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im 14 and i hav a really small chest, so what kind of swimsuites should i wear? i dont like one pieces at all, but its hard for me to fit into some bikinis. (link)
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Hi, I recommend getting swim suites from Victoria Secret. They have a wide variety of great swim suites, and lucky for you and a lot of others, they have ones perfect for girls with a smaller chest. I definitely, recommend swim suites with lots of ruffle. This will emphasize and make your chest look about a cup bigger, no lie. And the ones that come with padding, really help a lot too. :)
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i know your not suppose to have myspace trackers and im not planning to get them but i was just wondering if they really work. has anyone used one before? (link)
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I agree, with the first answer. They all are scams, and absolutely none of them work. And since you aren't supposed to use them on Myspace, even if they did, you would get banned. Unforunately, for a lot of people (excluding me) they do not work. :(
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hello :] i saw on here that
if you can whiten your teeth
if you mix baking soda and
salt together and brush your
teeth with it after your done
brushing it with the toothpaste.
is that safe? just wondering :] (link)
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Yes, I know, baking soda will whiten your teeth. But this is very unsafe, because is will strip the enamel off your teeth and make them extremely sensitive. However, there is a good medium -- you can buy toothpaste with baking soda in the ingredients and it cannot strip the enamel off your teeth at all, and yes, it will still whiten them.
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my dad always blames stuff on me. like he'll blame be if he cant find a shirt saying that i lost it. or its my fault the laundry is on top of the dryer. and i made a mess of the kitchen - when all i ever do is clean up after a house full of slobs. one time he told me it was all my fault that it was RAINING. and that i ruined the day. my dad is crazy. serouisly everything is MY fault when 3/4 of the time it isnt!
what should i do! (link)
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First off, I'm very sorry that this is happening to you. Have you ever tried talking to him about this, and explaining to him how it makes you feel? If not, I definitely recommend it. If you have, or even if you haven't, I would talk to your mom or someone in your family that you're very close to, and let them know what's going on. See if they can help you.
Good luck!!
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Hi! I am 18 years old and still a virgin. My boyfriend and I tried out anal sex for the first time and the condom broke without us realizing it and he ejaculated. I'm not sure if there was sperm around the anus b/c it was bloody. As soon as we realized what had happend I wiped what I could away from front to back and with a different towel each time. Then I grabbed some hand sanitizer and wiped it from front to back as well. I had read online that hand sanitizer will kill sperm instantly. Then I ran down to the bathroom and peed and squeezed as much sperm out of me as I could. My period last month started on the 27th which means I am now on the 26th day of my cycle. What do you think my risk of pregnancy is? (link)
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You cannot get pregnant from anal sex. You can only get pregnant when sperm enters the vagina. And being as you wiped it off, you really, you have nothing to worry about.
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Is it possible to be raped by:
Same person
Same group of people
Person from the group that raped you
More than once, twice, or even multiple times?
Is it common or rare? Especially for teens in 10th grade to 12th grade? (link)
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Yes, this is very possible. Unfortunately, this is common with teens, I cannot tell you the exact grades, but I do know for teens this is common. Especially, if the rape is unknown and the person did not tell anyone about it happening.
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So, I'm attempting at writing a book, and I was wondering opinions on this subject..
I have three main characters, and this story is supposed to be a romantic drama kind of thing. I'd like one of the characters to be the one to tell the story, but she ends up dying towards the middle. I was thinking I could switch around with point of views, either that, or switch once the girl dies.. but I'm not sure.
I don't like telling from the author's point of view, but I know it gives more chance to describe more...
Any help is appreciated on when you think I should do. =)
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I've read many books, who switch to different point of views from different people. And they're very interesting to read, of course, with having a good story line, and plot, etc.
So I think you should definitely do that. You could switch to different people at the beginning of a chapter (as many do).
Good luck on writing your novel!
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do you guys prefer myspace or facebook better. I have a myspace, but I always hear people talking about facebook, but i think its stupid to be addicted to 2 websites you know (not litterally addicted, but have to login everyday)
so my question is do you guys prefer myspace or facebook? (I'd appreciate it if people tried both) and why do you prefer myspace or facebook? (link)
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This is only my opinion, on both of them.
I really like both Myspace and Facebook.
I like Myspace because just about all of my friends are on there, and they come on it more often. Where on Facebook, it's not as popular so not many of my friends are on there, and the ones who are, do not come on often. On Myspace, you can chose from lots of layouts, and on Facebook, you can't really customize it much. It's kind of boring, as far the look of it. But you could say the same about Myspace as well. The only difference is with your profile on Myspace, you can customize it to look however you want.
So in my opinion, I think Myspace is better.
