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Two guys like me and I like them both back!
Hey, umm two guys like me. I've liked them both for a while. Please don't say the second one because I don't really like the first guy after the second one came along; I know and I honestly say I can't remember which one I've like for longer!
Guy #1 Is lovely and we have a few things in common like music and stuff and we talk more than I do with the other one. However, he gets on my nerves sometimes, is very much more outgoing than me and other things I can't really expand on for the thought of being rude. I've known him for 3 years but only started talking to him in the last 6 months. He's sweet (sometimes gets a bit sickly for me ahaa), funny, talkative and a bit attractive. But I'm not sure whether we should just be friends because he is one of my closest friends and I don't want to ruin it :/. (He's really tall as well!!)
Guy #2: I've known him for 5 years and been friendly with him all of that time but properly in the last 3 months like the other guy. He is lovely and thoughtful and so great and pretty awesome. He is different to the other guy in that he's quite quiet and shy, but really nice to me and things. He is strange at times but it's endearing. He's isn't what I usually go for looks wise but that doesn't really mean much to me. I don't know him as well as the other guy but we're getting closer everyday.
Generally guy#1 lives a train ride away but I don't mind and we're going different colleges. Guy#2 lives about 3min walk from mine but he's going to a different college as well. They are great guys and they are friends as well so I feel awful for having to pick one but it's not fair to me or them to continue liking them both. I have just tried being their friends and not trying to flirt with them or anything and just tried to be myself around them.
Btw... I'm crap in relationships and have no idea how to act and stuff and it scares me, I'm quiet and a bit socially awkward.
If anyone has any advice on what to do or on what guy you think suits me better or whatever I would really appreciate it thanks x
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I honestly have no idea who is better for you and who isn't. I don't know you, I don't know the guys. They both seem like great guys. There are good things about both of them. If I was in your position, I wouldn't pick either. Since you don't know what you want, it's going to be hard to be focused on the guy you chose. Because who knows, maybe the other guy was the one you really wanted. Then you could possibly lose a good friend.
But if you did choose, pick the one you can see yourself with, the one who truly is a good guy and you know it and everyone else knows it. It's hard to find out about how a guy really is when you don't know everything about them, like how they are at home, with family, with friends.
You'll learn slowly in relationships. If the guy really likes you, he won't care if you're a bit awkward.
I hope everything works out for you!
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Me and a friend have both read your story and came up with our own conclusions. My advice: it sounds to me that guy 2 can relate to you alot and he may be a good match for you, but you know what they say, opposites attract, thats why im going with guy 1, plus, he can probably teach you alot of life lessons from the sounds of it. But im going to leave it open and say go with your heart, thats what came to my mind when i first started reading it. cause no one on earth would know who is right for you better than your own heart and inner guidance. Also, as for your fear of not knowing how to act, all i can say to that is Be Your Self. its as simple as that. if he is truly meant to be with you he will love you for who you are and how you act. the only time you ever need to change for anything is if You think you need to change for the greater good of all things.
Now for my friend's conclusion: just so you know from my nervous over reactive big heart i am new to relationships and also have no idea how to act and stuff and it scares me, I'm quiet and a bit socially awkward. but I know what scares me and gets the blood pumping also when in the moment of an appreciating partner can pave the way for a roller coaster ride of intense fun uplifting chemistry. In the appropriate manner becoming more outgoing with guy 1 would allow for precious moments to be manifested.
guy 2 on the other hand would allow you to start a relationship that would manifest itself at a level more equal to your current comfort area.
Follow your heart mind body and spirit. Starting a relationship is like having a salad, Feel free to add or remove vegitables or fruit to your liking.
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