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I'm 21 years old, have had my share of different types of relationships so I enjoy answering love life questions. Whether it's about getting closer emotionally or physically don't hesitate to ask, hopefully I'll be able to help. I also love the medical field and will be a registered nurse soon. If you have any questions regarding a recent medical diagnosis (don't ask for one please, not a doctor) I can help you better understand it and the treatment as well
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my boyfriend is pissing blood and for some reason his parents think i step out of your relationship and cheat, when in fact hes the one who cheats on me.. but anyways hes pissing blood like maybe 5 times a month its been happening since april.. and they think i gave him an std.. ive only slept with 2 people.. him and a virgin and the virgin it was his first time doing everything and i still had him get tested and he was clean.. ive been with my boyfriend 9 months.. so if he had an std and gave it to me would i know by now? i dont have any symptoms i know aids can take years to come up so i mean any other ones? he's had 23 sexual partners and hes 19 and im 17
Well if you don't have any of the symptoms i would say he has a urinary tract infection not a std. I suggest he gets checked out by a doctor
http://menshealth.about.com/cs/lifestyle/a/urinary_tract_2.htm
So my situation is that I kinda don't care anymore...BUT at the same time, unobsessively, on the side, so nobody knows, I kind of a little bit, not really, still do... But not a lot. =)
This boy bothers me. Childish to say but I think it can be true at any age. At 5, 18, or 30 men still bother us.
And he definitely does. If it's intentional I wouldn't know, but why is it that he barely talks to me, or asks to see me, or acts interested...
Yet he INSISTS he is...And wants to kiss me. Well he DID kiss me. But there's more to it. His ego, HUGE! That's probably why. Well I rejected his advances once or twice. But that's normal for a girl to do. And I didn't just flat out reject him either. Just didn't kiss him right away. Big deal!
He still shows interest. Every 3 days...like clockwork. Why? I wish I could tell you.
With people we hang out...I finally kissed him last week at a party at my house. That did nothing to change his mannerism.
And every time we saw each other one on one (twice in total) he wanted to play some game where I ended up in my underwear or kissing him (although I didn't) or seducing him. To be fair one of the "games" was my idea because well...I'm fun...and it involved him embarrassing himself so it was well worth it.
But now, he finally asks to see me again, just us. And he wants to play another dirty game... yippe!
Not worth it for me because I actually want to get somewhere, get to know him...progress. I told him I didn't want to play and he tells me "Its okay if you're not comfortable you don't have to play" I told him (a few hours late) that it wasn't about that....
Now he wont answer for a day because I didn't answer him right away. I know because he's like clockwork. I know when to expect a text and when not to. Very predictable...
So advice? I guess I'd like to know how to move forward in this situation. I would be more forward but he doesn't like that. Likes to call the shots, which hes calling VERY slow.
So I kinda don't care anymore, but still it bothers me so I guess I do...
ADVICE?????
I think you should tell him that you want more of a serious relationship with him. Or your never going to get anywhere. By what your telling me about him it doesn't seem like he wants the same type of relationship that you do. So to get things going tell him what you want. If its to get to know him better or get serious. Gl
OK here is the long and short. I have a CD Burning program called CD Burner XP, I have a CD-RW by Memorex ( I am sure this time that it's CD and not DVD) I have a Dell computer and Some MP3 songs that I downloaded from MP3Panda.com... How do I get them onto the CD where I will be able to play it in my car or in my CD player. Please be detailed. I have tried using Burn Data CD and Burn Audio CD and everytime either my cd get's rejected or it doesn't register that there is a CD...Oh and here are the CD Drives I have on my computer... the one that says DVD and DISC and the other says DVD RW DISC (the latter one is the one that I have beenn using. When I use the other the programs never accept that there is a CD in there. Thank you for the DETAIL! :)
Not all cars can play cd-rw you need to download them into cd-r's. I use itunes to burn cd's, it's fast and simple. Gl and keep it as a audio cd not a data disk
Today I burned some CDs off of a playlist on iTunes. Just as the instructions said (as well as common sense), I went to File --> Burn Disk, and the diskes were burned onto the CDs.
When I put them in my car though, it wouldn't read. As if there was nothing on the CD. And when I put that same CD back into my computer to REBURN, the music WAS THERE. So it went onto the CD but won't play in a normal CD player or radio?
What did I do wrong?
You didn't do anything wrong, I use to have the same problem. Your burning the songs to a cd-rw right? Your cars can't play those cd's (some can). Burn the songs to a cd-r and it should work.
My mom said she went to her doctor and they were concerned about her possibly having osteoporosis because of her age and "other factors." Well, I'm not really sure what osteoporosis actually is and I want to tell my mom more about it, as I'm sure she has questions about it as well.
