Gender: Female
Location: Leicestershire, England, UK
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Age: 22
Member Since: July 22, 2007
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so this past weekend me and some girls went to a sex store, just for the heck of it! i bought some cute fuzzy handcuffs:) well when we got back to my friends, i seen my best guy friend who i've always been very attracted to. i was like "look what i bought!:)" and he was like let me borrow those!! i'll give them back to you next weekend. well turns out that he gave my them back, but still has the keys to them! i kind of want to tease him a little when i get them back from him ;) it would be fun using them with him! i know he's wanted to get with me before but hasn't really said anything lately so i'm not sure if he's still feelin it. i don't know what to say thooo! like, give me my keys back and i'll use them on you! haha thats way too obvious and may be awkward if he isn't thinking the same. any other way i can put it that hints i want to have fun with him thats more subtle?! (link)
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Hi... thats nice.. i guess you could always cuff ur hands up and then approach him, ...and hopefully see what he does? thats all i can think of i think.
..or just sneak up on him sometime and put the hand cuffs on him n then ask "now mate, where are they keys?.. speak now or forever .. hold your peace?"
i cant think of anything else at the moment.. hope it helps.
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15/f
I really like this guy and he is in my group for a class project. Yesterday, we had to get in our groups and most of our group was goofing off and not listening to what we were supposed to be doing. So him and I were basically the only ones working on the assignment.
Before any of this happened, I was so shy and I would never talk to him. I'd look at him but i'd never actually talk to him. Well I don't know what happened but suddenly I felt like my normal self when I was talking to him.
Is that normal to feel that way? because I thought you were supposed to be nervous when you're around the person you like but during that time period I felt normal.
Oh and if you have any advice on what to do after that so I can be his friend and possibly more than friend? I've only had 1 boyfriend and that lasted for 5 days and we never kissed. Help me please (link)
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well seeing that you found it easy to talk to him seems like a good sign, sometimes its better to be comfortable when you talk to someone you like, its a good sign so dont worry, and if you do see him just talk, say hi, hows your week been? anything interesting?....if when he talks to you or sees you if theres a smile on his face that would mean he probably hopefully likes you too, or likes talking to you....just makesure you find ways to talk to him so you could get to know him aswell, and then decide do u still really really like him, or was it a just an attraction thing?...anyway, take care hope i helped or made sense.......good luck sweety xx
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I messed up with this guy that I was really into. It's been about a month or so since we've really, really talked. I let a friend influence me to tell him that I didn't want him calling me anymore. From the moment I said it, I've regretted it every single second. It was a lie. Tomorrow he's bringing me to work because he's going to do some work on my car while I'm at work...I told him Saturday I wanted to talk to him and if he had 15-30 minutes, I wouldn't take too much of his time. He said he was working Sunday, but he'd give me a call. He never called me. Well, I called his job today about my car and ended speaking to him and he told me instead of bringing it late today, to bring it tomorrow morning and he would drive me to work and drop me off and pick me up later. So, I want to take this opportunity to talk to him for a few minutes...how do I go about apologizing for being a complete idiot and telling him that i miss him... (link)
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you will know exactly what to say when you meet him up. but just tell him exactly what you feel, and the reason why you told him to stop talking to you. if he really cares for you he will accept your apology. i don't think guys are the type to hold a grudge against others, thats what makes them so different from us, because they can forgive us for the little silly mistakes we make.
do take the opportunity, and if you need to don't forget to pout your lips and eyes, whatever it'll take to make him smile and i mean if he's willing to work on your car and drop you off to work and pick you up it probably means he still wants to be with you to.
takecare, hope it goes well, Ratzy!x
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I am about to go crazy. I like Lany but than again I hate him for not likeing me and all the other things he has done to me so what I am going to do is give Lany a note saying that I love him and Im not going to sign my name and then he will never now who it is untill I decide to tell him and im ganna type it so that he really wont know its me so do you think I should do this or not?Please hury im loseing my mind. (link)
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ermm...have u already told him in person yet that you like him? i dont think you should write a mysterious note, because he might make it out to be that its probably someone else who's written it.
