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Masturbation
Alright, I am a 16 year old male, I have strong morale beliefs and values, and I have a problem, I don't like to Masturbate. I have tried to stop, it lasted for about 2 months. Every time I finish, I feel disgraced and ashamed. Is there anyway to stop? Or to make these feelings go of shame go away?
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How do you stop feeling ashamed?
Well, for me, anger worked.
Religion and sex. Let me ask you, how do you control an entire populace when you have no standing army? You claim to represent God, and you tell people that they can only be saved through you.
You follow that up with lies. Lies about how you NEED to be saved. And what better to use than sex?
The origin of anti masturbation lies and shameful feelings is the Catholic Church (I was raised catholic, so I got to learn all about it) and most of the Christian churches who broke away simply didn't do away with the mis-information.
You see, sex is one of a human beings most basic instincts. And men especially are hard wired to need some kind of sexual satisfaction. Men are SO hardwired to need this, that if a guy who is capable of ejaculating does not give himself an orgasm somehow every so often, he will have wet dreams where his body releases the sexual tension at night.
And religion had a brilliant idea. If you take these things that people need, and you lie to people and tell them that these are shameful things and they are going to hell because of their impulses, then tell them that only the church can save them from themselves, you have created a massive dependency upon your religion.
Religions have been using sex for years. Hell, look at the stories told to uneducated muslim extremists. They take people without even a gradeschool level education and tell them that they can have 71 virginal women all to themselves in heaven if they die for a cause. Sex used for control. Lies perpetrated for the convenience and use of a few people who are smart enough to realize people will believe this shit.
Which brings us to today, where many young men and women are completely screwed up in the head because a centuries old technique for controlling the populace is still perpetrated in ignorance. In my family, things like this were common place. My cousin was told things like "Your fingernails will turn black" and "you will grow hair on your palms" if she masturbated by her _parents_.
So, my ultimate answer to you is anger. Anger for having been lied to. At having your natural impulses used against you to create guilt. At being maniuplated simply for the sake of one religion or another keeping its power.
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Alot of people, especially teenagers, masterbate, and alot also feel ashamed about it.
Masterbation is completely natural and it is nothing to be ashamed of at all.
If you enjoy it and its not hurting anyone, then theres nothing wrong.
If you have the urge to touch yourself, its very hard to resist. But what you need to understand is that masterbation is a completely normal thing. Almost every guy i know (im 16 by the way) does it, i even know some girls who do it.
Masterbation really is not wrong in any way, and you shouldnt feel bad about doing it. Theres nothing wrong about sexual experiences, it just feels wrong because of the way you see and hear about it on the news and in the media.
If you enjoy masterbating (during, not after) then dont stop, because it makes you feel good and thats what matters. No ones being hurt by what your doing and its normal. Just keep reasurring yourself that its a normal thing to do and if you have any other issues send me mail =]
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