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Q: Alright, well I know hair straightners damage your hair. But I was reading a magazine once and it said that Jennifer Aniston uses some straightner, barbar? Or something along those lines, and it said something about how the plates actually moisturize your hair?

Anyone have any input to this?
Or know any other hair straigthners that would give postive effects to your hair, other than negative?

Anything is much appreciated! =)!

To be honest, I've never heard anything about the straightner. The only think I know to "protect" your hair is to use the actual sparay before you straighten you hair. The bottles are available at any drugstore.

Jess♥

Q: i have been having a problem when i login into myspace. as soon as i hit the login link i get sent right back to the myspace home page and tells me to login so i do i again. and it happens again. UGH ! i was thinking that maybe it there was something wrong with my computer or maybe myspace`s system. but i really need to get on and check my mail and stuff. someone please OH please help me out here. is it me or the computer ? i don`t know.

Yea, Myspace is getting on my nerves too.

Anywhooo, double check that you have the right e-mail & password.

But I think Myspace is temporarily shutting down the log-in system, because it wouldn't let me log in either. :(

I doubt it's you, though. Myspace is always malfunctioning.

Jess♥

Q: I need help. I am 16 year old, 5'8 female who weighs in at 365 pounds. That's right. THREE HUNDRED And Sixty-Five Pounds. Now please, this is serious so don't comment about how fat I am and all that other bull because believe me, I know already. So I need to lose weight (obviously) not only because it is extremely unhealthy but also because I let my weight run my life. I am sick of worrying about wether or not my gut is hanging out or if my shirt will cover it. I am sick of worrying about wether or not I will fit into a desk at school. This is not a joke people. READ WHAT I'M WRITING I SOUND LIKE A FREAK!!!! :( I need motivation. I am completely unmotivated. I hate being what I am but that isn't enough to make me want to change. I don't know what to do anymore. It's gotten to the point where I think I look gross all the time. And I do!
I look so disgusting I could vomit. And it's all because I am FAT. Personally I think I have a gorgeous face but you can't see it or who I really am because I'm in this fat suit. :( I've been big all my life but I can't go on like this or I'll be in my 30's and weigh 600 pounds. That isn't even a human being anymore...It's an animal. :( Any thoughts or advice to get me motivated or, anything. Please, I am desperate.

Okay, obviously I'm not a doctor. But I suggest that you go to your doctor, & have him/her see what kind of condition you are to exercise. I'm going to tell you to work your butt off for 2 hours every day, when it's possible something could happen. (And I'm just taking percaution, nothing personal.) For whatever reason(s), I know what it feels like to be unmotivated. I've been there. PLENTY of times, believe me.

You just have to know what your goal is, and go for it. First of all, don't let other peoples' opinions get to you or bother you. You are who you are, and only you can control your [own] thoughts. Dieting isn't something to drop the pounds and just forget, it's a LIFESTYLE. And I wouldn't think of exercising as a way to burn calories, I'd think of it as a way to keep you healthy.

I suggest meeting people who feel the way you do, reguardless of the situation, & use them as inspirors.

Secondly, body-image is the key. I know and understand it's hard, but to build yourself up, you're going to have to get through the worst struggles first.

What you want-think about it. Think where you are now, and who you want to be. I'm not saying to develop some sort of eating disorder, or anything else. But let that motivate you, inspire you.

I'm not sure if that's what you're looking for, but if it is, I hope I helped. If you're interested in anything else I have to say (which I'm not so sure I give the best advice), let me know. I'd be happy to e-mail or whatever you want.

Jess♥

PS. Even though I may not have some sort of weight issue, I've struggled with a lot.

Q: About how much times would i have to run up the stairs( 13 steps ) a day to burn a pound or 2 a day?

Thanks in Advance

Well, you don't neccessarily have to run stairs in order to burn a couple of pounds a week. (Unless you specifically are doing it for a reason) But I think you'd probably have to have some sort of exercise machine to count your calories. And besides that, you need to diet. (Or eat healthy) But to be honest, I think you
d really have to do it in sets. Like, for example, 20 times, up and down, each day.

Jess♥

Q: I need a funny, interesting AIM screen name.

Some things about me...

Brown hair and eyes, enjoy tennis, reading, riding my bike, hanging outside...

Not very girly, more of an athletic type

Have a twin brother

13 years old

I'm not so sure I'm good at this, but I'll try:)

Brownxeyesx --->and add numbers
xxtennisgirlxx13
brownxeyedxtwinx13
bookworm93
AthleticHunny450 ---> (or other random numbers)

i'm not so sure those helped, because to be honest, i'm not that creative. but you could possibly use some of what i gave you & add your name into one of them, or something like that.

Jess♥.

