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I have recently started going on dates with many guys, as well as making new friendships. Now I have four guys who are all interested in me, but I do not know which one to go for. I am very athletic ad adventurous, outgoing, chill, person. So the first guy is older than me, he is a different nationality, very good looking, I met all his friends and they're all really great. He just isn't as adventurous as I am. The second guy is also older but we have alot in common. I have known him for along time but I never thought o us dating ever throughout the years of knowing him. So maybe I'm not that into him? The third has gotten me into fishing, he likes hiking with me and loves my dogs as much as I do. Te fourth is my age, cute ad we have alot of similarities, he also broke up with his girlfriend after he had started talking to me, and he was discussing it with me before, he is also someone I have known for a long time. I am also a 19years old. (link)
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They all seem like nice guys. You don't need someone who is into all the same things you are. It does help and it makes it easier to pick things to do but also picking someone different is exciting.
Anyways, I'd pick the guy who makes you happier but can also help you be a better person as well as treat you right.
You don't have to rush this, take your time to think about it.
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So this boy I was with for about two years hasnt really been talking to me. Im kinda over him but he still crosses my mind alot. I had a dream last night about how our relationship used to be. I woke up crying. He was my first REAL boyfrined. He was my bestfriend. My everything kind of. He helped me through any and everything but how do i tell myself to move on to someone else? Without feeling like crap :/
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It will definitely take some time to get over him. You just have to let yourself do it. You're getting over him slowly and it will take awhile for you to stop having those thoughts of missing him. It still happens to me sometimes.
In the mean time, do other things to keep your mind off him. You deserve to be happy and not have some guy take over your mind right?
Be happy that he was important and a good influence in your life. He's just one person that was passing through your life. There are probably going to be many more.
Go enjoy your life and eventually you'll move on to someone better.
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Okay so... I have this um, inner problem. Okay let me start by saying that I'm sixteen right mow. Okay so I've been in this small clique since seventh grade. I wont tell you names but we we're four. Me A, E and T. Okay so I was always the one that was always shadowed by the rest because of my extreme shyness. Over the years though I've managed to get over it mostly - enough to dance and act. So in eight grade E left the school because she had really low grades but we kept on going out together to places like the movies. In ninth grade A distanced herself during the second semester so it was mostly T and I. What always angered me though, was that... Well A was always perfect and T was the same and at times E and T fought over who got to sit or work with A. I of course kept quiet during all that time and I never said anything. After A started hanging out with other girls me and T became BFFF's. I know that it's really wrong of me but... She and A are always sooo perfect... I get jealous OK? A has a boyfriend and has had some others before and everybody loves her and they think she's a total angel... They both had excellence on middle school graduation, they're good at every subject, they can dance, act, sing, they are social butterflies, they're pretty, they've both had their first kisses - I havn't - and T had it with the boy I'm NOW sort of crushing on... I feel so dumb, ugly, anti-social and depressed whenever they are around. I love T she's my bfff but there are times in which I can't stand seeing her and in turn I feel like a monster... My dad and mom fight all day and my mom had a meltdown in the laboratory and thanks to that I had to get four inyections - not only did I had to take a blood test but also an MRI because I might have epilepsy - Ok I think I just had a meltdown and I have a serious headache so I'll make this clear.
What do I do? Should I act like nothing's wrong? Or... Idk answer me soon so I can stop pitying myself into a dark miserable hole :( (link)
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Most girls get like this sometimes. It's hard when you start getting jealous of friends that you care about. You end up thinking bad things about them and it just doesn't end well.
Here's my opinion, you shouldn't worry about being perfect. You probably already know that. It's easier said than done. But it is true, no one is perfect and you can't let it get to you. Jealousy is ugly and you don't want to do that to yourself.
Friends are also more important than boys. Boys aren't worth the drama they cause with friends. You're 16, you have so much more time to deal with guys and first kisses. It's really not that big of a deal. In my opinion, the longer you wait, the better it will be. Like you probably won't regret it.
Here's what you should do. Let go of the bitterness held towards your friends, find some new friends but don't lose touch with your close ones right now, and work on the jealousy problem.
Tackle one thing at a time.
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I am 16 and I have many issues but I think I am a slut I have had sex with 4 guys but they were only one night stands I suck dick all the time and have had 2 pregnancy scares. I go out with a new guy every night and they are always much older than me(18, 19, and 20) I dress in revealing clothes, send a lot of dirty pictures and sext, I party and get high with multiple guys.Currently Im talking to 11 guys and 4 of them are my "boyfriends"...... I am a player and I've had some StDs also I have belly button piercing and a tattoo on my hip leading down to my vaginal area.... am I slut????????????????? (link)
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I agree with the person below. If you consider yourself a slut and accept it, then you aren't going to change.
