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its affecting him..
well i have this problem with my dad. it would take a while to explain so im not gonna get into that but ill just tell u somthing that happend. i have been getting good grades for a while now and that never happens to me and my dad never said good job or anything to me and he always compares me to my 'perfect' sister she was good at everything and im just not. he makes me think that im not good at anything and i sometimes believe it. but lately i have been being a real bitch to my bf and i just cant help it. i dont want to take my anger out on him but idont know how to stop or how else to get rid of my anger..i cant really just talk to my dad about this. so what do i do? i really love my bf and i dont want to loose him because of this and it seems like that is whats going to happen if i dont knock it off.
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lemme tell you about my relationship with my dad
its prety damn similiar to yours
oaky
ive been doing excellen in life as in
Judo state champion for 2 years in a row
Top Pianist of the state
and he says nothing
he yells at me for not doing the simple things in my life
and im saying this isnt normal yelling
its yelling like you deserve to die
youll never go anywhere in your life you have nothing it all came from me
etc....
so this one time i was feeling so pissed so sad and depressed i told my friend i was gonna kill myself
being the awesome bastard of a friend he is he called the cops
cops came and only me and my dad were home and he asked him to move out of the way
were asian so thing is he really didnt understand and he was like no so
they had to tazer him
he got out on bail and the first thing he did was go to school and tell me that were not son and dad anymore
but thing is
hes your dad
no matter WHAT he does he still loves you
and your bf
talk to him about this
if hes a good bf hell listen and understand
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Some parents do that, they compare you to others, pay no attention. You've did your best, and tell them, that's the best I can be. But it helps to talk to your dad, tell him that you're trying your best to impress him,and that you would appreciate if I could at least get some words of encourgament, and that you're not your sister, but you're trying your hardest. Talk to your dad, so there wouldn't be a bitter relationship between you and your dad, it's better have communication with your family. See if this helps, and talk to your boyfriend about this situation, look to him for support, he should understand and if he doesn't then it doesn't seem like your boyfriend is the one for you. He should be there for you, you shouldn't and can't lose him over this, if he drops from you, he'll lose you, it's his loss. Not yours, to get off the anger, watch a comedy movie, go out with other friends, talk to your friends about it, they'll be there for you. Hope this helps, and sorry so long.
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well isn't of taking your angry out on your bf, maybe just talk to him about it. It will help you. i know thats not much advice but maybe just try it?
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Wow, I`m going through the same thing, except me and my dad aren't arguing over the grades thing. But what helps me is, to write down my thoughts. If you don't like writing, just type in a wordpad document or something, just spill out your thoughts, re-read them, and think about it. Then if you don't feel any better, you need to talk to your dad. Tell him how you don't want to be compared to your sister, since you're not like her, and never will be, because you're YOU. If he doesn't understand, just don't pest him about it, and do what you do. He may be your guardian, but it is your life and your choices.
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