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Hi! At this point, I'm just checking back when asked a question. When my life gets less hectic, I'll start browsing to find questions to answer. But please ask; I will answer within 24 hours.advice
I have a friend who wants a boyfriend but says that she doesn't like anyone. She says she wants to feel like she's loved by someone, but there is no one in our grade that she likes. How can i help her?
This is a tough one. Not because finding a boyfriend is going to be hard, but because when she does find one, she's going to discover it doesn't really help (for any length of time). At your ages, a boyfriend isn't going to love her, and the relationship is unlikely to last more than a few months. She needs something much more stable to fulfill her need to be loved.
It is important for all people to know that they are loved. Make sure she knows that you care about her, and that you value your friendship. If you attend a religious organization that gives hugs and tells people they are special and loved, invite her along. It is important that she knows that she's loved by her friends, even if it sounds corny. If you know she has relatives that love her, remind her of that too.
Encourage her to do things that she enjoys doing. She may meet a guy there, or she may not, but at least she won't be wasting her time. Trying to find a boyfriend and not finding anyone will only make her feel worse about the situation. Most of the time people hook up with people they really like when they're *not* looking.
lately i just feel weak and tired. I get sad often. My moods are up and down and i feel like i have no control. I don't know what to do
Well, the first thing to check is to make sure that you are getting proper nourishment and exercise. These are very important and can have profound effects your mental health. You should also get a complete physical done. There are illnesses, such as mono, that people sometimes mistake for depression because their main symptom is fatigue.
Once you've ruled out physical causes, find someone who can look at your life objectively. A religious leader or counselor are good starts. Your parents, roommates, or significant other are not good choices because they are too close to you and the situation. The person you choose to talk to should be able to help you determine if you really do have no control over things, or if you just feel like you have no control. If you really don't have a proper amount of control over your life, then you can make a plan to gain control.
If you determine that you're sad, feeling out of control, and tired for no reason, then you should look into the possibility of having depression or a related illness.
What are some ways to clean my dedicates like bras and pantyhose? They always come out tattered and deformed in the regular wash.
Everyone seems to be on the right track, but I'll give a little more detail. :)
Heat damages elastic and some delicate fabrics. So do bleach and most regular detergents. Baby detergents, like Dreft, or special fabric detergents like WoolLight, are good for delicates. If you have white bra's that you want to stay very white, add baking soda instead of bleach. If you have a full load, use 1/2 a cup. Nothing bad happens if you also have black items in the wash, or if you use too much baking soda.
If your going to use a washing machine, make sure it has a cold/cold temperature setting and a slow/slow wash setting. Sometimes they have extra slow, and that works too. If the machine doesn't have those settings, hand-wash instead.
If the bra's have hooks, make sure they are closed. I really like the small, zippered shut mesh bags for delicates. I put one bra per bag. It's cheaper to get the bigger ones though. If you get the ones big enough for multiple items, make sure the bra's are in a separate bag from the panty hose, just in case the bra's unhook. The pantyhose should not be bunched up (when they're bunched they tend to collect any lint that might be floating around). I have quite a few washable silk items that also go in this load.
To dry the bra's, unhook them and hang them up. My mom has a clothes line, but I toss them over the shower curtain bar until they stop dripping, and then hang them on doorknobs (usually because someone wants to actually take a shower in the shower before the bra's are totally dry).
Pantyhose I'll frequently leave in the bag and toss into the dryer alternating low heat and air dry. This is also how I dry the silk. None of those take very long - I'll usually do 10 min of air, low, air and they'll be done. Alternatively, pantyhose also dry quite well when hung in pairs from the clips on skirt hangers (from anything you can get that hanger to hang on - as long as there is some air moving around it).
Hand-washing is pretty simple, especially for delicates. Special fabric detergents like WoolLight have instructions on the container. If you want directions for hand-washing, please ask.
Does any one know of any good sites, that will take away my boredom... I am 14 and i jus need somethin to do while i am on the computer.. please helpp!! ((~*Kaile*~))
Yahoo games are good and will help you waste hours and hours. I'm especially fond of their word games like bookworm and text twist. You can also learn to play chess there - and have something you can cure your boredom with for the rest of your life! :)
http://nationalgeographic.com/kids/ has a lot of fun stuff, and it's educational too.
http://yahooligans.yahoo.com/ is a good place to start looking for stuff too.
I don't really know what your interested in, so I can't make very good suggestions. Just about anything your interested in can be found on the net.
Hi, Im looking for a good fudge recipe. Does anyone have one?
