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Randomly quit talking to me.
19/female. There's this guy, named Bryan who started talking to me over facebook. He went to my school, graduated 2 years before I did. We started texting and I began to like him, every time he'd text me he'd tell me to come cuddle, or that he wanted to give me a massage and that I was pretty every now and then he would mention my boobs or whatever but I figured thats every teenage boy. We'd always plan to hang out but we always ended up both getting to busy, but we'd still text. Well, there was one day that we both got time to chill so he came to pick me up, but it was really awkward. I got in his car and it was just silent the whole ride from my house to his. We get to his house and go straight to his room. I sat at the edge of his bed and we just sat there for a good 5 minutes before he asked me if I wanted a massage. I said no, because that was the first time for us to hang out and I figured that'd be awkward, he insisted on giving me a massage so I was like whatever and let him give me one, he told me to lay down, he stareted giving me the massage and the first 2 minutes were normal he was just rubbing my back, then he goes under my shirt, which I didn't mind to much either, but like 10 minutes into the massage he reached up my bra. I stopped him there because I didn't want things to get that personal on the first date, all I said was "woah, what are you doing?" he then stopped the whole massage and said he had things to do, and took me home. On our way back I asked him what he had to do and he said his mom was about to be home. We didn't talk the entire rest of the way to my house. When we got to my house, I said bye to him and thanked him for the massage. I haven't talked to him since. He hasn't texted me or anything. I want to text him, just to find out whats up, but i'm scared he won't reply, and i'm scared he's pissed at me. do you think he's mad that I didn't put out? I keep thinking that he thought I looked better on the internet than in person and that's why he quit talking to me? I just can't stop thinking about him though. I thought he was cute. Should I text him? or should I leave him alone, like I've been doing? if I do text him what should I say? why do you think he quit talking to me after we met?
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It's obvious what his intentions are. He wants to have sex with you and that's it. When you talk to a boy and he talks about your looks and your body and how he wants to feel on your body, those are red flags. He has no respect for you. Also, on your first date you went to his room. What does that say about him? When you permit a boy to treat you this way and allow him to feel on you even against your will it gives the boy a perception of you that is not good. You lead him to believe that you were willing to give it up. You must set up boundaries for yourself and not bring them down because a boy is cute. Remember, a relationship is not based off of sex. If all a boy can talk about is sex then he is not worthy of your time. The boy was just grooming you to get in your panties. He saw you wasn't giving it up so he moved to the next one. If not, he wants you to chase him so that he can have you in the palm of his hand.
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Some boys are like that but dont worry about it girl cuz all he wants is to get in your pants. i hate to say it but most of the time guys you meet online and havent met before are only looking for sex. When you stopped him when you thought he was going too far that was good because that shows that you arent afraid to stand up for what you are not comfortable with. Some guys cannot accept that though and they assume its because they are not good enough or whatever :P he probably wasnt worth it and you will find a guy that can respect you:)
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If all you want to do is have sex with him, text him. If you think you're going to want anything beyond that, you're not going to get it, so don't.
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Well I don't think you should text him. You should leave it alone until he texts you. He seems like the type of guy who just wants sex. Which is probably the reason why he quit talking to you so fast. He pushed the whole massage thing as a way to touch you and then go farther than that. He's just that type of guy. He moves way too fast.
Anyway, since he didn't get what he wanted is probably the reason why he stopped talking to you. If he texts you next, great. Tell him that you don't want to move that fast, you're not that type of girl. If he's a good guy, he'll understand.
But if things don't go as planned. Go find someone better. Find someone who has better standards than that. Good luck!
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He sounds like a jerk. If EVERYTIME you talked he mentioned cuddling with you and even went as far as talking about your boobs. I think that sounds wrong. It seems like he just wanted to get physical. Especially the part where you reject him an then emediately decides to take you home right after. You should be proud of yourself for keeping good values and my trying to take things too far on the first day of hanging out. Peoplego I deserve a guy who you be interested in getting to know you and be willing to hang out with you "with or without messages".
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