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Ok so I broke up with this guy, lets call him brendan. So I broke up with brendan a couple months ago because I got pressured by this other guy... =/ Brendan is so sweet and funny and nice and cute and totally the perfect package. (Note: I wont use the guy's real names) Anyways, this guy uhm call him Ryan pressured me to break up with brendan and then he asked me out and I said yes =( I broke up with Ryan after realizing what a jerk he is (only lasted a week) Its been 3 months since I broke up with Ryan. Yesterday, we went to Canadas Wonderland for a band trip. Brendan is in band but Ryan isnt. I've always liked brendan and we've come to be good friends. I flirt with him occasionally, he flirts back =) After playing 3 songs at this band thing we got to go on all the rides at 1pm and had to meet back at 6pm. Me and my friend decided to ask Brendan and one of his friends that she likes to be in our group. They said sure and so we ate lunch then went back to the bus to get our band instruments. After we played our instruments, we went to the bus to drop off our instruments and then get clothes to change in to. We went to the bath rooms to get changed and we told Brendan and his friend to meet us outside after. They both ditched... =( I was SO pissed off!!! After at 6, I saw him and went over to him and said "Your such a ditcher!" On the bus he walked by and smiled and I said, "I've never seen more of an asshole to ditch someone" His friend didnt feel well so me and Sydney had to switch spots and surprise surprise, it was behind brendan... He turned around and said "Im sorry for ditching, why was it so important to you that I was there anyways?" and I said "if you knew then you would understand" Brendan:"You like me dont you" Me:"how did you know" Brendan:"its obvious" Then I wore his hat for the rest of the 3 hour drive back home. He asked Sydney for a pen then started writing hand notes to me saying, "I dont know if I can do this again, if you liked me then you shouldnt have broken up with me in the first place" ANd I said, "I know, Im so freaking stupid. I understand..." and then we got home and he leans over to me and whispers into my ear "What I miss the most is your hugs" and I almost started crying. TOday, his friend comes over to me and he says " DO you like brendan?" me:" what makes you think that?" him:"he told me everything, he likes you too" and yeahh. ADVICE? All of this is overwelming. My other friend Emily told Brendan the real reason I broke up with him. So um opinions? I dont know what to do! HELP!! (link)
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Just apologize about what happened before. You knew what happened was a mistake. If he forgives you then if you want to get back together with him, there shouldn't be any problem. If Brendan's friend wasn't lying, which I doubt he was, then he already likes you too so just go with it.
It'll turn out fine.
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I am from Canada. Ok so there's this guy in my class that I really like and I don't know how to tell him and I don't know if he feels the same way about me... What should I do about this?? Should I tell him??? Should I ask his friends if he likes me??? PLEASE TELL ME WHAT TO DO!!!!!!!!!!!! (link)
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I wouldn't ask his friends. I'd move slowly with it. You should start talking to him and be friends with him. Then if you think there might be something between you guys, you should tell him how you feel.
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I have been dating my boyfriend for 9 months, and he's amazing... He is very respectful, funny, so caring, and absolutely selfless. He does everything for me. I have a prince charming. But I'm selfish.
I've always been a very depressed person, and lately I am so off and on. He gives me everything, and I'm never happy. I always bitch and get jealous and freak... and I just feel horrible. He stays by my side no matter what but I am so close with just breaking it off because I know I shouldn't treat him this way. (link)
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I totally understand how you feel. You won't be happy in a relationship until you are happy with yourself. Work on yourself first before you try to deal with a relationship. It'll just be miserable for the two of you if you can't be happy no matter what he does. Let him know that, I'm sure he'll understand. Even if it's just a break, just take some time away from him.
The good thing though, is that you are aware of how you're acting. You'll figure everything out.
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Hi, I'm In NEED Of Help to find a Job. I'm turning 14 and I Need money for Clothes. Do You know anywhere where I Could get a Job FAST?? (link)
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Most jobs require you to be 16. The best you could probably do is things for other people. Lawns, babysitting, things like that.
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I'm from Canada. Ok so there's this guy and I really like him and I want to tell him how I feel but I'm worried about what he would say if I did tell him how I felt about him!! But he doesn't have a phone so I can't really text him and I don't feel comfortable calling his home.. So I really need to figure out what to do!! Do I talk to him on facebook when he's on or what? Please help me!!! It's really important since it's almost the end of the school year and I won't see him until next school year!! Please Help!!! (link)
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I would just message him on facebook. Don't make it all corny or long. Just get straight to the point. Even if he doesn't feel the same way, at least you had the courage to do it and you won't be wondering how he felt.