Q: When does puberty end for a male?

Normally anytime by 18. Sometimes a little after.

Jess♥

Q: ok well, i got kicked in the ear ( i was in the pool) and now it feels like it has a bucket full of water in it and it wont come out. it feels like its all swollen up and it hurts all the time. i mean like really bad. it's like a throbbing pain and if i touch it it just makes it ten times worse. it drains water sometimes. should i go to the doctor? what should i do. how long does it take to heal??

thx in advance

I'm not a professional, so I'm not going to give you an answer that I'm not sure about. I would just see your doctor as soon as possible.

Jess♥

Q: Did you ever stop and think why your are in love with the person you are crushing on. All of the sudden i just stop myself and thougt about, "why am i in love with her? why do i like her?" i am not love blind i know how annyoing and self fish and rude she can be to me but i still like the person, even thou i told her how i felt and she loves me as a friend. why am i still in love with this person. i think its just so hard to find out the true answer of love in this world and why it is important to all of us. it make us happy but then it can be hard to keep that love stronge. life is just odd...
FYI:i am a bi-sexual women.

Sometimes our emotions just can't be controlled. I've felt the same way about someone I like, and then it took me quite a few months to move on. For me, it depends on the person. It's taken me about two years to discover that if someone's treating me like complete crap, they're not worth it.

Sometimes if you honestly think that you have a chance with the person, then keep on trying. Other times it's just better to keep a friendship.

I hope this helped a little bit.

♥Kitty

Q: Okay, so there is this boy. We never went out, but we told said we loved each other and he said he wants to ask me out SO bad. But then, he all of the sudden got back with his ex. I was sooo hurt, and he knew it. We didnt talk for weeks at a time and then we started to talk again. We've become so close again like best friends that will never be like that again. Then one day, he said his former ex broke up with him again, and now he says he loves me. How do I know that he means it? How do I know that he actually does love me?

NO. Don't take any of my advice personally; I'd tell any girl in this situation what I'm about to say.

He's using you. As a rebound. And you're TAKING IT. Don't fall for guys' crap. You never know if he really does love you, but it pretty much shows that he said he loved you [before], but yet he still got back together with his ex. (Irreguardless of why) Don't fall for it. I'm not telling you to never talk to him again, but you have to realize if a boy is going to hurt you, why like him? And just a tip: don't say you love him if you guys never even went out. You have to know what you really deserve; and let's face the facts: if we think about it, we know he's not the only guy out there. If you want to risk everything, go for it. But if you want to protect you & your emotions, move on to the guy that will make you his whole world.

(Guys will do ANYTHING they can to make you come back to them. Including making promises they can never keep.)

♥,Kitty

Q: ok there are these shoes called crocs I think. they are those plastic type shoes that are like 8 dollars at walmart. people have told me they are comfy but i dont see it ... they are hard plastic basically. Are they really comfy? will they help me if im on my feet say, 9 or so hours a day?

They're comfortable.

Kitty

Q: what is an @sshat?
and what does it mean when people say that people have their heads up their @sses

It pretty much means they're scatterbrained;; dumb.

♥,Kitty

Q: ok so this girl who goes to my school keeps messaging me on myspace and says mean things and i tell her to leave me alone but she hasn't stopped. and i don't want to tell my mom because she'll think i started this whole thing. what should i do?

The answer's simple.
Ignore her; don't even read the messages.
I do it to people all the time.

Or, if you'd be too tempted by that, just BLOCK her. It's always fun doing that too:)

But my point is, it's myspace. And if you respond back, it'll show she's bothering you. And besides, it's the computer. If she has to use the computer & can't say it to your face, obviously she needs to get a life.

Don't bother anyone unless it gets super bad. (Threats, etc)

Good Luck.
♥,Kitty

P.S. How to block:
Log in.
Find her profile,
& click block.
And they have new settings on myspace so it shouldn't even be that complicated.

Q: 14/f.
Im getting my ears pierced for the first time tomorrow and I just wanna be prepared for how much it's going to hurt, so can someone tell me how much it hurt for them? This is just for a first piercing nothing more, so i only want to hear about that not cartilage or anything.

thanks :)

It's basically nothing.

It's going to sting, then maybe burn for a little while after. And maybe a little bit red. But for the most part, it really isn't anything. Trust the girl who's had many piercings:)

The important thing is that you keep them clean & twist them twice a day.
And enjoy:)
Voila!

No problem,
♥,Kitty

Q: Is it normal to have one boob thats larger than the other?
Is there anything you can do so that they are the same size without stuffing?

Thanks.

And if it helps I'm almost 15.

