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what do girls look for in guys?

A good personality. Is the most important thing.
A guy that has a really good since of humor, opens the door for a lady,sweet,and protective.
But I also, look at his appearance, like his smile. (Does he have good white teeth?) The way how he dresses. His eyes, what color eyes does he have. Thats the sorta of things I pay attention to. Hope this helps any.

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How do i exactly play hard to get? But i still dont want him to think that i dont like him anymore. cause then he might think i lost total interest. :] Thanks

You can play hard to get by simply flirting with him then back off, or if he wants to get close to you, don't get close Ex: If he asks you to go someplace alone he usually expects you to sit by him. Don't ,sit on another cuouch or a bed, if there is one, or sit on the other end of the couch away from him, lol, that will totally throw a guy off, he'll be like: what?. lol. try that. But be careful, cause on a personal level, I've asked my good guy friends what they thought about a girl playing hard to get, and most of them said they do not like it, they lose interest quickly and move on. But some guys like the thrill of the chase, but I advise you be careful, and good luck! Hope this helps.

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So there is this guy named zack that really likes my best friend jordan but he is sorta a creep and she likes his step brother. My friends including Zack and Jordan and Jordan was sitting beside my friend Scott and Scott went to go to the washroom and Zack moved over to sit beside Jordan, Jordan was creeped out already because of the movie alone but then Zack put his hand on Jordans and she screamed. But she doesn't know what to do about it can you please help.

THNX

Well I know your friend really doesn't like him, and maybe hee's not getting the picture. Try by telling him that your friend Jordan likes somebody else, that she likes Zack. I personally, don't have a problem, giving the guy a cold shoulder if I'm not feeling him, I ignore him and if he comes close, tell him to back off I'm not into you sorta of thing. Sometimes my best friend blows him off for me, she simply tells him, "she doesn't wanna talk to you," and if he asks you why say "maybe cause,she's not feeling you leave her alone" or say "she doesn't feel like talking", by then, he should get the picture and walk off. Have her talk about alot of other guys or Zach or something, he'll be turned off, and bug off. Hope this helps.

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i was just wondering...
guys, when you are making out OR having sex with a girl, does it turn you on when a girl not only moans, but says things like "yes, yes" "harder" or things like that...or is that more in the movies?? haha i dunno just sort of a random question..and do they whipser it or sort of yell it like they do on most tv things?

I'm not guy, but I know that it turns a guy on, they're having an orgasm and it feels good,we moan and grown like that but some on t.v. fake it or over react. Lol, that's the best I can give.

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So yeah I'm 15 and a boy,

I know this might be strange, but I just suddenly started liking this girl recently. I can't ever stop thinking about her. I don't think about her in a sexual way, but more of a loving way.
There are problems though. This girl goes to a different school than me and I'm hesitant about going out with someone that doesn't go to my school.
The second thing is, all my friends told me that dating is a complete waste of time until you're older.
This seems like the first time I've REALLY liked someone. Unlike some of my friends, I don't really look at the size of girl's boobs or anything, I tend to look at the inside. Does that make me more mature or something, or am I being rash? Tell me what you think.

Sounds like to me you've got young strong likes for someone, aye! ;) Dating a person out of your school, it could work though if you put effort into it, you're 15 and you probably only have a driver's permit ,so if yall hangout, make sure it's a spot that has alot of stuff to do.And dating is not a waste of time sweetheart, no matter what age. But it is more valuable when you get older. Your'e growing into a young man and getting more mature that's why, outward appearances don't really matter much, and that makes you not a shallow guy, (that's what most girls look for in a guy) but it's the personality that counts. Your friends seem like they haven't matured yet, but they'll learn as time progresses. You're more mature than them, that's all. Hope this helps.

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OK, My friend well she is not really my friend but she is more like a person i talk to once in while and she is fun to talk to. Well she got raped, and know one knows if she is ok. I jus do not know what to say or think, every time i think about it i start to cry .. I can't call her or anything b/c i do not know her number. I just pray she is alright it's been like 4 days or so. Please someone if you ever knew a friend that this happened to tell what i am supposed to say her or how i know if she is ok.

