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Well, I'm a 16 year old female and my boyfriend and i have been together for about a year now. We are so much alike and everything has been absolutely perfect. But no, really.
We waited a while (about 9 months) before we lost our virginity to each other.
My parents absoluetly love him and he spends the night all the time.
There is never any awkwardness between us.
When we tell each other that we love each other, there is no doubt in either of our minds that it isn't the truth.
And he proves it through the smallest gestures.
I don't know, it really IS unexplainable.

How do you know if you're truly in love?

only you know when youre in love...to me it looks like you are but its up to you.


cute!

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I don't know what you would put this under. but I am in a crisis people. haha I have to babysit a 2 year old on Saturday with my dad who wouldn't care if he got run over by a truck. The child is wild. He is my nephew and I have to baby sit him for 5 hours. 7:30am to noon. What can I do to keep him under control. Sorry if this is a stupid question but I am nerved wreched. No smart remarks either/ thanks in advance.

13/f. Neika

well if they have a basement thats like a playroom that he cant escape from or play with knives in, play there. get some toys out or watch a special movie with him. eat breakfast and lunch with him...take you time! push him on a swing, play hide and seek...(he wont go far, trust me and peak but dont find him right away.) thats what i did when i babysat my neighbor.

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13/m I know I'm going through puberty. I just know it. I'm starting to feel the true emotions (love, rejection, jealousy, etc), and I'm starting to be cleverer (I'm starting to beat my dad at chess, which I haven't done for 8 years.) But despite these mental changes, I'm still physically the same. I mean, sure, I've started to get erections, but it's not like I'm showing that off at school! It's really annoying, how I have the highest voice in the school, and I'm the shortest guy in all my classes. Facial hair, I really don't give a damn, but now a few people think my high voice is annoying, and it annoys me too, and also my parents don't believe that I'm in love because I haven't shown any physical signs of puberty, and thusly I can't have had any mental either. What should I do? (Note: Smartasses get 1s and WILL be reported)

hey dont worry about it! youll show sooner or later and about the voice thing..some guys naturally have higher voices. actually the tenor voice is the natural male voice. )even if you dont sing, that applies) dont rush anything...you will get there! no parent believes their child is in love at 13...even if you look like your 21, you still are 13.

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ok my birthday is coming up soon well not really but i like to know things before ok my birthday is in the spring and i was wondering what are some fun things to do like what games and where can i have it at like my house or like bowling rink or skating place. i dont know can you give me more ideas and things to do with about 13 people i go to private school and theres about 13 in my class.i rate high

in the spring? oh my youre excited! lol. well it depends how old you are, know what i mean? like for my friends 13/14 birthday party, we all went to the bowling alley for glow bowl at night then back to her house and had cake and hung out in her basement then the boys left and the girls slept over. it was a lot of funn! you could just have a grillout too. there was this other party i went to...we had a "game night" and we played guesstures, taboo..stuff like that till it got dark outside. then we went and played ghost in the graveyard and sardines in her backyard. it was awesome and its good to do it in the spring! hope that helps and let me know if you need more ideas!

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Im 13-f and i'm in theatre. They auditioned me for a part and it was the part that I really wanted and I didnt get it I got stuck with this whole other stupid thing. Im not even in the play. I know im a good actress and its my dream but they wont give me a chance. I feel like my dream is cruched. what should I do?

dont freak out! your still young! where i do theatre, everyone has to read a part for a lead and then they place you accordingly. the older participants get better parts. just do your best in whatever you got then next audition show them what your made of. (everyone has felt this way, trust me!) i have a prof. that works with us...he also does miss america pagents, etc, and he said that once you get into the business, 49 agencies/shows will reject you but if you stick around for the 50th, youll get the part. if you really wanna get some experience to help you, join another theatre group for another show then go back to the original one. goodluck!

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is there any way to boost your sex drive?

dont have sex or do anything sexual for a long time till you feel your ready to burst with excitement then do it all. just a thought...

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okay well my friend is kindof a eater i mean when were at lunch she eats alot plus everyone elses food i dont want to tell her she should stop eating cause shes fat but like how do i tell her cause shes my friend and i dont want her to regret it when she gets older for being a lil big and ya know i dont want to hurt her feelings

"i heard cookies arent real good for you..." dont be like ah stop eating you cow, just sugest being healthy buddies and promise to not let each other get fat. my friend and her sister did that and theyre both ok in size. if you need anything else just ask!

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Hi... im 13 female and my friend is 8 years old and she just got her period... she has no mom or sisters or brothers and i kno this family very well and the dad asked me to help... but my friend is only in the 4th grade..... she hasnet even had the talk yet.... i need some major helpon this one.... wat supplies can i give her and how can i help her!!?!?!

thnxs

just tell her whats going on with her body...since your 13 you probably know what it is. the talk has nothing to do with it except for if shes planning on having sex and making babies now that she has it. give her some pads...start out with pretty light ones and show her how to use them. its not a dificult task...people have been through this for ages.

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what is tea bags like when guys say im gonna tea bag you what is it?

eww. well i found out now...heres the definition:
http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=tea+bag

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Okay, this girl requested to be my friend on myspace, and I sort of know her as a friend, so I just added her back. Well, apparently she's new to the whole thing and gets freaked out by those weird Bulletins if anyone knows what I mean. (If you have a myspace, I'm talking about the bulletins people post saying you'll die if you dont repsost this and stuff) Well, someone on her friends list posted one of those..and she took it very seriously. She told her parents, and they have called the police. Then the police called everyone on her buddies to notify them not to go on myspace because apparently in the chain letter it said stuff that was personal about everyone on her buddies, and the last time this happened someone actually did get killed. Now, this girl happens to only have 10 ppl on her friends, so it was easy to contact everyone seeing how she only added people in her niehgborhood, ha. But I am one of the people on her buddies, and we've already been called.