You're 16, you have plenty of time to change. It will be hard but you should get help. Go talk to someone, possibly a counselor.
It'll be fun for awhile but you're putting yourself in bad situations and who knows what could happen. You don't want to end up pregnant and you don't want anymore STDs.
If you want to change, you will. Start by cutting things off with these guys. Go talk to someone and get some help.
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For a while I was talking to one good friend every day. About 3 days ago we stopped talking and I don't feel right not talking to him. I talk to my girlfriends still, but we don't talk long. I would like to meet new friends but summer just started and I don't know what to do when I feel out of place except watch television and eat. (link)
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The best way to find friends is to get out there! Start doing things you enjoy and then you'll meet lots of people. It'll be easier to get along with them when you have something in common and something to talk about it.
Try to make plans with your girlfriends to go out and do something. You should have fun during the summer. Go to the beach, fairs, ice cream, hanging out. There is so much you can do. Just get some friends together or just go meet some new people.
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Okay, well I had a thing for school that is a Music Festival. Well, there is this guy I know and he is three years older than me. I had a boyfriend at this time and this guy wasn't him. Well, I was around this guy all day I would hold his hand. At one point me and him went into the choir room and there wasn't anyone else in there. So, he fingered me and I gave him a hand job. He kept trying to get me to make out with him. And, we laid on a couch cuddling together. Well, then at the end of the day we ended up making out for at least five minuets and then he tried to have sex with me. Now remember, I had a boyfriend. Well, a couple days later we had sex and I felt so bad so I broke up with my boyfriend instead of telling him the truth. I now have a totally different boyfriend but I still feel guilty and I love the other guy not my ex. But, I love my boyfriend now just not as much.! (link)
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Okay well you're not a slut or a whore. You're just a cheater. It was extremely wrong for you to do that but you know that. You just don't know what you want.
So here's something, I can relate to you. A couple years ago I had a boyfriend but I liked a guy a couple years older than me. We ended up making out, I cheated on my boyfriend. I've always liked the other guy, then I ended up getting a new boyfriend. So I've been in your situation and learned from it.
You shouldn't be with your current boyfriend. You just need time for yourself. You need time to think about how you really feel. Don't keep your heart set on the other guy you hooked up with because who knows what he really wants.
But right now, you shouldn't be with your current boyfriend. It's not fair to him to have a girlfriend who's heart isn't there and it's not fair to you because you aren't that happy.
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I went over to my friends house the other day with four other people. Two of them are dating and the other two are dating also. We watched a movie and all my 2 friends did was make out! Is it stupid for me to think that it was really rude? I mean they could have at least gone into a different room right? I think there is a limit on PDA and they crossed it.... Is that wrong to think this? Oh btw I'm 14 and a girl. (link)
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It's definitely not wrong to think this. It was extremely rude of them to do that. Why would you want to hang out with them if all they're going to do is make out?
Holding hands and a couple kisses here and there isn't a bad thing but making out while you're all watching a movie is ridiculous.
During prom we went in a limo and we have two friends that are dating. The whole ride home they were making out. Even though there was about 6 other people, it was still extremely rude. You don't do that when you're with your friends. They need to find somewhere else to do that.
Tell them that you don't want to ruin their fun or anything but it's kinda rude to make out while you're sitting there. If they're gonna keep it up then you're not going to hang around them as much because you're just going to be the third wheel and feel awkward.
Good luck!
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Okay, so the other day my two best friends got into a fight and they haven't talked since. My other friend and I have something to do, and the other one is inviting me to do something, and I know that if I choose a side, I'll end up losing one of the two, and honestly, I just want them to get over it, and we could be okay again. Any help on this? (link)
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I agree with the person below me. It's not fair to you that you can't be friends with both of them. It's their fight that they need to deal with and it shouldn't involve you.
You need to talk to both of them and explain that you are still going to hang out with the other one because this is their fight and you're not going to take sides.
If one gets mad, let them deal with it. This is their fight, remember that. Tell them that you don't want to lose them because of this and that you're not getting in the middle.
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Okay, well I am a 13 year old who is really developed. So I went to a water park and me this guy named Jordan. Well, I didn't even know him before today. So a couple hours after I met him, we started to hold hands. But, Jordan wanted more than holding hands. He wanted to kiss me. Well, he kept trying to talk me into it. He tried touching my boobs to get me to do it. Well, I ended up doing it. He was a good kisser....................... But I want to know if it sounds like he just likes me for my boobs and butt. Or if he really likes me. Please help me figure it out! Thanks a lot! (: (link)
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Well trying to touch your boobs to get you to kiss him is totally wrong. So yeah, it's definitely a possibility that he's trying to move way too fast. You should never let a guy touch you like that. Guys need to learn that no is no. Holding hands is fine and cute but you can't move so fast in one day. Then on top of that he keeps trying to talk you into it. He should move at your pace and not try to push you into more. Plus you're 13, you don't need all that. You're going to have to deal with that for years so try looking for good guys right now.
