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Friend/Mom Problem!!
every day i run two miles around this park. my mom drives me there and reads a book while she waits. well, i have this friend annie. when annie's mom heard about me running, she wanted annie to do it with me. but annie's mom works, so she asked my mom to pick annie up whenever i go running. now here's the problem. annie doesnt want to do this. she doesnt say that, but i know her mom is making her. so we get to the park and she runs for like 2 minutes and then she walks. and i mean she walks slowwww. it takes me about 20 minutes to go around the park, but it takes her an hour. and me and my mom have to sit there waiting for her for 40 minutes. my mom is getting really mad about it cuz we have other things to do. we dont want to bring her anymore. but if we tell annie's mom what the problem is, she'll get really mad at annie (she's really mean to her). we can't lie and say we aren't going becuz everyone knows we are. so we dont know what to do!!
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simply have your mother talk to annie's mother and say that ya'll have a very busy, and tight schedule and it's getting hard for ya'll to pick her up and take her back all the time. its not a lie, but its not the whole truth either
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Well, you need to talk to both Annie AND her mom.
First, tell Annie that it is an extreme inconvenience to wait for her while she wastes time. You should tell her she has two choices: either she runs the full two miles, or she leaves when you're ready to leave. Tell her that as much as you like having the company [even if you don't], you can't sit around for half an hour or more, while she's wasting time.
If you want, you can help her come up with a program to help her get up to "par" when it comes to running. Maybe she can start by powerwalking one mile a day -- that would take her about 20 minutes. Then she can work up to running half a mile, powerwalking another. Then she'll be running a whole mile, and so on -- working up by a half mile [or quarter mile].
If she still continues to do it the way she is, then you need to talk to her mom. Just tell her something like, "I love that Annie wants to run with me, but I think it would be really great if you could take her to the park a few times a week until she gets more comfortable running and is able to get it done in a reasonable amount of time. I know she can do it, but she's going to need to work her way up to it, and my mom and I have other errands to run after I'm done running, so it's a little inconvenient to sit there for an hour while Annie walks."
If her mom has a huge problem or if Annie persists in taking forever to walk/run, then just tell her mom you guys won't be taking her any more. It's not your problem if her mom is mean to her -- it's a tough situation, but if Annie wants to get her mom off her back about this, she'll suck it up and run.
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If she enjoys walking, then tell her to limit her walking to 20 minutes. Meaning, meet back with your mom in 20 minutes. That way, she is still going, so her mom won't blow her top at her, she still gets to take a walk, and your mom doesn't have to wait all that time so she can get her errands done.
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