Really quick and easy fudge:
Ingredients:
1 Tbsp butter
1 can sweetened condensed milk
1 bag (18 oz) chocolate chips
1 tsp vanalla
Tools:
non-stick spray
saucepan
range-top
refrigerator
wooden spoon
8 x 8 x 2 glass pan
saran wrap
In a saucepan, melt the butter over low heat. Add sweetened condensed milk and vanilla. Slowly add chocolate chips, stirring them in as they melt. (it starts out looking like chocolate milk and then gets to a pudding like consistency). Keep the temperature on low or medium, you don't want it to boil.
Once all the chocolate chips are melted, turn off the heat and spray the glass pan (don't forget the sides) with non-stick spray. Pour the fudge into it. Leave it on the counter until you can pick up the pan w/o mits, then cover with saran wrap and move it to the fridge. It usually cools on the counter about 1/2 an hour (about how long it takes to lick the spoon, burn your fingers twice testing to see if the stuff left in the pan is cool enough to eat, and wash the pot - after licking it clean of course). It will need to be in the fridge another two hours before becoming hard. Cut it with a butter knife dipped in hot water.
Enjoy! :)
Okay, well I just got mine, tonight...and I am NOT telling my mom. At least, not yet. I just have a few questions about periods....
1. How often should I change them?
2. Should I wear them to bed?
3. How many should I carry with me?
4. Where should I put them? I don't carry a backpack...or a purse.
That's it. Thank you! =D
I only have experience with disposable pads, so I'll answer from that perspective. Just a shout out, if anyone reading this has experience with reusable cloth pads, I'm interested in knowing if this is different.
1. Change them when they fill up. As you get experience, you will learn what size you need. I'd aim for getting a size that needs to be changed every 3 or 4 hours. Except for overnight, don't keep the same pad in for more than 6 hours.
2. If your period is heavy, you'll probably want to stick with pads overnight. I have a few pairs of underwear that have already been stained with blood that I'll wear the last night of my period when there's almost no blood. I'm seriously considering changing to reusable cloth pads at night, so that the area has a chance to breathe.
3. How many you should have with you at any given time depends on how long your planing on being out. Since you don't have a backpack or a purse, if your only running out for a quick errand (less than 30 min), you can probably get away with not having any at all on you. If your going to be gone more than 1/2 an hour, I'd take one just to be on the safe side, even if you've just changed your pad before leaving
4. I keep a handful of pads and an extra pair of underwear in my car and in the backpack that I take when I'm planning on spending the night somewhere at all times. When I have my period, I usually shove another pad or two into the back pocket of my jeans. I use ultra-thins, so two fit without making a huge bulge (considerably smaller than most wallets, for instance).
As a side note, unless you do your own laundry, your mom will know pretty soon. It's unusual to get through a period without getting blood on the towel you dry off with after you bathe. And it's fairly common to get it on the bed-sheets too (even when the pad isn't full - I don't know how it happens, but it does).
Contrary to popular belief, menstral blood will wash out of cloth - I'm sure about cotton, not so sure about other fabrics. ASAP, wash it with cold water and a little soap. If you use hot water, or put it in the dryer, it will stain. But cold water and some soap usually gets it out after a few min.
Congratulations, btw. :)
How the heck am i supposed to get credit if I don't have any??? In this world we live in, you can't get credit unless you already have some. I have been turned down every time I have applied, and I don't know what to do! ANY SUGGESTIONS please
JLH
If you are a student, there are student credit cards available. Yeah, they usually have crappy rates, but they will help you establish credit.
From what I understand, a car loan is one of the few things that goes on your credit either good or bad. Apartments, phone bills, etc, only make a note on your record if they are bad from what I've seen.
If you've been turned down due anything that came back from a credit check - including there not being a record - you have a right to get a free copy of your credit report. Get one, even if your sure that there's nothing on it, just to be really really sure.
here goes if you are a guarantor for a relative who is buying a car & their credit rating is low and they default on payment does it effect your credit rating?
Yes. Being a guarantor for a relative means that you agree to pay if they don't. If they default on payment, you either pay it off for them, or your credit is affected just like theirs is.
Okay, my period is coming every 2 weeks now, like it will end at 2 weeks later it will start again..is that normal or should I be worried that I'm pregnant..b.c I read that pregnant people get 'spotting'. But my periods are like 5 days and heavy..please explain
It is true that some pregnant women "spot", but spotting is very very light.
In your case, you only need to worry if there are side effects to having your period that frequently. Make sure you don't get dehydrated or anemic. If you find yourself feeling weak or tired all the time, go to the doctor.
