that's a little harsh of your friend to just basically have your notes.
You could tell her to put the notes into her own words - maybe invite her over one day to at least do some of the work.
Tell her to talk to the teacher. Perhaps he could help her catch up.
I know you're in a bit of a crappy position, but 45 pages it too much to just give out to be honest.
Sure, it's not her fault she was absent, so help her out a little along the way.
Good luck...

ok i am kevin burkett i am 13 years old me and my gf have been going out for 1 year and a half.
she has these two friends and they are guys they both like her and recently she told me she liked one of them but she still loved me and it took me a while to get over it cause this is not the first serious thing that has happend. and i am trying to get them to stop talking she want stop i have asked her multible times and she want give them up. she said they are her friends and that that she is not going to stop talking to them.
do you think that it is wrong for me to try to get her to stop talking to them?

Long story short:
You can't choose her friends.
Trust her a little. Let her remain friends with them. She said she loves you so you should remember that.
Although, if she's blatantly flirting with them infront of you, you have every right to be upset with her.
If that's the case, it's not fair for you. and the only way to stop it is to give her an ultimatum. She either stops or you basically end things.
I really hope things will settle down and work out for you.

okay well ive been dating this guy(Fred)for about 4 months now, and well things are great! But we go to different schools and he lives 15 minutes away...so we barley get to see each other. And i pretty much love him! but then theres a problem...i still have feelings for my ex. Hes such an awesome guy and everything and i see him everyday since we go to the same school. And he wants to get back together with me and i kinda want to as well...but then theres still Fred!and i have no clue what to do.I don't know if ending it with Fred would solve my problem, cause id hurt fred and myself at the same time...but i really want my ex back=S. UGH this confuzed girl needs some help. Anything would be awesome! Thanks.

If you aren't sure who you want to be with, basically, you shouldn't be with either. It's not fair on you and it's certainly not fair on them.
But think;
You and your ex broke up for a reason. To be honest, getting back with ex's spells disaster alot of the time.
Noone here can tell you who to choose, really.
Follow your heart sweetie.
Best of luck.

How come in windows live when I pop up, there's no pop up of myself?

I'm not 100% clear on this question. I think you have to add yourself to your own contact list to see you pop up when you come online etc. It won't work when you sign in, but if you appear offline and then online, it does.

ok this summer i lost my virginity but he wasnt
hard..... we tried everything: blowjobs, masterbating....etc.
so we said screw it and tried to do it while he was soft after what seemed like for ever his dick finally went in, then we heard a pop and we thought it was my pussy, but i didnt feel anything so he pulled it out and the condom exploded, and i was bleedin........ so did i pop even though it was only in for like a few seconds? did i lose my virginity or not????

1. If you were bleeding, then yes, you most probably tore your hymen.
2. Penis entering a vagina = NOT being a virgin.
3. Don't attempt sex with a flaccid penis.. that is most probably why the condom "exploded".

do you think it would be okay for me to freely use the word "bollocks" even though i dont live in england nor am english?

Rather odd question!
Use whatever word you wish!
You may have to do a little explaining though, if people don't understand.
As with all words like that, remember it may cause offense to some people.

This might sound wierd but hey...who cares :-D
Do you know any tips for masturbating...like sorts of ways to do it to make it good?
Im a girl by the way before you start giving me guy techniques lol.
shan xx

I'm sure Google would be more help.. You're the one that has to see what works for you!
Good luck

I want a monroe, really badly. But my Dad kept saying "Mm, Yeah, Is that a pimple? If you came home with a piercing i'll rip it off your face" the thing is, a monroe would look really good on me.

What can I do to convince him to let me get one?

You can't actually make him let you get one, but you may be able to prove to him you know what you're talking about.
Research monroe piercings. Show him pictures, stories, about the healing process...
(this site should sort all of that)
http://www.bmezine.com/pierce/05-lips/bme-pg05.html

If you can't convince him, unfortunately, you'll have to wait until you're old enough. Who knows, maybe by then you won't even want one any more.
Good luck.

me and this girl jenn have been best friend for three years already and i hate to see the friend ship end but latly she has been talking behind my back and ditching me and when i try to tell her she just gets mad what should i do?

Think about it;
Why would you want someone who talks about you behind your back and ditches you as a friend?
I know it's hard, considering you have 3 years of memories together, but lets face it, that's life and unfortunately, people change.
Don't run around after her. Let it go. If it bothers her that much, she'd come back to you and apologize.
Good luck girlie. Don't let her get you down.

theres this song i heard once on myspace called hatin by DGB(dem gutta boyz) im dyyyyyinnnnnng to find it anywhere!!pleaaase tell me where i can find it cuz ive looked everywhere..i want to download it or even find it on myspace plllz help me find it...i dono if its their song thou but5 they sing it
it goes...hatin is the consenquences,beilive what im sayin lil homie.....ur just a hater so im brushin you off like dirt...
somethin like that...plz...ill rate 5's to anyone who helps!!

http://musicsearch.myspace.com/index.cfm?fuseaction=music.search

It will most probably be in one of them pages.
If not, try "DGB" in the search option.

i need to loose about 10lbs.
i don't care how fast.

but how?

You've got to be dedicated to lose weight.
The obvious thing to do is exercise. Go to a gym if possible.
Do around 15 minutes of brisk walking daily.
Put your self on a healthy eating plan and get your 5 daily fruits and veg.
Drink lots of water (most of the time, you're infact just thirsty when you think you're hungry. Sipping water throughout the day will help this).
Dance to your favourite songs, avoid public transport by walking to your destinations.

I'm certain Google will help you immensely.
Try it.

Good luck!

so, i've hooked up only like 2 times, but they were really short hookups, like a minute each. what should i be doing with my tounge, like how should i be moving it?

Thanks for your question.

Massage your partners tongue with your own. Explore other areas, like running it across their teeth and the roof of their mouth. Suck on their tongue but not too hard, perhaps maybe GENTLY bite their lip. Go slow so it's not like a washing machine! ;)
You'll get the hang of it. There's not really a way you can go wrong. Just don't do the obvious like make it too wet, etc.

will have lots more.

Good luck and have fun!

Edit in response to your feedback:
Basically run your own along theirs to make it sensual. :)

What are some teen clubs in new york city?
That are open on week ends...

You should look in the yellow pages.

I'm trying out for my all state choir in two weeks. I'm getting braces in one week. Will the braces affect my singing in any way?

It CAN affect speech, because it takes some getting used to when you have metal fixed to your teeth!
I reckon you'll be fine though. It didn't affect me or my friends but I know it did to someone else because their mouth was pretty swollen.
Don't worry about it. You should be used to it by the time your audition comes.

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