Don't settle for some cute guy who just wants to touch and kiss you. Or one that will try to persuade you to do more.
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So I've finally talked to him, he seems all nice and kind, but what now? Should I just ask him straight up or hint it? Thanks so much
Btw this is from the question
"So there's this guy in my class that I've had a crush on for AGES but I've never actually talked to him. I get all nervous when I try and I'll refuse to go anywhere near him. But recently, there is this rumor going on that he likes me too. And suddenly, I notice all sorts of signs. The other day, he was staring at me across the classroom. I'm so confused. I mean, it's just a rumor, right?" (link)
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If you don't really have an idea of how he feels for you then I'd hint at it and see how he reacts. If he reacts good to it, that means he could possibly be interested in you. If he doesn't, well you know, that's kind of obvious. I'd continue talking to him and start hinting a little bit.
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I'm from Canada. Anyways there's this guy in one of my classes and I really like him and I don't know how to act around him and make it not so obvious that I like him... So how do I act around him so it's not that obvious that I like him? (link)
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Just treat him like you would treat a friend. Try to forget about those feelings so it would be easier for you to not act like you like him. So just think of him as a friend and act like that so you can feel comfortable around him.
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I like this guy he has a girlfriend but asks to see me and asks me to kiss him and I won't..he says his relationship is complicated. I finally told him I am worth more than a secret and we have to stop talking he acted like he didn't even care. I do want to b around him. Should I ignore him.. Help.. I think he has feelings for me as well (link)
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Just because his relationship is complicated doesn't mean he can just go around and kiss other girls. He's pretty much showing you that he can't be trusted or faithful when things get hard.
You're completely right, he should break up with his girlfriend if he wanted to kiss you.
Then you said he acted like he didn't even care when you told him you're worth more than a secret.
Ok if you two were to get together and things got complicated, he'd probably end up talking to someone else he's interested in and tell them that he wants to kiss them too.
I'm sure you can find someone better than that.
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Okay before I say anything, please try not to judge my feelings, thoughts or me. I just need advice on what to do at this situation. Okay, here goes.
So long story short, I have a boyfriend now that I've been dating for about 3 weeks. I don't really like him and I've been going back and forth on if I should break up with him or give him some chance in hopes that I find him more likable. He's a good friend but I just don't find him to be my boyfriend, I just kind of panicked and said yes when he asked me out. Silly me.
Today I met two of his friends. I've actually talked to both of them a bit on skype because we all play this online game. Now the real problem. It is sad that I find both of his friend more intriguing than my own boyfriend (granted, I don't really like him like that). Also I think I want to pursue one of the friend. I am pretty sure he is single and he was really easy to get along with and it seems like we have more to talk about. At this point I am completely lost and don't know what to do. I want to break up with my boyfriend because I don't think it's fair I am with him when I don't even like him but then it will be awkward between me and two guys that are his friends and yeah I am being selfish but someone just help me please. (link)
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You should break it off with him. If you're not happy now, I'm pretty sure you aren't going to be happy later. You're not even thinking about him, you're thinking about his friends. It's totally wrong to stay with him, you already know that. So it's better to just end it.
As with his friend that you're interested in. I wouldn't go jump at him. He's you're boyfriends friend so I'd just give it time. If you and his both continue talking then maybe in the future you should try to pursue him because you don't want to cause problems with him and his friends.
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So there's this guy in my class that I've had a crush on for AGES but I've never actually talked to him. I get all nervous when I try and I'll refuse to go anywhere near him. But recently, there is this rumor going on that he likes me too. And suddenly, I notice all sorts of signs. The other day, he was staring at me across the classroom. I'm so confused. I mean, it's just a rumor, right? (link)
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It's possible it is just a rumor but you'll never know unless you try to talk to him. You just need to talk to him like any other guy. Try to be his friend. Talk to him a little bit and gradually build it up. Eventually you two will become friends.
It's better to start relationships as friends than strangers who like each other. It'll just be awkward. If he doesn't like you like that, then you at least have a new friendship out of it. You really have nothing to lose.
