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how can you loose wight without taking a pill..and it is easy and it is kinda short but you do it a lot and it works goood.. ok im 13 and my wight is 195 and im 5'6 and i lift wights and stuff but the doc says that muscle ways more than fat but i wanna no how to loose me belly fat and leg fat quick and fun... sooo plzz help me with wat kind of exersises and suggestings that you have to tell me..thank you

i will rank high if you help me out here :)

1- sleep 9-10 hrs a nite. it really does help.
2- eat all 3 meals no matter what. try to eat something. it can be whatever you want, juss make sure it's smaller portions.
3- eat breakfast. you have to er you'll either gain weight, er stay the same weight, because if you don't eat breakfast your body will go into starvation mode & not burn off any calories.
4- eat every 3 hrs if possible. this is where it's tricky. you need to eat good foods like fruits, veggies, crackers, etc.
5- exercise. it doesn't have to be a lot. maybe some light walking, jogging, er running if you want, and 50 crunches er so.

here are some websites for muscles-
http://www.bodybuildingforyou.com/training-fitness/ab-exercise-workout.htm
http://www.virtualfitnesstrainer.com/articles/Butt_and_thigh_toning.htm

make sure you stay hydrated!!!!!!!!

-hope that helped!♥

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ok well i went out with this guy for almost 8 months and then we broke up and went out again but my parents really dont like him and everytime i wanted to do something with him i had to lie and i got sick of it so i dumped him. Now he keeps telling me im a pussy for not wanting to get in trouble, he says he can't be my friend either because he can't have friends that are pussys (come on how immature) and hes just being a really big dick about it! my question is should i just 4get about him or try to talk to him so we can at least stay friends? Thanks in advance!

HE'S A JERKKKK you don't need him. he should understand that you don't want to keep disrespecting your parents like that. plus if he really liked you he'd respect your decision & you're parents are gonna be there for you & it doesn't look like he is. he doesn't seem like a good friend either so i think you should ditch him, but that's my opinion. its really up to you.

-hope that helped!♥

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Dear Advicenators,

I'm a 13 year old girl who is turning 14 in January. My hieght is appromiatley 5'3" and I weigh 103 lbs. I feel fat and ugly and I am determined to loose 5-10 lbs. in the next month or two. What do I need to do? I feel so gross, and when I'm flirting w/ my cush and he offers to give me piggy back rides I always have to turn him down bc/ i think i'll break him. How do I loose weight fast, and not to much exercising because exercise=muscle, which is heavier then fat. I want to build my stomach and my butt and thighs so they are extremely tight and fit. I want to have the perfect body, what diet can I go on, or simple quick exercises that only loose fat and build ur stomach fat, no muscle! Thank-you. I'll rate

103 lbs is like my one leg. not really but that really isn't much at all, really. i know a lot of girls that are 5'4 and weigh 120ish so really you aren't fat. the only way you can lose weight the healthy way would be following a few things.

1- sleep 9-10 hrs a nite. it really does help.
2- eat all 3 meals no matter what. try to eat something. it can be whatever you want, juss make sure it's smaller portions.
3- eat breakfast. you have to er you'll either gain weight, er stay the same weight, because if you don't eat breakfast your body will go into starvation mode & not burn off any calories.
4- eat every 3 hrs if possible. this is where it's tricky. you need to eat good foods like fruits, veggies, crackers, etc.
5- exercise. it doesn't have to be a lot. maybe some light walking, jogging, er running if you want, and 50 crunches er so.

here are some websites for muscles-
http://www.bodybuildingforyou.com/training-fitness/ab-exercise-workout.htm
http://www.virtualfitnesstrainer.com/articles/Butt_and_thigh_toning.htm

make sure you stay hydrated!!!!!!!!

-hope that helped!♥

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okay i need help. there's this guy and i reallllyy like him. he's perfect, awesome personality, beautiful eyes, funny, gorgeous smile/dimples.. what more can you ask for? but anyways, we've known each other for like 1 1/2 months, and we text and call everry night. but then when we see each other at school we barely talk?! when we're on the phone we can carry on a convo. forever. do yall think he likes me? cause i wanna go out with him. but i don't know if he likes me and i don't wanna ask him b/c i'm scared to know his reaction. so what are some ways for him to liikee me? i've never really felt this wayy for a guy before. please help. i rate=) thxx!

hmm there's been a lot of these questions lately & i've been saying the same thing. each guy is different. no one can tell you who likes you er not you know?? each guy has his own personality & his own ways of liking you. i mean he seems shy, because if you guys talk that much & then barely talk in person, thats probably showing he's shy. you should go for it, because basically you'll never know unless you ask yourself. i mean yeah your friends can ask, but he might think that's lame er something. juss go for it so you're not curious if he likes you er what he feels & stuff.

