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Physical vs Mental Adolescence
13/m I know I'm going through puberty. I just know it. I'm starting to feel the true emotions (love, rejection, jealousy, etc), and I'm starting to be cleverer (I'm starting to beat my dad at chess, which I haven't done for 8 years.) But despite these mental changes, I'm still physically the same. I mean, sure, I've started to get erections, but it's not like I'm showing that off at school! It's really annoying, how I have the highest voice in the school, and I'm the shortest guy in all my classes. Facial hair, I really don't give a damn, but now a few people think my high voice is annoying, and it annoys me too, and also my parents don't believe that I'm in love because I haven't shown any physical signs of puberty, and thusly I can't have had any mental either. What should I do? (Note: Smartasses get 1s and WILL be reported)
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Hey Matey mmmm what a sensitive question, everyone develops in they re own time but there is not a lot you can do apart from ignore the things that anoy you. you sound to me like a mature guy for your age and i wish that boys in new zealand were as mature as you are!!!!!!
Cheer up it will all be over soon.
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Hey, don't worry about any of this. It's normal. You are going through some changes. Everybody matures at different rates. My senior year of high school, there was a freshman who was 4'8" tall and weighed less than 90 pounds. He played baseball and wrestled on the wrestling team. You can't do anything about your situation. Just be who you are. It may be another two years before some of these other changes take place, but they will come. There are advantages to being smaller than others for a while. Find them and take advantage of them.
About the "love" situation. You're young. I know you probably don't want to hear this, but take your time. Things will come. Don't use the word love so liberally. It carries a lot of weight with it. I dated my wife for over seven months before I told her I love her. When I said it, she knew I meant that I would be with her for the rest of our lives. I am a Christian who believes in abstinence and purity. I understand you may not believe the way I do, but trust me on this one, you will be much happier and satisfied if you give it time. You should focus on school and sports (or whatever you're interested in) and don't get bogged down with a serious relationship right now. They are very stressful and can lead to a lot of hurt. Show your parents your are maturing in character and they will start to realize your not their baby boy any more. With freedom/independece comes a lot of responsibility. You have to be ready for all of it or none of it.
Because of who I am and what I believe, I have to try to encourage you to use better language. I'm not preaching, but think about it this way. People who use such language aren't showing they're "grown" or "growing." They show just the opposite. Don't be too lazy or too unsophisticated to take the time to form appropriate conversation. That will go a long way to gain respect and admiration of your peers and family.
--ByReasonofUse
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Erections? I've been gettin those since I was 2.
As for your 'mental capabilities' I dont think that has anything to do with puberty, I think it's more like, you're finally to the point now where you're not an idiot, and now can have a better understanding of things. Or not. If you dont want to believe me, whatever, I get that a lot. Although, I've never heard you get more clever when going through puberty, nor smarter.
Oh, another thing, that "love" you're feeling isn't love. It's something teens get mixed up about a lot. You see, they think like really really love someone, matter of fact, they'd take it to their grave. Too bad they're wrong; it's something called 'infatutaion'
Get used to the word and remember it when you're dating. You may think you love that person you're making out with, but 5 months later you'll have no feelings for her mainly because you're now broke up. If teens could understand love, why are they breaking up with each other a couple months into a relationship? I haven't seen many relationships go on for over 8 months, have you? (anyone over the age of 18 doesn't count either) I dont expect to see many relationships go further than that until people start reaching older ages.
"(Note: Smartasses get 1s and WILL be reported)"
To note your note, us 'smartasses' that will get reported probably dont care, mainly because we all have average ratings of a one in the first place. Doesn't make for much of a good threat. Was pretty 'clever' though :)
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You're going through changes whether you notice it or not. I was an early bloomer, I started in 4th or 5th grade. However, most men do not start until 7th grade, your present year. It goes until 17 or 18. Just wait. You are the norm, maybe a tiny bit slow. You will change in about a week or two.
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umm if your voice has just changed to a high voice then yeah you must be going through changes and when you do you will probably get taller, but im not really sure what your trying to ask but yeah to ame it sounds like you are
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hey dont worry about it! youll show sooner or later and about the voice thing..some guys naturally have higher voices. actually the tenor voice is the natural male voice. )even if you dont sing, that applies) dont rush anything...you will get there! no parent believes their child is in love at 13...even if you look like your 21, you still are 13. <3
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In matters of puberty, you have absolutely no control over; it comes when your body is ready. In this case the Mental and Emotional side are just now begin to come forth, so the physical side will come soon. So the only thing to do it let it ride.
Also in your voice being too hide, don’t worry it will deepen when it is ready to, just don’t try to rush your body, it could do more damage to your body than you might think.
I hope this helps, let me know if it does.
Best of luck to you
~Teen Guru~
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