the best thing for you to do is just tell him that you like him, but if he doesn't feel the same way no one can change his feeling sweety. so don't do anything that you may regret later, just be honest with him, if his answer is no then just let it be, dont let it get to you, or make him see that, instead just carry on as you would, if it's meant to be it will happen, if not then i'm sure you will find someone better who will like you just as much as you like him.
takecare, hope it helps, RATZY!x
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what is the dark in tall, dark, and handsome? when talking about guys (link)
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well, i always thought it's the dark haired colour, so tall in height, dark as in the hair colour....and ofcourse handsome in his good looking charms, now thats my dream man.
but it could represent different things to different people so i don't think there is a fix meaning.
just think what dark means to you? hope it helps though, just make it what you want it to be, tkcr x
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hey..well, my friend and i are both 15/f. and we have an a.p euro class together. well, there we take notes. the teachers lectures us. and my friend was absent last week for one day. i took about like 45 pages of notes that day. not even kidding. and now she's asking me to scan them and give them to her. should I? I really don't want to. I know she's my friend and all. But I consider this course a strict "only study yourself" course. like, don't help people out, or you're gonna get stuck yourself. I don't know what to do. I would like to help a friend. But scanning 45 pages of the notes that *I* worked so hard on, listening to him and gathering info on. And letting her HAVE it without any effort on her part...well that's not very fair. And plus, when I used to ask her for help, she rarely helped me.
What would you do? :| (link)
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hey...well i guess if you help her you'll feel proud...like you've done something nice for someone..but then again if you don't you may end up feeling guilty right?
what i normally do with my friend at uni (she always wants to take my notes, or my draft essay), but she does tell me that she only wants to read through to see how to start of the assignment/ essay. so i do help her out we sit together and i actually make her read through the books so she picks out references and quotes she can use for the essay.. i make her do a little bit of the work herself, or either explain how she should do the assignment. i guess i feel ok, just as long as i tell her to RE-WRITE IN HER OWN WORDS..AND NO COPYING, i always tease her to use her own brains if she has any.
but i think you should help her....don't let her get off too easy by giving her the notes, because if you do it once then she will always ask you for your notes...sometimes it's good to put your foot down and learn to say no. ...and i have told my friend, "i've helped because this was our first year at uni, next year you better work hard because i'll be getting help from you" (not that i need it, lol)
but don't give her all the notes you've made, maybe just make it brief, or bullet point some of the main stuff for her, and ask her to do the rest of the research herself, but makesure you don't make it sound like you don't want to help her just say in a nicer friendly way....like......."here, i've bullet pointed the main stuff you need to know, and if you don't understand anything you could ask me, or the teacher (he'll probably explain it better) or she good go through chapter in the hand book etc.
this way you won't feel bad about not helping her by not giving her any notes, but you'll feel better that you've helped her in someway, and if she does care about her grades then she will do the extra research or reading, right? never let anyone take you for granted, no matter how good a friend they are..because the is a limit to everything, so never let anyone use and abuse you in any way sweety.
you takecare, hope i've helped. x RATZY x....n don't worry too much..if you need any more help, you could let me know..yep?? tkcr.
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does anyone know a song or quote(s) that has to deal with you liking someone but them not seeing it?
thanks.
i rate! (link)
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hi there........ermm so far two that i can think off at the top of my head are...
madonna - open your heart to me
cascada - miracle
search on googles for the lyrics by typing in: madonna open your heart lyrics, or cascada miracle lyrics......and hopefully you could pick out a small chunk you can use as a quote.
take care though, hope they are the type of songs you're looking for, just have a read through the lyrics.