I had a good friend that happened to, but she went to me first, the thing I did best was listening, and ask if she did get help any. If she got raped, she should have went to the police and not washed off so she'd have actual proof that this guy raped her. If she hadn't got help, she may have been afraid to tell people because of what they may think or that the guy threatened her. You can advise her to talk to a counselor,& you can help just by talking to her, and she may be scared to talk about it,so give her time, you're already helping her by being there for her and being her friend, other than that there is nothing else much you can do about it, prayers are nice though. Hope this helps.

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well i recently told this guy "j" that i liked him.. before that he was one of my best guy friends. we could talk for hours on aim about anything. we had a ton in common. he'd always keep me entertained & hes funny.. well i miss that :[ ever since i told him that i liked him he never talks to me.. only when my friends yell at him because of it, then he'll talk to me. but its not the same anymore. ehh what do i do? i havent really told him myself that it makes me upset but its obvious & i know he knows it. also, he always stares at me in class.. do u think its only because he wants to see if im staring? or does he possibly like me? im almost positive he doesnt though. thankss

When you told him you liked him, it may have scared him a bit, yall are good friends and he may not want to mess that up, or could see you only as a good friend. Talk to him about it, but let him have his space for awhile. Don't tell your friends about the situation anymore cause it could make it worse causing him to be less responsive to you, especially if you're friends are yelling at him. When he stares at you in class he's probably thinking about you, wondering what would happen if you two would date, but he's probably also thinking that he doesn't wanna mess that up if yall do break-up. Talk to him about, see how he responds.Hope this helps.

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everytime it starts to look like its turning spring the snow comes down like mad crazy. so a few days ago it was like 60 degrees or like 65 or something maybe 70 and it was so warm and i was so glad because i always feel so much better in the heat. like about the way i look my attitude everything. and then yesturday like we get 6-12 inches of snow. how depressing. any way i can get thro this? helpp.

I've got the same issue. Down here in FL. if it's raining, I'm usually sad. But to help I listen to soothing music that I like. Try listening to music that is up-beat that can get you pumping,(in snow) at the house get cozy, watch a movie, make hot cocoa, have a nice warm blanket around you,make a fire & sit by the fireplace drinking hot cocoa, or make roasted marshmallows or make smores, call some friends over, or if that can't happen, offer to do it with your family. Play card games with family or something. Hope this helps, it sounds so good to me!

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ok i have this so called guy friend who likes my good friend, my friend knew that he has a crush on her and he knows it too
and him and i always talk about her and i always listen and trying to help him out and he said this to me after my friend told me to tell him:
"friend": she said she likes someone ?
me : yeah
"friend": : ic...
me : yeah
me: ey no meeting in the library for a while
me : cause people are being UGh
me: so annoying
"friend": : well theres no need to talk to you anymore
me: as in?
"friend": : i only talk to you cause of her...
me: icic
me: umm ok then
"friend": : nice knowin you
and he signed out so was he using me?

Sounds like to me all this guy was just trying to get some information about your friend from you,and you gave the info. Your girl friend does she like him back? If she doesn't, and him saying to you that "he only talks to you because of her" was that he's simply hurt and he doesn't need any more info. from you about her. Or simply if she does like him, he was just trying to get info about her from you. If you really didn't know him and you just started talking to him when he asked about you girlfriend then he was just trying to get info from you. People do that, they focus on the person they like and focus on the people they talk to, so they can find out what that person is like , or to find out who they like. Hope this helps, and sorry if this complicated ,let me know and sorry so long!