-hope that helped!♥

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I have an embarrissing problem. Whenever I go to the gym to work out on the crosstrainer I sweat a lot. I think I sweat more than other woman, for instance after 20 minutes of the hill program my face was dripping with sweat and so was my chest and back. Other woman don't break out a sweat at all. I think I'm abnormal. I've tried every kind of deoderant.
What should I do?

is it possible for you to go to the bathroom every so often?? like after one workout routine, take your gym bag w/ you & put on extra deoderant. i don't think its abnormal to sweat that much, because i know a lot of people that do sweat a lot during sports er activity. try these websites-

http://www.kidzworld.com/site/p1538.htm

http://www.teenhealthfx.com/answers/Health/338.html

-hope that helped!♥

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Ok, well I have no ideas for a costume for Halloween! We just went to a cheap store and bought some stuff that my mom basically picked out that I don't like. Does anyone have any ideas on what to do with stuff I could buy at wal*mart or stuff around the house. No Devil Costumes cause i have like 3 friends being those. thanks!

umm are you a girl? haha cus you can go as a french maid, a disney character, a crayon, etc. something cute like that. i'm pretty sure they're all at walmart er party city er something like that. if you're a guy then find things around your house & go as a pimp.

-hope that helped!♥

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hey ok so im 16/f and ive been talking to this guy whose about to turn 18 in like a week. and hes really hot right. so one day (before we started talking) my friend told him that i like him and stuff. so the next couple of days hes been hanging out with me and things. he gave me his number and like puts his arm around me and has asked me out on a date. but hasnt asked me to be his girlfriend yet. but then whenever were around other girls he dosent really put his arm around me and stuff and he kind of flirts with my best friend. and the thing is i dont even really like him that much, but i dont know if hes really interested in me, or if i should just kind of forget him. ya know? i dont think i make too much sense. but basically im asking does it sound like he likes me or not so i know if i should keep him around. thanks i'll rate high!

idk it seems like he likes you, but also juss likes girls in general if that makes sense. i think you should straight out ask him how he feels, so you know & won't get hurt by it if you find out later that he doesn't really like you. if you feel awkard doing that, then don't ask him & move on, because he shouldn't flirt w/ other girls if he's interested in you.

good luck!♥

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Hello-
I am stuck on an essay. I need more examples of the present-day world showing civility and altruism during and after the 2004 tsunami in Asia. Any examples would be much appreciated.
Thanks.

hey i saw that no one answered your question & it seems important so ill do the best i can. i'm pretty good at writing, but i can't explain how to do it & idk that topic. i found this website-

http://allhehasiskungfu.blogspot.com/2005_05_22_allhehasiskungfu_archive.html

i'd try articles like that er maybe you can try this website-

http://www2.actden.com/writ_den/tips/essay/

i know this wasn't in your question, but sometimes essay tips are great help.

try other sites like google & stuff to get what you're looking for.

-hope that helped!♥

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Three of us were college friends more over good friends.As we were growing as friends I thought of having my frined as my life partner and I proposed her.Initially she said no saying that her family may not accept our relationship.Then I thought that no girl will straight away say "yes".I was waiting for her decision.I know that my other friend also likes her.As we were good frineds i thought that its natural that no one wants to miss such a girl.but still today also i can say that she was close to me and with me but some where deep i was having a thought may be my girl also likes my other friend,because of that when she said no to my proposal I asked her whether she loves anybody else and is that is the reason that she didn't saying Yes to me. She clearly told me that its only her family reasons that she is hesitating.At the same time I asked my friend in a casual talk about her,he said she dont like him. Being friend I made it sure that because of my love nobody will get hurt.Then I was waiting for her acceptance. After 5 months from my propose she accepted and said Yes.By then our friendship was 2 years old.After that we were in love for 2 more years, during this period i can say we were very close to each other and I was in a notion that we are partners and marrige is a formality.but she was having some other plans in mind. some how later point of time she came to know that my other friend also likes her, she kept this in her mind and didn't told me anything about this.but when her father started planning for her marriage she said that our marriage is not possible and the reason she gave was her father which was not true.Finally I was trying to conveince her for our marriage(by now i was too sure that ours was love coz the relationship we had am sure that only happens in love not in friendship.In this process I have discussed the things with my frined and asked him to conveince her to marry me and not to worry about her father and slowly he wll accept us.
but she didn't listen to me and she got married to some other person.
After her marriage I came to know some new things which happend before her marriage. On my request my friend asked her after a 4 years relationship why she is giving a ditch to me, then she told same old story but finaly in discussions she said the real reason is that she loves him not me. The moment my friend came to know this he immediatly started to conveince her marriage with him and not with me...he didn't even thought that it is his duty to discuss the issue with me and shud sorted out.they have forgotten about me and started plans for their marriage...but some where in her heart something was paining stopped her from marrying him and she got married to the boy whom her father selected.After her marriage i was in a noting that she is in painb to miss me...and instead of disturbing her i wanted her to settle in her new life....but that my frined was in touch with her and he was guiding her against her husband.instead of making her comfort her in life he was telling that not to worry break the marriage relationship and marry him.