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my friend just got a new boyfriend and he lives close to me ,so my friend wants to come to my house and go for a walk so she can meet up with him. But my mom always tells me before we go on walks to not run into any boys (I'm 13). So if we do go on the walk and my mom figures out what happened my mom will probably not trust me any more. but if I tell her before the walk she could say anything (she could maybe allow us to go but i don't know). So do you think i should tell my mom or keep it a secret. (link)
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It would be better if you told her. It's better than her finding out and never trusting you again. She might even let you go. If she doesn't, then tell your friend that your mom said no. She'll just have to meet up with her boyfriend some other way. Lying to your mom isn't worth it.
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Well, me and my boyfriend have been together for 3 months now and, he suddenly started avoiding and ignoring me. Everytime I get on Skype my bestfriend (male) invites me into the chat and so on my boyfriend leaves the room, it makes me feel guilty and sensitive. My bestfriend is also his bestie. he told me he is jealous on our friend relationship with my bestfriend. There is also another subject, it's a girl. They've been besties for 5 years and, I also get jealous. Since then, I have been lonely. I have not been able to contact my truster for this talk so,I had an option here.
-Millyboo (link)
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Talk to him about it. Don't make it into a fight or anything. Just flat out ask him why he's avoiding you. Once he tells you the problem, see if you both can fix it. Jealousy can ruin relationships. You don't want that so try to fix it. Not by controlling who you both can be friends with but by controlling yourself.
You both can be friends with whoever you want, it doesn't mean you see your other friend as something more. Don't get jealous of his friend because he is with you, he chose you.
Same with him being jealous about your friend. You're with him, you chose him. If you wanted to be with your friend you wouldn't be with your boyfriend.
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i came on my period on may 1st when am i do for another period? (link)
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It's usually every month. So first week of June, last week of May. Some girls have irregular periods so it's hard to tell when you're next period could come.
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okay so my friends boyfriend was at this end of the school year party with us. He stayed mostly by me andmy other friend Alyssa. Bailey is the in one dating the guy so he ignores her. i felt bad not being by her so i talked 2 her. she was pissed off with her bf being by us n not her. so i go back by him and alyssa 2 find out hes flirting with us. asking us if he was hot, making us laugh etc. so now...if hes flirting with us how could we explain this 2 bailey and if he would b interested in us and how 2 have him admit it if he likes me and alyssa without him knowing...
female, age:15
by, XxKittyxX
thnx if u give me a good answer cause its importent to let bailey know about this owo (link)
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Just straight up tell her. It'll probably be hard for her to try to believe what you say since her boyfriend will probably say something different. He spent the time at the party with you guys, it shows that he's being a jerk already.
You probably won't be able to get him to tell her without him knowing unless you record him or have her around when he's flirting or something.
You're being a good friend by telling her. You just have to tell her and hope she believes you. If not, she'll find out the hard way.
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There is a boy I dated and he said it wasn't working out for him.And he said he didn't like me. So we broke up and I still can not get over him because I see him every day so I can not avoid him. (link)
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Act like you don't care. Eventually you really won't care. Focus on other things. Start trying to move on, look at other guys. Try to become interested in someone else. You'll get over him, believe me.
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hi i'm a 17 year old female, about to be 18 in july. my boyfriend is 18, turning 19. anyways, we've had quite the past where before he was really very bad to me, lying all the time talking to other girls. but now everything is better (that happened over a year ago). but i can't seem to get over the trust issue, i try really hard but i can't help it that little things make me upset and i easily get jealous. he's in the marines so i never get to see him, and i get a little worried when he goes out to the bars with his friends, and i worry his friends will talk him into going to the club since that's something they all like to do. i'm more worried about girls going after him, than him going after someone else, but still. okay, so i kind of like to know who he's friends with on facebook, and this is my problem currently...but he added a girl i didn't like so i asked him to delete her, so he did, there was no problem. but then she magically appeared on his friends again...so i got a little ticked off, cause obviously he approved this, and i asked if he could remove her again, so he did. but now he's hiding his friends from me.. is it because i'm too controlling? or is he hiding things from me? i don't care that he has girl friends, it just depends on the girl, like some random girl i wouldn't be okay with, or a slut that i know of, or a girl who has a history of trying to ruin our relationship (she happens to fall in the last two categories) i just don't want to push him away, but i'm curious as to why he did this? i want to ask him but i don't want him to get pissy. we're usually really open, and we've been together almost 2 years now. thank you for your help! sorry for the length haha (link)
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It makes sense that you still have trust issues. But trust is an important part of a relationship. If you can't trust him, then the relationship won't last or won't be a good one.
It's his fault you have trust problems but you forgave him.
If I was in your position, I'd be doing the same thing. Especially if he hid his friends from you.
I'd ask him about it. Just talk to him calmly, to yell or pick a fight. If he gets mad, its not your fault. He'd be overreacting.
Be brave, you deserve the truth and if you can't trust him, you guys shouldn't be together.
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