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I'm a mother of 2 boys who are 13 months apart. Talk about a handful. I'm a wife to the best husband I could have ever dreamed of.
I'm one of the very blessed.


I have Bipolar 1 Disorder. I hate taking all these medications and always going to doctors appointments, but life is too short to let mental illness get the better of me.


Often times life is a challenge, and nobody knows that better than me. I wake up wondering if this is going to be a day my illness overpowers my meds, and either sends me flying like a bat out of hell, or leaves me laying on the couch like a wet dish rag.


Thank all that is good in the world that I have an excellent support system at home.
I'm one of the lucky ones.


I'm honest, and that can either be a perk or s flaw. Depends on how you choose to look at it.
I like to see it as a perk, because it's better to hear the truth than to be told candy coated bullshit.






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every day i run two miles around this park. my mom drives me there and reads a book while she waits. well, i have this friend annie. when annie's mom heard about me running, she wanted annie to do it with me. but annie's mom works, so she asked my mom to pick annie up whenever i go running. now here's the problem. annie doesnt want to do this. she doesnt say that, but i know her mom is making her. so we get to the park and she runs for like 2 minutes and then she walks. and i mean she walks slowwww. it takes me about 20 minutes to go around the park, but it takes her an hour. and me and my mom have to sit there waiting for her for 40 minutes. my mom is getting really mad about it cuz we have other things to do. we dont want to bring her anymore. but if we tell annie's mom what the problem is, she'll get really mad at annie (she's really mean to her). we can't lie and say we aren't going becuz everyone knows we are. so we dont know what to do!!

If she enjoys walking, then tell her to limit her walking to 20 minutes. Meaning, meet back with your mom in 20 minutes. That way, she is still going, so her mom won't blow her top at her, she still gets to take a walk, and your mom doesn't have to wait all that time so she can get her errands done.

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Goodday,please i want someone to help me out.i use to talk when sleeping.this problem is my beggest problem for now becouse it use to embarase me whenever i spend a night in someones house.i can remember that it started when i was a lettle boy.now i am 22 but it coud not stop rather geeting whose.
please i dont know if it is a phychological problem.
thanks

Hey, me too. I talk and walk in my sleep. And, what's creepy is when I wake up in the middle of doing either one.
One night, I woke up in the middle of having a conversation with Robert Deniro, who was sitting in a chair across the room. Well, he wasn't REALLY there, of course, and it was creepy because I wondered who all I actually talk to in my sleep!
I don't know for certain, but I would be willing to bet that it isn't psychological, but that IS a possibility, I suppose. I think it is just something some people do. And more people talk in their sleep than you would think.
I don't know how one would stop sleep talking, or sleep walking for that matter, because it is something subconcious. It's like trying to control snoring (though they DO have machines to control it for you.)
Since you find it to be a problem, you may go and talk to your doctor and ask them what can be done to help you stop talking in your sleep.

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I can't believe myself!I just turned down my crush for a date a couple days ago caus i thought that people would laugh at me caus he's shorter than me.I told some of my friends and they all said "LUCKY!He said yes?!!!!!!!!" Now here comes the advice part should I call him back or will that be stupid caus I don't know if he's going out with someone? thanx!:3 =] sorry it's so long

Yes! Call him back! Tell him the basic truth- you lacked confidence, and that is why you turned him down.

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P.S. You've heard it before, and I'll say it again- It does not matter what your friends think of a guy YOU want to date. If they don't like short guys, well I guess that just leaves more shorties for you to choose from, now doesn't it? :)

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does anyone know of any good wine coolers? i just watched norit with eddie murphy and the woman he plays it always drinking them and it reminded me of when i use to drink them but i forgot what brand it was. any ideas?

Bartles & Jaymes?
Seagrams?

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I'm trying to take a screenshot with my mac, and it says command+shit+3. I don't know what my command button is! Can someone let me know?

"It's the key with the apple symbol on left, and a cloverleaf-like symbol on the right.
There's one on both sides of the space bar."

