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I'm Jack/Jamie.

I'm 28 years old. I graduated from Michigan State University with my Bachelor of Science in Chemistry. GO GREEN! Now I'm a high school chemistry teacher in New York City living with my husband in a small studio apartment we pay way too much money for.

I've been on this site for 14 years as of March 23, 2020.
You may have seen me as CuxMiBeckNow7, but I've since shortened my name.


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Here is my Recommended Columnist of the Decade for the 2020s:
Laura!




--Jack

advice

how do you delete a column.. i dont want to delete mine but my friend wants to know

Tell them to email Dangernerd@gmail.com and maybe explain why they want to delete their column. It may take him awhile to do that- so you have to be patient- he has a lot going on.

--Jack
(15/m)

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if you join a school network, does it tell the other people in that network that you've joined it?

Like do you mean does it send them emails and say "Sally Sweetcheeks [or] Hubert Hunkmuffin has joined your network!"? No- this doesn't happen. If they visit your page- they will be able to tell your network if you post in a group that is global- people will be able to see your network.

Does this help?

--Jack
(15/m)

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is it wierd to like a guy thats 3 years older than u
for ex
if ur 13 and hese 16 ??

thanks

Hey.

Look at this: http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=511553

Its not the same ages/grades- but the idea is still the same:


Age is just a number. Think about it. What are your parents ages? Chances are that they are about 2 or 3 years different. My mom is 45 and my dad is 46- they're close- but let's pretend my dad is a 9th grader- well my mom would be an 8th grader. Is it weird that they're married? No. So does the situation change because they're younger? No. And if someone or anyone thinks that- they are just a bubbling idiot and they deserve to be smacked across the face. Only kidding. =D. But seriously, it isn't weird. If both of you are fine with it- then who CARES what the heck other people think? I certainly don't care that you're dating a 7th grader- age is just a number, again, and its only odd if you're a 9th grader dating a 45 year old man. =D.

--Jack
(15/m)

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I was just wondering, are they ever going to make more episodes of Phil of The Future? And if theyre not what happened? Did they make a movie, or are they going to? Because i remember watching an episode that said before the movie or something, but i never even heard of them making a movie? Just curious, thanks.

Hey.

Unfortunately, no more episodes are being made. Nor is a movie being made.

Its upsetting to me, and it seems like you, too.

--Jack
(15/m)

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Ok, so I have this friend, Kalee who is dating Chris. Well Kalee's best friend is really close with Chris, too. Like REALLY close. And I never thought much of it, since I haven't spoken to any of the three for a little while now.

But today, Chris was holding hands with Kalee's best friend, and they looked a bit too close. I've seen them holding hands and hugging and laughing, etc a few other times, but never really thought anything of it. Now it's kind of hitting me, that maybe there's something gonig on between the two. Chris ahs a history of cheating and stuff, too, so I'm kinda worried.

What do you think I should do? Or am I overreacting?

Oh we're all 15/16 by the way ;]

My advice- don't get involved. It isn't really your business to do so- and I don't want to suggest that you just sit back and watch- but maybe make a hint about it to your friend if you really want to. I mean- do what you want- but I honestly would stay out of it- who wants to be that "friend who screwed up my relationship" by Kalee.

--Jack
(15/m)

CONGRATS ON BEING MY 1,000th QUESTION ANSWERED!!

YAY!

I thought I would never make it!

*Happy Dance*

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What should I name my baby boy?

Jack. Anything else would be an insult to your baby.

--Jack
(15/m)

CONGRATS ON BEING MY 999th QUESTION ANSWERED!
Yay!

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So I know you said it is a nusience , and you havent kissed a lot of girls-

but if it were chapstick, what is your flavour preference?

Anything but vanilla.


GAH! WHO ARE YOU?!?!?!

--Jack
(15/m)

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You're a guy (I assume) so I'll ask you.
If you were kissing a girl, would you rather her use lipgloss, or chapstick?

Honestly- I think both would be a nuisance. I haven't really kissed a lot of girls- so I really can't help you much..

Ask Matt or search for other guys that are more experienced than I.

