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me and my boyfriend want to do things but we can't because our parents our always home. the only time we did fool around was at my house but it was like 3 in the morning and they were sleeping...i was nervous the whole time though cause i felt like they were gonna catch us. were both 17 so we can't get a hotel. and a car isn't really the best place cause like where would we park it? itd be sketchy...so does anyone know any places we can go? or anything we can do about that whole parent situation? (link)
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Although your parents may not be thrilled with the idea that you are or plan to be sexually active they will be thrilled if you're responsible about it. As hard or even as icky as you think it is you should tell them the truth. Let them know and get on a good form of birth control.
This way they'll make sure you have privacy while not condoning it and that you're safe from pregnancy. Would you rather they catch you? I guessed not. That's how I would approach it better them know you're doing it, with whom and under their roof than having the find out in an awkward manner.
As far as places you can go to there's not much other than a locked room or one offering privacy at his or your home. You can get arrested for lewd acts in a car, in public places etc. so that's not an option. Anything that can get you in trouble with cops, people, parents isn't good.
You could try a friend's place when they aren't around. If you have a lock on a bedroom door that guarantees privacy but most parents won't allow it.
Seriously, you are 17 almost 18 and not quite an adult but old enough to act like one. You should tell them about this and show that you are being adult and then get privacy that way so you aren't disturbed when he's over. They won't like it but if they see both of you want to be truthful and safe it's better in the long run. Trust me, been there, experienced that.
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Every time my boyfriend and i want to have sex he seems to not be able to get hard. I think it's because he masturbates earlier during the day and then when we try it doesn't work. It gets hard when i give him a blow job but as soon as I stop sucking he gets soft again. We have even tried different positions and everything , and then goes on to blame it on me accidentally biting it once earlier . I don't know what I'm doing wrong if i am. And it isn't as though our sex life is old because we have never had sex. He seems to be addicted to masturbating and doesn't seem to go long before doing it again.
What could be the problem? Any tips would be appreciated. (link)
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Perhaps it is a mental block or nerves that cause him to lose an erection making sex impossible. He could be concerned about getting you pregnant, hurt or anything irrational.
It could also be medical with medication causing him to lose it. I think that one can be ruled out if he has no trouble with it alone. You can ask him to refrain from masturbation and see what happens when you initiate intercourse.
The other thing you can do if 18+ is visit an adult's only novelty shop and pick up small plastic rings that tighten around the penis to trap blood in for those who can't maintain an erection. It might be a cheap way to nip this problem in the bud. The staff will know exactly what product it is. It's got a vulgar name unfortunately that can be repeated here.
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So I have a small mouth but The guy I'm planning on giving a blow job to has a HUGE penis Have any advice on how to give a goood blow job with my little mouth ! ?
helllllllp ;)
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We don't give those how-to kind of tips here. We do that to protect minors and stay out of trouble. All I can tell you is that you don't take all of that into your mouth much like food. Talk to him and let him know you aren't experienced. He'll tell you what he wants.
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i have been fingering myself since i was like 10. So recently as i was i noticed that it takes ,e longer to have an orgasm than usual then one night it didnt happen at all!
im a little scared because my first time is coming up next week, and im afraid i wont be...pleasured.
i need quick help please!
D: olie!!!
14/f
(dont tell me im too young please!) (link)
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Intercourse and masturbation are not linked. You will be fine. It's actually not legal in most states for anyone to have sex with anyone until 18. I won't lecture you but please be sure it's exactly what you want and that this boy's sticking around after. Use protection and consider other birth control used with condoms to be ultra safe.
The problem you mention is from doing something the same way night after night for years. Eventually, it won't be as pleasurable, will take longer etc. etc. Try not doing it as often or a different method. It won't affect pleasure for you during sex or otherwise. Too much of the same way leads to that.
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I heard that the Taco Bell chihuahua died today :( I remember that little dog and it's "Yo Quiero Taco Bell" line. It was really cute. Anyway, I was thinking about it and I remember that dog from YEARS ago. I haven't seen it on commercials in forever. (Was it a male, anyway? I think it played the role as a male but wasn't, right?)
