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me and my gf are having problems HELP!!!!!
ok i am kevin burkett i am 13 years old me and my gf have been going out for 1 year and a half.
she has these two friends and they are guys they both like her and recently she told me she liked one of them but she still loved me and it took me a while to get over it cause this is not the first serious thing that has happend. and i am trying to get them to stop talking she want stop i have asked her multible times and she want give them up. she said they are her friends and that that she is not going to stop talking to them.
do you think that it is wrong for me to try to get her to stop talking to them?
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You can't choose someone's friends, first off. Second, one of the most important parts of a relationship is trust. Has she actually done anymore than talk with the other boys? If not then there should be no cause for alarm. Some girls, like myself, find it easier to relate with boys rather than girls. Even if she said that she liked one of the other boys, if she hasn't actually done anything then you have to trust her. On the other hand, if she has done something other than talk with them, maybe it is time to move on. Cause if that's the case it sounds like she doesn't respect your feelings and you'd be better off without her. you are young yet, there will be plenty other girls. And plenty other tougher situations to deal with. Pick your battles in a relationship, otherwise you'll be angry about everything.
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okay well i am 13/f and i think that you shouldnt really ask her to stop talking to them because they are her friends. just think of how you would react if she told you that you cant talk to your friends anymore. Give her some timee, and think that she did pick you and is going out with you not her friend.
hope everything works out :]
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HAHAHAH your 13!!! you dont even know what love is!!!!! stop freaking out over something thats not even going to matter in about 6 months
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I don't think its wrong at all. The guys like her and she even said that she liked one of them, thats enough of a reason, to make her sto talking to them.
Hope this helps,
AlyssaBT4T
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You have a right to feel overprotective and threatened by those boys but you should never try to control her. At first, she might think it's cute that you care so much about her but your jealousy will just annoy her and make her mad and she'll feel like you're suffocating and controlling her. Just as long as she's not being overly flirtatious and treating them as friends then you shouldn't keep her away from them. If she's being too flirty and leading them on or suspicious, then tell her that and ask her if she would want you to do that to anyone else. Other than that, you need to trust her.
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yes. pushing her friends away from her will push her away from you. Becasue the truth is no matter how in love a girl may be in with you or anyone else good friends are the most important thing
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Long story short:
You can't choose her friends.
Trust her a little. Let her remain friends with them. She said she loves you so you should remember that.
Although, if she's blatantly flirting with them infront of you, you have every right to be upset with her.
If that's the case, it's not fair for you. and the only way to stop it is to give her an ultimatum. She either stops or you basically end things.
I really hope things will settle down and work out for you.
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Well if you know you can trust her,ask yourself this important question has she given you a good reason as to why you should prohibit her to keep talking to those two guys.I don't see why you can't say to her what's on your mind,put some limits if necessary,she needs to spend more time with you then them because your her boyfriend.
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