--Jack
(15/m)

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I need a second opinion about this situation I am having. If you are gay, lesbian, bisexual, or it doesn’t matter if you are straight. I would gladly tell you my problem (it’s a bit long.) Send me a reply and I will send u my question. thank you.

f/20/Bi

*Reply*

My question to you is why didn't you just ask the question here?

--Jack
(15/m/straight)

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In the past few monthes I've been feeling really confident. However, tonight, I finally broke.

I always kinda joke around and say I'm ugly. I know I'm not, but it's kinda an insider with some people. Well tonight someone asked me why I always say I'm ugly. I finally realized it was because no one says I'm beautiful. And from a point I used to be at, I know how heart breaking it is to think you are the ugly duckling.

Basically, I'm really just angry at myself for being superficial. I know looks don't matter. However, I can't help, but feel down sometimes. I'm constantly comparing myself to other people. It's ridiculous. So my question is, how can I learn to accept myself without needing someone else's approval?

This may be just about the lamest advice you get- but be yourself and be proud of who you are. Think to yourself that you are confident- and that's what you'll become. If you think to yourself "Gosh- I'm not as pretty as [insert preppy popular fake girl here]"- well then you will never be able to learn to accept yourself.
Think happy thoughts. Think HAPPY thoughts! Shy away from the negative and just be happy with what you are. Sometimes I feel like you- like I'm not "hot" enough for some of the girls at my school- and no one really tells me that I'm NOT ugly- so what do I think? I think that I am- but then I say "WHATEVER!" and just be myself and try not to worry about it.

I'm sure you're perfect the way you are. =D

--Jack
(15/m)

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I got this really really bad sunburn, and I cant even move. It is on my chest, its like the bathing suit line. It is red, as dark as a tomato. I am normally really pale, so its that much more obvious. It hurts really bad, so is there anything I can put on it so it will go away? Thanks

I heard that this great thing called Aloe works really well. No need to worry- its nice and cool.

--Jack
(15/m)

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what was hannah montanas dad before the show?

Well- he was actually a Shepard.

Then he went into country music. He's Bobby Ray Cyrus.

--Jack
(15/m)

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My cousin gave me a pair of Hollister jean capris. They are too big, so I wanted to return them. I dont know how long ago she got them, but maybe a year or less? They have all the tags on them, so do you think I could at least get a credit?

Yes, you will probably get a credit.

--Jack
(15/m)

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What are some inspirational words like believe, hope, and inspire?
I'm doing a project and need some other words besides those =]

Love, promise, passion, desire, and joy.

All the good ones were taken. =/

--Jack
(15/m)

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okay, you know when you're writing, and your teacher asks you to write a rough draft? well, I did. and my classmates took turns correcting it for me (as part of a class assignment)

my question is : when you're typing up the final draft, are there allowed to be changes in the actual story from the way the story in the rough draft was originally? like...are you allowed to add on scenes?
thanks.

Hello.

The purpose of a rough draft is to draft what you're going to right. Its rough and its just for the sake of bettering your final.

Whose piece is this? Yours, right? Who, then, is in charge of it? You are. So can anyone tell you that you can't? No.

If you want to add things or delete things- go ahead. In fact, its encouraged by a lot of teachers that you do change from what you first wrote. It shows that you are able to edit and stuff.

Happy writing.

--Jack
(15/m)

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14/m my girlfriend and i talk about sex and stuff all the time about what we would do to eachother etc. and it kinda seems like she is so open with me and i have only known her for about a week or two and am having thoughts that she will tell this stuff to anyone and that she is some sort of a whore or something. What is your opinion?

Hey.

You're 14. You've only known this girl for a week and you're going out with her? Not judging you- but that's not something I would do.

Two- because you've only been dating a week- and you're already talking about sex- well if you're not comfortable with it- then don't do it. Uncertainly only means that you shouldn't do it. Don't do anything like this until you're ABSOLUTELY sure.

I think this girl is a whore- c'mon- seriously? She wants nothing but sex if that's pretty much all you're talking about. Dump her. She isn't worth it.

That's my opinion- which is what you asked for.