I am assuming your between 14 and 17, and you've not had your period for more than 2 years yet. If either of these assumptions are wrong, you should probably talk to a doctor, specifically a gynecologist.
ok.... well i have gone out with this guy 4 times and every time we brake up it is because of other girls!!! now he wants to go back out with me. he is always sweet and always says i love you to me. he always holds my hand and is always there for me.but the real question is ... should i go back oout with him or not? plz answer!!!
It doesn't sound like it upsets you that he goes out with other girls in between times with you. If it sounds like something *your* interested in doing, maybe the both of you can date each other and other people at the same time. That way he doesn't have to break up with you to see other girls. While he's with them, you can see other guys. Just make sure the other guys and gals know what's going on too. Everyone has to tell the truth and be able to trust each other for something like this to work.
how is a good, healthy, and quick way to lose weight?...like 20 pounds or so? (not atkins)(or Jenny Craig)
Quick is a relative term. You need to burn 500 more calories than you eat every single day to loose a pound a week. It's not recommended that someone loose more than 2 pounds a week unless they have medical supervision and are extremely overweight. So to loose 20 pounds safely, it will take at least 10 weeks - or two and a half months.
Most people find that a pound a week is a goal that they can do without feeling deprived or exercised to death. It will take 20 weeks, or 5 months, to loose 20 pounds that way. You can loose a pound a week either by eating 500 calories less, or by exercising 500 more calories away. Usually trying a bit of both is a good idea.
If you want suggestions for how to cut 500 calories a day, and/or how to burn 500 calories a day, let me know. It will basically boil down to eating more fresh fruits and vegetables and exercising about an hour a day.
Does anyone reccommend any energy drinks or power bars that give you energy in a healthy way? Cuz I know that some energy drinks can be bad for you or make you really jittery and shaky.. does anyone have any reccommendations?? Thanks!!
It sounds like you want a drink or bar with a mild stimulant (to make you a "little more hyper") but you are worried about being sensitive to them and/or taking too much. Everyone reacts a little differently to stimulants. Drinks with ginseng and caffeine, for instance, cause some people to become jittery and shaky, but most people just get a little boost from them.
My best suggestion is to find something that sounds like it tastes good, read the ingredients, and see how you react to it. Keep track of the ingredients on anything that makes you jittery or shaky so you can figure out what it is that your sensitive too.
Other things to keep in mind:
* sugar and caffeine are common stimulants. They can make you "a little more hyper" too. :)
* making sure you are well nourished and are getting all your vitamins, minerals, and other essential nutrients is important in keeping energy levels up too.
Good Luck in your search for more energy. If you have questions about the ingredients in any of the drinks/bars you find, please don't hesitate to ask. :)
to start i have been geting sick every three weeks for two and i have been diagnosed so many times and i have been told its all inmy head and taken every drug under the sun . and now they think that i have lupis ( i think i spelled that wrong ) and i am going to children s in boston and if there is any who has this then is there any thing i can do to make me feel better longer cause every time i get sick i need to go on steriods and i dont want to go back on them .please help .
Lupus is a disease. It's not contagious (you didn't "catch" it from anyone, and you can't "give" it to anyone). You will have it for the rest of your life - like diabetes or arthritis. There are medications that can help control it, but there is no cure. No chronic disease is a fun thing, but you can still live a full and happy life with lupus.
http://www.lupus.org/ is a website that you and your family may find helpful in learning about the disease and finding support from other people who also have lupus.
My favorite pants have a hole in the crotch and the fabric is worn thin around the seam. How can i fix the hole without sewing. I have tried duct tape and safety pins already. Do you have any ideas?
You can get iron-on patches at fabric stores. And probably at all-purpose stores like Walmart too. I don't think they're the best solution to the problem (I think making a patch from similar fabric would be the best solution), but they don't require any sewing - just an iron and a pair of scissors to cut them to the right size (make sure the patch overlaps good - not thin - fabric by about/at-least 1/2 an inch on all sides).
ok is it weird for girls to bite guys lips? cuz usually guys bite mine but iv never bitten theirs... and what about running my tongue across my bfs teeth when were making out? my firend told me thats good but i dont know... please help ill rate hi and if u guys have any other ideas please tell me!
Well, usually biting is something done more from the more dominant/aggressive party to the more submissive/passive party. Gender doesn't really matter much.
Kissing is something that ends up being pretty individual. If something sounds like it might be fun, try it. See how your partner reacts. Some people like biting, some people like being bitten, some people like both. Some people like licking, some people like moving away to take a breath (and to watch the look on their partners face as they reach forward for more kisses), some people like seeing how far they can get their tongue into the other persons mouth. Some people like kisses slow and soft, some like them hard and fast. It depends on who you are, and what the circumstances are. I've enjoyed all those types of kisses at different times.