So just work up the courage to message him. Good luck!
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A boy named aj likes me at the church camp.and everyone is like oh go out with him but I don't want to and I said forget it.
Oh heres some info....
I speak english (link)
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Let him down easily. You don't have to go out with him if you don't like him. It'd be wrong if you did that. You're friends can't tell you what to do or who to like.
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I really want to have sex with my bf and he's asked me about before I'm 12 should I and just tell him to use a condom or what? (link)
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No, you shouldn't do it. You're way too young. You should wait until you're older, when you are positive it's what you want. Right now, you're guessing it. It'll hurt, you have the chance to get pregnant even with a condom, then there is the emotional part which is even harder to handle. Just wait a couple years. Boys will always want sex. You're way too young to give it up.
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Alright well my boyfriend or fiance I should say, has dedicated a few songs to me, so I need some for him and I need a good nickname for him too, his nickname for me is "Boo" and he wants me to come up with a nickname for him, but I can't think of a good one that suits him...
we've been together for about 8 months now btw
He's real sweet, he's understanding, he's caring, he's funny, romantic, very athletic, just plain out amazing :3, tall, has brown eyes, brown hair and his eyes sparkle whenever he sees me :) oh and he's 15 almost 16.. (link)
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Well pick any song that reminds you of him. It has to come from your heart.
Nicknames usually just come to you. Sweetie, cutie, baby, handsome, love, tiger, stud.
Just let them come to you. I'm sure he'd love anything you'd pick for him.
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I met a man through friends and we have been dating for the last ten months , in that time we have gone from being best friends to tolerating each other. I love him but im not sure whether I want to keep it going. We have spilt up a few times and always got back together stronger but this last episode has just crushed me. i had a party on Sunday and a few people told me that my BF was oggling my best friend now shes a big girl and they are on display so i took no notice but then I caught him doing it and then to top it off another member of my family told me if my BF had the chance he would get in with my best friend (Happily Married) when I asked him he didnt say no he just muttered something about maybe not. I told my friend what he had done and she was embarrassed and upset about it. I have to decide do I carry on or do I let it go ??? I am suffering with the menopause at the moment and seriously think I am losing my mind !!!!!! Can someone give me some advice before I do loose my mind (link)
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He's not respecting you at all. You're miserable. Try talking to him and if he acts the same and you see no change and you see him not trying, let him go. You could find someone better who won't go flirting around with other girls, especially your best friend.
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My boyfriend and I have been together for almost two years. He changed so much. He doesn't text me in the morning to say "good morning". Or at night if we are having a short conversation on text he just disappears without saying goodnight. I don't even get an explanation the next morning. When I do the same thing he gets mad. But I told him how I felt. I told him that I feel no affection from him at all. I am the one that does these things that I wish he would do. Simple things. I also just don't trust him due to him talking crap about me to one of my close friends. I ended the relationship because things are just not the same anymore. He doesn't motivate me with anything that I want to do. Its very annoying. And for some reason I would rather hang out with my friends than him. What could all these feelings mean? By the way he is 21 and im 19 (link)
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It just means the relationship died. He isn't putting any effort into it. You already tried talking to him, he didn't change. You're unhappy because you don't feel any affection from him. Things like this happen. If both people in the relationship aren't willing to work on it, then the relationship gets hard and it doesn't work out. You did the right thing.
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i am so head over heels with a guy who i get long really well with he dosn't notice me when he is with his friends but he and i have a good time when they aren't there and he already said i would never go out with her to one of the other girls i was crushed but then at lunch he was helping me and having a great time counting tokens i no it is so stupid couting tokens for a school libery but yea i jnust dunno what to do about it.
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Maybe he just sees you as a friend. It is possible for him to just be embarrassed about maybe having feelings for you. Since he did tell another girl that he would never go out with you, he could just enjoy being your friend.
What you can do is be yourself and continue being his friend or you can tell him how you feel.
If you do tell him how you feel, there is a risk of losing him as a friend if he doesn't feel the same way. Good luck!