Taken from Mac-Forums.com, link below.

I use windows, so it is just like my windows keys. The columnist below is absolutely right! :)

http://www.mac-forums.com/forums/showthread.php?p=408890

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i'm trying to break my caffeine addiction, i've been drinking a cup of coffee every morning for 2 years now, and since caffeine exhausts you i'm trying to stop. (i also drink things like green tea throughout the day but i don't drink it past 1 pm)

But I don't know whether I should just cut back to 1 cup of tea (30-55 mg of caffeine) daily, or just get off of it completely?

Hi. I'm ygsgirl, and I'm a caffeine addict. Have been for 15 years.
Yah. Big coffee drinker, here.
I had a baby nearly 4 months ago. I had to quit the caffeine habit for the health of my then unborn child.
The ONLY way I could quit was to QUIT. You do go through withdraws, such as moodiness and possibly a headache, but nothing major. And it all goes away in a few days.
Yes, I'm guilty of going back to my age old coffee habit, but I did it because I wanted to- I LOVE the taste of coffee. I only quit for the sake of my child.
However, I could have very easily continued with my caffeine-free lifestyle if I chose to, but I didn't want to. Catch my drift?
Basically, since you want to quit, it's easy to stay off the habit once you kick it, and kicking the caffeine habit really isn't as hard as one might think.

Good luck, now!

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has anyone ever had sex with out a condom for like 30 seconds, but was still okay after?

Ha!
NO. Pull out method DOES NOT WORK even if only for 30 seconds! There is still sperm in pre-cum!
I have an infant son as living proof of that FACT.

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Does 93 pounds seem overwieght for a 12 year old female?

I don't know how anyone can say yes or no. That is a bunch of crap. We can't even begin to tell you if you are at a healthy weight considering we don't know your height.

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Ya know how when your pregnant your bellybutton sticks out? Well if your bellybuttin is pierced and you get pregant, do you have to take out the piercing?

Considering I had to remove my nipple rings, I would say chances are highly likely that you will have to.
See, your skin on your stomach stretches tighter and tighter as the baby grows, and to have the belly button ring in it would likely get very extremely sore.
It is one of those questions that should be asked to the OB.

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So, presale of a concert I want to go to today started with the tickets (Only for online)

I told my dad 2 weeks ago and he said that he can only get my tickets from an actual ticket booth. I then told him about the presale and all the good tickets will go. He said that won't happen because they don't sell every ticket online they might sell about half or three quarters, leaving the rest for ticket booths and stuff

Is this true? I'm shaking, and I can't wait 2 days to find out if he was right or wrong.
Because I've seen on the news and stuff people have wanted to go to a concert, camped outside and found out it sold out in minutes on the internet.

Well, if it is a concert that everybody and their brother wants to attend, then chances are high it will be sold out by the day of the concert.
However, if you buy tickets in advance, they are often times cheaper than those bought at the gate.

No, I don't think they sell all the tickets online, however you had better call Ticketmaster (or whatever) and see if it is the case. You may be able to walk into an establishment that sells tickets for Ticketmaster and still be able to buy your tickets.

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okay so i got totally fried two days ago. like my whole back is seriously as red as a firetruck. i've put burn relief crap on but it's not helping. i've been in highly severe pain for the past two days straight. it's gotten to the point where i can't move my arms without it hurting worse. does anyone know anything that will help me? anything at all. even if it's a litte thing that might not help or won't help much i will love you forever! thank you!!!

A nice cool bath or shower will ease the pain- temporarily. When your skin drys, it will feel just as hot as it did before, but it helps for some quick relief from the pain.
If you take a cool shower, be sure to try to keep the spray from going directly on the burnt skin, or it will hurt! Since it is your back, let the water hit your neck and shoulders and run down your back.
Now, this may sound silly, and I don't know if it will work on a sunburn-
Mustard, believe it or not, helps take the heat out of burns. I have burnt myself many a time on the stove and what not, and applying mustard actually does relieve the pain. Even when it drys on your skin.
Was I right? Sounds silly, doesn't it? But like I said, I don't know if it will work on a sunburn, because I have gone out of my way to avoid getting a sunburn for years now, but it may be worth a shot anyhow. Just smear on a thin coat. You will look like a slathered hot dog, but hey. If it helps, right?