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i love her she loves me she has a bf that loves her to hell but she doesnt love him like she used to he is extremely pissed off with me for textin her silly things like i miss you and love you and stuff he was ok with it a few days ago but he has suddnely changed his tune he sed "i dont want to get in the way of something special" (when he was in accpetance) now he is green with envy and would blow me off the face of this planet if he could, i said "but why should i come along and get in the way of your relationship" all because i text her those little things he is now ordering me around to keep out of it which i am sadly doing :s because i am scared to shit of the amount of power this one dood has and i have never been self confident and even while i am writting this message words from this morning conversation on msn between her bf and me with him saying stuff like u are going to stay away because i am going to take control of this and make it work... i feel so screwed up about all this its fukin horible, i wouldnt mind dieing right now to stop my emotional pain but it would cause lot more than that to other people around me AND EVEN THIS VERY SECOND I AM TEXTING HER god damn i have to stop or do i the bf is a great dood he is my freind but after this i think h is reconcidering

So you say this guy is your friend? And you like his girlfriend, in which you are texting. Are you sure she LOVES you? If she loves or even really like you, then she wouldn't be this guy right now, seems like maybe she is just leading you on, and she's doing that because she's not getting the attention she wants from her b/f or that she just likes the attention that she's getting from you. You need to stay away from her and this guy, cause seriously it sounds like they're doing all this together, or for some couples they're relationship goes through a phase and all they do is fight so they talk to other people so it can just boost their ego. You don't need this, stay away from them both. You deserve better, you need someone who can just pay attention to you, not you and someone else. If you just let this keep on, then this can be a messy situation. It will only get worse for you. So it's best if you find yourself a new girl, someone who doesn't have a boyfriend, and I'm sure there is someone who likes you out there, it just takes time to find them. You seem like a nice/caring guy, don't waste your life on this girl. Hope things work out, & hope this helps any, I hope ♥

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ok i have a realllly close friend, but the prob is that she lies a lot and i just dont like that. i dont want to like turn in to her by hanging out with her a lot you know?? but she lies to her parents a lot and friends too. i dont know why. please help... What should I D O !!!???? thanks you1

She's what you can call a compulsive liar. That means that, that person just lies because she is probably, more likely, just simply bored with herself and has to lie to make her life seem exciting. She has low-self esteem,& you only can get influenced to her is if YOU choose to. Just avoid her,don't surround yourself around those kinds of people, you need to hang around with people who can support you when you need help.
If she's like that, more than likely she won't be there for you. Try avoiding her, and if that don't work just simply try talking to her less, cut her off short,(it's kinda rude though) or best just keep by it, going in the halls and just saying hey, and that's it. Keep your convos short with her, you don't have to tell her much. You deserve a better friend than that. Hope this helps, sorry so long.

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OK, when i moved here 3 years ago i met two girls who were best friends and i wanted to be part of that group because i liked them both, so i try to hang out with them, but i just feel erally left out, so for a while i would ony hang out with one of them and try to make the other one feel left out, then, if that didn't work i would do the same thing with the other one. I didn't do it conciousely but i realize now that that's what i did. Well, i decided which one i wanted to be friends with and tried my best to leave the other one out. Well, now, 3 years later i am best friends with one of them and they hate eachother. I didn't realize it at the time i was only in seventh grade but now i realize that it could be my fault... is it?

No it totally is not your fault, things happen, people change like seasons do. And it's hard to keep up when 3's a crowd. That's why I try to stick when you hang out to an even group of people so someone won't feel left out. Try that, hope this helps.

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Ok so one of my best friends liked this guy for a while and he liked her but they just couldnt be together because of her dad. but they still liked eachother but then i started talking to him because she wanted me to get to know him because we figured that eventually we could all hang out cuz they will prolly end up going out but they didnt now she dosnt like him anymore and i do..and i have a bf but things are not going well with my bf right now and i have kinda felt that i like him for a while now but one of my friends told me this week that maybe i just like him because i dont get that kind of attention from my bf and hes not the friendliest person ever but this other guy is really really nice and i still want my friend and him to be together but she told me its just not gonna happen and i know i shouldnt like him i just cant help it. so i guess my question is should i start flirting with him now or just completely stop and keep things normal..break up w/my bf or not to? sorry for this being long!

