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I have a prince charming. But I'm selfish.
I have been dating my boyfriend for 9 months, and he's amazing... He is very respectful, funny, so caring, and absolutely selfless. He does everything for me. I have a prince charming. But I'm selfish.
I've always been a very depressed person, and lately I am so off and on. He gives me everything, and I'm never happy. I always bitch and get jealous and freak... and I just feel horrible. He stays by my side no matter what but I am so close with just breaking it off because I know I shouldn't treat him this way.
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Your not selfish because selfish people don't admit they are, most of the time.If you have a great awesome guy that loves for who are don't let him go there's so many girls that wish to have a guy like that.You should let him know that you feel that way and see what he says he might even be there for you. If your planing on getting help for your depression you should let him know. iv had a depression before and i know how you feel. hope this helps (:
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The fact that you are looking to change this situation shows that you are not selfish, you are hurting. You are a wonderful person, and you deserve this wonderful boy, but you need to get help for your depression, so that you are yourself again. The way you act under depression isn't you. When you're not so depressed, try to explain to your boyfriend that you don't mean to act that way, and you would never ever want to hurt him. Saying "I'm selfish" and "I just feel horrible" is an oxymoron, and I hope you realize that. If you were selfish, you wouldn't care about hurting him. Good luck, and don't break it off! You are both very lucky to have each other :)
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You obviously want to change this situation, only you can do it.
Explain to him how you feel and ask him if he feels able to help you get out of this habitual depressed state you've got into. You'll both have to be strong in different ways, he'll have to learn to step back and allow you to do things for yourself and him too; you'll have to be very determined to act happy and pleasant almost ALL the time.
Give yourself regular time to be quiet, marking any changes in the situation and deciding what to do next. Get your guy to talk to you frankly about how your behaviour affects him and if he sees any improvements there. Try to be even-handed, both negative and positive points should be included. Then try to build on both of these to improve further.
Eventually, you should feel happy, relaxed and glad to be together, it won't be an act any more, being happy won't be a chore, it'll come naturally.
Good luck, hope this helps a bit. Let me know how you get on?
Best wishes xxx.
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I totally understand how you feel. You won't be happy in a relationship until you are happy with yourself. Work on yourself first before you try to deal with a relationship. It'll just be miserable for the two of you if you can't be happy no matter what he does. Let him know that, I'm sure he'll understand. Even if it's just a break, just take some time away from him.
The good thing though, is that you are aware of how you're acting. You'll figure everything out.
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