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Superficial
In the past few monthes I've been feeling really confident. However, tonight, I finally broke.
I always kinda joke around and say I'm ugly. I know I'm not, but it's kinda an insider with some people. Well tonight someone asked me why I always say I'm ugly. I finally realized it was because no one says I'm beautiful. And from a point I used to be at, I know how heart breaking it is to think you are the ugly duckling.
Basically, I'm really just angry at myself for being superficial. I know looks don't matter. However, I can't help, but feel down sometimes. I'm constantly comparing myself to other people. It's ridiculous. So my question is, how can I learn to accept myself without needing someone else's approval?
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This may be just about the lamest advice you get- but be yourself and be proud of who you are. Think to yourself that you are confident- and that's what you'll become. If you think to yourself "Gosh- I'm not as pretty as [insert preppy popular fake girl here]"- well then you will never be able to learn to accept yourself.
Think happy thoughts. Think HAPPY thoughts! Shy away from the negative and just be happy with what you are. Sometimes I feel like you- like I'm not "hot" enough for some of the girls at my school- and no one really tells me that I'm NOT ugly- so what do I think? I think that I am- but then I say "WHATEVER!" and just be myself and try not to worry about it.
I'm sure you're perfect the way you are. =D
--Jack
(15/m)
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Hello,
I am 100 percent positive you are not an ugly duckling. You don't look like this do you... [Link](Mouse over link to see full location)
That's what I thought. Sometimes we all need someone to tell us that we are beautiful, pretty, nice, generous, and whatever else. You have to try to find the good points in yourself. Ok, so you may not be Tyra Banks, or a super model- but face it... no one looks like that. Everyone is beautiful in their own way, and you have to embrace who you are- and just realize that you will always look the way you do, so learn to love it early in life. Every morning, go to the mirror and point out the good things you like about yourself. Do not think of the negatives and flaws. Everyone has flaws- and my face is a good example:].Haha.
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You can start but never calling yourself ugly! Beauty is in the eye of the beholder, and there is no one offical type or person that is beautiful.
Think about yourself, and write down qualities that you like. Not physical qualities, but traits about you, like maybe your a good singer, or maybe your very friendly, etc. Learn what is so great about you and appreciate it! There is no other you, therefore that makes you incredibly special.
Make yourself feel beautiful. Get post it notes, and each time when you wake up and go to the mirror, write one thing down about yourself, and stick it on the mirror. Something like "I have great eyes" Build up your confidence until the mirror is filled and you can no longer see your face, but all the confidence clearly written out.
Doing simple things, like getting a manicure, putting on makeup, getting a new hair style , can really boost your self confidence, and it's not being superficial. Your appreciating your body and enhancing it.
Don't let anyone bring you down, and don't let your friends joke about you, even though its a joke. You don't deserve that. Just remember that if you think your beautiful, then you are. It's as simple as that.
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