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how can i do this??
Okay so i am going to meet this boy during the summer and he is interested from what i hear. BUT we havent met, he has just seen a picture of me. And if I am interested as well, how do i make him more interested without being a slut? like how do i act? some people say make him work for it because guys like a chase, but what if that confuses him?? i dont know what to do. I have flirted and stuff, but i need new tips. The last guy i flirted with was from like january to march. But he was a senior and graduated and at graduation i gave him a hug. We flirted like everyday, but what if the game is different for this new boy?? i want to show him im interested (hypothetically) without being seeming annoying or clingy.
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That's how I met my husband, for what its worth. We met online, sent pictures, etc. That was before chatrooms though LOL. Everything was sent via email.
Anyway, I think you are kind of looking at this kind of the wrong way. Your main question seems to be "how do I make him more interested in me without being a slut, I want to show him I am interested." The absolute best thing to do is the cliche... be yourself. If you are not a slut, don't pretent you are to get his attention. If you are down to earth, interested in animals, enjoy hiking, really into country music, and want to be a special education teacher when you graduate (all this is hypothetical obviously) then show that side of you. If the two of you don't seem to have much in common because he is a smoker who likes to skateboard, rap, and wants to "rock and roll" when he "grows up", then accept that. Even if he is cute and you want to try to see the good side of him because he likes you. You two would clearly not be meant for each other.
It is never a good idea to TRY to impress someone. It is just not possible to keep up that false persona, at least not for long. I mean, what happens if you go on a second date? A third? At what point do you finally reveal you have nothing in common with the person you portray when you are around this boy?
Also ask yourself why it seems so important to impress this one boy? Is he the one you already know you are going to marry and your entire lifetime of happiness and having children rests on what this guy thinks of you? I know this seems a bit over the top but the reality is, if you are a nice, caring, special girl and you show him your true self and he still isnt interested... why would you care? He CLEARLY isnt worth YOUR time. Be calm and relaxed and just enjoy the butterflies associated with meeting someone for the first time. Beyond that, don't feel too much pressure. Any boy who is actually worth a girl's time is not going to want a girl who is all giggly and acts rediculous. He will like you more and respect you more if you have your own opinions and like your own things rather than trying to find out everything he likes and then force yourself to have the same opinions and like the same things. Many a happy relationship have included two people who have many of the same interests, but also enjoy their own projects/activities as well. You may even find he has his own quirks such as cracking jokes about everything or has little habits that you find quite annoying. Now you have the upper hand.
This also sounds a bit extreme but the reality is, dating is meant for finding the person or type of person you enjoy being around the most so you can eventually find that perfect someone to spend the rest of your life with. You should go into a date as a new experience that is a test to see if you like him. Not HOPE against hope that he likes you and HOPE against hope that you like him. If you don't like each other... that is perfectly okay.
One last thing to remember... you can NEVER base a good relationship on what someone looks like. I am not going to lie and say he can be Frankensteins clone and you fall madly in love despite this. But you also cannot expect to literally "fall in love" with him because he is hot and may have a cute butt.
Have a great summer!!! I hope this guy turns out to be fantastic. Best of luck.
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Well first of all, wait till you have your first impression of the guy. You havent actually met him and when you do you might find your not interested in him at all.
If when you meet him, you feel interested in him, then just try to start a conversation that doesnt have awkward moments or pauses. Any awkward conversation can make both of you feel uncomfortable. Find common interests. Then you can do little things like touch his arm when he says something funny or do like a giggle instead of a laugh.
Theres a million little different ways to flirt and until you meet this guy you wont know exactly how to act. Just see how he reacts to the little things you do and do whatever you feel most comfortable doing.
And p.s, sometimes boys can be a bit oblivious to the fact that you are interested, so maybe after you meet him afew times hint it to one of your mutual friends so that he can get an idea and think about it.
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