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I've seen this cat around my yard. I can garentee that it's not owned because I live in a small neighborhood, and everyone in it has atleast 2 dogs. The cat lives in a trash pile basicly that me and my family has colected over the year, and it's gotten bigger. Well I want to save this cat before winter comes, it will freze to death! My dogs, one I got was from a family that was broken up and the little dog had no where to go and my family took her in and we now call her Keylii. The other one is a lot bigger then Keylii who is a Tea-cup Pamerian, and his names Bear. Well they've bothc ome from familys that has had cats in the house so my dogs will get along with the cat, but how am I going to get it to come to me? I wana feed it, it's been getting into out garbadge and that can't be filling, But ive never had a cat before. I was thinking about louring it out by like canned tuna, I also have babyfood.. if cats eat that and dog food for little dogs if cats eat that too. But i need to think of the good of the animal. I dont wanna call Animal Services so don't give me that option because what if they put it down??? Then there'd be no point in saving it.. but what if it has a deseice and it bites me? I know im up-dated in my shots so Im not worried about that but if it bites me, and my Mom finds out she wont let if around the baby. I wanna save this cat. I know its homeless and letting it live where it is isnt an option. Neither is calling animal services. Im willing to take the chance of being biten out scratched, I just need some help on how to get the cat out of the pile of nothing.. please anyting is helpful and im sorry for giving u resrtictions but im not going to happy knowing its out there, or that its in the hands of other people who might hurt it.
Anything will be helpful tho. (link)
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actually once what i did when i saw this cute cat, i went out and put milk for it and stood slightly away so it don't get scared (i thought it might have been hurt but she was just being lazy and bored i guess, but i found out she belonged to one of the neighbours), well as soon as she saw i moved away, she came up to the plate of milk sipped it all up and gave me a thank you look she then came and walked around and inbetween my legs and stroked her head with my jeans and we became friends, everytime she use to see me she use to run over and play...so it's nice helping an animal.
but...i think you should first maybe try to call up those people who look after strayed animals, and ask them what you should do.
i guess i wasn't much of a help, but i know those people will help you...tkcr!x
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Is there somewhere online that i can watch episodes of "The Real Housewives of Orange COunty" online for free? I know on Bravo.com they have like little clips...but i'm talking about full episodes.
Thanks soo much! (link)
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hi, you could try searching on u-tube, i have heard alot of people you u-tube to download or watch programmes, video songs, movies, etc online, i've not used it myself though.
hope you are able to find what you're looking for. takecare
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I am finally getting a job, so when I told my parents about how I won't need their money to go the mall anymore I felt mature and glad I wasen't going to have to keep asking them from cash. Well, in the middle of the conversation my mom was like "You do know that you are putting a third in the bank and giving a third to us right?" I couldn't believe that I have to pay them my money. My dad was like "Well what about our hard earned money? We give it to you two (my sister and I) all the time. Besides the family needs it." Um hello, isn't that what you two are for? My mom thinks since I have a job I have to pay "room and board" WTH?! Are my parents being unreasonably rediculous here???
(Keep in mind I'm earning minimum wage here, so saving up for anything now is foolish) (link)
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hey, i guess your parents may have said in a jokingly way, or maybe they just wanted to see if for you your parents come first or not. sometimes as long as you just say something it shows parents how much you care, but it doesn't mean you have to do it. i don't know how to explain, but maybe this example may help, when my sister was newly married her husband's granny said actually to her husband i want to sleep in your room (as a joke i guess) and i don't know what exactly he said but obviously he didnt want that, but my sister who was also their she replied sure you can sleep on our bed and we will take the floor. just by saying this you make a person happy, even though she didn't sleep in their room, but she was happy knowing that my sister cares, u know.
i mean put yourself in your parents position, if you child said no you can't have my money, its mine mine mine, it would hurt you, and you would think as longs as said "sure mum/ or dad you have rights over my earnings it is because of you i'm capable of doing this job etc. and hopefully in the future when i do earn more and hopefully become a millionaire, it will be for you" this would show them you do put your parents before any other materialistic things, even though you don't end up giving a third.
sometimes words a more comforting.
the reason why people have kids is usually because they hope that one day when they're old they will have their own kids who will take care of them just the way they took care of you.
i'm not saying you should give all your money to your parents but just find a way of showing them that you care for them and money does not matter.
