So i like this guy and yes we do talk online sometimes. but at school we never talk coz i think were both too shy. he`s one year younger than me but were both in the same grade. My friend (who is friends with him) told me that he only goes out with girls because theyre "HOT". [and i also think that too sometimes]i really like him and all but i dont want to be with him. It seems like i dont know what that means but i also fantasize of being with him. I wonder if he asks me out, .. should i say yes or no? I think about him everyday and night. But im not obsessed. i Hope this doesnt sound confusing and i hope you can help. please&thank you. [:
Lianna25 answered Friday August 7 2009, 9:53 am: get to know him abit more, maybe you would start to like him eventually go out with him. But dont rush anything if you feel like you dont wanna be with him then dont, but then again you dont know what you could be missing. [ Lianna25's advice column | Ask Lianna25 A Question ]
Haha cute lol,well maybe you should talk to him abit more ? like maybe he doesn't only go out with girls if they're only hot try to get to know him better,try to approach him at school don't be shy nothing bad about it,just go up to him and say hi and how was school and all it won't hurt and you won't regret it and i'm sure he would want you too anyways,if you really like him than say yes [:
solidadvice4teens answered Thursday August 6 2009, 10:24 pm: Welcome to the confusing world of puberty ;) You'll survive! It sounds as though what you have is a crush and a physical attraction to him. You admire his looks, personality, image etc. This is normal and so are the warm butterfly feeling you get too. Even if these are sometimes embarrassing or sexual feelings it's all a part of growing up.
It's NOT love though. You don't have that until a relationship forms and builds. At 13 guys are much less mature than girls period. Girls are always ahead intellectually. Boys still want to play with action figures and vaguely understand girls and crushes etc. yet. That's why you may get hurt by him and why he only likes "HOT" people.
What you should do is HOLD BACK on the dating and become his friend. Use your online discussions as a starting point. Ask him if he would like to hang out with you and some friends at a party, a movie, bowling etc. It's not a date. You can then see if he says no or yes whether he's got genuine interest without showing your cards to anyone that you like him. This way you don't get hurt as much.
Boys don't chat with girls very long on the computer without being a little interested. As far as being shy goes he probably feels it too but doesn't show it. You just have to suck it up and go for it as that's the only way to move forward.
If he asks you out first tell him that you're "Not allowed to date yet (even if you are) and that you have to be friends first. Tell him your parents might let you only if they meet him and his parents." Why tell him this? It means that he better not try his routine "because they're hot" or hurt you if he wants to date.
I think at 13 that you should wait a year or too until the boys become more mature and you have better choice. However, if you really like him talk to your mother and father and proceed from there and do what I said about asking to be a friend first. It'll show you right there whether he's interested and or worth it.
Also, girls tend to gossip and might also be interested in him and trying to throw you and others off with rumor. Consider the source of the rumors you heard about him as they could be jealous. If it's coming from people he dated already listen up and back away from him. If you see a bad pattern don't leap. [ solidadvice4teens's advice column | Ask solidadvice4teens A Question ]
masterclinic answered Thursday August 6 2009, 10:12 pm: If he only goes out with girls because they are "Hot" then he's not shy. Wait for him to come to you, its up to you whether you say yes or no. I don't think you should, but your friend could be wrong. What do you talk to him about online? Do you think he would only go for a girl because she's hot? If yes then don't say yes. School relationships end quick and if that's all he's looking for then he's going to move on to the "hotter" girl he can get. I know that for a fact. Gl [ masterclinic's advice column | Ask masterclinic A Question ]
jealousyxo answered Thursday August 6 2009, 10:09 pm: Sorry im a bit confused, so you want to go out with him but then again you dont? lol sorry im just really confused.
But alright since you like this guy if he eventually asked you out then id say yes! i mean if you really like him go for it! Its cute that your both shy :) if hes too shy to make a move then id totally go for it and ask him out yourself! guys like that ;)
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