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I'm Scared Of The Future
This is a really weird question to have advice for but,
i found my self worrying about the future a lot.
And once i start, i can't stop. It's Not the good things im thinking about, its the bad things. I think of having a hudge tsunami ( i am deathly afraid of the ocean) and wiping out where i live.
I think of dying a lot, i think of loosing all of our money.. I mostly think a bout dying and when i go to heaven ( if i go and if there is one) what it will be like and if i will be miserable until i make it there. I think about so many things that i dont need to be worrying about. My mom said to think about the things you can control, not the things you can't.. But its done nothing for me. Please help me, I'm really scared of the future and i dont know how to get over it.
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It doesn't sound like you have a general "fear of the future". If you were just afraid of your future you would be worried about rational things like not finding work once you graduate from college or finding the right man so you can get married and have kids. Everyone is anxious about these things.
You mentioned a constant fear of dying, even tsunami's! Unless you live less than one mile from a major ocean, you can kind of cross this off your list. I don't think any tsunami can be big enough to affect you unless you live RIGHT ON THE water.
That being said... it sounds as if you have an actual phobia of the future. Believe it or not, this is fairly common. It can be caused (though does not have to be so if this does not fit your situation, you could still have the phobia) by having a bit of turmoil in your past or present. They all fit together... your past, present, and future. If you had some rough patches in your childhood, that can leave you a bit bumpy in your present; having relationship problems, financial problems, perhaps you live in an area prone to bad weather and have had past experiences with such. If you have a present with some problematic moments, of course you could have fears for your future. You have had a tough childhood and things arent so great now so what makes anyone think they could change??? Also, this phobia is a lot more common in teens. Teens have an idea of what adult life holds but with no experience, they can get quite "freaked" out about having no owners manual for becoming an adult. When you are say, 15 and trying to think of the steps involved in buying a car, a house, renting an apartment, starting up a business... you have NO IDEA how to go about this and it can be very frightening.
The best thing for you to consider is what you could do to make your present more stable. If you are in a relationship but it is questionable; not sure if you are in love, question his intentions and love for you, etc. maybe it is time to end this, be yourself for a while before jumping into another relationship. If you are in an unstable work environment; bad relationship with the boss, high chance of being laid off, apply to other places where your work could be more reliable. These are just some suggestions. Get your present more stable.
There are actually some websites that deal with future phobia. One has a great list of things you can try to work on yourself:
"Firstly, in order to rid yourself from phobia you should try to understand your own potentials and eliminate your phobia with the help of NLP
You should create the future you desire in your mind through the process of visualization
Plan for your future achievements. Your effort should make your dreams turn into reality
Believe in yourself and try to be successful in life"
The above in quotes came from:
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Another website is a great website... but I am not sure if it is best for your situation. Here it is anyway in case you want to check it out...
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If nothing seems to work, you may actually need clinical help. Try therapy. You may even find a medication may help. But don't spend the rest of your days worrying about the things you can't control... there is help available.
Best of luck!
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First things first- relax. It's done wonders for me, and I think it could do the same thing for you.
You're completely normal. I used to think about my future- and I was scared to die, scared to start driving, scared for college, scared for raising a family, etc. You're not alone, trust me. If you were the only one to worry about your future, well then you'd be the only one who ever got anywhere with life.
Just think about the good things- or.. don't think about your future. Now I don't suggest the latter, but if that's what you have to do.. well then go ahead.. because if you don't think about your future- you won't reach your full potential.
Just live for the here and now- and seize the day. The future is something you will never be in, so if you always just concern yourself with the present, you should do fine. Granted, you can't just forget completely about planning, etc.
Ehh.. I think that was really confusing.. it was for me. If you need me to clarify.. I will do so. Just say so in feedback.
--Jack
(16/m)
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