Isn't osteoporosis bone loss or something like that? Like I said, I'm not entirely sure, and these medical websites make things sound really complicated. Could someone just please explain to me what it is and if my mom should be really concerned about it?
It's not the loss of bones, it's the weakening or thinning of bones. And she shouldn't be worried, her doctor should be able to put her on some medication that will help strenghten her bones and prevent injuries. You can look it up on google or another search engine for more information.
Why are some people so afraid of commitment?
They're scared to be emotionally dependent on another person. The other person could be perfect, but the people that are scared of commitment would rather run away and not take the chance of getting hurt.
okay this probably sounds really stupid, but i don't exactly understand what dry sex is?
i heard it's great. but then if you don't exactly want to have REAL sex, it's not a good idea, right? because won't the guy just try and have sex with you then?
It's rubbing on eachother and i wouldnt consider it sex. And if the guy respects you, then no he wont try and have sex with you
ok so say someone has sex and the guy cums in you a little bit. The last time you got your period was on the third of july. until july 10 very normal and what not until the 16 of july you get something thats light brown and sorta red not that heavy and that goes on for a while then its sorta heavy and red and then it ends on july 24. you have sex and havnt gotten your period in the month of agust yet. is that normal? if you are prego what are great sighns of that in the first week or two?
The light brown in that stage of your cycle means that its left over blood from your period. If you get brown spotting during the time of when your suppose to have your period then you could be pregnant. Periods come late but its better to know whether your pregnant as soon as you can. Take a pregnancy test
14/f almost 15
I've been cutting since I was in 8th grade. I'm going to be a sophomore. I hid it from my parents forever. A couple months ago I like had some weird panic attack or breakdown or something. I was crying like almost screaming. My brother came knocking on the door asking if I was ok. Then my dad started banging on it and almost broke the door down and I was screaming, "OK I'll open it!" I did and my dad grabbed me and looked at me. I was all cut up. I mean my thighs and my arms were horrible. Then he took me out to my mom and they both were screaming at me. I wasn't still bleeding so they didn't want me to the hospital.
Before that I was crying to my friend on the phone. She ended up coming over begging my dad to let her see me.
My dad took everything away from me. My phone, my computer, my mp3. He even took away my church and wanted to keep me away from my friend that came to help me. He hates her. And doesn't want me to have anything to do with her.
I don't understand. I don't know what to do at this point. They expected me to stop after all that. Like taking my stuff away is gonna help. Not seeing anybody for the whole summer?!
What am I supposed to do? I cut myself before because of everything. To be honest I didn't hate my life. I just mostly hated myself. I thought I was ugly, fat, stupid, ect. I know I'm not but I made myself believe it. Because that's what my parents told me. It made me feel horrible. Then my mom had drinking problems going on. My brother was stealing things and I was failing a couple subjects in school and...it just came along to me.
My dad thought I was suicidal. When he was yelling at me he mentioned that he would help me kill myself because he doesn't care if I was dead because if I'm gonna do this to our family it was my choice. Then in another lecture he said the same thing.
Now all I do is cry every night. That's not what I want. Really. All I have is my friends. I actually have time to get on the computer when my parents are at work. So I always wondered what happened to unconditional love. That night when he was talking to me he told me I could tell him any problems that are going on. How am I supposed to tell him anything when he just tells me its ok to die. He mostly said "yeah I would be upset later on but I would realize that's what she wanted anyways" This makes me feel so bad.
Anyways, they just... I just don't know what to do at this point. My friend told me she went through the same thing but her parents got her help. I was told I had depression. It makes sense but I just haven't really talk to anyone about this except my friends.
I know my dad cares...sorta. I thought he did but after hearing that he would be ok if I was dead then it makes me not care about him anymore.
I just keep getting made fun of in my family. My mom calls me bad. My dad calls me stupid, crazy, and once, he called me a zombie. This doesn't make me feel great.
Anybody know what I can do?
Ok... your family isn't supportive at all. A father should do anything for his daughter, and so should a mother. But whether they're supportive or not, you shouldn't take it out on yourself by cutting or not believing in yourself. Your 14 almost 15, your going to live a very long time. Do you want to be happy? Then change right now. You don't have to let what your parents say about you effect you. "I thought I was ugly, fat, stupid, ect. I know I'm not but I made myself believe it." You don't have to make yourself believe that. There's no use in bringing yourself down.
