I'm Em.
I'm a 20 year old English/History student living in Sydney.
I dig art, music and books.
I'll take questions on relationships, friendships, high school, uni, or whatever else.
I try to give the best advice I can, usually drawing on my own personal experience. But I'm not perfect, and sometimes when I look back on some of my advice it's far from it (especially when I was 15 and writing LiKe THiS). It's just advice, though. It's not an answer or a solution, it's simply a potentially helpful perspective. And that's all I can offer you.
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Yayoi Kusama
"Infinity Mirror Room"
Performance art.
Mirrors, soft sculptures.
Castellane Gallery, New York.
1965.
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Oh my gosh. I have a majorly HUGE crush right now! Hes in 9th and im in 8th. But i see him every week day for 2 hours at practice. Then for another hour in the weight room after practice. I never really noticed him until my friend started talking to him. But apparently shes crushin on him too. He gives me butterflies soo much. Even if im nowhere around him! How do i hint to him that i like him without telling him? And how do i get over the butterflies? (link)
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Why would you want to get over butterflies! When your older you'll understand lol.
To get his attention you could maybe dress up now and then, dress differently, wear your hair in different ways, a little makeup. You should definitely talk to him more. Smile whenever you see him, especially when you talk to him. Keep a constant conversation by talking about things you both like (if you don't know, do some spy work and find out from other people or just ask something basic like 'what kind of music you into?' or sport). Don't be afraid to tell a joke.
To get over the butterflies you just have to talk to him. When you look back on it you'll miss those feelings, so take as much advantage of them as you can now!
If you really want him to know you like him, the only full-proof way is to tell him. It's hard but never know, he may like you, and the worst thing he could say is 'no'.
Go for him hunny!
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My mom is in her early 80‘s, I am in my early 50‘s. I have no idea how to handle her any more.
Ok this is going to sound weird but here goes. Here is the background: I go to the 99 cent store and I have purchased beautiful sweaters, blouses, pants, blazers. All top quality - Liz Claiborne , Ralph Lauren, New York & Co, to name a few, plus unknowns but in top quality. I don't buy the crap. The cashiers and customers all tell me I get the great quality stuff. My friends and relatives ask me if I purchased them at Lord & Taylor's or other expensive stores. I have tons of clothes from the 99 cent store. Also one of the blouses I purchased back in June was a pink paisley and when I showed it to my mom she held it up and said in a nasty matter-of-fact way "Oh this is not new" However, when we went to visit my Aunt (one of her remaining sisters) in Vermont I wore the blouse going up on the bus and when my aunt saw it she said to me "I love your blouse, I wish you could have gotten me the blouse you are wearing" And this was after my mom gave her vest from Kohl’s and I gave her necklace as a present.
Also at another time: I was getting ready for an interview. I put on a teal button down blazer. My mom started to criticize my blazer saying it was too big in the shoulders, but I could not see where it was big. Then I wore it for one of our religious holiday when my sister, brother-in-law, my two nephews and Anita and her husband came over to celebrate (have dinner) with my mom and me and Anita commented on how much she loved the blazer. However, before any one arrived my mom said “You look really nice”
Today I was at the computer on the Internet going thru my email. I didn't pay attention as to how this came about but somehow my mom and I were talking about a brand new winter coat I purchased at Lord & Taylor's. Actually she purchased it as a birthday present. As my mom left my room I called out to her and said “Where is it written that name brands are better than non-name brands, she then came back into my room and said “Listen you are a snob” I asked her how and she said “Well you only wanted the coat from Lord & Taylor’s, how come you did not like the one from Kohl’s” I started to tell her but she cut me off telling me why.
And then she left to go into the kitchen. About five minutes later I was still annoyed so I went in to the kitchen and said “But the clothes I buy at the 99 cent store are of good quality” She said “We are not talking about used clothes we are talking about new vs. new” This got me angry and I told her that the clothes I buy from the 99 cent store do not look used” My mom said “But the clothes you buy there are not new, lets say you purchased a Ralph Lauren at the 99 cent store it is not new but it was new at one time and it would be more expensive at a department store” I said to her the red sweater I am wearing does not look used she retorted back “Yes it does, it is a little pilled” I told her it is lint that just has to be brushed off but of course she disagreed. And yes it was lint. I bushed the lint off in my room.
