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I'm Jack/Jamie.

I'm 28 years old. I graduated from Michigan State University with my Bachelor of Science in Chemistry. GO GREEN! Now I'm a high school chemistry teacher in New York City living with my husband in a small studio apartment we pay way too much money for.

I've been on this site for 14 years as of March 23, 2020.
You may have seen me as CuxMiBeckNow7, but I've since shortened my name.

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Here is my Recommended Columnist of the Decade for the 2020s:
Laura!

--Jack

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Honestly, im lost. How on earth do you give a guy head, and not get cum in your mouth?

Unfortunately that is rather impossible, considering most guys have pre-sperm which could still get in your mouth, and the entire point is that you're using your mouth. =/

The only way to NOT get any in your mouth is to not do it ;].

Stay safe =]

--Jack
(16/m)

does anyone know how to take a good picture? because my boyfriend is always asking for pictures of me because we only see each other once a week and i said i would take some tonight and send them to him but i just don't know how to make my face look good!

im not trying to be shallow but i think im really pretty and have a pretty face but in pictures or at least ones i take myself i always manage to look bad. my bf wants pics anyway but i always feel like they dont look good. any tips??? and good, hott poses he will like a lot? thanx!!! :]

Well you could try not changing you, but the way you angle the camera or take the picture.

In Journalism class we learned different techniques.. here are some of them which can help make the picture look pretty cool:

1. Rule of Thirds. This means that you shouldn't have yourself smack-dab in the middle. Move the camera over so that you're to the right or left, but don't look outside of the picture.. meaning if you're on the right/left of the picture- look into the would-be center of the picture.. The picture is far more interesting ;].

2. Leading Lines. Leading lines are basically natural lines that exist that lead the eye to the center of interest, which happens to be you ;]. So like if you stood next to a staircase.. like at the bottom.. you would have the stairs be a leading line or something. This concept involves thinking of different creative ways of displaying the picture and center of interest ;].

3. Format change. Take the picture in black and white, sepia, or any other different format or style on the camera. Black and white pictures are a nice change from color pictures and they are far more interesting to look at ;].

4. Fill the frame. Basically what is says. If your picture has just a bunch of empty space- it gets really distracting and boring. Maybe get a close-up but still follow the rule of thirds thing.

With those four tips- you can really take a much more interesting and appealing picture to the eye without having to actually change your appearance.

If you want more tips- just say so in feedback- but make sure to look back at my edited answer ;].

--Jack
(16/m)

okay so im not fat but i wanna loose some weight but not alot

so how do i do it??

Instead of.... Do this...

Having an afternoon Coke- Drink a glass of water. (calories saved: 97)

Eating an Egg McMuffin- Eat a small whole wheat bagel +1 tbls of peanut butter (calories saved: 185)

Using your break to catch up on work or eat a snack- Walk up and down a flight of stairs for 10 minutes (calories burned: 100)

Hitting the snooze button- Get up 10 minutes early and go for a brisk walk (calories burned: 100)

Watching television after work- Do 10 minutes of yoga (calories burned: 50)

From: http://exercise.about.com/cs/weightloss/a/howtoloseweight.htm

Those ways are the simplest.. and you won't lose TOO much weight.. but probably enough.

Check out these sights as well:
http://www.wikihow.com/Lose-Weight-Fast
http://www.ehow.com/how_4622_lose-weight.html
http://www.kidshealth.org/teen/food_fitness/dieting/lose_weight_safely.html

If you don't absolutely HAVE to lose weight- I wouldn't worry too much about it.. but it never hurts to get fit =]

--Jack
(16/m)

What is a prominence?...can u explain to me how it is made and what it is made of? thanx i am doing a extra credit project and i appreciate it a lot!

Hmm...

First off.. I would like to say that we aren't here to do your homework FOR you.. although we can GUIDE you in the right direction without actually giving the answers.

[I'm not trying to be mean, I'm just trying to inform you of what ticks the Moderators off.. just a hint ;] I'm just glad you said you would appreciate it a lot.. I guess.]

http://apod.nasa.gov/apod/ap000403.html

That site gives a pretty cool picture ;]

--Jack
(16/m)

Hi there. So, I'm in a bit of a dilemma these days. I'm at a fork in the road where I have to make a decision that might change the rest of my life. Let me just get to it.

A few months ago I got to hang out with a friend of mine... we begun to really hang out a lot, go on trips together, and just have a great time in each other's company. I began to realize that she is an incredible person who I could actually see myself possibly settling with. Nothing physical happened, though, b/c she is getting out of a long-term relationship and wasn't ready emotionally to move on yet. We just enjoyed hanging out with each other (practically everyday for 2 months) but, didn't talk about moving forward b/c of reason mentioned above. She's not from the U.S. and has recently traveled back to her home country to take care of a few things but, plans on being back here in a few months...