Alright. So I'm a 16/F and this is what happened. My boyfriend and I were at a party the other night and we ran into trouble. There was this one other guy there (we'll call him J) and so J, me, and this other girl were just chilling on the couch while my boyfriend was off playing pool or something. So J takes my hand and starts leading me away from the couch and I'm just kind of like okayyy... because I mean, I didn't really know this kid too well but I was just like whatever, he probably just wants to get some food or something. Well he starts taking me back towards this room and I stop outside the door and I'm like "What are you doing?" and J says, "Come in here with me." I started babling like an idiot "What? No, my boyfriend- I- huh?- why?" and he leaned in real close, put his hand on like the small of my back (because I was trying to back away) and whispered "It'll be fun just come on." Weeeell, as you can guess, this looks a little shady. I mean, this guy is still holding my hand, he's whispering in my ear, got his hand on my back, and we're standing in the doorway of a dark room. Which is GREAT timing for my boyfriend to look over and see us. So my bf storms over and he's like "What the he** are you doing?" And I had already pulled away from J but J shoves me behind him and is all like "What's your problem, dude? I'm a little busy right now." Ha, yeah, let's just say that REALLLY pissed my bf off. He gets all up J's face and says "Yeah, with MY girlfriend. Now get the f*$@ away." Well, I myself would walk away right about now, but J's got the doorway blocked so I'm kind of just standing there like a worthless bag of poo, trying to get out when, oh goody, J makes it worse and said something like "Well your girlfriend is obviously a slu* if she was about to come in her with me" and before I could say "I wasn't going in there with you!!", my bf punched J in the face. They start getting into it right there, and a few other guys pull em off of eachother. They both got a little beat up, and the girl throwing the party got all pissed and was like "Get out of here!" So yeah. We got kicked out of the party... I felt HORRIBLE. I mean, like, I just felt so bad. I know I wasn't the one getting into the fight, but I just felt really guilty. Not for getting kicked out of the party but because my bf had like a blackeye and gosh, I just feel horrible, I feel like its all my fault. I mean, like jeez. I apologized like a million times to him, and his parents because they were all "What happened!?!" and ugh. I just feel so bad. My bf says its no big deal and he doesn't get why I feel so guilty but he got hurt and I feel like its my fault. What can I do to make it up to him? Am I being stupid for feeling like this?
The holding your hand and taking you somewhere doesn't seem like a friend thing. But if you say it doesn't matter, and you would be ok if some girl came up to your boyfriend grabbed his hand and took him somewhere then alright its nothing. I know its not what you want to hear but letting it get that far to where he was already about to take you into a room, is bad. You shouldn't have let it got that far. And when it did you shouldn't have tried to explain you had a boyfriend, just have left. Your boyfriend is gunna stick up for you no matter what. He's ok and you cant take that fight back. What you can do is DONT LET IT GET THAT FAR. It's not necessary for a guy to hold your hand to take you somewhere. He says "lets go get something to eat" You say "ok". Think about it if he said "lets go in a dark room and fool around". Would you have gotten off that couch?
ok, i cant get my past out of my head. ive been through alot of shyt in my life.
heres how it starts:
when i was younger my mom took me out of state away from my dad. my mom tried filling my head with crap like my dad was going to kill us if he finds us. and so i didnt see him for about 9 years.
before i saw my dad:
i lived in shelter after shelter, never in a stable home.
my mom use to beat me when i was asleep and awake, everyday i went to school bruised up...one day i got tierd of my mom beating me so i hit her back and she called the cops(this happened twice)
i always got in fights at school(i always won(just sayig) and i got suspended for it. one time i punched this chicks face in so bad, her parent pressed charges(the charges droped because the chick moved away). i always skiped school and class.
I use to make my self throw up...not because i didnt like the way my body looked, but because of some of the shyt that happening.
when i was in 5th or 6th grade i almost died...i kept getting strip-throat and it turned into mono and both sides of my neck were swollin' litterally the size of tenis balls, i went to the hospital...i was in there for about a month and a half they gave me some meds and then i had to goback cause i had a servere reaction i was in the hospital again for another 2 weeks or so...
then i moved in with my dad and all seemed to get better!!!:)
that pretty much it...
i cant get all this shyt out head...
help me!!!
what do i do???? im desperate for the right answer to make me not think about my past!!!
HELP ME!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
First i wanna say im really sorry that happened to you, it must have been tough. When i start thinking into something i dont want to think about, i do something else. Like say i cant sleep because thats all im thinking about. I'll get up, get something to eat and watch some tv until i feel better. Just try to concentrate on other things. The good things. School, friends, someone you like, what you wanna do later or the next day. Just try to keep yourself busy.
I am learning to play guitar on my own. I have written a few songs and I am pretty good at that, but I would like to learn how to play really well. I heard guitar tabs work. I have seen them but I do not understand how to use them. Can you send me to a site that has them where they are for beginers or there is some explination for how to use them. Thanks.
