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I can't decide if I am a slut/whore...
Okay, well I had a thing for school that is a Music Festival. Well, there is this guy I know and he is three years older than me. I had a boyfriend at this time and this guy wasn't him. Well, I was around this guy all day I would hold his hand. At one point me and him went into the choir room and there wasn't anyone else in there. So, he fingered me and I gave him a hand job. He kept trying to get me to make out with him. And, we laid on a couch cuddling together. Well, then at the end of the day we ended up making out for at least five minuets and then he tried to have sex with me. Now remember, I had a boyfriend. Well, a couple days later we had sex and I felt so bad so I broke up with my boyfriend instead of telling him the truth. I now have a totally different boyfriend but I still feel guilty and I love the other guy not my ex. But, I love my boyfriend now just not as much.! <3 What can I do? And am I a slut/whore?
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Okay well you're not a slut or a whore. You're just a cheater. It was extremely wrong for you to do that but you know that. You just don't know what you want.
So here's something, I can relate to you. A couple years ago I had a boyfriend but I liked a guy a couple years older than me. We ended up making out, I cheated on my boyfriend. I've always liked the other guy, then I ended up getting a new boyfriend. So I've been in your situation and learned from it.
You shouldn't be with your current boyfriend. You just need time for yourself. You need time to think about how you really feel. Don't keep your heart set on the other guy you hooked up with because who knows what he really wants.
But right now, you shouldn't be with your current boyfriend. It's not fair to him to have a girlfriend who's heart isn't there and it's not fair to you because you aren't that happy.
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Mmmm...You're neither a slut nor a whore,stop troubleling your head with this,the thing is that if you do know that what you're doing in not correct,then that makes you a cheater.In my humblest opinion, what you really really ought to do is to be alone for awhile,sleep on it,think about what you actually want to do,who you actually want or need to be with.You see?Now you are not sure who you love more,that's not right and you know it,so start working honey,grow up and stop thinking you're a whore bc you're not:)(this is just a learning process)
ps(no one will prevent you from being whatever you wanna be in life,but whatever path you decide to follow,try not to hurt anybody)
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You're not a slut/whore but what you did was wrong and makes you a cheater. You say you feel guilty now and you love the guy you are with now but not as much as the guy you cheated with on your ex. Before being unhappy again and then looking for love elswhere which is what you did here. Come clean! Go to your ex and tell him why you guys broke up - he deserves to know. It will give you both peace of mind and allow you guys to move on. As for the guy who you cheated with - talk to him. If you're still in touch and you love him like you say you do then do something about it, don't just go out with some other guy in the meantime to 'fill a gap.' In order to have a successful relationship you have to be happy. So in order for you to be happy you have to come clean to your ex and admit your feelings to this other guy. Tell you current boyfriend what you will be doing, as you should have learnt by now keeping things isn't the way to go.
Inbox me if you need more help, good luck, hope this helps.
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