On the job front, I've just been potentially been offered a position that would start in a few weeks. The thing is, the job goes until October and, once I'm there, there's no leaving, visitors, packages sent, or any other contact other than e-mail and an occasional phone call. Except for the 40 or so other folks I'd be working with, it's total isolation. This is what I believe to be a once in a lifetime opportunity and, I could use the money. Like I said, I'd have to stay there until October at the minimum.

So, do I forget about the job, go after this incredible woman and hope something comes of it or do I take the once in a lifetime job and hope that she's still available/interested when I get back?

Ii just read that I should include my age, as it might make a difference... I'm in my early 30's.

I know that you probably won't value the opinion of a 16 year old.. but I honestly felt I needed to answer this question because this is the FIRST question I've seen in 2008 that is actually asking for advice. Congratulations ;].

I would say go for the job. I know that that sound unromantic and just selfish.. but think about it. If this woman were seriously "the one" she would be willing to wait for you.. as this sounds like the job that you've wanted all of your life. The question is are you willing to wait until October for her?

I honestly think that you should set up your personal goals and such before you get too involved. Think about it.. a job is something you'll have to have for awhile.. and since you're already 30.. I think that taking this job is a smart idea. People are very indecisive. I'm not saying this woman is.. but people tend to be. She might realize while you're gone that she isn't really interested. Or she might realize that she never really was interested.

So let's say that you take the girl instead of the job. Then let's say that you two get in an incredibly huge fight. She breaks up with you and never talks to you again. What happens then?

I guess what I'm trying to say is that the job is a for sure thing. It's going to be there. You probably won't get fired unless you really screw up.. but the woman isn't necessarily a sure thing. She can change her mind in the blink of an eye.

So, my advice to you is to talk about it with this woman and tell her that this is the job of your dreams.. and if she isn't willing to let you go- well then I don't think she's worth it at all. Relationships involve sacrifice, and if she isn't willing to give up a mere 9 months when we live over 800+ months in our lives.. well then what does that tell you about the type of person she is?

If you're religious, then pray to God or whomever you believe in, and ask for His guidance. If not... then just ignore that last sentence.

Best of luck =]
--Jack
(16/m)

Haha, kay so this isn't a question (obviously) but I'm fairly new to the site and don't know any other way to send a maily thing.

So, anyways.

Happy birthday! =D

Hello!

While your birthday wish is much appreciated, please don't send personal messages to someone's inbox. That is what my forum is for:
http://www.advicenators.com/talkaboutme.php?userboard_id=30323

Thank you!
--Jack
(16/m)

i have two questions. sorry.

questions #1
do guys think its attractive/sexy when girls queef?

question #2
my boyfriend's friends told me he can't cum. why is that? p.s. he is a really horny guy.

Please, in the future, ask two separate questions.

Question One:
Honestly I'm not sexually active and I don't plan to be for a really long time [like until I'm married]. Even just the thought of that makes me want to throw up a little in my mouth. So my answer is no.

Question Two:
He's either lying for attention or he has a medical problem. Although it could be that he's most likely a teenage storm of hormones that are unbalanced at this time, and he can't ejaculate.

--Jack
(16/m)

Hi! my boyfriend is going to be turning 16 in May and i know thats far away but w/e haha. anyway i love him very much we are best friends and i am going to be moving this summer so i want it to be very special. i was thinking about taking him to this amazing resteraunt but i dont know what to buy him!! he loooves The Penguins, hockey, the Steelers, football, video games, sports, music, and God-he's a strong Christian like me :] he will be getting his permit too. i have no idea what to buy him! I might make him something too at least a card but i want to buy him something too. I have a good amount of money to use if neccesary! thanks sooo much! and if you have questions about anything specific ask me and i will add it! :]

Here's my sincere advice:
You say that you're both Christians.. so both of you should know that it isn't the material things that matter. It's the things that come from the heart. The gifts you give him that take time and effort to make or create will mean so much more to him than some stupid video game.. trust me.

Write him a poem or just make him a card. Maybe instead of an expensive restaurant.. take him on a picnic.. something that is inexpensive, but more importantly, more meaningful ;]

--Jack
(16/m)

i kinda need a guys advice on this one. and you seem like you know what your talking about you get amazing ratings but ok. uhm well i kinda know this guy and were kinda into eachother and im not gonna lie about it, im not the smartest person. and i get called stupid alot. and im giving up like i died my hair so its not as blonde because people would always be like your such a blonde bimbo and they would always call me a dumbblonde so i died my hair darker. so back to this one guy i was talking with him on the phone like we do every night and he always joked how he has to explain everything to me cause i didnt get it. i would get a little offended but he was always like its so cute. so i just forgot about it. so tongiht we were talking and he said something and it didnt hear it so i said what i thought he said and hes like oh my god im really getting sick of this i have to explain every fucking thing to you. and im like im sorry i can understand why your annoyed like i know im trying so hard to be smart around you but its not like working. and hes like ya im fucking sick of this i cant even talk to you your so goddamned stupid. and he hung up. i called him back to explain that that i was just like shocked he would say something out of all people. so he picked up and hung up. so i imed him i dont think he was there but it was like im sorry im not smart enough blah blah. i just i dont know what to do. i really like him. idk if i should leave it alone talk to him apologize again what? so any advice will be appreciated thanks. =)

That stupid, stupid boy.