Then we had some fight, we both said really nasty things to one another. One of the nasty things she said to me “Well the other day you wore a sweater that is for a little girl, it was made for a little girl”
I told her that I get compliments on my wardrobe. I don’t know what to do. She is constantly putting down things I like, but then in the next breath “Oh I think you dress nicely”
Then today when we went to the movies (and at dinner) I said to her right after we purchased our tickets “you really did not mean what you said about the red sweater and the other sweater, you just said it because you were mad” Then in one of those tones that implies I didn’t mean it but I said to annoy you tone “Yes I meant it” Also this is what she added at the restaurant “As long as you ask me that is my answer”
I don’t want to fight with her but she makes me say things to her So what do you make of what she said? Do you think she just said those things about my sweaters to annoy me.
Also should I write her a detailed letter explaining how I feel, and in the letter include the dialogue we have had and then rewrite the dialogue the way it should have been to get my point across to her
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Just don't ask her what she thinks! Don't even care about what she thinks!
I assume a 99 cent store is like an op shop in Australia? Well personally my family loves op shopping because you can find some real treasures there and some great clothes. Some people i know wouldn't dare trot into an op shop because it's demeaning to them and almost charity-like.
Don't worry about your mum not liking your clothes i mean your in your 50s, by the time your 16 you should have learnt not everyone likes how you dress and to just do whatever makes you happy and comfortable.
I really do think you both are acting completely ridiculous and acting like a teenager and her mother. Who cares if she 'meant it'?! who cares if other people like it! It's your wardrobe, your wearing it, just stop caring so much about what other people think. If she says "it looks worn" or she doesn't like it, you don't even have to respond, just walk away from her, don't be so sensitive about it.
If you just let her say whatever she likes and accept that that's her opinion which does not affect the quality of your clothes, then you won't get into fights.
You can't stop her, just learn to control yourself around her and not let things get to you.
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What does (y) mean?
I think it's a london/england/britain thing... but I don't know.
I see it on people's profiles / in people's comments from the u.k.
they have like:
hi (y)
and just (y) at the end of random things
and i have noooo idea what it means...
thankssss (link)
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On msn messenger when you type (y) it displays a smiley of a thumbs up, and i know some people who use the (y) to resemble that.
Other than that, kind of looks like an elephants tail :)
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i started dating this guy on memorial day we broke up for about 2 weeks now we are gettin back together does that mean we start back at day 1 today or continue sayin we have been dating for 6 months (link)
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It depends how you see your new relationship.
If you have overcome problems and are taking the relationship up from where you left off then sure you can count it as 6 months
If you guys have decided to start fresh then you can start counting again.
2 weeks isnt a huge amount of time, and if you want to say you've been dating for 6 months then say it, its your choice anyway.
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i have this guy friend and i've known him all my life since i was a kid. i just was wondering could we be soulmates because i watch dawsons creek and i watched the series finale the other day and dawson and joey said that their soulmates.
but what does that mean?????? their in love or they know everything about each other inside out.
i know that sounds wierd but he seriously is always there. and he was there through my breakups. and everything, we always say i love you and hes like my brother but not by blood.
just want to know what a soulmate really is or am i just fooling myself.
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A soulmate isnt neccessarily anything or anyone, you can choose to believe it or not. A soul mate hs different meanings to everyone.
To me, a soul mate is someone who makes you feel complete, someone you dont see living without. If you think this guy is someone really special to you who makes you smile when your sad, and is someone your just happy you met, then sure hes your soulmate.
A soulmate is whatever you want to think it is.
I mean, you could even say that everyone has more than one soul mate.
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hey
well I'm going to go see scary kids scaring kids in the city on the 3rd & i have no idea what to wear.
i know its not that big of a deal, but i never been to a show so i have no clue. also since its stand up, i have no idea what shoes to wear.
the problem is i'm 5 feet tall & i'm sure i wont be able to see a thing so me and my friend were thinking about wearing heels, but idk. it sounds a little foolish to wear heels to a show.
do you think that would be stupid?