Well maybe your friend is right, maybe you're not getting the kind of attention from your boyfriend, and if he isn't very friendly then maybe you need to break it off. Don't stay with your boyfriend and go talk to the other guy, that's cheating, and isn't fair for to him, even if he isn't giving the attention you need. Do what you want, but ask yourself this question, do you really like this other dude? Is this other dude really worth it to break up with your boyfriend for (but don't cheat on him) if you decide to break it off w/ your b/f tell him it just isn't working out. But you wanting your friend hooking up, it don't really sound like you like this other guy too much if you want them to be together. So maybe he's not worth breaking up for.. And you can't make your them be together if your friend is not up to it. Flirting with this guy while you still have a boyfriend can be considered cheating, and your leading this other guy on, if you don't really like him, Hope this helps.

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How much does the morning after pill normally cost?

and i can buy it at like a meijer or something like that right?

how long after does it work for?

My friend takes the pill, and she said hers cost $30 , in any pharmacy, like CVS or walgreens is an example. And it works after 72 hrs. Hope this helps,.

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anybody know any at-home remedies for pimples?

like something i can make.
and Asap =D

I've learned some: like if a zit is red I put the eye drops on it,then later put ice on it for 10 min. to minimize the size of your pores. Then use acne cream if you have any, or if you don't try using toothpaste to dry it. Also, you can use eggs, the whites of the eggs and put it all over your face, it feels weird but it can also look to minimize the size of the pores. Hope this helps!

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heres the deal , I'm overweight! I really really need help: I want to lose 20-40 pounds in 4 monthes but theres problems. I never feel like excercizing or running or anything! I always want to eat and I think of going on a crash diet and I know its wrong and I will never make it but I really want to get skinny. I'm going to visit my family and I want to be skinnier. Everyone always make fun of me and when they see me with my friends ,I seem 10x fatter than them! I need help fast!! + if you know , what pills do you reccommend? I'm only like 13 and I'm going to turn 14 in about 5 monthes and I don't want anything to harm me but I need to lose weight!

You can't lose weight overnight, but you can exercise for 30 min. everyday, try doing push ups, curl-ups, swim, jog,run, ride a bike. Do something that you like doing, (try something that is physical) but try not to think of it as exercise, tag a friend along with you, you probably won't even notice. And when you take for a run, get a portable radio/cdplayer or mp3 with you, and you can jog to the songs you like. I don't recommend you take pills, because those are not exactly healthy,you don't know what the side effects are (you wouldn't wanna mess up our body) , and it's not healthy for a girl your age. Get a membership to the gym, and go with a friend. You can do it, but don't overdue it, it takes time. P.S. crash dieting is not good at all, you can lack your ability to concentrate when that happens. I know you can do it girl! Hope this helps!

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Is there such a thing as being scared that you're too skinny? I don't want to say anything, although I bring it up to my mom sometimes, but I know if I said this my friends would flip out and say "what is wrong with you, why are you rubbing it in?" etc. Also, people always comment that I look skinnier than the last time they saw me!! and yes, I know it is a good thing but I see some girls who are just anorexic-looking and very unattractive in my eyes and I am afraid that I look like them.

I dance once a week for 4 hours, and I have swim practice every other day and meets on Fridays. I am very busy, although I don't play many sports, but I feel like I'm in OK shape. But I often just don't feel hungry and I eat when I am hungry(but eat a lot of junk food...i'm trying to eat less).

I feel pretty, but my skin is very pale, I have dark circles and I sometimes feel too skinny, although half the time i am perfectly satisfied. I never feel fat or anything.



Thanks soo much for the help, I guess what I'm asking is, do other people worry about this?
is it normal?
and what can I do to be healthier-looking?
(i always tend to look tired).

Thanks again and I know this was long!