Anyway, I was curious how long the dog had lived. What I mean is how old was the Taco Bell chihuahua before it died? It had to be up there... (link)
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Her name was Gidget and she was 15. This dog also did some Geico Commercials alongside the Gecko and was Brusier, Reese Witherspoon's dog, in Legally Blonde 2. Aside from that the dog didn't work much outside the Taco Bell ads.
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hey.. im 14/f
i have been masturbating for 2 years.... it can be addictive at times. Well i am stopping BUT i heard you can do damage physically to something. like tearing or something IDK? anyways i dont go in side i just kinda rub. Its not like fingering or anything. I was just wondering... could i damage something or anything. And if so is it bad. im really worried i did something. just from hearing all these things. nothing hurts though. and i did it once during my period. IS THAT BAD??
please answer a.s.a.p. thnxs :) (link)
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I noticed you deleted this question but felt I should answer. You can be as rough as you want or gentle and it cannot damage you physically or destroy your genitals. No matter what you do it isn't wrong, bad, sinful as 78% of females of all ages and 90% of males do. The rest are liars or don't for cultural reasons.
Unless you're using power tools or items that are jagged and can tear you're fine. Even if there was fingering, insertion etc. you can't hurt anything no matter how you tried. I just wanted you to see that you're A-okay no matter what you do.
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Okay. Im 14/F and he is 15/M. I really like him and could see myself dating him but we're hanging out this week and I'm super nervous. He's made out and stuff but I've never even kissed (he knows this and says he's okay with it) but he wants to kiss when we hang out... And he asked me if I would want to. I have two problems with that. 1. Its kinda like our first date right? I don't know if I want to kiss on a first date... Idk. And 2. I wouldn't know what to do! So I told him I didnt know if I would kiss him. Was this a good idea? (link)
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Tell him that you really like him but want to take things at your pace. Indicate that you don't know one another well enough yet. Tell him you want to work towards a relationship with someone before ever kissing them. If it seems awkward, scary or you're super nervous don't do it yet.
You aren't ready and you MUST trust your partner to feel right. I think he will understand as he sounds decent enough. Remember you as the girl are always in control here not him. If you aren't ready he better accept that or don't be with him.
This doesn't have to be a dreadful or embarrassing experience either. When the time comes have him patiently show you what to do, ask friends as well and you'll be set. Once you do it once, practice a little it will come as natural as anything else.
A lot of people like to teach their partner's how to kiss so this can actually be a fun and enjoyable experience if he guides you through it. Trust me everyone has had to do this to figure it out. You'll be fine but don't do it until you feel 100% and that you KNOW it's with someone who is going to be part of your life after.
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my boyfriend likes the missionary position the best because he says that it feels like the tightest.
I dont really have a fav. but i was wondering what else guys liked? (link)
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There's no universal favorite when it comes to either sex. Each person finds something different to be pleasurable. The thing to do is ask him to try other positions that you find more comfortable or have interest in.
We're limited in what we can tell you because it can't border on how-to. I can say if he enjoys missionary and you don't to try and reverse it so you're the one in complete control. Doggy style and side by side positions are also pleasurable for both partners.
There are other resources, fact sheets, articles and books and even search engines that will go into detail. Find something and run it by him to try. At 14 you're kind of young to be doing this and worrying about it.
I have to point that out or I wouldn't be doing my job here. Talk to your partner, be careful and do a lot of reading together so you're well informed and safe.
Every guy and every girl are different when it comes to what is pleasurable, what hurts and what is uncomfortable. You need to ask him this and if he'll try different things out.
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20/f
i dont know what to do.
i feel 100% lost. about three years ago i found the love of my life. we had our issues just like everyone else but we were perfect together.
absolutely perfect. we got engaged a little over a year ago but planned on waiting two years to get married. four days ago he told me that his feelings had just changed and the relationship was not beneficial to him anymore so he broke up with me. now im a rational person and i wouldnt ever kill myself but i seriously feel like dying.
i honestly dont think ive ever felt a bigger pain in my heart. i know ill get over him and yes if its meant to be he'll come back. my problem is coping with it until one of the two happen.
i cant eat. i cant slepp. my eyes are raw from crying. i feel like i just lost a child or something. hes more important to me than anything ive ever imagined and i just want him back.
its hard for me to understand that this is what he wanted because we were so happy. he was happy.
ive tried getting out. ive tried staying in.
i dont want suggestions like "get out and do something you love" ive tried all the "getting over him" shit. it takes time but in the meantime how do i renergize myself and be happy.
i have no joy anymore. i lost my everything.
