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did i break up a friendship?
OK, when i moved here 3 years ago i met two girls who were best friends and i wanted to be part of that group because i liked them both, so i try to hang out with them, but i just feel erally left out, so for a while i would ony hang out with one of them and try to make the other one feel left out, then, if that didn't work i would do the same thing with the other one. I didn't do it conciousely but i realize now that that's what i did. Well, i decided which one i wanted to be friends with and tried my best to leave the other one out. Well, now, 3 years later i am best friends with one of them and they hate eachother. I didn't realize it at the time i was only in seventh grade but now i realize that it could be my fault... is it?
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no i dont think it was your fault. over three years, many things could have changed. they just grew apart, its completely normal. just because you did all that doesnt mean they're going to hate each other. so no, it wasnt your fault.
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It's not your fault from what I can see based on what you wrote. People decide on their own whether to be friends or hate eachother.
Something must have happened in their relationship that you aren't aware of that drove them apart. It has nothing at all to do with you at all. People grow apart naturally especially if one is more mature than the other or no longer interested in any of the same things.
It would appear though that they had a fight over something and you were not aware of it and why. It's up to them to patch it up or not. Stay out of it though and do not get drawn into it or pick sides. It's not your worry or business to be concerned over. They'll figure it out or move on.
It's not your fault at all. You cannot control what they do or how they treat eachother. Nothing you said or did had any influence on this situation happening at all. So, you can relax.
The only bad thing you did was in the past pretending to be friends with one and then being friends with the other without being friends with both. It was wrong to make either feel left out for your own gain. That was wrong but you have learned from it since. That situation has nothing to do with the situation where they hate eachother though.
I would be friends with the girl you are friends with and let people sort out their own mess on their own. By doing this you will not lose your friend for getting in between them.
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It doesn't matter if it's your fault or not. People change, grow apart, meet new people, etc. Everything works out the way it does for a reason. You were looking to fit in when you moved and you did it the only way you knew how. Fear of being left out is normal.
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No it totally is not your fault, things happen, people change like seasons do. And it's hard to keep up when 3's a crowd. That's why I try to stick when you hang out to an even group of people so someone won't feel left out. Try that, hope this helps.
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