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well my bf is a marine and the only way i can talk to him is through myspace(cuz he's in cali for training)but for the last week..he's been talking to my sister who not much younger than me because i havent been online lately.
and she and him both brag to me what they were talking bout to eachother and its getting me realllly jealous i dont wanna lose him.and to top it off,no one knows were going out except my oe friend
what do i do?

Tell your boyfriend that what he is doing is upsetting you, and tell your sister that as well. Tell them that you care about both of them, but you hate how they keep bragging about each other's actions, and that it's really irritating and annoying you. If your boyfriend is a true catch, he'll understand and stop. If he doesn't stop, then I'd move on and find someone else. He's not worth it if he can't respect you and what not.

If you need anymore help, just ask. :)

-Mariah-

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15/f


okay so i met this guy and before i actaully talked to him i saw him at and band concert and i thought he was really really cute and stuff

so i started talking to him awhile back on myspace and he seemed nice at first, but then he was being a huge butt like all the other guys that go to his school. so "Chuck" and i talked for about 4 weeks straight and then all the sudden he stopped talking to me and i tried messaging him a few days ago and he read it but he didnt respond and he said himself he wasnt like the rest of them but his pants are on fire

If he's going to be a jerk and a moron, then why waste your time? There are plenty of other guys out there, just waiting for the perfect girl to find them. So don't wait for the perfect guy to find you, go out and find him.

I think it's time to give him the old, "Hey buddy, old friend, old pal, see ya later, I have a life to live, and if you can't enjoy my company, then frankly, you're not in it."

If you need anymore help, just ask. :)

-Mariah-

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this is going to sound really wierd, but do you know hannah montana's hair? she has like very loose curls and such and i was wondering if anyone knows how i can get them. i have REALLY thick hair and its guess you could say medium length. i have used hot rollers but they never seem to stick. thanks

I would try going to see a hair stylist and seeing if the can do it for you, because it would probably be easier, and it wouldn't wreck your hair if you did it at home the wrong way.

If you don't like the idea of going to a hair stylist, I'd try straightening your hair, and then putting in the hot rollers. That may work, but I'm not really sure.

Sorry I couldn't help you out more.

If you need anymore help, though, just ask.

Best Regards,
Mariah

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hi, everyone.
i'm trying to lose weight and i was wondering if you guys think this will help at all:

exercise:
monday/wednesday/friday-running at six in the morning. about the miles. only walking a little.
100 curlups, 60 pushups.
might go running at the beach, this week.
alot of swimming (like wading, doggie paddle, ect)

diet:
i havent had much of an appetite lately, but here goes, aha.
breakfast-honey bunches of oats with milk before running. sometimes skip breakfast.
lunch-varies. probably just a sandwhich. when i go to the beach, it will be pizza or a chicken sandwhich.
dinner-home cooked stuff. fairly fatty. like, 15+ grams of fat for the meal, i'm guessing..
snacks-i'm trying to cut out snacks, but once again, at the beach, i'll probably cheat alot. other than that, i eat fruit, ect.
drinks-trying to drink all water. orange juice.


so will this help me lose weight?
how many grams of fat should i allow at each meal?
also, SHOULD i lose weight. i'm 4'11 and 99 pounds.

thanks for help. i'll rate.

Whatever you do, you should not lose weight.

Right now, you are under the specifications for what weight you should be at for your height.

If you have a small frame, you should be from 103-113 pounds. If you have a medium frame, you should be from 111-123, and if you have a large frame, you should be from 120-134 pounds.

I wouldn't try really hard to lose weight, but I'd try to build muscle instead. Try doing some weight training and such, rather than cardio, since cardio is more associated with burning calories and losing weight, rather than building muscle. At your stature, you don't need to be losing any weight, though. But with weight training, you can reach a higher metabolism which will help you lose extra weight and calories if you're ever worried about your health.

If you need anymore help, just ask.

Best Regards,
Mariah

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I really want to get a new hairstyle and I'm having a hard time finding pictures of hairstyles with sideswept bangs and medium length hair. can you post up any pics or websites?