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Dooon't wear heels to a show.
1. Your heel could fall off, lost forever.
2. Someone probably will stand on your foot.
and 3. Standing in heels for that long is gona be painful.
Wear shoes that are enclosed and are comfortable to be in for a long period of time, especially since you'll be standing.
Also, wear something thats comfortable and won't be annoying to be in all day. It's pretty normal to rock up in some jeans and the bands shirt. You can usually pick up a shirt with the bands name or picture on it from big market places like in australia we have Parklea markets which is a whole bunch of stores but they're all packed into the one area, or from a music store, unless you already have one.
If you cant find a band shirt, then just a normal shirt will do.
It's not an event you have to overly dress up for, its pretty casual so dont worry.
And the height thing, try and squeeze your way through people to see, or make tall friends so you can sit on their shoulders lol.
Hope i helped, and have fun!
Love xXxPuNki-PiXiExXx
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hi what does it mean that your wiccan? (link)
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I don't know if i used the right grammer but it means i'm a part of the wiccan religion.
Its a religion with alot of spiritualty and things like the sky, stars, earth, the elements and things like that.
Some people refer to Wicca as Witchcraft but i choose not to, mostly because when i think of witchcraft i think of spells and potions, and thats not what i believe in.
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Okay so i'm overweight not on the brink of obesity but enough to want to lose some kilo's.
I looked up some fitness videos on youtube which have helped me become more fit and are a good way for me to excercise (especially since i cant really afford a gym membership or anything like that at this moment)
The thing is, i mostly want to lose weight from my stomach area.
I know when you start losing weight you lose it from the areas you don't want to lose it (i.e breasts) but i was wondering that apart from doing sit ups are there any other ways to help me lose weight from my stomach in particular?
And if there is any really good fitness DVD's i could check out it would be helpful along with any other helpful tips.
Thanks!
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im almost 18 and this embarrassing im a virgin
and i hadnt had a girlfriend uptil now ive been seeing a girl for about 4 months and well ive got a really small penis and im embarrassed to even show her my penis im worried she wont want to be with me or laugh at me what can i do will it grow?
do girls care that much can i even satisfy a girl? (link)
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First of all, there's nothing embarrassing about being a virgin at 18, its completely normal. Alot more people than you think are still virgins when they are 18. It doesnt matter what age you are, sex happens when your ready and comfortable.
Every guy has a different sized penis, and its never about the quantity, its the quality. No matter how big or small your penis is, of course you can satisfy a girl, just ask her to tell you if she likes you to perform in a certain way, for example maybe rubbing against one side of the vaginal walls.
A girl really should respect a males genitals as it represents his masculinity, disrespecting a guys penis is a huge blow to his self-esteem. If she is a decent person, she won't laugh at you because of your penis. If your worried about how she'll react then try to talk to her about it. It sounds really embarrassing and awkward but when your in a relationship you should be honest. Just tell her your embarrassed about your size and if she wants to see ask her not to laugh.
The thing about a human body is once you've reached a certain age, your body parts have reached their peak. Your at an age where your near your peak, but your still only 18 and you do still have afew years to grow, probably till in your 20's.
Don't try to change yourself, try to love your body how it is. Your penis might not be what alot of people consider big but that doesn't mean it cant please a woman, its just as good as any other penis.
Personally, i dont care if a guy has a big or small penis, as long as he knows (or i can teach him) how to use it. All girls are different, some prefer big, some prefer small, but if this girl really loves you she'll love it no matter what size it is.
If you feel your ready, you trust this girl, and your comfortable showing her your penis, tell her how you feel about showing her, try to talk to her about it, and when your ready you can show her.
All i can tell you is to just get comfortable enough to talk to her about it before you guys do anything. Honesty is best in a relationship, as well as trust.
Goodluck with your girlfriend, and i really hope everything works out with you and her.
No matter what, don't be embarassed of your size, like yourself how you are.
Love xXxPuNki-PiXiExXx
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I know I want to do something in art when I go to university next year but I don't know what to study.