I'm fair skinned, and I know your pain. I feel sorry for your misery, because I KNOW it is misery!

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I want to become a Moderator, and I will.. once I hit one month. My only question is, I was one before but I lost it because I did'nt update for a week, because I was on vacation. Sometimes I get punished from the computer too, can I still be a moderator?
I don't want to loose the privlagde (I can't spell) because I'm on vacation.

If you are losing your status because you couldn't update your column, you should email your question to Dangernerd. If anyone here can straighten this out for you, he would be the guy. :)

dangernerd@gmail.com

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Okay, I've heard from several sources that you're supposed to have the equivalent to your body weight in grams of protein.
Is this right?
But then, should someone who's 300 pounds eat 300 grams of protein? That seems a little ridiculous.
Is it possible to overdo it?
I thought I understood this whole thing, but apparently not. How do you measure how much protein you need?

Well, I can't say if this is exactly true that you should eat your body weight in protein daily, but I would bet my hat that if it is, it would mean your ideal, or healthy, body weight.

For example: I'm 5'7", and my ideal body weight would be somewhere between 145-150 lbs. So, if this body weight-protein thing is true, that would likely be the amount I should consume in a day, even though I'm overweight.
See, protein is a way to gain weight, so since I am overweight, I wouldn't want to consume my weight in protein. Does that make any sense?

If you don't here from Mike CFT, you should ask him in his column inbox. CFT stands for Certified Fitness Trainer, and he really knows his stuff, so I know he can give you accurate advice on this. The link to his column is below:

http://www.advicenators.com/column.php?u=MikeCFT

Along the top of his column, select "Ask Question".

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im 17 years old and i have to have open heart surgery. i has ASD which is atrial septal deffect. in the top two atriums of my heart, i have no wall. the tissue is completely gone. they may have to take out my top two ribs, and break my chest bone. im really scared and the only person i have to tell is 5 hours away. my bf. oh yeah, not to mention. i'm pregnant. but my mom and doctors don't know that. how do i deal with all of this. im not supposed to be stressed out.

Well, first and foremost, you HAVE to tell your doctor that you are pregnant. That makes surgery a whole different ball game. There are a lot of certain risks involved if you don't tell the doctor that you are pregnant.

I can't tell you how to not be stressed. I, for one, know that if I were in your shoes, I would be uncontrollably nervous about the surgery. I mean, this is a big surgery, as you well know. But keep in mind that they do these kinds of surgeries ALL THE TIME, so you aren't alone in this.

Also, they usually have to spread your ribs (by means of breaking the breast bone), and the like, to be able to get into your chest cavity to preform open heart surgery. They do these things ALL THE TIME and have for many years, so you aren't alone in this, either.

But I can tell you how to reduce the stress of your hidden pregnancy- STOP HIDING IT. You need to come clean about it. Telling your mom will be a weight off your chest, and I doubt she'll wig out on you too much, considering she knows you need to keep low stress levels.
YOU MUST TELL YOUR DOCTOR! You can't hide something like that when preparing for surgery.

Good luck with your surgery, and please follow my advice by coming clean about the baby, ok?

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**EDIT** I got to thinking, and thought I would add a little more detail about the whole rib thing.
See, they have to have some way of getting to your heart to preform the surgery by either:
A. Remove the two ribs, or
B. Break the breast plate and spread the rib cage open. Like I said, they do this all the time, and have done so for many years.
I know that all sounds grizzly, but try not to stress on it, ok? It's just something they have to do in order to get to your heart. If they didn't have to do that, they likely wouldn't.

