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How do I tell my boyfriend of 6 years I do not want to live with him?
In the beginning (like the first four years) I was very into the idea of living together. Now, not so much! Things have changed like my daughter (22) had baby and they live with me right now. I don't want that to change until she is ready to make it completely on her own. I see that my boyfriend might someone who wants to be in control and I am not willing to give up that position. I know he wouldn't be comfortable with my daughter and the baby living with us. I have been married four times before and I am not so good at relationships if they are too close and now I've decided that living together is not the best choice. How do I tell him that I've changed my mind?
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Well, first off he's not going to be happy, so be prepared for disappointment.
I would not bring up the control thing. Rather, tell him your priorities have changed and you really feel the need to focus on your daughter and grandchild right now.
Also tell him that you realize that you may not be interested in living together anymore because you're happier in relationships where you have your own place.
Acknowledge his feelings about this and also be prepared for him to want to end the relationship over this issue. Apologize for leading him to believe this was the direction you wanted for your relationship to go in, but you've changed as a person these past few years.
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How do you tell him you've changed your mind? Tell him you've changed your mind.
Tell him everything you just told us. I know it might not be easy, but it has to be done or you're going to end up in a situation that will be harder to get out of than it would be to get out of it now.
Communication is key, and if you can't do that, the relationship has a problem.
--Jack
(17/m)
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