Wow- just because someone may not understand everything doesn't mean that he had any right to blow up on you. He isn't worth it- at all.

Find someone who loves every part about you, because as far as I'm concerned- that guy's a jerk.

--Jack
(16/m)

15/f

I met this boy on espin and he is sooo nice and he lives 45 mins away from me and he gave me his cell number and he's supposed to call me today.

The thing is, when we meet in person how can I convice my mom to be okay with that?

She assumes that any boy you meet online is a murderer/pedophile. (and i agree with her but still...)

and if anyone has any espin the bottle success stories please tell them on here. thanks

Please don't listen to the last sentence of advice the person below said.

They were absolutely right in giving the idea of meeting with a friend- but it would probably be safer to meet with a parent.

Who's to say this isn't a 45 year old man looking to rape you and murder you? Seriously, I've heard enough of those stories online, and I would hate it for you to become another statistic.

I don't object to you meeting him, just do it with a parent, please.

--Jack
(16/m)

13/f
i have a boyfriend and i really love him a lot..but..i have a crush on another guy to...is it wrong? what can i do? i dont wanna dump my bf, because i still love him, but im going crazy because i like this other guy a lot to..is it normal to have these feelings?
thanx:)

Yes, but if you really "loved" your boyfriend as much as you say you do- then you wouldn't even think about liking someone else. I know I'll get a bad rating for this- but love is a word that is just tossed around like an old baseball.

My friend explains what I'm trying to say very well:

"I LOVE YOU"

This term is used ENTIRLY too loosely. People throw it around like nothing; when in reality it means the world. Boyfriends and girlfriends think that once they are a couple they need to say this. well, i disagree. i don't think they should say it until... they mean it. Don't tell your girlfriend or boyfriend "i love you" until you actually do. The minute you know you are in love with them, tell them. Not a second sooner. Love is something bigger than people throw it around as. It's when that one person is all you think about, and you know you can't live without them. The intense feeling of trust and honesty in your relationship. The moment you fall in love; you know. It's one of the most amazing feelings in the world, and it doesn't come along often, and it doesn't come for everyone. But, the lucky ones who do find love; I congradulate you.

You don't 'think' you are in love,

You KNOW it.

--Jack
(16/m)

15/f

Okay. so here it goes. i have a cousin and shes my best friend. The only problem with her is that i need to hide things from her. So she wouldnt get mad at me. im always scared shes going to get mad at me. So i always do everything her way. But this is the question. I was getting a new phone and i knew she liked this phone but i got the one that flips open and flips on the side and my mom was like make sure you get a phone you really like because your going to have it for two years. so i got it because it was the only phone i liekd. and now my cousin is ticked off at me because i got the phone she liked. one thing is that i always text alot so i would get more use out of it as for her she has texting blocked. and now i feel like the bad guy getting a phone i liked and my friend says that i should be the bigger friend and just act like i dont care because she know its going to bother me and i dont know waht to do i feel like i should jsut go freakin return it. and then my other cousin is like Oh.. i heard you got a new phone .. and he was like well you shouldnt return it you got it you like it your life is perfect. like idk what to doo..

Umm...?

Your cousin, I'm sorry to say, is just jealous and annoying. Just because you have this phone she wants, doesn't mean she can't have it, too.

I don't understand. If she's mad at you for something like that- wow. I don't even know what to say.

You're right- its stupid that she's mad.

--Jack
(16/m)

ok so i met this kid camping exactly six months ago. and we fell completely in love. i still like him a lot. but we havent tal;ked in two or three months because he is so souped on his new girlfriend.

so imn my profile i put"6 months. thats a half of a year, i miss you

To the world you may be one person,
but to one person you may be the world.

- Bill Wilson -

Love is a moment that lasts forever...

- Julie Wittey -

Love reminds you that nothing else matters.

- Amy Bushell -

A Friend's Love says:
" If you ever need anything,
I'll be there."

True Love says:
" You'll never need anything;
I'll be there."

- Jimi Hollemans -

Love is more than a feeling;
it's a state of mind.

- Lisa Grude -

Love is like a piece of art work,
even the smallest bit can be so beautiful.

