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Nervous
Okay. Im 14/F and he is 15/M. I really like him and could see myself dating him but we're hanging out this week and I'm super nervous. He's made out and stuff but I've never even kissed (he knows this and says he's okay with it) but he wants to kiss when we hang out... And he asked me if I would want to. I have two problems with that. 1. Its kinda like our first date right? I don't know if I want to kiss on a first date... Idk. And 2. I wouldn't know what to do! So I told him I didnt know if I would kiss him. Was this a good idea?
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Tell him that you really like him but want to take things at your pace. Indicate that you don't know one another well enough yet. Tell him you want to work towards a relationship with someone before ever kissing them. If it seems awkward, scary or you're super nervous don't do it yet.
You aren't ready and you MUST trust your partner to feel right. I think he will understand as he sounds decent enough. Remember you as the girl are always in control here not him. If you aren't ready he better accept that or don't be with him.
This doesn't have to be a dreadful or embarrassing experience either. When the time comes have him patiently show you what to do, ask friends as well and you'll be set. Once you do it once, practice a little it will come as natural as anything else.
A lot of people like to teach their partner's how to kiss so this can actually be a fun and enjoyable experience if he guides you through it. Trust me everyone has had to do this to figure it out. You'll be fine but don't do it until you feel 100% and that you KNOW it's with someone who is going to be part of your life after.
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Never do something if you are uncomfortable with it. If he really likes you he will be willing to wait to kiss you or whatever.
When I met my boyfriend I had only had sex once and messed around once with one other guy. I was at a party k?(It was a total mistake btw I totally learned from it!!) And my boyfriend has had alot of experience. So I was really nervous to mess around with him and make out with him cause i had only made out once too and was drunk. So we made out and I guess I am good at it. We waited about 3 months or so before we messed around because I wasnt ready and nervous. He was totally willing to wait cause he really really liked me. My point is is that if he really likes you he wont pressure you to kiss him on the first date. But you gotta get practice somehow right? haha
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1. A first-date-kiss is alright, but sometimes it's special to wait a few more dates after it. Whatever you feel comfortable with is fine, really.
2. I've answered a question on how to kiss, like makeout, but maybe that's not what you're looking for.
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And it's alright that you told him that you weren't sure what you were going to do; that's being honest and having good communication from the start and that's admirable. Some girls would just say nothing and then be pressured into doing things they don't want to do.
--Jack
(17/m)
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