I feel like I can't really make much money from doing something in the art industry but.
What makes a lot of money in art as a career?
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Well it depends what your strenghts are as an artist.
If your good at painting then you could make your own but it depends how many people want them. Theres alot of struggling painters, so if you wanted to make it big, maybe try like an ad somewhere in a newspaper or you could ask museums if they have anyone who would want to comission an artwork.
if your better at drawing, then you could try graphic design, making like the advertisements you see on billboards or in magazines.
The thing about being able to draw helps in alot of industries like say fashion desigining or as an architect, so research some careers like these that you might be interested in as art is a big part of it as well.
Teaching art is one career that doesn't pay the most or best but there will always be jobs for teachers and so you don't have to worry about a bad week with no work or getting fired for no particular reason.
Theres just so many options for people who want their career to involve or be art, you just need to think outside the box to other things.
If you google "career quiz" you can find sites with a short quiz that determine what you'd be good at and what would suit you. Even if you've set your mind on what you want to do, its nice to have a choice. It comes up with what your best at like i'm best at creative stuff so it has all these jobs that incorporate drawing and things like that so i thought it would be good for you to check out.
Sorry i couldn't be more of a help.
Love xXxPuNki-PiXiExXx
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I am still in love with my girl friend we've been together for 4 years on and off... we both know we love each other but we're also long distance part of the four years but we visited often... we had a falling out back in January she did something to hurt me(not cheeting)and so I thought to show her that I was hurt and dissapointed I stopped talking to her for about six months she did try to contact me several times but I ignored her never for a second I stopped to think of her or stopped loving her... I was just really really hurt... I got in touch with her couple of weeks ago she was very nice and responsive with me but tolled me that she is dating someone and has moved on and suggests I do the same... just the thought of that makes me sick now I know 6 months is a long time to ignore a person especially a person you love... I know I was stupit to ignore her for this long but I did it... I never dated anyone else I was just hoping that she would realize her mistake and apologize and all would be well again... I tolled her how I feel and that i was sorry for all that time out but she tells me she likes this guy and wants to give her all to make it work... oviously I have different plans I want her back she keeps telling me that it is not fair to her new guy for us to talk but she keeps talking to me everytime I can her for long periods of time and also calls me back when I leave a massage or a text... I try not to over do it so i do not drive her further away but I stay in her face enough to let her know that I am here and I am approching it like lets be friends and I talk to her about things we did together that was fun and great memories and try to make her laugh... I am not sure if she is doing it because she feels sorry for me or because she still loves me but she just does not want to come out and say it especially with someone else in her life her new relationship is only 2 months old we have history how can she do this??? I am a pretty smart guy but I sure can use some ggod advice here what is the best strategy to get her back in my life??? (link)
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Seriously man you have been so selfish.
Clearly she hurt you and you wanted to avoid her like most people do to make her feel terrible and come crawling back to you, but six months is a hell of a long time.
Your mistake was pushing her away for so long, that she ended up getting over you and finding someone else.
She HAD history with you, and you spent 6 months of that time ignoring her, and now she's found someone she really loves, and all you can think about is how dare she love someone more than you.
It's her choice who she wants to be with, and she wants to be with this new guy.
Stop trying to get her attention by "staying in her face" because all your doing is trying to steal her away from her new love and it's so selfish of you.
If you really love this girl you'll let her make her own choices in life and respect that. It's fine to stay friends, staying in touch like once a week, but don't keep reminding her of what you to had because all it's going to do is bring up new feelings that might be hurting her.
If it doesn't work out with this guy then maybe you two can consider a relationship again but while she is with someone else respect her choice to be with him and stop thinking of yourself.
Everyone has to deal with the heart break of romance and it can be a long and dreadful path but if you keep dwelling on the past and hoping something will happen your just going to keep yourself in pain and you could end up hurting the ones you love.