- Stacie Cunningham -

Love is when you look into someone's eyes
and see their heart.

- Jill Petty -

Finding love
is like finding one answer
to all of your prayers.

- Jennifer Regimbald -

The thing about falling in love,
is that if you do it right,
you never have to hit the ground.

- Kendall Lepitzki -

I went through like 300 and I only picked these 10 or so..

=D

--Jack
(16/m)

how can you see who exactly is looking at your profile. people say there is no way but there has to be

The people who say that there is no way are correct. Don't fall for the lame "Profile Tracker" things.. they don't work. Those are just schemes to steal your password.

It doesn't exist. If you really want to know if someone is looking at your profile, well then just ask them.

--Jack
(16/m)

This is a really weird question to have advice for but,
i found my self worrying about the future a lot.
And once i start, i can't stop. It's Not the good things im thinking about, its the bad things. I think of having a hudge tsunami ( i am deathly afraid of the ocean) and wiping out where i live.
I think of dying a lot, i think of loosing all of our money.. I mostly think a bout dying and when i go to heaven ( if i go and if there is one) what it will be like and if i will be miserable until i make it there. I think about so many things that i dont need to be worrying about. My mom said to think about the things you can control, not the things you can't.. But its done nothing for me. Please help me, I'm really scared of the future and i dont know how to get over it.

First things first- relax. It's done wonders for me, and I think it could do the same thing for you.

You're completely normal. I used to think about my future- and I was scared to die, scared to start driving, scared for college, scared for raising a family, etc. You're not alone, trust me. If you were the only one to worry about your future, well then you'd be the only one who ever got anywhere with life.

Just think about the good things- or.. don't think about your future. Now I don't suggest the latter, but if that's what you have to do.. well then go ahead.. because if you don't think about your future- you won't reach your full potential.

Just live for the here and now- and seize the day. The future is something you will never be in, so if you always just concern yourself with the present, you should do fine. Granted, you can't just forget completely about planning, etc.

Ehh.. I think that was really confusing.. it was for me. If you need me to clarify.. I will do so. Just say so in feedback.

--Jack
(16/m)

Hey.
well i was just wondering how can you get over being dumped by a guy? i feel horrible.. because i thought things were working out.. how should i react/move on??
thanks.

Three words:

Forget about him.

Unless you are considering dating him again- there's no reason to just continue thinking about him.

Go out with friends a lot, and just have fun. You'll forget him sooner or later.

Sorry this took about a week to respond too =/

--Jack
(16/m)

hey there!
quick question,
how do you put a link into your answer?
Im talking about on advicenators.. haha just in case..
like a link where you can just click on it, and it will take you to the site, rether than pasting the address and having to copy and paste it to see the site..
thanks soo much for any help, and sorry if that was kinda confuzing...

From:

http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=504815

So you take your URL, and add it to the following code to get it to appear like it does in my column [as "my forum"]:

My Forum or whatever you want to show up

I think that's what you're asking... If not tell me.

--Jack
(16/m)

17/f he's 18/f

i really like this guy and i'm pretty sure he likes me. he's hinted it but hasn't come right out and said it but a while ago he promised himself that he's not going to have any relationships for a while because they've caused him a lot of grief and stress. so i'm asking you guys, if you like someone but don't want a relationship even though you know that you and this person would be good together, is there any chance that you would make an acception??

I was in your same situation just about two weeks ago.

Except I was the guy. So we both said we liked each other.. but we both said we weren't ready for a relationship. Then later she told me that she was.. and I still wasn't. Well obviously that was a huge hint to ask her out, no? Haha- but my point is that I really thought about it- and I figured I would really enjoy dating her. So I am.

I made the exception- and I'm totally stubborn.

--Jack
(16/m)

Hey People! Can you help me? Well before you start reading this you have to have a experience in dating or have a boyfriend or girlfriend.

What age did you start dating or get your first boyfriend/girlfriend? I really want to know cause it will help me with my prob so please reply and i always leave a good rate and a comment!!

My first "girlfriend" was in 1st grade. HAHAHAHAH!!

But my first one that lasted over a week was when I was 14/15. It lasted for almost 5 months.

Now I'm in a relationship, at 16, but its only been for a week as of tomorrow.

=D
--Jack
(16/m)

Okay hey im 15 and my boyfriend broke up with me a couple of days ago. And i really loved him. But the whole time we were going out he was cheating on me with three other girls. and those girls were some of my best friends. than when i asked him why he broke up with me all he said was that i was to ugly and fat. I mean i am a Jr,model and i weigh 97 pounds. Can you help me get over him??

This guy isn't even worth your thoughts.

1. He cheated on you.
2. He cheated on you with three other girls.
3. He called you fat.
4. He called you ugly.

WTF? Who does that?

Just forget about him.

--Jack
(16/m)

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