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This guy sounds like an extremely selfish and immature SOB. He likely had or has someone on the side during your relationship. People don't suddenly tell their lover of four years "I'm out of here" and just leave. You may not see it now but you're better off not being with him or married.
How do you move on? Well, for starters conduct your life as normal and do all your activities that you usually would and then some so you are occupied with that. Get together with friends each week and family.
The more you occupy your time with other things will make you think of him a lot less. Also vent your feelings with those who support you. Consider professional counseling to deal with the shock, loss, anger, feelings. Don't pursue getting him back either. Best to move forward. He'd only hurt you if you tried.
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Hi, my dad just stprmed out of the house like he normally does and now i want advice because i am tired of IT!!!!!!!! okay well my stupid sister did her regular routine of being annoying which normally i end up having to take the blame for her stupid actions. Anyways my dad always calls me a bitch, says i should die in hell, and that i am a stupid child that should have never been born. He only says these things when he is mad BUT i dont know anymore. He says it so much that i am starting to feel ALL THOSE THINGS. i want to run away but i know that will only make him more mad do i dont think i will. BUT he is so mean .... all he says is that i am a bitch who should die in hell!!!! WHAT DO I DO!??? (link)
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Do you have a relative that you can trust? If so approach them and tell them what your dad calls you every time he gets angry. They can then lay into him and tell him that this is the wrong way to treat his children and that he needs professional help with anger.
You can't tell him that yourself and I wouldn't advise it. If people he knows get their backs up over this than it will make him embarrassed and seek help. Your family could use some counseling from the sounds of it as nobody relates well to each other.
You could also tell your guidance counselor or teacher that your father constantly refers to you as stupid, a bitch, a child he never wanted and that you should rot in hell etc etc. Those aren't the words of a normal person and may suggest mental health issues.
Your teacher could then bring in your principal, counselors etc. and really be stern with your parents about being concerned for your emotional well-being. They can make sure you can get some support and help.
You should tell him in a letter how he makes you feel and that you think your relationship with him is non-existent. Maybe that would help him see. No matter what angry or not nothing justifies what he's been saying. Make sure others know about it. That's how to stop it.
Tell your friends about this, their parents etc. and have them approach your family about what they've heard from you. If more people do this your father will see that there's a big problem here that he needs to admit to and get help for.
For all you know this problem could be fueled by alcohol, addiction, bad marriage, mental health or something big that hasn't a thing to do with your sister or yourself.
When it comes to your sister stay out of her way where and when you can and pick carefully when you choose to fight. Walk away. If you get blamed accept it. The more mature you appear to me may mean the less you have to deal with venom from everyone. Start telling everyone who can help you about your home life.
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i've never been to an open casting call for acting.. so i'm trying to find out what it's like
do you need a resume? headshot? neither or both?
is there some paper you fill out that counts as a resume once you arrive? someone please help, preferrably someone who has been to one or really know the facts thanks! (link)
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Do you have an agent? That's one thing you should get before going. You can find one through ACTRA or SAG's reputable agents list through calling them and visiting their sites.
They're the actor's union in Canada and the U.S. Don't sign with anyone without consulting it. Then if you go to the open call and they see you have an agent that will help. You'll want an agent for Background (read: extra) work.
You can easily make a head shot on your own computer using your school photo and do an 8X10 and laser print it with high quality ink and photo paper. Most actors have their credits listed on the back. In your case such a photo with a stapled or paper clipped list of credits a.k.a resume would help make you stand out apart from talent.
When it comes to open call auditions they're used to seeing people with snapshots, no resume, no experience period. There will always be a form to fill out so you'll be fine. Take your parents and make sure any offer is legit as there's a lot of scams out there involving such calls.