Love xXxPuNki-PiXiexXx
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Ok so I like my best friend and we are close. emaples...we are always walking to class together, we always go to lunch together and sit by each other.. And people think that we are dating and we aren't so we always tell them no. but i dont know what to do because i really do like him and he is my best friend and we keep deining that we are dating and i dont know what to do anymore.. he doesnt know that i like him and i dont know if he likes me back... i think he likes me but i'm not sure.. so what do you think does he like me or not? (link)
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You never know anyone likes you until you ask them. No matter what hints he gives you or signs, you'll never knwo for certain unless you ask him.
I'm assuming your a girl. Since your bestfriend is the opposite sex which your attracted to, being around someone who is of the opposite gender can really emotionally impact you. Being around anyone all the time lets you into their real self and you explore their personalities and qualities more than any other person.
You've been around this guy so much who would probably care about you a whole lot, and you've gotten to know him, so its completely natural for you to have feelings for him.
If you really like this guy and want to take your relationship to another level, then tell him. Theres no other way for you to tell him how you feel and to find out how he feels.
If he likes you then thats fantastic, but even if he doesn't, if he's a true friend he'll still want to stay friends with you and be around you as much as he is now, although he may feel awkward and probably want to be away from you for a while when you first tell him.
Don't expect or assume he likes you, but its always good to watch for hints, and when the timings right, ask him if he likes you.
Love xXxPuNki-PiXiExXx
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im 16 and recently when my gf saw my penis she said its too small and she laughed and i was embarrassed i thinking of breaking up with her
i do like her do you think i should? Are a lot of like that? (link)
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Sorry it took so long to answer, i havent been online in a while.
A males penis is his greatest aspect of masculinity and the fact your girlfriend critisized and embarrassed that it would have been really horrible for any guy.
Every girl needs to realise not every guy is the same, and that every penis comes in different shapes and sizes. And of course its not the quantity, its the quality.
If she really hurt you, say something to her about it so she knows how you feel. Sometimes girls say mean things without realising how much harm they are causing. It's your choice whether you would want to be with someone who embarrasses you in this way. If she keeps embarrassing you then maybe you should really consider finding a new girlfriend.
Don't let what your girlfriend did get you down. All guys are different and everyone has a different opinion, so others might find your penis the opposite of small.
Also, your still growing, so in afew years it will have grown, just need to be patient.
And not every girl acts like that, alot of girls realise how important a guys self-esteem about his masculinity is and girls really should respect that.
I'm sure you'll make a decision that benefits you and i hope all goes well.
Love xXxPuNki-PiXiExXx
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Hi there. Lately I've been trying to educate myself on animal rights and animal abuse. In general, I think product testing on animals is wrong among other things the PETA site brings up. I've heard that PETA can be pretty radicle though, and I'm trying to get the facts. I'm wondering if PETA might be trying to make a big impact by showing videos on their website of select, severe situations of animal abuse, and not what may really be going on, on an ordinary basis. I hope that makes sense.. It's confusing because I hear different things about the organization being a little koo koo sometimes.
They'll show something EXTREMELY horrible happening to an animal and I'll be shocked, but because of the things I've heard I'm basically wondering if they're just trying to sort of shock viewers into having a certain opinion. (link)
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When taking evidence from a source produced by an organisation like PETA you do have to question its reliability, especially because they may have a biased opinion.
There is some really tragic stuff that happens to animals but its not like every animal on the planet is being treated that way.
Videos, pictures etc of animals in devastating circumstances is effective on people as it can persuade the viewers of the PETA website to join which is the purpose of alot of media produced by certain organisations but it also shows what happens to some animals in the world and that theres nothing wrong with helping out animals in need.
Whether to decide if PETA is reliable or not you have to be open to the ideas and opinions they offer, but not so naive. If you approach one of their ideas don't jump to the conclusion it may be correct, research their ideas and question them, then give ur own opinion.
The reliability of PETA depends on what kind of evidence they have to back up their perspectives and what you believe.
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I had unprotected sex with my boyfriend but it wasnt long. not even 5 minutes because i pushed him off of me. It has been three weeks and my stomach has been kind of cramping, my boobs are sore, and feel swollen. I am due for my period soon..could this just be PMS symptoms? I also took two pregnancy tests, a week apart and they were both negative..so what could it be? (link)
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I dont know how old you are, or whether you and your boyfriend are even ready to consider pregnancy possibilities, so if my advice isnt even close to your circumstance then apologies.