Here You Are:
http://www.pageantrymagazine.com/magazine/Features/2005/b05/b05_hair/image/b05_hair2.jpg
http://www.federicosalon.com/images/style/5.jpg
http://www.nicole-richie.ws/about-nicole-richie/Celebrity_678.jpg
http://www.nikkicollection.co.uk/images/amore/amo_syn_exi_1.jpg
http://prom.hairresources.net/704mediumcurly.jpg
http://www.joshua24.net/products/wigs/images-small/jonrenau/bailey_5318_small.jpg

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I am getting my hair cut tomorrow. I am wanting it medium to short. My hair goes down to my shoulders now but I want it to the middle of my neck. Any cute hair style advice or styles? I really dont know what to do. I have wavy/curly hair and a major calick in the front where my bangs are. Please help me!!! :) Thank you in advance!
16/f

Here are some ideas:
http://z.about.com/d/beauty/1/0/6/D/shortbrownhair1.jpg
http://www.short-hair-styles-magazine.com/images/2006-short-hair-style-pictures-03.jpg
http://www.short-hair-styles-magazine.com/images/2006-short-hair-style-pictures-08.jpg
http://www.just-hairstyles.com/straight/s1.jpg
http://www.hairresources.com/images/sce/MediumHairStyle.jpg

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(SORRY THIS IS SOOO LONG!)me and my sister tell each other almost everything and were good at not telling anyone else.its just that shes good friends with our god mom and sometimes shell tell her things i have told her thinking our godmom wont say anything.well most of the time it ends up back to me cus our godmom starts asking me questions about it.well anyway i recently got a bf who works at my school over the summer and i go there everyday cus my dads the principle.well hes 18 and im 14!im always talking to him on the phone and one day my sister askes me who was i alwys talking to on the phone and i told her it was none of her buisness and she got super mad and was like why wont you tell me! then she said well i guess we dont even need to talk at all! and she got really mad and walked away!im afraid that if i did tell her she would tell my godmom cus again there very very close and im afraid she will take it really bad and start asking me questions and it might get back to my mom cus there also good friends! also even if i told my sister to promise not to tell anybody one day if she gets really mad at me i afraid she might threatn to tell cus she has done that plenty of times before.and then im also afraid that if i dont tell her shell get really mad and might tell that ive been talking on the phone with a boy almost every night!i just realy dont want anyone to find out about him but then again i still wanna talk to my sister! if my parents ever found out(especcialy my dad) id be on punishment 4ever!!!theyd murder me!!!!(my siter is 16 if u needed to know)

You have to be straightforward with your parents. Trust me, you can never hide anything from your parents; they always find out about it eventually. It's also better that you tell them yourself, rather than them finding out about it from an outside source, because they most likely won't be as mad at you.

If you want your parents to keep their trust in you, I suggest that you tell them.

Don't worry about your sister, just ignore her if she ever bugs you about telling her things that are supposed to be kept secret. Tell her that if she can't keep your secrets, then you can't tell her anything anymore until she does.

If you need anymore help, just ask.

Best Regards,
Mariah

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alright.there's this kid.i talk to him all the time.and he flirts with me alot.it seems as though he tells me everything!and i basically tell him everything.but im just having very confused feelings for him.like sometimes i think he only talks to me because we're talking about his ex or about some stupid thing he did earlier.just dumb stuff that he likes to talk about.but when i say something like "oooh nvm" then he'll be all "say it" and bug me and bug me until i tell him and it makes it seem like he cares but most of the time he hardly says anything.i really shouldnt be worrying about,but what do i do?

I was a little confused as to what you were asking here, but I'll try my best to answer it...

You should just ask him if he likes you as more than a friend. If he says, "No", then you'll no longer live in the state of confusion. If he says, "Yes", then there you go, you can then ask him out if you want.

If he says, "No", just ask him if he wants to be friends.

Best Regards,
Mariah

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Okay, so there's this guy named "R"

and here's how we met:

His ex best friend martin met one of my bffs yuval through myspace..and yuval told her bffs (who are my friends too) carly & sammi..who started talking to martin. Yuval LOVES martin but martin treats yuval like crap and likes sammi and carly. ANYWHO, yuval + carly+ sammi + jen [another bff] meet martin who brings his now ex best friends garret and "R". My bffs tell "r" about me becuase carly and sammi got boy friends and garret and jen hook up. So he requests me on myspace and we start talking...

sorry that was long & complicated =]]

so we start talking and on the third time talking on the phone we talk from 10 at nite till 6 in the morning playing 21 questions about each other.
He flirted ALOT with me and we were naming everything we liked about each other..and asking realllly personal and sexual questions..so yea we liked each other..

but like 3 weeks ago he met one of my friends and she's SUPER pretty and he described his dream girl to me wen we first started talking and she fit it to a T! so he doesnt even talk to me anymore and he justs talk to her! and they post buillitens at 2 am saying nothing but i love you and i love you more! and he used to/ or still does like her. But she told me she would never go out with him and thinks he's gay and weird. SHe told ALL her friends that.