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I'm a 23 yrs old girl, I met someone online, and he was just the way I like.. I liked him & and he was so emotional, romantic, and caring. after a while, I fall in love with him, then I discovered that his real age about (37) and that he's already married and thereis noway for our relation to work. however, I continued with him and we had a cyber relation and met him only once in real.. now, we still talkin' to eachothers on the internet, and I we still like eachothers......... what is the expected future of this relation? (link)
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This relationship will not go anywhere. First of all, he lied about his age. Second, he's married. All he is, is a liar..and a cheater. He's not the kind of guy you'd want anyway. Even though you do care about him, you should cut contact. He's not worth it. You deserve someone who won't lie to you at all. Good luck!
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I'm 13 years old and I have very small breasts and all my friends have big breast and I feel uncomfterble also all my other friend have started the period and I haven't so basically all my friends have breasts and started there period and. I haven't I have small breasts and no period please help me. I beg you (link)
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There is nothing wrong with that. Your breasts will eventually grow. You're 13, you don't need to worry about having breasts. And about your period, you'll get that eventually too. You're going to have your period for years and years and years every single month, be happy you're getting it later than your friends. Trust me, it can be a pain.
You can't change it, you just need to accept it. Everything will be ok.
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Hey, umm two guys like me. I've liked them both for a while. Please don't say the second one because I don't really like the first guy after the second one came along; I know and I honestly say I can't remember which one I've like for longer!
Guy #1 Is lovely and we have a few things in common like music and stuff and we talk more than I do with the other one. However, he gets on my nerves sometimes, is very much more outgoing than me and other things I can't really expand on for the thought of being rude. I've known him for 3 years but only started talking to him in the last 6 months. He's sweet (sometimes gets a bit sickly for me ahaa), funny, talkative and a bit attractive. But I'm not sure whether we should just be friends because he is one of my closest friends and I don't want to ruin it :/. (He's really tall as well!!)
Guy #2: I've known him for 5 years and been friendly with him all of that time but properly in the last 3 months like the other guy. He is lovely and thoughtful and so great and pretty awesome. He is different to the other guy in that he's quite quiet and shy, but really nice to me and things. He is strange at times but it's endearing. He's isn't what I usually go for looks wise but that doesn't really mean much to me. I don't know him as well as the other guy but we're getting closer everyday.
Generally guy#1 lives a train ride away but I don't mind and we're going different colleges. Guy#2 lives about 3min walk from mine but he's going to a different college as well. They are great guys and they are friends as well so I feel awful for having to pick one but it's not fair to me or them to continue liking them both. I have just tried being their friends and not trying to flirt with them or anything and just tried to be myself around them.
Btw... I'm crap in relationships and have no idea how to act and stuff and it scares me, I'm quiet and a bit socially awkward.
If anyone has any advice on what to do or on what guy you think suits me better or whatever I would really appreciate it thanks x (link)
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I honestly have no idea who is better for you and who isn't. I don't know you, I don't know the guys. They both seem like great guys. There are good things about both of them. If I was in your position, I wouldn't pick either. Since you don't know what you want, it's going to be hard to be focused on the guy you chose. Because who knows, maybe the other guy was the one you really wanted. Then you could possibly lose a good friend.
But if you did choose, pick the one you can see yourself with, the one who truly is a good guy and you know it and everyone else knows it. It's hard to find out about how a guy really is when you don't know everything about them, like how they are at home, with family, with friends.
You'll learn slowly in relationships. If the guy really likes you, he won't care if you're a bit awkward.
I hope everything works out for you!
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So I broke up with my boyfriend of over 1 1/2 years because he was not paying enough attention to me and we had been arguing a lot lately. I also don't like the way he is so narrow minded. Well I broke up with him over skipe and I could tell he was upset, he argued with me than as well. The he wanted me to come to his family memorial party. I said won't that be akward and he said no, if we were still going to be friends that I needed to come. So I went and afterward he text me yelling about how I ignored him the entire time at the party. I calmed him down by the next day. I didn't talk to him until 4 days had passed and I texted him. He said it was perfect timing because he was on his break at work, there was just some small talk and that was it. I was his first love, and I'm wondering if inside he wants me back and would be willing to work at it?
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You need more time. He does seem like he is trying too hard and telling you what to do. If he thinks yelling at you is going to get you back, he's wrong. He needs to learn that. Give it time for awhile and if you guys do decide to get back together, make sure he knows the reasons why and make sure there is no arguing. You deserve to be happy and he shouldn't be trying to control you and he should be giving you attention. You guys would have to work together. Give this lots of time and lots of thought. Good luck!