First of all, you said you 'pushed' your boyfriend off of you. From how i read it, im a bit worried if you actually wanted to have sex, or if you just became unaroused and didnt want him on you anymore. Anytime you feel you dont want to have sex then say no, its completely fine and normal.
If you are at a point in your life where you do not want to be pregnant then dont have unprotected sex at all. Sometimes guys say they like it better without a condom but unless you two are comfortable with each other, you trust each other, and your willing to accept the consequences such as a pregnancy or an STD then its not worth taking that chance.
Okay, now that thats out of the way, im assuming he didnt ejaculate in you because you pushed him off but pre-cum can impregnate you so the possibility is there.
Cramping, bloatedness/swollennes and sore breasts are common PMS symptons and the fact that you've had two pregnancy tests that both came out negative which narrows the possibility of a pregnancy. Dont be worried it's almost certain that your not pregnant but if your still uncertain then see your doctor and he/she will tell you if you are or not.
Sorry if most of that didnt apply to you.
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This year everything started out great..It was september and it was me and Xand Y and Z. Anyways Z starts being a jerk so her and Y get into an arguement. Then comes A, she joins are group but by November is gone. Then second semester B comes and everything is all good. But by the beggining of March trouble cpomes at us...we all begin hurting eachother and ruining eachothers lives. Then every thing is all good. But by the end of the month things go again...this time C gets involved and tells me not to be there friends and that X is a good friend but not very trustworthy. But by april things are good. Then comes the blow out..it was me and x and it was bad. It went on for two weeks. Then finnally we resolved it. But once again X proves to be un trustworthy. She spills my secret to B causing B to be angry adn causing Y to hate me too. Si one night I tell my mom. She tells me that I probaley do some of the things I say, she tells me that All of us are stirring up trouble. But she also tells me not to be friends with Y and B which I onehundred percent agree on. But she begins to lecture me telling me that I need to act like the good girl I am and then she tells me to treat people rightly so I told her that obviously B and Y don't want to be treated very well. She then continues lecturing telling me that I don't learn any thing. But my question is should I listen to C and my mom?? And Should I drop Y and B as friends?? Also what should I do with X, I can't trust her anymore and it really hurts because I fell like everyone is Against me. I feel so horrible and I have no clue what I should do. Please help! (link)
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Ok im pretty sure i understand that.
Look, you treat people how you want to be treated, but that doesnt mean if someones being mean to you your alowd to be mean back. Being mean to someone because they "deserve" it or not makes you just as bad as them.
It takes real maturity to look at a situation like this that your in and say to the people hurting you that you deserve alot better than how they are treating you, then walk away.
Theres billions of people in the world and you can make new friends who are much more genuine and treat you right.
Don't drop your friends because i said so, or because someone else said so, drop them if you dont want to be around them anymore and if you think you deserve alot better.
Love xXxPuNki-PiXiExXx
P.S Every person in life has to deal with good and bad friends in life, so dont feel horrible about everything, decide whats right for you and think on the positive side of things.
Good luck with your friends.
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here's the deal. i'm turning 18 in a little less than two weeks. i just graduated high school with honors and i have some great friends that i love and an amazing boyfriend that loves me and is wonderful to me. my parents are my biggest fans in everything i do, and i'm so grateful for them (and the rest of my family). so far this summer has been phenomenal- i've had crazy late nights with my girls, my boyfriend is coming on vacation with me on my birthday, i recieved a large amount of money for graduation so i've been able to do whatever i want, and my family is perfect. my parents got me a laptop for graduation, a printer as an early birthday present, and i got an awesome cell phone for christmas. all this has got me thinking, everything is so perfect, there HAS to be something about to go wrong.
my younger sister's boyfriend broke up with her tonight. he was going on vacation with us too. they've been dating a year less than my boyfriend and i have, and seemed fine. i feel so guilty, that everything in my life is great and hers isn't as much. it's starting to hurt my relationship too, because i keep reading and watching these silly romance novels and movies and i see how they act, and i feel like my boyfriend should be like that too (even though he's not outgoing/the romantic type at all). i feel like i'm on the brink of something bad, and it scares me like hell. god has blessed me in so many ways, and i'm sure i haven't deserved it all. anyone have a similar situation or any advice? thank you so much. (link)
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If you've worked hard and are a good person, i believe you deserve to have good things in life, this revolving around the whole idea of karma.