-AW'


p.s. i have a very high self-confidence level and I tend to be a leader in my school/community, but I've been wondering about htis for awhile. thnks:)

There is people like this, like me, sometimes I wonder about that myself. You only think that way maybe cause you do exercise, & are athletic and that is healthy, but eating junk-food doesn't help,try substituting the junk food for something light or something like non-salty crackers,fruits, vegetables, fish. You are probably look tired because you're not getting enough sleep, 9 hrs. of sleep you're spose to have, you can take naps but not for too long cause you'll have trouble going to sleep later. But other than that you sound pretty healthy to me. Keep your head up! Hope this helps.

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well i have this problem with my dad. it would take a while to explain so im not gonna get into that but ill just tell u somthing that happend. i have been getting good grades for a while now and that never happens to me and my dad never said good job or anything to me and he always compares me to my 'perfect' sister she was good at everything and im just not. he makes me think that im not good at anything and i sometimes believe it. but lately i have been being a real bitch to my bf and i just cant help it. i dont want to take my anger out on him but idont know how to stop or how else to get rid of my anger..i cant really just talk to my dad about this. so what do i do? i really love my bf and i dont want to loose him because of this and it seems like that is whats going to happen if i dont knock it off.

Some parents do that, they compare you to others, pay no attention. You've did your best, and tell them, that's the best I can be. But it helps to talk to your dad, tell him that you're trying your best to impress him,and that you would appreciate if I could at least get some words of encourgament, and that you're not your sister, but you're trying your hardest. Talk to your dad, so there wouldn't be a bitter relationship between you and your dad, it's better have communication with your family. See if this helps, and talk to your boyfriend about this situation, look to him for support, he should understand and if he doesn't then it doesn't seem like your boyfriend is the one for you. He should be there for you, you shouldn't and can't lose him over this, if he drops from you, he'll lose you, it's his loss. Not yours, to get off the anger, watch a comedy movie, go out with other friends, talk to your friends about it, they'll be there for you. Hope this helps, and sorry so long.

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I am 13/female.
My guy friend is 14/m. (obviously haha)

He likes a girl who likes him just for his looks.
Im pretty sure he likes her for her looks & popularity (she is in 7th grade, he's in 8th) and he is a HUGE flirt, but theyve never even spoken in person!! it's rediculous, they talk on AOL and email all the time, but i can't comprehend how they cn like eachother.

I wish he would find someone who respected him for who he was, and I feel like he's getting annoyed/ignoring me for some reason but I don't knwo why. Ive just been really down lately because he is my best friend, and I know he's a teenage guy and this is gonna happen, but I thought he was different and more mature. The girl isn't even nice.

Thanks
-AW

Well, the best thing I can tell you is that,even if you think that she's not the one for him,you've got to be there for him, and if she isn't turned out what he wants it to be he's gonna have to learn that pretty much himself. You could tell him once,and if that happens tell him : You can't say I told you so.. That's the best thing to do, is be there for him. You're his best friend and that's what best friends are for, Hope this helps.

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Okay, So I'm a female. And I'm a freshman in High School.
*= namechange.
Okay, so there's two other people involved. One is a sophomore, or my best friend, Alice.* I haven't known her long but our friendship is very close. Then there is James*. He is a senior, and he's also my friend.

When I first met these two, I was almost positive Alice loved James. Later on, however, I came to find out that Alice liked James as a brother and nothing more, but James loved Alice.

So of course, being their friends, I was caught in the middle. To make matters WORSE, I liked James. I haven't told him because it's awkward and he IS a senior.

I just don't know what to do about him at this point. I REALLY like him, but it's like Alice is the only one he will ever like.

What do I do?

Well he'll probably see to it that Alice only likes him as a friend, and he can put his interest else where like maybe, you. You can't really make a guy like you, but the best you can do , is talk to him, be good friends with him, then talk about how you have feelings for him, don't be shy, and it doesn't matter if he's a senior, AGE AIN'T NOTHING BUT A NUMBER!. Do what you do best, FLIRT!, make eye contact, do whatever. Hope this helps.

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