Here's the thing, my mom answered the phone when the police called, and she doesn't really care about the whole thing, because this girl is known to be over dramatic. BUT, if my mom tells my dad he will FREAK. Not only because my picture is on the internet, but because there's someonE I don't know who knows all my personal information. WHAT am I supposed to do? If my dad finds out he will ban me from the computer for ages, and I'm going to be needing it a lot lately, so PLEASE any advice would help mE!

Thank you soo much!

well for starters, erase your personal info on your page. then say you know her through a friend you actually know or somthing. take down your picture and put up a cartoon or somthing. you can just shut down the ste and make a different one later and not post anything personal.

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Hey I had my period for the past 2-3 years now. Now that I'm getting oldr and going out with more people I have started to use tampons. Thats not the problem, I get them to go in, but it hurts like an ubbearable pain. When I get it all the way up it feels like it is rubbing against something, like it is trying to break threw it. (it can't be my cherry I'm not a virign) My friend said to make it hurt less she put vasaline on the of the tampon and it went in fine. So my question is should I try the vasaline thing, or is there something wrong?

Thanks

its too far in or just the wrong size. since your not a virgin its kinda surprising that it would hurt you.maybe dont put it in as far up, see how that feels.

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Hi im 13 yrs old and my twin sister is mentally challenged.. i started my period about 6 months ago.... but now she has and shes askin a lot of questions... my mom want me to talk to her about the birds and the bees.... but wat do i say.. does any1 have any suggestions on easy ways to understand all this???

I rate high!!!!

Thanks

awww well im glad your willing to help her out. i would get some books on explaining sex to young children (like the ones that say those are your private parts and nothing goes in there until you want to make babies) if she gets her period, show her how to use a pad in the bathroom. (i know of some girls like her that try to in the clasroom...) just take it really slow and make sure she can take care of it. as for the sex talk, i dont think shell be needing it this early...(i didnt get the talk until like wayy after then) unless theres fear of someone taking advantage of her because of her disablity.

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okay.

13 f

and im starting to grow hair / down there \
and under my arms like armpits lol
and my chest are thickening

and also, i have a discharge.

should i wear pads just incase if it comes
any day now?
how long does it usually take
for your period to start?
yes i know every body has their own speed for ther puberty thing to start.

ill rate 5s if you can serisouly help!

your just now going through puberty...that doesnt mean youll get your period in the next week, trust me! dont wear pads everyday and live your life in misery. carry a thin liner in your backpack if you really worried. the first time you get it, theres barely anything there...toilet paper could get you through the day and you can get supplies after. just take that advice...save yourself the trouble.

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I'm SO scared!! My Bat Mitzvah is in the second week of October! My hebrew school is very layed back and say that the hebrew is not the important part of becoming bat mitzvah. But, i don't want to make a fool of my self!! I have been practiciing very hard but when i go up in front of people to talk all my practiciing goes down the drain! Practicing in front of my parents won't help at all. How can I fell confident about my ceremony??

i know you really dont want to mess up and im sure everyone has felt that way...try to do your best. think about it...everyone in the room has most likely done that when they had their bat/bar mitzvah. im sure youll do fine. if you mess up just keep going!

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hi im 13 and i havent started my period i am a bigger gurl and a lot of the smaller gurl have and im just waiting...im afraid that theres sumthin wrong with me....wat do i do ?

no theres nothing wrong with you...i was a bigger girl when i was 13 and i didnt get into wayy after everyone else. if you dont get it by the time youre 16, then theres something wrong. for now, enjoy it!!! dont wait for it likes it a good thing!

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What type of questions on this website annoy you the most?

I hate every question that begins with the words, "There's this boy I like...".

the most annoying questions are the one about the same guy 10 gazzilion times, about stupid unprotected sex and about myspace. also questions that rant about hating something on advicenators are pretty annoying too.

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hey! ok well i straightin mi hair in the morning n its all good n straight but by the time i get to skool it gets curlii n frizzi n stuff ani one no what i can use to prevent that?? i rate high

put it in a clip when your outside and stuff then put in down when you get to school. some environments just do that and theres nothing you can do about it...just letting you know before you spend a lot of time looking for frizz control.

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Does Ne body have sites that I can go to to kind out about sex and prepare for my moms talk?
Ill rate 5's
Thanks so much and Im not trying to be nasty
i need help on this one

well you can try these:
www.about.com (they have all kinds of resources)
www.coolnurse.com
www.talksexwithsue.com

if you have any questions you cant find online or dont wanna ask your mom, feel free to ask me. ive given people a version of the talk that doesnt scare the hell out of them.

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I heard that masturbating makes you feel more comfortable with yourself and gives you more confidence. Is this true? I have tried it before, but I couldnt find my hole even though I wear tampons, so it wasnt pleasureable at all.

hmm well not all women are pleasured by the same things. another way is to play with your clitoris...its got more nerve ending than a penis.

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theres this guy i like who i made out with when me n him werent even goin out but now he likes this other girl and they made out(but there not going out) like a day after he made out with me ...is there any way to win back his attention

if he moves from girl to girl like that, he not worth anyones effort to get his attention...thats rude. next time be sure your actually together before you do anything with him...

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