My Question: WHAT SHOULD I DO WITH THIS GUUY

I would stay away from this guy. He sounds like a MySpace player, to say the least. I wouldn't get involved with this guy if he just drops you like a hot potato when he meets one of your friends that's really attractive.

There are plenty of other guys out there, and I wouldn't recommend flirting or trying to begin a relationship with a guy on the internet that you have never met, for, both, safety reasons, and because you don't know who they really are in real life. For example, anyone can post a picture on the web and say that it's them, that's why online relationships and such are not to be trusted, unless you actually know them in-person.

It's a lot easier, and you are bound to find the right guy if you look offline rather than online. Then you can discover their true personality and such.

If you need anymore help, just ask.

Best Regards,
Mariah

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i am 11, in IN. my dad mentally and emotionally abuses me. i hate it. i want to go to court and live with my mom, but she cant afford a lawyer, and if my dad end up getting me i would never be able to see my mom again.. i have been praying, but it hasnt happened. sorry the question is so long

I would talk to a trusted adult, such as a teacher or a school counselor immediately. You do not deserve to live under these circumstances.

I am sorry that I cannot help you more with this question, but that is the only solution to this situation.

You can also contact a hotline that specializes in these sorts of situations.

I would try this website that has a phone number that you can call to seek help for this specific matter: http://www.childhelp.org/get_help

If you need anymore help, please ask me at anytime.

I wish you luck that you will do the right thing and talk to someone about this situation.

Best Regards,
Mariah

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So I currently have a boyfriend, Whom I've been with since April 9th..which that would add up to over 3 months.He's 18 turns 19 in August. and I'm 16 , I turn 17 in October.I love him to death, but I have kind of a problem.I think I still have feelings for my ex.I know it's bad and I never wanted it to happen.We dated for about 3 months about 8 months ago.It was a real rough relationship.He put me through a whole lot and dumped me for his ex.Who he dated for 3 years and something months.They are not dating anymore, which is recent when they broke up.He's a wreck and as desperate as it gets.He goes to me of all people when they break up.He came here, as I thought to get his chain back, But really he came to talk to someone.He was having issues with his ex.I tried to help, even if he hurt me the most. I know that might be stupid on my part to even have anything to do with him, But I do still love and care about him.I don't want him to do anything too stupid.Anyways, my current boyfriend knows he came to talk and everything and I'm not sure if he knows I have feelings for him,But my ex is starting to try and manipulate me and tell me he still loves me and wants to be with me,But I'm with my boyfriend.I won't let him take my boyfriend away from me.I really think my boyfriend is the best one I ever had.And I don't want to lose him.I don't know what to do.As hard as I try, I can't quite get over my ex. Is there any way of overcoming this issue?

Well, which one do you feel safer with?

Who makes you feel good inside, like you can trust them more? I would go with the person you KNOW won't hurt you. One way to decide is to take a piece of paper for both of them, and write what is good on one half, and what is bad on the other. That way you can see written down what you do and don't like about each of them and make a choice.

If you need more help, just ask. :)

Best Regards,
Mariah

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i don't know if anyone would know anything about this, but i recently found this neck lace, it has three circulare pieces that can fan out, and i believe that its silver. The date on it is 1830 and it has various religious figures on the six faces. i was wondering if this was worth anything? if anyone knows anything about this or has any helpful websites or stores i could email? thank you soo much!

I would try these two websites:

http://jewelry.about.com/od/jewelryappraisals/Jewelry_Appraisals_the_Facts.htm
http://www.jewelryappraisalservices.com/

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alright so this might sound really stupid. ok well i go to this daycamp thing and there's this kid that's 11 and going into 6th grade. and im 13 and going in 8th. so he's really cute. and he likes me. and i like him. is it weird if we went out because of the age difference? and also he's short for his age, but i don't mind. thankss

I would say, if you want to be with him, then go right ahead, but beware of the maturity factor. Maybe you're looking for more in a relationship, but he is just looking for some puppy love.

Beware of middle school romance, though, it doesn't last long. Usually "relationships" only last for a few days, or maybe even a week or two if you're lucky. The break-ups usually leave kids really depressed and whatnot, so I'd be careful.