Totally normal. But nope, sorry. I don't think you can really do anything. :[

Jess♥

Q: 15/f.
is it fair to tell the guy i like that i like him even though he has a girlfriend? because i feel like he has the right to know since we are also good friends. but then i don't want to be mean to him and ruin his relationship.
thanks!

I agree with Tina. I wouldn't tell him [at least not just yet]. Wait and see if the relationship ends.

Jess♥

Q: if a guy that has had sex with 7 girls.. i don't know if he has a disease or not.. probably not.. but let's just say he does. if me and him do it, and he wears a condom, could i still get a disease?

Even though he would wear a condom, there's still a chance that you could get an STD. But, a condom won't protect you from the HIV virus.

EDIT:
Not all STD's can, but the HIV virus can, even if you have mouth-to-mouth contact. Or, in fact, some diseases have mouth-to-mouth contact, or blood-to-blood contact.
Just be careful.
Jess♥

Q: Hello Advicenators! And Happy Easter!!
I have been here for a year, but I think its time to reach out to the others, to ask a question of my very own!!

Tuesday, I am going to a professional that I know is very experienced, and is the best in town. I have very boring, curly hair, that I striathten ever day. It is parted down the middle EVERY DAY, because it looks terrible any other place. I have never ever put layers in my hair, but last Tuesday, I got myself some pretty blond highlights. I don't have a picture, because my stupid camera broke. However, for the first time on Tuesday, I am going to go extreme, and do a major haircut, and put tons of layers in.
I don't know much about layers since I have never had any. Can anyone recommend some layers that would look cute. I hate parting my hair down the middle, I kinda want sidebangs. Something to also bring out my highlights. I do not want to cut my hair shorter, just the layers shorter, as I am trying to go for longer hair.
Pictures are greatly appreciated, I am going to show them to my hair stylist on Tuesday.

Thank you so much :]

-xWACKYJACKIEx-

First off, I would ask your hairstylist for suggestions. She would probably know best.

Anyhow, I like your idea. I think that you should get layers, because they will bring out the highlights.

(I don't know how long your hair is, though)

http://z.about.com/d/beauty/1/0/C/E/Oval2.JPG

http://www.hrhairstyles.com/camerondiaz1206.jpg

http://www.hairfinder.com/catwalk/layeredshortcut.jpg

http://www.short-hair-style.com/layered-hair-styles.html

Hopefully those are some that you're looking for. I have no idea what you prefer, so you could always use an image sight like google or dogpile.com

Jess♥

Q:
My hair is very "blah." I hate it. I want sideswept bangs with a lot of LONG layers so I can wear my hair up. [I don't want short choppy layers.] Yeah, if anyone can find some pictures of side swept bangs & layers I would love you forever.

Also, I'm dying my hair a sort of "medium" brown. I need some cute pictures of brown hair so I know what to tell my hair dressers. Celebrities are fine too.

Thank you all.

Some aren't celebrities:

http://www.rachelleb.com/images/2005_10_15/after.jpg

http://imagecache2.allposters.com/images/MMPH/262133.jpg

http://www.hairresources.com/images/sce/rachelmcadams906250.jpg

Anyways, I hope those helped. But next time, all you have to do is google what you're looking for. Not only would it help you pick out what you prefer, it helps the advice givers.

Secondly, for the hair dying, the hairdressers normally have the hair color booklets that show you all the colors. You don't need pictures unless you're getting something very specific.

Jess♥

Q: respond asap please!!!

as some of you know, school starts again tomorrow and well I was just in my closet choosing what to wear. I went to florida for about 5 days and I got a really nice tan. So what are some colors (shirts) to bring out a tan? Blue??? Red?? I don't know but that's why i'm asking you guys.

thanks! HAPPY EASTER!

Happy Easterr.!

Anyways, I think that maybe a brighter blueish color or a pink color would look fantastic. Anything bright and cheerful. Even yellow would make the tan pop out a little bit.

Jess♥

Q: Okay, so I do gymnastics and I was talking to my friend and she told me that gymnastics stunts peoples growth. Is that true?

Mmm, I'm pretty sure that's not true.

Jess♥

bio

Heyyyy, I'm jess. I love to help other people, no matter what. I've been through enough bs to know when to just stop and walk away. I don't judge; feel free to ask me anything. I have quite the temper. But, what makes me a good advice-giver is that for the most part, I'm genuinely empathetic and willing to help.
(:

I've had a lot of experiences with piercings, bullying, family problems, and even sexual issues (no std's)- but with the emotional part of it. I love music, so I give good, basic advice about that, too. Also, I deal with severe anxiety and depression, and have been in treatment numerous times. On top of that, I have OCD (Obsessive Complulsive Disorder), and because I've been around people addicted to drugs, or cutting, I can help! Just give me the chance.

add me on myspace!
www.myspace.com/itskittybitchx