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should I do this for her?
hey..well, my friend and i are both 15/f. and we have an a.p euro class together. well, there we take notes. the teachers lectures us. and my friend was absent last week for one day. i took about like 45 pages of notes that day. not even kidding. and now she's asking me to scan them and give them to her. should I? I really don't want to. I know she's my friend and all. But I consider this course a strict "only study yourself" course. like, don't help people out, or you're gonna get stuck yourself. I don't know what to do. I would like to help a friend. But scanning 45 pages of the notes that *I* worked so hard on, listening to him and gathering info on. And letting her HAVE it without any effort on her part...well that's not very fair. And plus, when I used to ask her for help, she rarely helped me.
What would you do? :|
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I'm in AP US history, and my teacher actually encorages us to work together. Then again, this is our first AP class, because 9th grade was just honors.
Anyways, I understand where you're coming from not wanting to scan 45 pages of notes. But, it was a lecture, and depending on the teacher, he might not lecture it to just her. Ask her to try that first.
If he won't do that, I think you should let her copy. It's not like they're the answers to the test, or she was just skipping class. She was actually sick. It's not her fault. Since you really don't want to just give it to her, let her copy it by hand. That way, she works for it a bit. You could also ask her since you're giving her notes this time, if you're ever sick, she should give them to you.
If you honestly think she's that bad of a friend and won't help you out next time you need it, then don't.
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Yes, you should.
I would give her the notes because her request is not unfair. She was absent, she missed the notes, and you apparently take very detailed notes. Set a precedent for helping her and she can return the favor when you need a little help. Having standards for "only study yourself" is unnecessary.
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hey...well i guess if you help her you'll feel proud...like you've done something nice for someone..but then again if you don't you may end up feeling guilty right?
what i normally do with my friend at uni (she always wants to take my notes, or my draft essay), but she does tell me that she only wants to read through to see how to start of the assignment/ essay. so i do help her out we sit together and i actually make her read through the books so she picks out references and quotes she can use for the essay.. i make her do a little bit of the work herself, or either explain how she should do the assignment. i guess i feel ok, just as long as i tell her to RE-WRITE IN HER OWN WORDS..AND NO COPYING, i always tease her to use her own brains if she has any.
but i think you should help her....don't let her get off too easy by giving her the notes, because if you do it once then she will always ask you for your notes...sometimes it's good to put your foot down and learn to say no. ...and i have told my friend, "i've helped because this was our first year at uni, next year you better work hard because i'll be getting help from you" (not that i need it, lol)
but don't give her all the notes you've made, maybe just make it brief, or bullet point some of the main stuff for her, and ask her to do the rest of the research herself, but makesure you don't make it sound like you don't want to help her just say in a nicer friendly way....like......."here, i've bullet pointed the main stuff you need to know, and if you don't understand anything you could ask me, or the teacher (he'll probably explain it better) or she good go through chapter in the hand book etc.
this way you won't feel bad about not helping her by not giving her any notes, but you'll feel better that you've helped her in someway, and if she does care about her grades then she will do the extra research or reading, right? never let anyone take you for granted, no matter how good a friend they are..because the is a limit to everything, so never let anyone use and abuse you in any way sweety.
you takecare, hope i've helped. x RATZY x....n don't worry too much..if you need any more help, you could let me know..yep?? tkcr.
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I wouldn‘t give a friend homework answers or test answers but sharing notes seems like a different situation to me. After all they still have to do the work to retain the information given in the notes. The issue that I see here is that it takes a lot of time to scan 45 pages. If you don’t have time for that I’d tell your friend that they are more than welcome to come over and copy the notes, or that they can copy them during lunch the next day. If the scanning is not what bothers you and you are feeling that giving notes is not right I would just explain this to your friend as gently as possible.
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it it against the rules to scan the answeres?? if not give them to her. it's not her fault she was absent, and she is after all your friend.
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You let her copy. why? because she was ABSENT its not like she was just lazy. If you were absent would you want that same consideration? I know I would. It's not that big of a deal honestly. I mean i could understand if she just didn't do it, but she cant help that she was absent. I honestly think that, thats selfish.
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I've been in this position so many times. and considering she was my best friend, I just gave them to her. However, it wasn't 45 pages! I think that's a little harsh of your friend to just basically have your notes.
You could tell her to put the notes into her own words - maybe invite her over one day to at least do some of the work.
Tell her to talk to the teacher. Perhaps he could help her catch up.
I know you're in a bit of a crappy position, but 45 pages it too much to just give out to be honest.
Sure, it's not her fault she was absent, so help her out a little along the way.
Good luck...
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Yikes!!
I'd tell her that you think its better if she talked to the teacher. Then you can always joke around and be like "hey, its ap euro. EVERY MAN FOR HIMSELF!!" Or tell her that 45 pages is too much to scan, because that is.
Sorry, if you want some more help, let me know.
xxtiffany
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tell her she can copy them by hand!
that way she'll still have them but she has to write them. haha ! :] its good you hav a conscious
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