What is the wrong thing that i did...even till today i can say that am her best frined and its only me who can know or feel her problems....what if she liked him but that ididn't worked out,meantime i proposed her and looking at my frinedship and caring nature she said ok and its not only ok but we moved ahead in our relationship and i was planning our after marriage life....is it correct for her saying in the last moment that because she liked somebody else she shud ditch me???
I know she was confused that moment i can forgive her....but waht should I do with my close frined ...i use to consider him more than a frined this fact he also know....because of her foolishness she and selfishness of my friend today i forgot to live.
I have no issues with my love....but what should i do with my frined who deceived me.

that's a really tough situation. she did seemed confused about the whole thing, but she also probably lied a lot of the time, which isn't too good for a relationship anyway. no one can really say if she truly loved you er not, but if she did she'd stay with you no matter what. your friend shouldn't have gotten inbetween you guys & it seemed like he did. that isn't good for the friendship & you can totally forgive him, but don't forget it. i think you should sort out your feelings about him. don't be friends with someone you don't trust. maybe you'll become more aquiantences than friends, which sometimes is good, but sometimes is bad. it's really up to you on who you want to be your friend & who you think shouldn't be your friend. i mean, he was wrong about doing that to you & your real friends wouldn't really do that, unless it's a different story. talk to him about it. if you guys talk through it, then you'll realize how you feel so you can let him know if you guys want to be friends er not.

good luck!♥

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I dont kno how to get a layout code, or where to put it. Can sumone plz tell me? Thank yu.

try using xanga icons. like if you have an xanga er you have an icon with a cool pattern, right click on it & then click properties. there should be a code then & you take that & go to your column settings & it says background URL & you put that there & save it.

-hope that helped!♥

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OK on advicenators here under column setting then under your coulmn colors i only have two bars i dont have the rest of the page i tried to refresh it didnt help i logged out then logged in didnt help so whats wrong?>>

it's probably the site on your computer, because it's there for me. hmm you might wanna try getting a new advicenator site er juss change the background color & image & leave the rest the way it is. that's all you can really do.

-hope that helped!♥

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I have a fairly big screen for my computer, however, when I'm on certain sites with small font (ex: fazed.net) I can't read the text because it's too small. Is there any way I can set it bigger and enhance it?

ok what you do is go to the view button up at the very top of the internet bar where it says file, edit, view, etc. then go to text size & you can change it to whatever you want there.

-hope that helped!♥

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Ok, for all of you children with xangas how in the world do you get songs in the music box? I know how to get the box but how do i get music in it...
Or can anyone tell me some cool stuff i can put in my header that would be fun to look at or something... well ok thank you

go to your xanga page & in one of the search bars it has different tabs. go to users and type in music codes & different users will come up. then pick a site & look it up there.

-hope that helped!♥

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okay so last year this kid liked me and i liked him i just never wanted to go out with him and now this year i love him.. like i just wanna be with him and i was going to tell him but then i found out that he likes a girl in 10th( were in 9th) and like i donno its like he likes me a little and he doesnt really know that i like him like a lot and i wanna tell him i just dont wanna be like hey i love you. what are some good ways to tell him that will convince him that i do wanna be with him this time! please help!!

write him a letter & either mail it to him er leave it in his locker er something. it'll show that you took time to write it & it'll express how you feel about him, plus it's cute. if you feel awkard about doing that then try becoming better friends with him first & then tell him. either way will probably work.