hope i helped take care
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Ok, here's the story. When I was younger, I thought of God as an invisible being that always watched you and could do anything he wanted. So i'd always say "yes I believe in god". But as I grew older, people who don't believe in God have pointed things out to me. I mean it was MAN who wrote the bible, and MAN who wrote the ten commandments. who's to say man didn't make it all up? One of my frieds once pointed out that "man does not like the thought of nothing after death, so the created an afterlife to believe in instead". Another person that doesn't believe in God said "he is just like Santa Claus, used to make children be good". These seem like pretty realistic remarks to me. Plus there is no "proof" that he does exist right? People who believe in him just say "the feeling is truly wonderful". I have asked God to come into my heart many times, but I never feel any different. Does this make me Atheist? (link)
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have a read of this story from a forwarded email, and hopefully you can decide for yourself:
A MAN WENT TO A BARBERSHOP TO HAVE HIS HAIR CUT AND HIS BEARD TRIMMED. AS THE BARBER BEGAN TO WORK.
THEY BEGAN TO HAVE A GOOD CONVERSATION. THEY TALKED ABOUT SO MANY THINGS AND VARIOUS SUBJECTS. WHEN THEY EVENTUALLY TOUCHED ON THE SUBJECT OF GOD.
THE BARBER SAID: "I DON'T BELIEVE THAT GOD EXISTS."
"WHY DO YOU SAY THAT?" ASKED THE CUSTOMER. "WELL, YOU JUST HAVE TO GO OUT IN
THE STREET TO REALIZE THAT GOD DOESN'T EXIST. TELL ME, IF GOD EXISTS, WOULD THERE BE SO MANY SICK PEOPLE? WOULD THERE BE ABANDONED CHILDREN? IF GOD EXISTED, THERE WOULD BE NEITHER SUFFERING NOR PAIN. I CAN'T IMAGINE A LOVING GOD WHO WOULD ALLOW ALL OF THESE THINGS." THE CUSTOMER THOUGHT FOR A MOMENT, BUT DIDN'T RESPOND BECAUSE HE DIDN'T WANT TO START AN ARGUMENT.
THE BARBER FINISHED HIS JOB AND THE CUSTOMER LEFT THE SHOP.
JUST AFTER HE LEFT THE BARBERSHOP, HE SAW A MAN IN THE STREET WITH LONG, STRINGY, DIRTY HAIR
AND AN UNTRIMMED BEARD. HE LOOKED DIRTY AND UNKEMPT. THE CUSTOMER TURNED BACK AND ENTERED THE BARBER SHOP AGAIN AND HE SAID TO THE BARBER: "YOU KNOW WHAT? BARBERS DO NOT EXIST."
"HOW CAN YOU SAY THAT?" ASKED THE SURPRISED BARBER. "I AM HERE, AND I AM A BARBER. AND I JUST WORKED ON YOU!"
"NO!" THE CUSTOMER EXCLAIMED. "BARBERS DON'T EXIST BECAUSE IF THEY DID, THERE WOULD BE NO PEOPLE WITH DIRTY LONG HAIR AND UNTRIMMED BEARDS, LIKE THAT MAN OUTSIDE."
"AH, BUT BARBERS DO EXIST! THAT'S WHAT HAPPENS WHEN PEOPLE DO NOT COME TO ME."
"EXACTLY!" AFFIRMED THE CUSTOMER.
"THAT'S THE POINT! GOD, TOO, DOES EXIST! THAT'S WHAT HAPPENS WHEN PEOPLE DO NOT GO TO HIM AND DON'T LOOK TO HIM FOR HELP.
THAT'S WHY THERE'S SO MUCH PAIN AND SUFFERING IN THE WORLD."
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So there's this guy and I know girls probably ask this question all the time but does he like me? He talks to me on msn and myspace. He askes my friend about me all the time. Plus he has a nick name for me which I wont put on here. haha. WEll I think he's trying to make me jealous so my other question is. Does he still like me even if he's talking to another girl on myspace and at school? he only talks to her in front of me. Or so like it seems. I don't want him to feel like he has to be a ass hole and make me jealous. I hate when guys do that. You dont win a girl over by doing that. So does he like me or is he just being a typical guy. The kind that talks to ever girl and wants to get a lil taste of every girl he knows? I'm not really sure. I know I drive him crazy by ignoring him and making him want me even more but that doesnt mean I dont like him. Doesnt he know anything about how girls play mental games with guys? I really need to know. Sorry if that was a little long. (link)
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i guess he might like you, but the only way you will know how he really feels is if you ask him if he likes you or not, and take it from there..
next time you chat on msn or myspace just build up the conversation and ask him who he likes?
or maybe just say 'look right, i like you, so stop trying to hard'
well good luck
take care!