Guitar tabs are really simple. Ok there's 6 lines which resemble the 6 guitar strings. The Highest string is the first string on the guitar (The thinnest E string). The bottom line on the tab is the 6th string (The thickest E string). The numbers on the lines say which fret to place your finger and strum (just that string). If it has more then one number going straight down then its a chord. Tabs are good but you also need to learn the chord names. I suggest you learn how to play the G,A,Am,E,C,D,Bm,B,F chords. They're in almost every song you will play. Here's a good site
Ultimate-guitar.com
One of my favorite songs is "The best" by cartel. If you have a capo its a good song to start with if your gunna try tabs first. Here's the link
http://www.ultimate-guitar.com/tabs/c/cartel/best_tab.htm
Good luck
Okay, well there are these girls who claim to be my friends and such. They really hurt me last year in the seventh grade. It was a whole dancing incident I'd rather not go into, but anyways my birthday is coming up, they've been acting really nice to me, and I'm still working on getting over the dancing thing, I want to invite them, well all but one, a girl who's the cause and source of drama, she's one of their best friends, but anyway If i do then they'll tell her and we'll have another problem, so what should I do? I don't want to hurt anybody or cause problems even if they have wronged me.
Well if they hurt you then they're really not good friends. I can give you 2 good choices.
1. Don't invite any of the girls who wronged you, and you wont have any problems. And a good birthday part without any drama.
2. You invite all of them even the girl who was the source. Honestly the other girls are just as bad as she is. And if you invite them and don't invited her one of 2 things is gunna happen. They're not going to go because you didn't invite the other girl. Or they will go and ask you why you didn't invite her.
If i was in your position then i wouldn't invite those girls. They aren't good friends and you can have a good time without them. I hope i helped, if you have any other questions feel free to ask. Gl and have a great birthday :)
Hi, I'm an 18 year old female and I have had 6 sexual partners, two of which i dated for over a year each time. I have never bled while having sex .. does that mean my cherry has never been popped?
You can still keep your hymen if they were all lubricated. But its pretty unlikely that you've kept it after 6 guys. You probably broke it before there's alot of other things you could have been doing other then having sex to have broken it. Riding a bike, riding a horse, putting in a tampon. Those are some of the ways
Okay so I had a physical and my doctor asked me if I have had sex and I said no.
But I actually have with two different guys(I'm a girl btw) is it really bad that I lied to her about this?
If I had said yes what would she have done?
It depends on how long ago your first time was. Your suppose to get checked a year after. If it was the first time for those 2 guys then i dont think you have anything to worry about. Just make sure your healthy "there". If there's any changes ask questions
how do you get the breast bigger naturally,food,exercise
Eating foods with hormones, such as meats
Do guys like it when girls play hard yo get or a chick thats shy or a chick that is straight up with her feelings for you??
im so damn confussed... cause i like guys and im always looking for someone to be with...most of them have been jerks...
im asking this question cause theres this guy i really like and i dont know what to do any more...
PLEASE HELP!!!
im so confused..............
Be yourself. Playing hard to get is really immature and i wont chase. A girl that is shy is cute, pretending to be shy is weird and not in a good way. A girl that is straight up with her feelings is great. Just be yourself so you wont have to change later on. Gl
Age:13
Gender:Female
So i like this guy and yes we do talk online sometimes. but at school we never talk coz i think were both too shy. he`s one year younger than me but were both in the same grade. My friend (who is friends with him) told me that he only goes out with girls because theyre "HOT". [and i also think that too sometimes]i really like him and all but i dont want to be with him. It seems like i dont know what that means but i also fantasize of being with him. I wonder if he asks me out, .. should i say yes or no? I think about him everyday and night. But im not obsessed. i Hope this doesnt sound confusing and i hope you can help. please&thank you. [:
If he only goes out with girls because they are "Hot" then he's not shy. Wait for him to come to you, its up to you whether you say yes or no. I don't think you should, but your friend could be wrong. What do you talk to him about online? Do you think he would only go for a girl because she's hot? If yes then don't say yes. School relationships end quick and if that's all he's looking for then he's going to move on to the "hotter" girl he can get. I know that for a fact. Gl
do discharge tell when your close to your period?
my panties is always wet do you think i peed in them or do you think thats my discharge and need some kotex lightdays regular deoderant?
Yes, the colors tell you what part of the cycle your at. You should know when your going to get your period, if your under alot of stress and it comes at a different times every month then i could tell you what colors you get at different times of the cycle. Just ask. I don't know if its your discharge. If it looks the same every time then most likely not. And i don't think you pee'd in them, some women are just more wet down there then others.
help me! this person in my class is threating to kill me! he keeps saying dont tell any parents or he really will kill me, and when i try telling them they dont believe me! what should i do?
First im guessing your a girl, right? Do you have any guy friends that would look out for you? You should tell one of them encase the guy that wants to kill you tries anything during school. Second now that your safe, tell your parents