If everything in life is so good, don't worry about bad things until they happen. There's no point worrying about something that may not even happen.
With your sister, she's going through a rough point right now, but everyone does. Just support her and be there for her and everything will be alright with her in the end.
In the matter of you and your boyfriend, don't try to change him, he is how he is. Sometimes i want my boyfriend to be like the guys in the movies but at the end of the day i can't change him and i'd rather him be himself than someone he's not.
Take life day by day, don't worry about what could happen, be grateful for what is happening.
Love xXxPunki-PixiexXx
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Okay so i am going to meet this boy during the summer and he is interested from what i hear. BUT we havent met, he has just seen a picture of me. And if I am interested as well, how do i make him more interested without being a slut? like how do i act? some people say make him work for it because guys like a chase, but what if that confuses him?? i dont know what to do. I have flirted and stuff, but i need new tips. The last guy i flirted with was from like january to march. But he was a senior and graduated and at graduation i gave him a hug. We flirted like everyday, but what if the game is different for this new boy?? i want to show him im interested (hypothetically) without being seeming annoying or clingy. (link)
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Well first of all, wait till you have your first impression of the guy. You havent actually met him and when you do you might find your not interested in him at all.
If when you meet him, you feel interested in him, then just try to start a conversation that doesnt have awkward moments or pauses. Any awkward conversation can make both of you feel uncomfortable. Find common interests. Then you can do little things like touch his arm when he says something funny or do like a giggle instead of a laugh.
Theres a million little different ways to flirt and until you meet this guy you wont know exactly how to act. Just see how he reacts to the little things you do and do whatever you feel most comfortable doing.
And p.s, sometimes boys can be a bit oblivious to the fact that you are interested, so maybe after you meet him afew times hint it to one of your mutual friends so that he can get an idea and think about it.
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Alright, I am a 16 year old male, I have strong morale beliefs and values, and I have a problem, I don't like to Masturbate. I have tried to stop, it lasted for about 2 months. Every time I finish, I feel disgraced and ashamed. Is there anyway to stop? Or to make these feelings go of shame go away? (link)
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Alot of people, especially teenagers, masterbate, and alot also feel ashamed about it.
Masterbation is completely natural and it is nothing to be ashamed of at all.
If you enjoy it and its not hurting anyone, then theres nothing wrong.
If you have the urge to touch yourself, its very hard to resist. But what you need to understand is that masterbation is a completely normal thing. Almost every guy i know (im 16 by the way) does it, i even know some girls who do it.
Masterbation really is not wrong in any way, and you shouldnt feel bad about doing it. Theres nothing wrong about sexual experiences, it just feels wrong because of the way you see and hear about it on the news and in the media.
If you enjoy masterbating (during, not after) then dont stop, because it makes you feel good and thats what matters. No ones being hurt by what your doing and its normal. Just keep reasurring yourself that its a normal thing to do and if you have any other issues send me mail =]
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I think that I am over-analytical, and I dont let anything go. And I always look for a deeper answer, because to me, no one does something "just because". If someone asks me a question, my first thoughts are "why would they want to know that, what are they trying to get at?" I cant just simply leave it at maybe they are curious, or just have a general interest in what ever the topic is. Same principal for actions, like if someone does something for me. While I dont say anything out loud, I dwell on many things that possibly have no deeper side.
Am I paranoid or something? (link)
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Theres nothing wrong with thinking deeply about things. If anything, its a very unique characteristic someone can have.
If your interested in the way you think, research Sigmund Freud, he was into alot of the psychological things and believed almost everything was due to the subconcious. It's not wrong or weird and your not paranoid, you just like to think things through alot more than other people.
Just dont dwell on things such as ex relationships and what not because you may end up never letting go.
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