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any tips on how to get over a girl? not just any girl, the best girl ever. she was seriousely amazing... thanks :D (link)
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ermm..just try the out of sight out of mind technique **try to avoid places where you might see her, or places you both spent time together, try not to think about her too much or the things you did, try keep yourself occuppied with other stuff, it will take time, but hopefully you will get there.
...OR, try thinking about the things you really really hated about her, if there were any at all.
hopefully you'll find someone much better to make you forget about every one else.
takecare
RATZY
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I'm Natalie and i am 14. All my life i have been extremely boy crazy even since kindergarten. I have had boyfriends and gotten the butterflies. Sometimes even when i had a hard day and i was depressed i would day dream about me and like the perfect guy being engaged... lame i know but it made me feel better. But lately i dunno when i see a girl i sorta get turned on, and that scares me. I am a full supporter of gay rights, and have many gay friends but i just cant imagine and i don't really want to be one... at all. I do have anxiety and alot of the time i just freak my self out and obsess over something... am i doing that? when i do freak myself out i compare girls to guys and it changes but when i say girls i freak out and im scared.Im also a big believer you dont choose to be gay, and since ive always been boy crazy... but what do you think? Am i a lesbian, bi,or just a crazy straight girl? please help! (link)
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i don't think you might be lesbian. it probably is that you're thinking too much about it and are stressing yourself out. now, when you said you get turned on if you see a girl, is it just a thing when you're like 'oh she's pretty' or 'she's got nice legs/eyes/lips/hair etc'?? or do you actually feel sexual attraction, if you don't then you're probably not.
i once got creeped out myself when i had this silly dream of me kissing sarah michelle gellar (buffy) eww, but i know i'm not lesbian it was just a dumb dream, lol, sometimes you do see pretty girls and you wish you had their waist, or breasts, legs, hair, but it doesn't mean you want to be with them sexually. its just that you may want to look like them or be more like those girls.
if you know your boy crazy then you are, or if you want to be more sure then just think of a gorgeous guy and then a hot girl and see which of them makes your heart beat faster?
hopefully you'll know, and like you say you can't really choose to be gay or straight it just happens right?
hope it helps
takecare, RATZY
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13/f
i've been having dreams for about the past 4 days about this boy i really have a crush on. and they're all good dreams, like we hug & kiss and that kinda stuff. he's one year older than me, [i'm going into 8th and he's going into 9th] i met him at my summer camp, he works as a teen volunteer but we never talked there. i have his s/n and we talk occasionally, but not much. i have his myspace, but we don't talk at all. what's up with these dreams? why am i having them? does this mean somethings gonna happen between us? thanks. (link)
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hey there...dreams are all part of our inner most hidden desires that are burried deep down in the mind, stuff we are aware of but we keep it under control while we're awake. and i guess it just shows how you feel about this guy.
but if you do want something to happen, then talk to him, and tell him how you feel...but if that's a bit scary, then try to become his friend and see how it goes from there.
but i'm sure once you tell him you like him, it would put your mind at ease, let's hope he has some sort of feelings for you too.
takecare
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I want to get rid of my lip hair. It's brown like my hair color and almost noticable. I am not interested in waxing it or shaving it, because i's gross when it grows back. (btw- i'm 13/f) My friend told me that she bleaches her lip hairs (her mom does it for her). She's the same age as me, but I was wondering if it was safe? And where can I get this 'bleach'? Are there any side effects? Is it expensive? Just let me know what you know about it. Thanks! (link)
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i would suggest waxing, most bleaches can make your hair darker, and since wax removes the hair from routes it will reduce your hair growth and will grow back slowly.
