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Parents want a third of my pay check.
I am finally getting a job, so when I told my parents about how I won't need their money to go the mall anymore I felt mature and glad I wasen't going to have to keep asking them from cash. Well, in the middle of the conversation my mom was like "You do know that you are putting a third in the bank and giving a third to us right?" I couldn't believe that I have to pay them my money. My dad was like "Well what about our hard earned money? We give it to you two (my sister and I) all the time. Besides the family needs it." Um hello, isn't that what you two are for? My mom thinks since I have a job I have to pay "room and board" WTH?! Are my parents being unreasonably rediculous here???
(Keep in mind I'm earning minimum wage here, so saving up for anything now is foolish)
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hey, i guess your parents may have said in a jokingly way, or maybe they just wanted to see if for you your parents come first or not. sometimes as long as you just say something it shows parents how much you care, but it doesn't mean you have to do it. i don't know how to explain, but maybe this example may help, when my sister was newly married her husband's granny said actually to her husband i want to sleep in your room (as a joke i guess) and i don't know what exactly he said but obviously he didnt want that, but my sister who was also their she replied sure you can sleep on our bed and we will take the floor. just by saying this you make a person happy, even though she didn't sleep in their room, but she was happy knowing that my sister cares, u know.
i mean put yourself in your parents position, if you child said no you can't have my money, its mine mine mine, it would hurt you, and you would think as longs as said "sure mum/ or dad you have rights over my earnings it is because of you i'm capable of doing this job etc. and hopefully in the future when i do earn more and hopefully become a millionaire, it will be for you" this would show them you do put your parents before any other materialistic things, even though you don't end up giving a third.
sometimes words a more comforting.
the reason why people have kids is usually because they hope that one day when they're old they will have their own kids who will take care of them just the way they took care of you.
i'm not saying you should give all your money to your parents but just find a way of showing them that you care for them and money does not matter.
hope i helped take care
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okay the person that first answered is kinda right. but parents are SUPPOSED to do that. they are parents they should be taking care of you and buying you food and clothes, etc. i think it's absolute crap you have to do that..
but that's just my oppinion. i'd try talking to them more about it..
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It sucks majorly, im going through the same thing actually. But there's some stupid, totally unfair law that says parents/guardians have a 100% right to your money until you turn 18. Just be happy you dont have to give up HALF of it.
(Like I do, lol)
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Ok the same happened with my bro.
Your parents are right.
For years you've lived with them.Your parrents pay for ALL the bills.ALL the food.ALL the clothes.ALL the birthdays,christmas presents and they have been doing it FOR years..and you couldn't work and there for could not contirubte but now that your taking responsibility, getting money you need to start giving some money for your parents, it's not fair you get money but your parents still pay for your food,your clothes,your electricity.They've done everything.
But i would compromise.Maybe you could give them a third, or less. Or you could buy half the food for home.It's rent!But if you do want to save up for something like a new top you can do that but no compromise will be made over a top but if it was an educational college fund, a house something big like that - thats where the compromise would be made.
I'm not saying it fair because if that was me {and it will be in 2 yrs time!}if would feel really angry , unfair etc but your parents have a done a lot , years work.Isn't time to give something back..its rent...if you were staying anywhere else you'd have to pay.Just because they're your flesh and blood dosnt mean you get it easy.Have a talk, compromise or tell them that you'll give the money but ask them if they could wait until you get a better wage.Its worth asking.
hope i helped.
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The first couple of people who answered your question must be about 14. Comming from someone whos almost 20 years old and has been through the same thing, im telling you it does suck. But your parents are right. The same thing happened to me, I was living off my parents, not having to pay them a dime, but the second a child gets theyre first job, they start having responsibilities. There is no place in life that you can live where you get free room and board, free food, free laundry services, free clothes etc. NO place. Your parents house is the only exception, until you get a job. Its better to learn these responsibilities when your young. It may suck but this is really good for you, not only are you learning now so that its not so hard later in life, but your helping out your family. So no, you are not being unreasonably ridiclous, any kid with a first time job would feel the same way, I did too. But what your parents are doing is very good for you and them both, and you will learn that. It will suck sometimes, just keep your head up and know that some really good things will come our of this in the long run. Dont worry! :]
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Your parents are in the right and you aren't. Every individual who makes money and lives with a group of people parents or not needs to contribute financially.
This is especially so if you are using their phone, Internet, cable, electricity, utilities, food and are getting free laundry service from them. Your sister would be expected to do the same if she had money and they provided her with a room and bed.
This will teach you real-life responsibility. They need the money and should not at your age be expected to pay your way for movies, clothes, books and what have you when you have a job.
This will teach you to value money and work on a budget. You OWE them a third of your cheque no two ways. That's just the facts. You may not like that but it's the way it is across the board with other people who have money.
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Ok first of all let me just say one thing ....I SO KNOW WHAT YOUR GOING THROUGH!! Because that same thing is happening with me my parents want third of my checks too trust me I've tried arguying about it with them tons of times and that doesn't help I've tried reasoning with them still that doesn't work its ridiculous and really low how they act this way but if I were you I'd try those two options *reasoning* *arguying* I don't know your parents so maybe there diffrent and maybe it will work
Hope I helped =)
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I totally agree with you!
I would feel the same way!!
hmmmm...
Maybe you should just try telling them how you feel, that you should be given a reward for getting a job, not punished by having to give away 1/3 of it.
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