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Hey. So I'm sixteen, female. And this guy is eighteen. So basically, for two years I've been in love with the kid. He's been my best friend since freshman year (his sophomore year) and I never told him how I felt because I didn't want to lose our friendship. So we both dated other people but remained really really close. The only time we had an issue was when he started dating this one girl and he started ignoring me for her. And it really hurt. He realized what he was doing and he apologized. He told me there was no excuse for what he did and that he'd never do it again. This year, my junior year his senior year, we were both single and we started hooking up. And it went on for about six months... I knew it was a bad idea but I thought that maybe he was starting to fall for me. This kid was my best friend. We talked every single day, and he knows everything about me. But, yesterday he told me he wants to be "normal friends". I thought he just meant no longer hooking up and that was fine but then he told me he didn't even want to talk to me as much. I was shocked. until I found out he had been seeing that one girl he used to date, the one he ignored me for. we'll call her May.I told him I just had one question for him. I asked him, "why was I never good enough? What did I do wrong? I never want to be in this kind of situation again, so tell me, why am I not like May? Why have you never thought of me like that?" and he said to me, exact words: "You're not like May because I feel different around you than I do around her. Don't get me wrong you're a beautiful girl, I love hooking up with you.. but you're for fun. I feel something for her." and even though I asked him, and I wanted the truth, that truth really hurt. Now, I never wanted a relationship with this kid. He was never the only guy I was talking to, or the only guy I was hooking up with but he was always my favorite. If he ever asked me to be exclusive I would have done it for him. Now he's just a dick. I don't know what to do. I'm just really hurt and I don't know how to move on. This boy has meant so much to me for three years and I'm figuring out that I meant nothing to him. I went to every single one of his football and basketball games, I cried at his graduation. I've told him things I've never told anyone else. He punched my ex when my ex slapped me. I know I have to move on because he doesn't want me anymore and he's going to college soon anyone so we would have drifted apart but its so hard and I just don't know how to be someone that he misses. I know I messed some stuff up. I should have told him how I felt a long time ago. I shouldn't have hooked up with him. I should of done a lot of things but now I just want to know how to move on. Please help...
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Moving on won't be easy, but It'll sure be worth it. You'll have to gradually let him go simply because you got too deep in without really knowing how he felt about you.Now that you know how he really feels, you shouldn't really feel bad about letting him go. Sure its hard, but look at it as spilled milk. All you need is a good mop and maybe a few towels and its gone. You can totally do it sweetheart!! Much luck to you, and be strong.
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Oh man. This just happened to me yesterday lol. The guy I was hooking up with is two years older than me. I'm 17 and he's 19. It's like practically the same situation. We've been hooking up since last year during the times he came back from college. So like summer, thanksgiving, Christmas. Before he came home from summer he told me that he wanted it to be real. I've been dating around but I would've done anything for this guy. Well yeah, he told me that he woke up one morning and he didn't have feelings for me anymore. So I'm broken but I relate. Moving on is hard and I screwed myself over with believing in him but I think seeing other guys will help you. My advice is to cut contact. Like it's great to be friends but it'll never be the same, especially when you're trying to move on.
I hope things go better for you. If you ever want to email me or something my email is (removed)
I would love to talk because I'm trying to move on too. Good luck with everything!
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