NEVER pay for anything or sign up for their classes. That's the first hint something's not right. Take what you have with you. You'll be expected to cold read a scene. That's if they call your name as thousands or hundreds of people may show up depending what it's for.
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Hey guys. Today is my birthday and I turn 18. While there are girls dying to get older im not. I just wish I could turn back time. Like I still feel like such a kid. And I love it. So growing up is being very difficult for me. I currently feel depressed. Everyone is like oh ur old now or ur a young lady. I don't know. I just wish I was still 16 or 15. I mean I feel like I am. Its so unreal to me. So I guess there's nothing to ask for advice about. I just felt like writing my thoughts. But if you have advice or anything feel free. Thanks a lot. Btw...I really do hate growing up and CHANGE. *sigh* (link)
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You are new to being an adult so naturally you are apprehensive. If you weren't I would be scared. What you need to realize is that despite the age that you are still you and always will be. You'll acquire more maturity, responsibility etc. but the core of who you are never changes.
It's easy to want to cling onto childhood memories or pleasant ones and not move forward. But move forward you must. There will be tons of opportunities to make even better ones. Instead of feeling depressed embrace it and look at it as the whole world being open to you with exciting new things to enjoy and discover. You'll be fine. Trust me.
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I have had my period for a little over three years now and I am getting worried.
It's been really heavy lately, like bleed through a tampon, pad, and my jeans! It's embarrassing that I have to keep a change of CLOTHES with me too when I have my period! It was not like this before and it seems to only be getting worse.
I also get really bad cramps, like where I "black out" for a minute or two and wake up on the floor. I get a fever, not terribly high, but it's still considered "a fever."
I can't talk to my mom about this stuff, she's one of those people who think feminine "stuff" is shameful and should be kept private. I am not sure what to do though because it's becoming a problem.
Any help is appreciated. :\ (link)
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NONE of this sounds remotely normal. Menstrual cramps or not nothing should be causing you to black out and wake up on the floor. You shouldn't need all of those changes in clothing either. If it's bleeding through tampons, pads, denim etc than it's not normal.
You should tell your mother what is going on. You should see a gyno pronto to get a grip on this and have it solved. There's things they can do or recommend to make this situation a lot better and regulate it.
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im 24 years old and have been with my boyfriend for about 3 years now. he has beaten me up in the past and even broken my thumb before. i know abuse is a cycle and it has to be broken but i of course thought things might work out and i stayed because i have nowhere else to go either and no one else in my life to help me right now. he knows he has total control because i dont work right now so he controls everything in my whole life. if things dont go his way then he just hits me. i do want to leave but i have no one and no im not going to a shelter and he knows that so he just keeps doing what he wants to. the point is what can i do to get out of this besides going to a shelter. if i leave and go to a shelter then i need to leave my dog behind and i dont even know if he will care for her or not when i leave and like i said i have no one to help me and im starting to think he likes it that way. what should i do?????????... (link)
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Your parents won't put up with this shit. They'll have him charged for you. You ALWAYS have somewhere to go and can rely on them and family if you need to. You can also get work at any moment or financial assistance until you do.
Tell your family what he has done repeatedly and about the broken thumb. Let them help you here and get away from him. There is no logical reason at all to stay put. If he has ZERO self-control and beats you up what's to say he won't kill you be it intentional or accidental? He's a dangerous person.
No matter what he says about "never again" or what pops in your head telling you to stay DON'T. Tell your family, friends, co-workers etc. that you need help and do it. You wont need a shelter as I know your family will assist you. I'm sure they'll find room for your dog. Shelters won't but friends etc. will.
He can't control your life unless you continue to allow him to. It's fear and trying to justify him being this way that takes over. You have to refute that and take this opportunity to get the hell out of that situation. Tell your family and the police what you told us. You need to as staying could kill you. It's that simple he has no control at all. If he can beat you up than he has no inner voice guiding him to stop racheting the violence up.