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I'm 13 years old. Nobody understands me. I hate life for many reasons, and think of how I could end it the most painless way. I can not help but think that death is the only way to get out of my situations. I feel as though if I don't care what's happening in my life than no one else should. I think about what I would say if I were to follow through with ending everything. I just hate the lies I hear every day. I hate the harassment and judgement I have to bare with every day. The only true reason why I don't kill myself is because I couldn't do that to my family. My dad told me that if I was to ever need to do anything he'd want to just think I ran away with a friend and I'm safe and not have to identify my corpse and have a funeral for his child he couldn't image that. I almost feel that is selfish. My mom offered me counseling but I didn't want it and now I just want help and she won't listen. I am the ugliest girl at my school and spends the weekends by myself. I must sound as though I through a pity party for myself to others but they just don't know what I go though. I don't know what to do to just be happy, can anyone help me? I tried actually socializing but I felt fake for I had to put on an act as though I'm having fun, when in all actuality I am in misery. Someone please help me. (link)
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Well you want help, you deserve it. That would be your best solution. Go talk to your mom again, explain to her that you do want help and that you're willing to get it.
Just hang in there, everything will get better eventually. You'll be happy in a few years. You have your whole life ahead of you. Death isn't the way you should be going right now, and you know that because you do want to live and you want the help. Everything will be ok.
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19/female. There's this guy, named Bryan who started talking to me over facebook. He went to my school, graduated 2 years before I did. We started texting and I began to like him, every time he'd text me he'd tell me to come cuddle, or that he wanted to give me a massage and that I was pretty every now and then he would mention my boobs or whatever but I figured thats every teenage boy. We'd always plan to hang out but we always ended up both getting to busy, but we'd still text. Well, there was one day that we both got time to chill so he came to pick me up, but it was really awkward. I got in his car and it was just silent the whole ride from my house to his. We get to his house and go straight to his room. I sat at the edge of his bed and we just sat there for a good 5 minutes before he asked me if I wanted a massage. I said no, because that was the first time for us to hang out and I figured that'd be awkward, he insisted on giving me a massage so I was like whatever and let him give me one, he told me to lay down, he stareted giving me the massage and the first 2 minutes were normal he was just rubbing my back, then he goes under my shirt, which I didn't mind to much either, but like 10 minutes into the massage he reached up my bra. I stopped him there because I didn't want things to get that personal on the first date, all I said was "woah, what are you doing?" he then stopped the whole massage and said he had things to do, and took me home. On our way back I asked him what he had to do and he said his mom was about to be home. We didn't talk the entire rest of the way to my house. When we got to my house, I said bye to him and thanked him for the massage. I haven't talked to him since. He hasn't texted me or anything. I want to text him, just to find out whats up, but i'm scared he won't reply, and i'm scared he's pissed at me. do you think he's mad that I didn't put out? I keep thinking that he thought I looked better on the internet than in person and that's why he quit talking to me? I just can't stop thinking about him though. I thought he was cute. Should I text him? or should I leave him alone, like I've been doing? if I do text him what should I say? why do you think he quit talking to me after we met? (link)
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Well I don't think you should text him. You should leave it alone until he texts you. He seems like the type of guy who just wants sex. Which is probably the reason why he quit talking to you so fast. He pushed the whole massage thing as a way to touch you and then go farther than that. He's just that type of guy. He moves way too fast.
Anyway, since he didn't get what he wanted is probably the reason why he stopped talking to you. If he texts you next, great. Tell him that you don't want to move that fast, you're not that type of girl. If he's a good guy, he'll understand.
But if things don't go as planned. Go find someone better. Find someone who has better standards than that. Good luck!
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hi im a 16 year old girl, how do you get waterproof mascara off?? i usually buy non waterproof mascara and i just take it off with water, but i bought the wrong one and now i can never take it off? any suggetions at home that i can take it off with?? or anything cheap but really good that works?
thanks! :) (link)
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Just go to the store and get make up remover. Most of them can remove waterproof mascara and eyeliner. Neutrogena works great and it isn't expensive. They have wipes and the kind you dab with a cotton ball.
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I've been going through a ton of stress for the past week (and will be for the next two weeks) due to the fact that my teachers thought it would be appropriate to assign major projects all due this week right before final exams. So, I've been stressing out lately, and last week I worked for about five hours a day to try to make a dent in all of these stupid projects I have. Anyway, I worked a ton last week, and then over the weekend I hung out with some friends (a normal thing for a teenager to do) and relaxed to try to de-stress myself. Well, whenever I relax my mom always gets mad at me and says I should be doing my homework. Then she goes on about how she never sees me work and all I do is lay around and listen to music. Whoa whoa whoa. Not the case AT ALL. I do my homework, then to relax (I'm very introverted) I listen to music. However, whenever I go upstairs to do my homework my mom assumes I'm goofing off, even though I tell her otherwise.