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Ohkay so like an hour ago i ate some bread. And the bread seemed okay. and i look at the slice on the bottom and it was covered with mold!! And guess what, im not feeling good. What do i do!!I realllyy dont want to throw up. I feel like i am . Does anyone know how to make my stomach feel better!
please answer as soon as possable.
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you could try a mint leaf, put abit of salt and pepper scrunch it up and at it (i think that's for digestion though) i guess you could try it if it helps you feel better.
hope you feel better
take care
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What is an open relationship? (link)
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open relationship is when you could be honest with your partner and be able to talk about anything, you have to be understanding of each other's feeling, and it's basically to do with trust and compromise i guess.
hope this helps, take care!x
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Okayyy so I think I have a problem.I seem to get upset over the little things, more so with my boyfriend.I guess I'm attached to him and I guess a bit selfish.I always want to talk to him and see what he's doing.It's awful.My bestfriend recently told me she saw my boyfriend and his friend tonight and bought them alco.. I was "okay" I had nothing to say to that.She asked me why I wasn't with him and I said I don't know.She was having her fun.It's just whatever.I really don't know why I'm acting this way though.It's really annoying.I don't want to keep ruining a good day by just getting upset over stupid things.Does anyone have any suggestions what shall I do...? (link)
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i think..you need to think of one thing that makes you so happy (try thinking of the most happiest time you've ever spent with your boyfriend)...so whenever little things try to get you upset just think of all these happy thoughts.
and also try to spend abit time away from your boyfriend, and spend time with your friends, have girls night out. i guess it is nice spending time with your boyfriend, but try to though, sometimes it feels nice to have abit of space even if it is from the one you love, like they say: "distance makes the heart grow fonder" but not too much distance, just a little bit. and also try to find other activities you like to do to keep you occupied so you don't feel the need to spend every single moment with your boyfriend, 3,4 times a week should be enough right?
hope i've helped take care, just sit back and start smiling no more frowns.
RATZY
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Let's start off by saying I have never gotten along with my mom. She has put my sisters and I through a lot of problems in our lifetime. She has always treated me unfairly however, because I am the oldest, so I get the blame for everything. My mom also never got along with her mother when she was my age, my mom moved out of her mom's house when she was 18 years old. My mom doesn't listen to what I have to say and if I try telling her she's treating me unfairly she'll tell me to "shut the fuck up" or call me a little bitch. My mom has said things like "You better treat your step father better than that before he leaves me. I'd kick you out of the house before I kick him out" And she let one of her other boyfriends call me a whore and such because they found out I had sex with my boyfriend. Well, that was over a year ago and my mom still calls me a whore and makes me keep the door open when he's here and I'm not even allowed to go to his house. My mom makes sure that I never get any alone time with him at all and I've been dating him for almost 2 years. Yes, I am young (almost 16) But my relationship is very mature, and my mom can't stand it. To all the parents out there, what would you do if you found out your child had sex when she was my age? Would you act similar to my mom? Also, I'm supposed to be going away on vacation with my family next week and my mom told me I HAVE to go, and she told me that if I don't go and I stay with my father, that I should just pack my bags to move in with him because I won't be welcome here anymore. Everyone tells me that I should respect my mother, and I do more than I should. I say thank you for everything and I'm constantly helping to clean the house and take care of my sisters. How do I tell my mom that like my grandma, she will also have a daughter moving out on her 18th birthday if she keeps treating me like this without having it blow up to a huge argument? (link)
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hi, have you and your mother ever actually sat down and talked about why she treats you this way? does your father know about this, it's good that you still respect her, but are you happy living with her or would you rather live with your dad?
i can't really tell you to dump your mother, but try talking it through with her tell her how you feel, ...maybe you should talk to your dad about it too, see if he could sort things out between the two of you.
i know this isn't much of help, but if you think you should, then i recommend that you also discuss with your school councillor or the mentor, i mean if this is worrying you then you need to discuss with someone with more experience.
...but i think that you're mother maybe picking on you so she could shift all her anger on to you, she's not doing this intentionally but it could be her way of getting rid of her stress
anyway goodluck hope it works out, if you need more help jus let me know
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