--Jack
(15/m)

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15/f
I have a lot of guy friends, and we're just friends and they are my best friends. We flirt a little, but it's not anything serious.
The problem is, it's impossible for me to get a boyfriend. is it because of my friends? Everyone knows that we are just friends, and it's really bothering me. I haven't had a boyfriend in a LONG time, and I keep liking guys and having it not happen. What can I do?

I think that your inability to get a boyfriend [according to you] actually can be caused by your guy friends. If everyone knows that these guys have your back and will do anything to protect you- well that can honestly intimidate a guy. He knows that if he makes a move too fast- or does something you don't like- your friends will be all over him- regardless of whether you ask them to or not.
Maybe next time you like a guy- and they like you- set it straight that your friends are just friends. Also- talk with your guy friends- and have them know that they aren't to step in and intimidate this guy unless you ask [like after a break up or something]. Try not to let your friends hold you back from having a meaningful relationship =D.

--Jack
(15/m)

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Ok, so I have two screenames for AIM. One of those screenames is blocked by somebody. If I were to link the two screenames, would the person still show up on my buddy list?

When you link screen names- what it does is just have both of them signed on at once. The one you sign onto is the main one- where you can invite people to chatrooms from- have something other than the default away message, etc. What it does with my version of AIM [I have something before 6.0 because I honestly hate version 6.0- its a piece of crap] is that it has different tabs on top of each other for each screen name linked to the one you sign onto. So- if you're blocked on one screenname- but not on the other- it will show up on the screenname you're not blocked on- but it won't on the screenname you are blocked on.

Make sense?

--Jack
(15/m)

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13/f

I was 11 when I dated my first guy. Well, he kinda left a bruise on my arm. The second guy, ugh, he hated my friends. Third guy, broke up with me after three days. I still don't understand why, either! Well, now I think guys have no feelings because they act like total assholes whenever I meet one. Well, my friend told me to be nice to a friend of hers, who is obviously a guy. Well... It turned out that he started acting rude. I kinda... Kicked him... Well... You get it! Look, could somebody just explain to me why guys are assholes and if they really have feelings? And, if any guys are reading this... Sorry, if this insulted you in anyway. X/_\X

THANK YOU!

Hello.

One- you're 13. You have MANY years of dating ahead of you. Don't let three guys ruin your take on every male on the planet.

Two- you're 13. You shouldn't be calling people assholes. Sorry- but I think its wrong for people your age to think they are "cool" and stuff- so they can swear. Swearing is just dumb. Get over it.

Three- Not all guys are the same. Take me for example. I've never hit a girl. I've never truly and honestly hated anyone. I've never broken up with a girl after three days. I HAVE FEELINGS. Ask Laura- [http://www.advicenators.com/column.php?u=LaUgH_OuT_LoUd_x0x]. She'll tell you that I actually care about what a girl thinks. I have sympathy for girls. Even more importantly, I have empathy for a lot of people.
I don't feel insulted for what you've said- because some guys are jerks- but I do feel slightly disappointed that you are making an assumption as big as this. Just know that most guys are like me and actually DO care about things. They aren't assholes or anything else you'll call them.

--Jack
(15/m)

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I usually have pretty good skin. It's a little dry, but it's usually pretty clear. Sometimes I have one or two pimples. I drink a LOT of water- more than eight glasses a day. I wash my face twice a day.
Yesterday when I woke up, my skin was suddenly oily and I had eight pimples all over my face.

Does anyone have any ideas why this could have happened?

Well- teenagers all get acne and oily faces at one point in their growing up. Its natural- don't worry about it too much.

I can, however tell you something that will work to help get rid of it:

http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=507367

From there:
I know this sounds weird, odd, strange, etc., but what I'm about to say to you ACTUALLY works:

Get some lemon juice. You got the lemon juice? Alright- now take the lemon juice- and take a Q-tip and dab some lemon juice onto your zit with the lemon juice. Just a thin layer- not the whole bottle, silly! =D

Alright- so doing this at night is the best thing to do- it will really reduce the size and shape of the zit- and you won't know it was there in a few days.

Make sure not to touch it with your fingers after you put on the lemon juice- the oils from your fingers will stop the effect.

Relax- everyone gets zits- so you're only normal =D.

--Jack
(15/m)

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