So I worked some this weekend, but not a ton because I wanted to relax. Today after school I was telling my mom how stressed out I was from all this work, but instead of being the reassuring motherly figure you always hear about in books and stuff, she yelled at me about how I never work and I need to stop complaining because I don't work. THIS IS NOT TRUE!!! That's what drives me crazy!!! And when I tell her this, she gets mad at me for "fighting everything she says."
So today after school, to prove to my mom that I work a lot, I came home and did five and a half hours of homework straight. Guess what? She yelled at me for "managing my time horribly." Then tonight she said to me "if you want to go to a bad college, that's okay!" and then she called into my brother "congrats on your straight A's, love you!" Well I am very stressed out right now, so what she said actually hurt me. I don't know what to do or what to say to her. Her comments about my work ethic are bothering me, and I feel like she gets mad at me no matter what I do. She's making me feel really stupid and she's adding unnecessary stress to my already stressed out state of being. (link)
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That's a tough situation. The best I can tell you is to ignore her comments and just continue doing your work. School is stressful, especially at the end of the year. It's gonna be hard to just to push her comments aside but when she says something, don't yell back, just take it in and be calm about it.
If you want to prove to your mom you do your work, try doing it downstairs where she'll see you. If there are too many distractions then just continue with what you do. Everything will turn out fine.
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Hey. So I'm sixteen, female. And this guy is eighteen. So basically, for two years I've been in love with the kid. He's been my best friend since freshman year (his sophomore year) and I never told him how I felt because I didn't want to lose our friendship. So we both dated other people but remained really really close. The only time we had an issue was when he started dating this one girl and he started ignoring me for her. And it really hurt. He realized what he was doing and he apologized. He told me there was no excuse for what he did and that he'd never do it again. This year, my junior year his senior year, we were both single and we started hooking up. And it went on for about six months... I knew it was a bad idea but I thought that maybe he was starting to fall for me. This kid was my best friend. We talked every single day, and he knows everything about me. But, yesterday he told me he wants to be "normal friends". I thought he just meant no longer hooking up and that was fine but then he told me he didn't even want to talk to me as much. I was shocked. until I found out he had been seeing that one girl he used to date, the one he ignored me for. we'll call her May.I told him I just had one question for him. I asked him, "why was I never good enough? What did I do wrong? I never want to be in this kind of situation again, so tell me, why am I not like May? Why have you never thought of me like that?" and he said to me, exact words: "You're not like May because I feel different around you than I do around her. Don't get me wrong you're a beautiful girl, I love hooking up with you.. but you're for fun. I feel something for her." and even though I asked him, and I wanted the truth, that truth really hurt. Now, I never wanted a relationship with this kid. He was never the only guy I was talking to, or the only guy I was hooking up with but he was always my favorite. If he ever asked me to be exclusive I would have done it for him. Now he's just a dick. I don't know what to do. I'm just really hurt and I don't know how to move on. This boy has meant so much to me for three years and I'm figuring out that I meant nothing to him. I went to every single one of his football and basketball games, I cried at his graduation. I've told him things I've never told anyone else. He punched my ex when my ex slapped me. I know I have to move on because he doesn't want me anymore and he's going to college soon anyone so we would have drifted apart but its so hard and I just don't know how to be someone that he misses. I know I messed some stuff up. I should have told him how I felt a long time ago. I shouldn't have hooked up with him. I should of done a lot of things but now I just want to know how to move on. Please help... (link)
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Oh man. This just happened to me yesterday lol. The guy I was hooking up with is two years older than me. I'm 17 and he's 19. It's like practically the same situation. We've been hooking up since last year during the times he came back from college. So like summer, thanksgiving, Christmas. Before he came home from summer he told me that he wanted it to be real. I've been dating around but I would've done anything for this guy. Well yeah, he told me that he woke up one morning and he didn't have feelings for me anymore. So I'm broken but I relate. Moving on is hard and I screwed myself over with believing in him but I think seeing other guys will help you. My advice is to cut contact. Like it's great to be friends but it'll never be the same, especially when you're trying to move on.
I hope things go better for you. If you ever want to email me or something my email is (removed)
I would love to talk because I'm trying to move on too. Good luck with everything!
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