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I totally loved and miss Michael Jackson. I was anxious for the autopsy on Michael Jackson to be done and when it was my friend told me (because I don't have TV) that the family is requesting a second autopsy to be performed! Why?!
This makes me think that Michael Jackson was murdered or committed suicide! I mean, lots of people believed he hurt children so I understand the possibility of him being murdered is something to think about, and with all of the stress of people thinking those horrible thoughts it would make sense for him to finally snap and take his own life. I hope neither of those happened but I want to know!
What did they find out in the autopsy? Was it not cardiac arrest, which was first thought to be the reason of Michael Jackson's death? (link)
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A second autopsy isn't uncommon in controversial cases or ones where new information is constantly coming to light about his final days. The first autopsy may have missed crucial things that his doctor (who they can't locate) may know about his health.
It's done to be thorough and to have two professional opinions and consensus. It doesn't mean the decedent was murdered nor committed suicide. Often this is done in civil, wrongful death and criminal cases. Remember, if this doctor of his did something that caused his death they can be investigated and charged with:
manslaughter |ˈmanˌslôtər|
noun
the crime of killing a human being without malice aforethought, or otherwise in circumstances not amounting to murder : the defendant was convicted of manslaughter.
Also, when cause of death is still TBA the case is a HOMICIDE until they list it as accidental, suicide or natural causes and a medical examiner signs the death certificate. It doesn't mean murder etc etc. It's standard police form.
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I'm 13 and yesterday when I went to pee and wiped, I saw a little white flow with little bit blood and I kept wiping until there was nothing. Is this normal or the beginning of my first period?? Do i have to wear panty liner the next few days? (link)
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I would tell your mother what happened when you went to urinate and wiped up watery fluid that had blood in it. She's been there before you and will know exactly what it is. She can advise you about liners and tampons etc. from there. There's nothing to be embarrassed about in telling her.
She will be happy as it's a major step leading into adulthood. If you still find it hard to bring up to her ask an older female aunt, sister, cousin, friend etc. who will know from experiences. In the meantime, it really wouldn't hurt to use a liner to protect yourself incase there is more blood, discharge etc or the flow gets heavy suddenly.
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I had sex with my boyfriend a couple days ago. We always use a condom, though I'm not on birth control yet or anything like that. He ejaculated while he was still inside of me, and the condom was perfectly fine but I guess it slid up a little bit, and the semen leaked out of the bottom where the condom ends... and I was just wondering, if he was thrusting/inside while he was ejaculating could that little bit of semen that dripped out cause me to get pregnant?
I'm going to the gynecologist in a couple of weeks but I was just wondering what are some possible side effects within the first few days if there are any... and I've just been noticing little things.. like I ate so much today and had to pee 4 times within the hour... and usually I do things like that but I dont know if there's anything to it or if I'm just making it something bigger than it is. (which is pretty likely)... just wanted your opinions.
thanks.
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If you had sex 72 hours or less ago you're still covered by the morning after pill. It may be different in the U.S. than Canada but you should be able to get it direct from a pharmacist. A doctor at a clinic can also write a prescription. There's different laws in different places.
I think what you are noticing is fear and an increased amount of it. It's understandable given the situation. But your having to pee that much and eating more may have nothing to do with it.
It's good that you are seeing a gyno soon. I would call his/her receptionist and tell them your situation and you're going nuts not knowing. See if they can bump you up and or recommend what you can do until then.
Also check the Internet or phone book for free teen sexuality or sexual health clinics in general such as Planned Parenthood that may be able to expedite things. That's my best recommendation. Call them and they'll give you a lot of options.
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Michael Jackson died today and he was only 50 years old. It really took me by surprise, but it wasn't as if I didn't expect it sometime fairly soon. There have been rumors flying around for some time now about his health problems. As a matter of fact, when Michael was on trial, one day he was late because of health problems. Obviously, the judge didn't feel that Michael's health was all that important because he threatened to have Michael Jackson jailed unless he made an appearance in the courtroom. Michael showed up in his pajamas. Does anyone else remember that?
People made it out to seem as if he was faking. Some people even made it seem like he was crazy and would do ANYTHING as he was suddenly "extremely unpredictable" and all. I guess he wasn't kidding or faking about having health problems, huh?