-hope that helped!♥

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There's this boy that I've known ever since 5th grade (we are in 9th grade) we are very close besides the fact that I NEVER SPENT TIME WITH HIM BESIDES SCHOOL!!! Yea we would talk on the phone, text and stuff but, I would LOVE to go somewhere with him one day but there are 2 problems:

1.) I am afraid that if I am alone with him, he might put the moves on me and we might have sex! (Only a kiss will do)

2.) I am afraid that if I go to the movies with him or something, that he might try and play me by taking me somewhere far, leaving me alone or embarrassing me.

What can I do to overcome my shyness and how do I explain to him that I am shy?

P.S. I gave him some excuses! I don't want to seem like a liar or that I don't want to be with him because I DO! it would be like a DATE or something.. My FIRST date!

you shouldn't go out with him if you don't trust him. you need to totally trust that person, because there are bad situations that can come up & you want to be as safe as possible. why don't you try getting your friends & his friends to come with you guys. kinda like a group date. that way your friends are with you, & he won't feel weird, because his friends are with him too. i think that would be the best idea. try not to be shy. you probably don't need to explain that to him. he'll juss know. try not to lie & give excuses. i know that's hard but try not to. juss tell him how you feel about it.

-hope that helped!♥

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Ok~~ im 13 years old and im a girl lol~~well anyways have a boyfriend~ we've been going out for almost a month now~~ but he's a year younger than me and next year ill be in high school and he will be in middle school still~~ and i dont know wut to do because now football is almost over and that is the only time i see him~~ plus i sorta like another guy~ but i still love him help me i dont know wut to do~ please-- Jada

if you like someone else tell him that. i think that if you guys really love each other you'll work through all that. juss sit down & talk to him about it & it'll work out okay.

-hope that helped!♥

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13/f
okay,so there's this guy that I like, and I really want him to notice me,but I'm not sure how to do that without making it obvious you know?Please please help give me some ideas!

i don't think you should play games with him er anything. juss try to be his friend & stuff & when your friendship grows with him let him know how you feel.

-hope that helped!♥

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hey guys.. well pretty soon my friend is having a keg party(drinking) and inviting everyone because her moms going to be out of town that night.. and i want to go but im scared that the cops will come and we all will get busted.. shes done a lot before and never gotten caught by her mom or anything but since its this big of a party im not sure if i should go or not it would be a ton of fun but i dont want to get totally screwed.. so let me know what i should do, thanks...

i don't think you should go. i know a few people in my school that went to a party at a guy's house w/ alcohol & it there was a lot of people. the cops actually came to the house & they arrested all of them even if it is someone's house. they got into a lot of trouble & have to go to classes now & pay a fine & everything. plus drinking is a horrible habit so you should try to not get into it. it'll be better that way.

-hope that helped!♥

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hello
my girlfriend and i have been dating for abt a month.. and she told me that she was raped two years ago i was the first guy that took the news approiately.. we had sex for the first time and halfway through she asked me to stop and i did.
and asked for me to take her home..i did..
and she asked to break up with me..
reason being that now everytime she goin to see me she thinks of her rapist...
i dont want to let her go..
i really care for her alot .
she suffers from depression alot...
i want to be a part of her life..
im one of very few people she let in ..
now she shuttin me out..
she told me she wants me to leave cos she dont want to hurt me like she hurt her ex's because of the rape always effected her relationships..
she says she cares abt me too much to hurt me..
i care abt her too much to let her go..

i need advice on this..
also i need to council her somehow.. please give me advice on how to help her get though this..
she refuses to get professional help..
please help..
even if we dont get back together, i want her to progress with her life.. and be able to have a realtionship again
please help

you should explain all of this to her. i haven't been in a situation like this but juss know that whatever it is you guys will get through it. believe that, because it seems like you'll have a strong relationship. go to get help. there's a lot of relationship counsel places that can help you both. juss look it up on google with your town name & state. they can help you sort issues that you guys might have.

-hope that helped!♥

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Ok....I've been talkin to my boyfriend on the phone alot But he ingores me almost all the time!!!!!!...all he does is plays his football/basketball game on his x-box and ingores me!...what should i do dump him or what?!?

i think you should talk to him about it. maybe he doesn't realize he's doing it er thinks you don't care. juss tell him how you feel about it, & if he gets mad er doesn't care then you should dump him.

-hope that helped!♥

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