If you need anymore help, just ask.

Best Regards,
Mariah

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I have a very strange question to ask..but please bear with me.

Let's say a guy has a girlfriend that's really ugly. And I know I'm prettier than her. When he shares her pictures and puts her pictures up and is so proud of them...does he realize that she's ugly? or is he so glad that he has a girlfriend that he doesn't care WHAT she looks like, as long as she "belongs" to him. And in this case, he thinks she's the most beautiful girl in the world?

Because it's getting annoying. This guy makes fun of my pictures, when I know I'm SO much prettier. But when he puts up her ugly pictures, he praises them. What am I supposed to say? It annoys me that he makes fun of me, when his girlfriend is disgustingly ugly.

I know it's shallow. =/

I wouldn't worry about it so much. He is most likely praising her pictures because he likes her for her personality and whatnot, rather than what she looks like, which all guys should learn to do.

I wouldn't get so worked up about it, though, there will be a perfect guy for you around the corner, that hopefully likes you for you, and not just for what you look like.

Looks grow old fast, but personality stays alive forever.

Best Regards,
Mariah

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So, there's this guy who works concessions at the movie theater that I go to regularly. He seems really cool, and he's cute (I sound like such a girl, haha, I'm sorry)!
How can I get to know him if I only see him when I go to the movies? Thanks in advance. =]

The best bet would be to ask him if he'd like to go do something when he's not working, like get a cup of coffee, go play a sport, or get some ice cream or something, just an excuse so that you can spend more time around him outside of the movie theater.

If he likes you, or at least wants to become friends with you, he'll probably say, "Yes". If he says, "No". just say, "Well, okay", and go about your business.

If you guys do hang out somewhere, tell him to call or e-mail you, or add him to your MySpace, if you have one, so that you can chat each other up.

If you need anymore help, just ask. :)

Best Regards,
Mariah

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OKk...
During the school year, me and this guy went out for two months. (because it was middle school, that was a long relationship). We ended up breaking up after i had my first kiss with him, and after we broke up, i found out that he held hands with 2 other girls (not at the same time). And that he was squeezing another gurls boobs and slapping her butt while we went out. Then, two days after we break up, he tells my best friend that he is like in love with her. I was really hurt by him but after a while we kind of made up and we're friends now. Well i went to the pool today and we talk ALL the time, and he flirts constantly with me,, and i with him. Well, i like him again, and i'm pretty sure that he likes me too. So, Do you think it's a good idea for me to take him back after what he did? Or should i just forget about hiM/

I don't think it's a good idea to take him back, because he will probably get "busy" again sometime soon. I'm not really sure, but he might just be putting on an act, to try to make you fall for him so that he can just do what he did before you broke up.

Unless you think that he is a changed man and that you can trust him, I'd look for another guy that you can trust.

If you need anymore help, just ask. :)

Best Regards,
Mariah

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13/f

So there's this guy, Harley, at my summer skool program. I hate him so much I could just... never mind. Anyways, he's in all of classes. I hate him because he's the only guy whose ever actually touched me. In 6th grade at a party we were roller skating. Well, he was knocking everybody down. Out of all the kids there, I was the only one he grabbed around the waist and spun around and hit my head on the concret floor, HARD. Well, every since then, I've hated him.I don't know if I like him. I don't know if he lieks me. Today at school, I wore really short shorts for the first time. I was sitting in class when I felt like somebody was watching me. I peered over and saw harley looking at my thigh. He was staring at it. I got really uncomferable. I think he might like me, but I think I might like him because he's cute, but he's been to juvy 6 times. I don't wanna like him. I like hating him. I know, that sounds weird, but hey. Any advice will help! Thanx!

UPDATED ANSWER: Tell him that you're sorry that you said those things to his friend, and that, looking back at what you did, you know that it was wrong and that you'd like to start from scratch.

If he forgives you, then I think you should give this guy a shot. If he doesn't forgive you, then you should move on; he's a waste of time if he doesn't trust you.

Best Regards,
Mariah

I would be a little worried if he went to juvy 6 times; that's a little scary.

If you really like him, I'd ask him out, but be warned that since he's had several run-ins with the law, it might be a good idea to just be friends for a little bit first, so that you can see the real side of him to see if he's a good person on the inside, and see if you really like him.

