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who do i go to live with?
well i dont know if you read my last question, but it was about my dad and i thought he was cheating on my mom. he says he wasnt cheating but addmits he has been talking/texting/hanging out with someone else. what the f%#$?!?! is that not cheating? anyways, thats not the problem. well, my parents talked and YES they are getting a divorce for, like, the 3rd time. w/e. the trouble is, when i didnt know my dad was cheating, i really didnt like my mmom much. she gets on my last freaking nerve and streses me out, but im not going to get into that. i had just told my dad that if they DID get divorced, i wanted to live with HIM.
now i dont know. because i mean when i talked to my mom about the whole cheating thing, she seemed like she couldnt live without having custody of me. but they my dad talked to me for the first time since my parents decided they were getting divorced, and he said, "well yeah we're getting divorced.."yatta yatta yatta..."but i need to know who you are going to live with because if you are going to live with me,which you said a while back you would, im not going to buy a house out of this school district. but if you ARENt going to live with me, then i can." and i said i didnt know. because he asked me right on the spot. then he started tearing up and walked out. and i guess i kinda want to live with him but I CANT SEE HOW HE COULD EVER DO ANYTING LIKE THAT TO MY MOM. and i dont know how i can leave my mom now that she told me she could live with out having custody of me and my little sister. but i know she will make me CRAZY and STRESSED OUT if i go live with her. and also my dad has never had custody of me. i used to just see him wednesday and thursdays. but if i live with my dad, ill hardly ever see him because he workd like 24/7. and if he does end up going out with someone else, i could live with HER. id end up like killing her self conciously. oh my lord. please help me. this is this WORST position to be in.
thank you so much.
xoxox (:
ps. sorry its so long. ):
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oh my goodness. well i personally think you should live with your mom.
1) She really wants custody of you, which means she cares about you and she doesn't want you to get hurt.
2)Being a protective and strict mom can get stressful but it really benefits you in the end.
3) She wasn't the one who made the mistake by doing that, so i think she deserves to have you.
4) Probably the only reason she is stressing out is because of the situation she is in. (i would be too)
5) You will be able to see your mom much more than you would be able to see your dad since he works "24.7"
I hope I helped and good luck. I'm sorry this happened.=[
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I'm really sorry you have to go through this. If you can ask your parents about them having joint custody(live with both parents different days) over you, I would recommend that. If they won't consider it or if they are planning on one of them moving out of town, try this. Ask yourself(and answer truthfully) these questions.
1) Who is more interested in your well-being?
2) Who can provide you with a good happy home?
3) Who is going to make sure you have the best life?
4) Who won't allow you to do stupid things and give into your demands(the stricter, but better parent)
Your mom needs you, and you obviously lost respect and trust for your dad. Your dad seems like he would let you do anything, while your mom would keep you in line. Your mom and you could use this experience to work on your realtionship...or not. I dont know the whole situation. DON'T go with the "fun" parent, you'll be longing for the responsible one. So choose the parent who matches the questions and who is responsible. Ask if you have a question.
Good Luck
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wow, well, that is tough. Now, i don't know the whole story, but i had a friend who was in a similar situation. She lived with her mom from Monday-Friday, then spent weekends with her dad. Which, once she got used to it, said that was pretty fun. So i would seriousely consider switching it up like that. But, if that's not for you, i would suggest living with your mom, it sounds like your dad wants to live far away from her, but he still loves you, so you can be with your mom and sister, then visit your dad a lot. Especially since he works a lot, i think it's best that most of the time you're with your mom. Hope i helped!
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