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I'm 16 (i'll be 17 in june) and I don't get my period. When I was 13 I got for about 3 or 4 months then it stopped. When i waz 14 it came for about 2 or 3 months and hasn't come back since. What could be wrong with me? (link)
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Hi, I would definitely recommend going to see a doctor. There may or may not be something wrong, but you could find out for sure, by doing that.
Periods are irregular, but my only concern is that you've went so long without it. So the best advice I can give you is to see a doctor. I'm sure he/she can help you, and everything will be okay. :)
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What are some good ways to let your creativity flow? I know that I'm really creative and I have some insane ideas deep in the back of my mind;I just have trouble utilizing these ideas and putting them together. (link)
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Writing is a wonderful way to let your creativity flow. It lets you speak your mind, and allows you to say how you really feel without one consequence.
Singing is another great way for you to let your creativity flow. Writing songs lets your express how you feel, just as writing does. Except with your voice, instead of a pen. Even singing songs that you can relate to, and making it your own. Have confidence in what you do, and make everything you write, sing or whatever you're doing -- your own, and let it have your own creative, unique flow.
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I don't know what to do. I'm a girl, btw.
This girl likes me.. a lot apparently. I'm a sophomore and she's still in middle school. We went out for a while but I broke up with her. I wasn't sure if I really liked her.
Now I'm opening up to people and getting closer to my friends.. which is good (instead of hiding in a shell, right?) I have always been shy so I decided to change things around.. I talked to some old guy friends. One of them.. actually talks to me on his own and whatnot. He seems to like my sense of humor and asks me about my day.
I think I might like him [I did before when we were in middle school, so he's not some weirdo] and I told him I might develop feelings for him in time.
But the girl says she's going to wait for me because she doesn't want ANYONE else.
I'm not sure what to say. I don't like hurting people. Because I'm really not ready for a relationship [with a girl I suppose]. And somehow.. I'm going to be a hypocrite for not wanting a relationship with her but with someone else. We are kinda like best friends and it's just hard..
I mean I'm almost 16 and I'm no longer looking for serious relationships anymore. It's nearly impossible to find. They lead to heartbreak x3254242. So I'm taking it easy and..I just want to date without it being really serious.
I don't know what to do.. I feel really guilty about liking people and wanting relationships with guys and not her. I don't know what to say [in a nice way] so she doesn't end up hating me. (link)
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In my honest opinion, I do not think you should feel guilty. If you have explained to her, that you're sorry, but you feel like you should move on and not be in a serious relationship, then you shouldn't feel guilty. I can understand not wanting to hurt someone's feelings, but at least you know you haven't led her on or made her think that you're going to get back together. It's more than some people will do. However, if you haven't told her this, then I would definitely do that. Good luck, I'm sure everything will work out okay!
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Whats the best way to study for midterms? Its french, by the way. (link)
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Yes, the very dreaded midterms. My suggestion is to make flashcards from the study guide(s) that your teacher gives you. If he/she doesn't give you one, make sure to take plenty of notes while in class. And keep those for future reference, and you can copy them for the flashcards.
You could invited some of your friends over, and give them the flashcards and they can ask you questions. That would be a more fun way, of studying for midterms.
Good luck!
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well i told my boyfriend that i have had sex before but i havent. if we do have sex, is there any way he could tell that i am still a virgin?
oh and what does it mean when somebody "pops your cherry". lol (link)
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Yes, he'll probably be able to tell that you haven't had sex, before. Because you tend to bleed for your first time, and even sometimes after your first.
You mostly bleed because of "popping your cherry." I will give you the literal meaning for this -- it's when your hymen is broken. But you could have already broken it, not by sex being as you're still a virgin. But you can break your hymen from the simplest things, such as playing sports, inserting a tampon or even riding a bike. But keep in mind, that breaking your hymen is not the only reason for bleeding while having sex for your first time -- so it still is possible.
My advice to you is for you to tell him the truth, because if you do have any signs while you're having sex it's not going to be good having to tell him at that time. I think you can agree with me on that. So honestly, it will probably come back at you for not telling him the truth, so I stronly recommend you tell him the truth. Good luck!
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I need something to get my teeth whiter and fast i want them to be whiter for prom and i cant use anything at stores because it all has peroxide in it and i am allergic so any home remidies would be very helpful please help!! (link)
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Well, you can brush your teeth with baking soda. This will make your teeth whiter, but I have to tell you -- I absolutely, do not recommend this. It will take the enamel off of your teeth, just as any teeth whitening product does.
However, I do recommend getting toothpaste with baking soda in it. This will whiten your teeth, without stripping the enamel off of your teeth. That is, only if you can. And by the way, you can buy toothpaste with baking soda and without the peroxide.