Just ask him if he'd like to be friends. Maybe he needs a friend that will show him the right path in life so that he can do good from now on.

If you need anymore help, just ask. :)

Best Regards,
Mariah

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15/f Ok, I never really hung out on the weekends with friends but now its getting worse. (This is long but please read. Thanks)

Ok, in 8th grade all this drama occured and I lost many friends. I actually read an online blog of someone who was "reporting" the drama and this girl left a comment saying "Oh, yea shes sooo annoying. Just tell the ___ to go away and never come around again" and this girl who acted like my bff was like "yea i know. i hate her. shes always following me around" &later in the yr this old friend of mine said "well you could always hit her when your mad" to the girl who started it and then smiled at me as she left.

then last yr it was a new school and the people i was hanging out with went to a different school and the people i have known forever dont talk to me. so i had to hang out with these girls who i honestly dont like and im pretty sure dont like me since the "leader" always is putting me down any chance she gets. she says im a "big dork, im short and its not because im short,& that i dont have any fun".

Also, i wore this shirt from hco and this girl was all like "ew why are you wearing that? losers dont wear that brand"

I feel so sad and sometimes I cry myself to sleep. I dont get why I dont have any friends. (Neither does my mom) Plus now I hate talking to people outside of class because once I heard these girls talking about this girl who hangs out with them during school and they were saying how no one likes her and how shes soo clingy and annoying. I felt that echo in my head when I went to a school function and I was suppose to be meeting up with a group and I only saw this girl who was part of it BUT she invited people from another school (her friends) and no one else was there. I felt soo...bad. I told my mom it was fine but it really wasnt. yes I had a good time but still.

So anyways, any tips on making friends or being more outgoing/confident. Please dont say "join clubs" because people join them with their friends and sometimes the other people dont like you.

You need to tell those girls that you don't like how they're treating you. You need to stand up for yourself, but stay civilized; don't swear or yell at them. They're probably insulting you either because they feel insecure about themselves or they feel powerful because you're giving in to their wrath.

You have to show them that you are a confident person, that does not give in to their insults and gossip.

Stand tall and be proud to be yourself, those girls sound like snobbish airheads anyways. Let them be in their own little world; they don't seem like true friends anyways, so don't even waste your time.

Make friends with other people around your school, or make some new friends by hanging out at the mall, or a place that you really like to hang out at, like a coffee shop, a book store, or something like that.

If you need anymore help, just ask. :D

Best Regards,
Mariah

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Ok so im 14, and i'm going to high school..
What's some stuff i SHOULD do and SHOULDN'T do
Like i need advice on making more friends


If it Helps:
*I'm friends with a few sophmores and juniors
*My school is very clique-y
*I'm friends with ALOT of people ranging from the "popular" people to "ghetto" people to "nerds"
srry I HATE using labels but i couldnt describe them any better

I would not worry about the cliques. Be your own person.

If you are an individual, and act like an individual, instead of seeming cliquey and talking to people that are only in your group, then other people that could become great friends with you could take you as being a snob, when you really aren't.

I would hang out with people from all different cliques. This way, you can make good, true friends that you can know and trust, that like you for you.

I wouldn't get mixed up in the whole clique thing, you should just be your own person, and be outgoing so that you can make friends with a variety of different people. Although, having a few good friends is better than having 200 friends that you don't really know.

After all, my philosophy is that friends are like puzzle pieces. They make up for your likes and differences, and you can't live without them. The more friends you have, the harder the "puzzle" is to solve. The less friends you have, the easier the puzzle is to solve, which makes you have better friends that you know and trust.

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me and my cousin have bee best friends since we were babies and we didnt really hang out much in our old town but we moved to north carolina and we hang out almost everyday now she gets realy mad at me for the stupidest things like going out with a guy she likes when she has a bf or me telling her to stop lieing and she always lies to her bf i mean she loves her bf but she told him she made out with a random guy, why would anyone tell their bfs that? i just need help should i keep being friends with her or what i reall need help

I think you should have a conversation with her about how she's treating you, and friends don't normally treat other friends like this. It needs to be a civil conversation, though, with no yelling, swearing, and whatnot. Share your side of the story, and tell her how she makes you feel.

If she's a true friend, she'll likely ease up.

If she doesn't ease up, then I think it's time to find some new friends.

You don't deserve to be treated like the way she is treating you, so you have to speak up.

If you need anymore help, just ask me. :)

Best Regards,
Mariah

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