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Let's start off by saying I have never gotten along with my mom. She has put my sisters and I through a lot of problems in our lifetime. She has always treated me unfairly however, because I am the oldest, so I get the blame for everything. My mom also never got along with her mother when she was my age, my mom moved out of her mom's house when she was 18 years old. My mom doesn't listen to what I have to say and if I try telling her she's treating me unfairly she'll tell me to "shut the fuck up" or call me a little bitch. My mom has said things like "You better treat your step father better than that before he leaves me. I'd kick you out of the house before I kick him out" And she let one of her other boyfriends call me a whore and such because they found out I had sex with my boyfriend. Well, that was over a year ago and my mom still calls me a whore and makes me keep the door open when he's here and I'm not even allowed to go to his house. My mom makes sure that I never get any alone time with him at all and I've been dating him for almost 2 years. Yes, I am young (almost 16) But my relationship is very mature, and my mom can't stand it. To all the parents out there, what would you do if you found out your child had sex when she was my age? Would you act similar to my mom? Also, I'm supposed to be going away on vacation with my family next week and my mom told me I HAVE to go, and she told me that if I don't go and I stay with my father, that I should just pack my bags to move in with him because I won't be welcome here anymore. Everyone tells me that I should respect my mother, and I do more than I should. I say thank you for everything and I'm constantly helping to clean the house and take care of my sisters. How do I tell my mom that like my grandma, she will also have a daughter moving out on her 18th birthday if she keeps treating me like this without having it blow up to a huge argument?
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When no one is home except you,your mom then talk to her but, let her know that you don't want to argue but, talk like two mature people,because your family,that if something was bothering her you would like her to let you know just like what you're going to tell her that she should in reward at least respect you,be nice because the parents will have to let their kids go one day,can't have them tied up to keep them for life even if sadly it sounds but it's the truth,that she should also give you that spot as your daughter,not let a guy get in control of everything which isn't fair if you have been a good daughter doing the chores in the house,every mom out there would love their kids to be responsible,clean after the mess,be helpful,cooperative,that by her turning her back on you,givng you the cold shoulder its turning you away from her,that she'll lose you if she keeps up that way,the only thing you want is for everyone to be treated equally,fair,also add the fact that you'll be moving out on your 18th birthday if she keeps it up.Best of luck that she finally can come to an understanding with you!!
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hi, have you and your mother ever actually sat down and talked about why she treats you this way? does your father know about this, it's good that you still respect her, but are you happy living with her or would you rather live with your dad?
i can't really tell you to dump your mother, but try talking it through with her tell her how you feel, ...maybe you should talk to your dad about it too, see if he could sort things out between the two of you.
i know this isn't much of help, but if you think you should, then i recommend that you also discuss with your school councillor or the mentor, i mean if this is worrying you then you need to discuss with someone with more experience.
...but i think that you're mother maybe picking on you so she could shift all her anger on to you, she's not doing this intentionally but it could be her way of getting rid of her stress
anyway goodluck hope it works out, if you need more help jus let me know
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