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i am a fifteen year old female. the boy i have been making out with recently wants to step up our relationship. he wants to finger me which i am totally ready for and excited for. the only concern is that i have a lot of pubic hair, so i wonder if he will be grossed out. should i shave it for him? Thanks. (link)
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No, I would definitely not do that. Especially, not only for him. Being as your the one who will have to deal with the bumps, rashes and pain if you cut yourself down there, by accident. In my opinion, I think it's unnecessary and I do not recommend it. But you should do whatever makes you feel comfortable, not just what makes him feel comfortable or what he wants.
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i am a 13 year old boy. i met this girl and we started to talk alot but then when i asked her out she just walked away. about aweek later i started talking to her but she will just run away and i dont know what to do. please help. (link)
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There could be two possiblities here.
1. She really does like you, but she's afraid to tell you or admit that she does like you. Reason being, because she may be scared of getting her heart broken.
2. Honestly, she may not like you in that way and does not want to hurt your feelings. So she finds it easier to run away from it, and not talk to you than to deal with it and be honest with you, and remain friends.
Either way, if this is really bothering you -- I'm assuming it does or you wouldn't have posted this question. I recommend trying to talk to her again, go to her house, send her a letter or note, etc. One of those things, and just let her know that it's okay for her to be honest with you, no matter how she feels. And you can handle you two being friends only (if you can.)
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alright theres a important, really important reason behind this but i just dont feel like explaining it all. i just need some tips to become popular. like you know popular. (i would mostly want it from people who are popular in school) but it doesnt matter. i just need tips to become popular QUICKLY in a pretty big sized township and the people here are kinda picky and w.e. but any tips will be fine with me. i really need you guys to answer this.
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I think the most important way to be popular is to be yourself. Always. If you be your own person, be friendly and nice, caring and let your beauty from within come out, and be confident -- while talking and meeting people. They will cling to that, and love you for who you are.
Try talking to as many people as possible, that means meeting new people too. As I mentioned before, be friendly. Let your personality show, and let people see that you have a heart, etc.
Those are most generally the types of things, that are likeable about people. And those are usually the popular people.
I'm popular, and I'm always myself. I never change for someone else to "become" popular or something like that. Such as some teens do. And I think that people know that I'm my own person, and they know I'm a good person so they do cling to that. So this is my experience, and I hope this is helpful to you. :)
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Well there is this totally awesome, and wonderful, and like perfect guy that i really really like. The thing is i WANT to tell him but i dont know quite how. i feel if i say 'i like you' would be not enough but if i say 'i love you' would be to strong of a statement. how do i find a happy medium? and how do i come about saying it, and if something were to go terribly wrong, how do i get myself out of the conversation...if you know what i mean (link)
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Hi, I have two suggestions for you that I hope you will find helpful.
#1. You could get him alone, and talk to him face-to-face. And explain to him how you feel, by starting off with something like, "(insert name here) I want/need to tell you something, I really like you a lot..." And continue on from there. If he feels the same, great. However, if he does not, just let him know that you are fine with that, and you can both still be friends. But only say that, of course, if you can handle only being friends with him.
#2. You could ask him on a date, or to go out somewhere [First, before #1 if you choose to do it] together. And see what he says, and how he's acting. Like, walk up to him and say, "Do you want to go to the movies with on [insert day here] night?" Or something like that, and see what he says. If he says yes, I would tell him while out. If he says no, then just say, "okay, thanks anyway." The main point here, is to be casual. As far as asking him.
I wish you the best of luck! :)
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i just went to a new school for the first time today, it's a way small school, and i'm the only girl in my individual classroom. I guess i like that, but i'm very confused.
one guy walked by me all day whispering 'sexy' over and over again. And another guy kept talking to me, and asking if i wanted to walk with him, and his friends continually laughing at him, and telling him to sit net to me.
This same last guy, told me at lunch that he thought Matt* liked me (neither of the previous guys). I asked why, and he said because i was hot. This guy then asks Matt if he thought i was pretty, and out of all of these guys, i lke matt the most. Matt kind of just stared at him, and replied, "are you being stupid?"
i can't figure that out. i was right there when he asked matt and i felt way uncomfortable.
i'm just generally confused, i guess? so anything is appreciated. thanks x x (link)
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I can't blame you for being uncomfortable in that situation, I would have been too. I would keep in mind, just because he said "are you being stupid?" does not mean that he doesn't like you. Being as you were right there, he's probably not going to tell the truth in front of you. That's how a lot of guys work, just like if it were someone asking a girl if she liked a guy -- who just so happened to be right there, more than likely she'll deny it.
So I wouldn't worry about it too much, he may just be too shy to say it in front of you, now.
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What does "take it with a grain of salt" mean ?
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It means, "to take a thing less than fully."
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