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how to I get my girl friend back???
I am still in love with my girl friend we've been together for 4 years on and off... we both know we love each other but we're also long distance part of the four years but we visited often... we had a falling out back in January she did something to hurt me(not cheeting)and so I thought to show her that I was hurt and dissapointed I stopped talking to her for about six months she did try to contact me several times but I ignored her never for a second I stopped to think of her or stopped loving her... I was just really really hurt... I got in touch with her couple of weeks ago she was very nice and responsive with me but tolled me that she is dating someone and has moved on and suggests I do the same... just the thought of that makes me sick now I know 6 months is a long time to ignore a person especially a person you love... I know I was stupit to ignore her for this long but I did it... I never dated anyone else I was just hoping that she would realize her mistake and apologize and all would be well again... I tolled her how I feel and that i was sorry for all that time out but she tells me she likes this guy and wants to give her all to make it work... oviously I have different plans I want her back she keeps telling me that it is not fair to her new guy for us to talk but she keeps talking to me everytime I can her for long periods of time and also calls me back when I leave a massage or a text... I try not to over do it so i do not drive her further away but I stay in her face enough to let her know that I am here and I am approching it like lets be friends and I talk to her about things we did together that was fun and great memories and try to make her laugh... I am not sure if she is doing it because she feels sorry for me or because she still loves me but she just does not want to come out and say it especially with someone else in her life her new relationship is only 2 months old we have history how can she do this??? I am a pretty smart guy but I sure can use some ggod advice here what is the best strategy to get her back in my life???
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Seriously man you have been so selfish.
Clearly she hurt you and you wanted to avoid her like most people do to make her feel terrible and come crawling back to you, but six months is a hell of a long time.
Your mistake was pushing her away for so long, that she ended up getting over you and finding someone else.
She HAD history with you, and you spent 6 months of that time ignoring her, and now she's found someone she really loves, and all you can think about is how dare she love someone more than you.
It's her choice who she wants to be with, and she wants to be with this new guy.
Stop trying to get her attention by "staying in her face" because all your doing is trying to steal her away from her new love and it's so selfish of you.
If you really love this girl you'll let her make her own choices in life and respect that. It's fine to stay friends, staying in touch like once a week, but don't keep reminding her of what you to had because all it's going to do is bring up new feelings that might be hurting her.
If it doesn't work out with this guy then maybe you two can consider a relationship again but while she is with someone else respect her choice to be with him and stop thinking of yourself.
Everyone has to deal with the heart break of romance and it can be a long and dreadful path but if you keep dwelling on the past and hoping something will happen your just going to keep yourself in pain and you could end up hurting the ones you love.
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I saw this question a few times, and I don't know if it's the same person but I guess I'll give my input. Mind you, it may not be what you want to hear and I am not saying it is correct. It is simply an opinion from the information you've given and maybe something for you to think about; that is ALL. Please do not take any of it the wrong way.
My suggestion is that she is just not the one for you. Straight up; I know how much you care for her especially if you were going to buy her a ring and because of how long you were with her. But you have to understand, you are not alone, honestly I don't think people realize how many other people on this Earth go through the exact same situations. Love is crazy, it's great, and it stinks. But you're not alone, trust me.
I understand how much you love her though, and how this may feel like the end of the world kind of moment, but I definitely think you need to try to let her go. She has obviously made up her mind. And sweetie if she still talks to you, then she is already in your life so asking how to get her back in your life is a wide question... If the only way you want her in your life is as your girlfriend, I really don't think I can help you much there, but she obviously cares for you as a friend and from what you've said it seems that you two just having a friendship is working out okay.
Now, on the other hand, I could be totally wrong. You two could continue talking and she could decided she does want you back as well? I don't know, I don't know her.
But if I were in your shoes I would try to just be her friend or leave her be and move on. It'd be fair and better for the both of you.
You being her friend though and nothing more I think is like re-opening a wound for you right now, your going to go crazy...
I wish there was something more I could say and I'm sure you really probably didn't want to hear this but you asked. =)
As for future reference though (EVEN THOUGH I'm sure you learned from this) don't ever go anymore than a couple of days (unless there is good reason or understanding on both parts) without talking to a girl friend. It makes us mad, sad, upset, and hurt. At least give the girl closure and explain that your mad and want space. That had to have been really hard for her and since it was so long she probably just felt she needed to move on and she did and now that your back in her life I also feel that she is happy that you are (in my opinion) but also maybe afraid you'd do it again... (And I'm not saying that to hurt your feelings I'm just letting you know how us girl can be... Not all, but some. =])
Sorry if I upset you or made you mad. And I know I did repeat myself but this is just my view point. I was just trying to give you an outsider perspective from what you wrote. =)
Good luck! Hopefully, maybe someone else on here can come up with something better that'll work. =)
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