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my boyfriend and i live very far apart. a while back i introduced him to a friend. while i was in a group home, he cheated on me with her, and once when i got back. we have been off and on the past year. and before that we were together 3 years. i go on his myspace to make sure she don't leave him comments. and i leave him one. he had her on his top friends for a while, and finally took her off completely cuz i made him. im worried she is going to do something to mine and his relationship again. how can i get her to leave his and my relationship alone and get him to stay away from her.

Realistically, you can't stop them. If they are going to screw around, they're going to do so. Weather or not you made him remove her from his buddy list or not.
Number one, there are many other means for them to communicate if they want to.
Number two, you live far apart, so you have no real means of keeping track of his behavior.

If I were in your shoes, I would find someone who treats me with the respect I deserve and move on. Why stick with a guy you can't trust? The key factors in a healthy relationship is trust and honesty. He has broken your trust, and you can't get past that, so your relationship is unhealthy and no longer worth your time and effort.

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Ok, so I'm a 15 year old female, I'm abouot 5'3 or 5'4. I weigh 137.8 lbs. and I really want to lose 20-30 pounds within 3 months. Does anyone know a really good way to do this without buying weightloss supplements?

The best way is the old fashioned way. Eat healthy and get plenty of exercise.
If you stick to a healthy regimen, you can lose that amount of weight in your 3 month time frame.

Good luck to you!

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can you after its healed? Do not expose your fresh piercing to oral contact or other bodily fluids. Use protective barriers such as condoms, dental dams, and finger cots—even if you are in a monogamous relationship.

I wouldn't advise it. They say not to have sexual contact (generally for 6 months) for a good reason- it makes for a high risk of infection. See, it takes at least that amount of time to FULLY heal, though it may SEEM healed sooner.

I'm not sure if protection will aid in the prevention of infection, but I would say chances are slim on that one. That's why I say I wouldn't advise it. To be sure, you would be best off contacting the professional who did your piercing.

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Ok I go to a private school, lets call it H and recently I made some big mistakes and since H is such a small scholl practically my whole grade knows this. And there are a couple of people there that still hang out with me and seem to like me, but even though those people are great friends and I love them as friends, I really care about this one group of friends, lets call them D, and thats where my whole mistake started, I cussed at them online because I was in a really bad mood that day and some things have happened, anyway it was a stupid thing to do I know that and I'll never do it again but like I said I really care about my D friends, and I want them to realize it was all a horrible mistake and I still ove them. Right now D hates me and is spreading rumors about me I think but you can't expect to cuss someone out online and get away with it can you? anyway I want to know how I can make it up to them and explain things in the best way.
(Don't say tell them that you just had a bad day and you still love them because even though this is true I already told them this and apologized alot of times.)
Thanks in advance! :) sorry it's long

Yes, you are right in your thinking that you can't expect to cuss someone and get away with it. HOWEVER. Them going around and starting rumors about you is a tad bit extreme, don't you think?

Let's be realistic, here. Are they TRULY friends worth all of your trouble and efforts if they are just going to be unforgiving, hateful, and spreading lies about you?
Weather you cussed them or not, there is still no call for such behavior out of them. Yah, I can see them being royally pissed with you, but to act like that? Come, now.

I think you deserve better friends than that.

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so there's this kid that i went out with for a while eh...
then after that, we like hooked up until he found someone else, but still would hook up with me.
then i sorta became his back up for when he has no hope in a girl. but the thing is the girl he used to like is now single, but around her occionally he would flirt with me openly*(he now says i love you online to me) wuts up with him?

What's up with him?!?

Well, sounds like he wants to keep in your good graces so he can continue using you for his "Ol' Reliable."
Honestly, this guy sounds like an asshole. I mean, let's get real here- he's USING you! You don't want to be some jerk's "on the side", do you?
You deserve better than that.
Go find yourself a guy that will respect you and treat you how you deserve to be treated.

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Where can I purchase caltine bars?

I'm not sure what Caltine bars are for certain, so I can't answer your actual question, but a good way to gain weight is protein shakes.

Below is a link to Bodybuilding.com with a list of recipes if you are interested.

http://www.bodybuilding.com/fun/proteinshakes.htm

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