I'm going to miss Michael Jackson. He was a man who set out to hurt no one, but the world seemed hell-bent upon hurting him. Michael Jackson was seriously the King of Pop in so many ways. Maybe he's better off wherever he is since we trashed his good name without even giving him a chance to speak. I choose to believe that he is now seated up in Heaven, seeing God for the first time.
Does anyone feel like me about Michael Jackson or am I alone in this? When I was growing up Michael Jackson was such a big role model. Sure, he was a little weird but he seemed to care and love. I'm really hurt that Michael Jackson is dead :( almost like a large portion of my childhood has been abandoned. (link)
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I think it's great that you liked his music and artistry. You can always relive that any time you put his CDs on or strap on an IPOD. That's the gift he gave us and continues to through others he inspires.
That can't be erased nor can anything from your childhood. The fact that he has died has no effect on your past and pleasant memories. While you admire Jackson it's important to note that he's not indestructible and was a very troubled man.
Putting him on a pedestal and being hurt by his passing isn't healthy. Yes, it may have been shocking and you loved his material but his death is a trivial matter blown up large scale by media. It shouldn't still be a BIG story or even the lead on the news when people are dying in Iran.
Anyone who made his life difficult or a hell to endure always get a kick in the ass from life sooner or later and or will learn from it now. The same people admiring him and going on and on now that he's dead didn't help when he was here. They have to deal with their own hypocrisy and immoral actions. That's not for you to worry about as a fan.
But yes, don't allow yourself to become fixated on this. I'm sure that's the last thing he would want fans to be doing. A humble individual like himself wouldn't like the vigils, crowds at hospitals etc. The same fans who come out of nowhere wen he died are those who ignited controversy around him.
I agree he was much maligned but it's not your concern as when this all comes out people will learn something from the kind of life he led.
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Michael Jackson died today at age 50. It's really sad, actually, because he was pretty young to be dying of heart problems. I'm not saying I liked or disliked Michael Jackson so please no bashing of the man here.
Anyway, reports have indicated that Michael Jackson died of cardiac arrest but nobody can be 100% certain until there is an autopsy done, right?
When will Michael Jackson's autopsy be performed so we know if Michael Jackson really died of cardiac arrest, a drug overdose, was murdered, or actually committed suicide? (link)
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They are usually performed the morning after a person has died. Almost all are because the coroner is occupied in court proceedings in the afternoon and evenings.
They do this also because of decomposition and other graphic things not suitable to mention here. The procedure is only done if the police are called in and someone dies suddenly or before they get there, an automobile accident, suicide or something unexplained.
If a doctor is willing to sign a death certificate and call it cardiac arrest or a massive heart attack or knew Michael Jackson had these problems one isn't needed unless the family requested it. He just signs off, releases the body to a funeral home and that's it.
If one is done it will be done tomorrow most likely but you won't hear much else for weeks because of how long lab results are unless the cause is blatantly obvious from the exam itself.
The police, paramedics and it being sudden and unexplained condition leads to the autopsy being required by law because no doctor will sign the death certificate otherwise.
There is nothing now that would lead them to believe it was a suicide nor overdose (yet) and it's not a murder either. It's likely medical as he was not in the greatest health either according to his lawyer on CNN but he didn't hesitate to warn the singer's family about the prescription drugs he was on.
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My belly button peircing is slightly infected. Is it safe to use Melaleuca oil on it to help clean it? I dont have anything to clean it with, ive just been using antibacterial body wash. the ingredients on this is: 100% pure, natural melaleuca alternifolia found to contain at least 36% terpinen-4-oil and no greater than 5% cineole (link)
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Did the piercing studio not give you an after care sheet? It's their responsibility to do that. It will list everything you can clean it with and what to do if infection sets in. I would get on the phone to them ASAP and ask what to use so that you get it correct.
If you pierced this yourself you have done nothing but set yourself up for problems. You aren't professional qualified to do this and it's no wonder it's infected. Based on the feedback you gave me that's the reason you're in trouble because you know nothing about aftercare or how to do this.
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