If you kiss the same person a lot, you will eventually get into a groove with each other. Which most people find comfortable - and allows for you to totally surprise them by doing something different now and again. : )
And remember, even if everyone tells you that something is "normal", if you don't like it, tell your partner not to do it! If they do it anyway, drop em and find someone who respects you. (and of course, if they tell you they don't like something, respect them enough to not do it either.)
how do you make yourself throw up? like i know you stick your finger down your throat but like ive tried that and it doesn't really work..like is there a cerant way to stick it down or anything..I'm not bulimic or anything I didn't feel good and i ate something and i felt like i had to throw up and i couldn't so i tried to make myself but it didn't work..thanks
There are multiple ways to make yourself vomit. I don't recommend any of them unless directed by poison control or a doctor. If your stomach is upset because something didn't agree with it (rather than having ingested something dangerous), your better off putting something into it to settle it than trying to force it to empty itself.
Carbonated beverages help settle the stomach. My family prefers 7up or sparkling mineral water; Coca-Cola is also known for settling the stomach.
Sometimes taking an antacid (like tums) helps. If your going to get antacids, get the ones with Calcium. It's good for you, even if they don't help your tummy feel better. Follow the directions though.
There are various other over the counter medications.
Oh, and just so you know, it's a bad idea to take the tums with coca-cola. Tums are antacids (bases) and coca-cola is a fairly strong acid (for being something you eat). You will just end up burping a lot of and feeling bloated. It may cause you to vomit if your already nearly doing so, but it will more likely just cause you to feel worse.
Speaking of which, that was your original question. I should get around to actually answering it. :)
You have a gag reflex. There is a spot on the back of your throat where if pressure is applied, you will retch. The more pressure, the more likely you will vomit. This is what "sticking your finger down your throat" is about.
Syrup of Ipecac is sold for the purpose of making people vomit. Don't just take this stuff, it's sold for emergencies for when kids swallow something that will kill them.
Hope you feel better!
IN 2002 I was in an auto accident which was not my fault I did have surgery in 2003 and several other treatments done it has been three years and what I would like to know is , is there a time limit on how long before the lawsuit is setteled and can my laywer make the other person come up with a settelment so that it does not have to go to tril.
The statute of limitations applies to the amount of time that can go by before you start legal proceedings (more or less, ask the lawyer for details). Once you start, there is no time limit to how long things take.
Your lawyer can't make them settle, but a judge can impose time limits.
From the experience of one person I know, an uncontested accident settlement took over a year to iron out the details of, so if there's some conflict, I can imagine that it would take a few years.
Your lawyer should be able to give you a timeline of what needs to get done, how long it should take, and where you are right now.
Good Luck.
Over the weekend me and my friend got in a fight with a permanet marker, she accidently got some on my light pair of jeans and it won't come out. I washed them and put SHOUT stain remover on them twice but it still won't come out. Do any of you have any suggestions? My jeans are really light, so I dont wanna to ruin there color or anything, and if I bleach them, then I'll lose the color in that spot. Please help.
at one time, there were "bleach pens" sold in the supermarket. I haven't seen them in ages, but they for situations like this. If you can find one of those, or apply the bleach with a cue-tip, it will limit the bleaching action to a small area. However, it is bleach, so the original color of the jeans won't be there either.
There is also Clorox Color Safe Bleach, but I've not used it, so I don't know if it works.
A real permanent marker isn't going to come out, however, a lot of "permanent" markers aren't, so you've got a chance. :)
I think I have my mind made up already but I'll still ask. I'm in kitchen and bath design and sent out resumes and drawings of mine. Place #1 called first...i'm interested in it but I don't think I personally have enough experience with Auto Cad and computer drawings but they want to hire me. A couple days later, Place #2 called. I love what they do there but still haven't gotten back to me on it. I called today and they don't know when they are going to know but seemed interested at the interview. I told #1 I'd let him know by wednesday. what if #2 doesn't call by then
I agree with Politics Junkie. I'd take the Job #1. The only exception is if you don't actually need a (new?) job. But if it would be bad to get neither job, then take Job #1.
I've been kept hanging by employers who are interested but don't know when they'll have a position open. One kept me waiting for months, and never came through with anything.
Other notes:
1. It's bad etiquette to tell Job #1 that your waiting to hear back from a place you'd prefer to work at. It is not considered bad etiquette to tell Job #2 that you have another offer, and if they can't get you a set date, you will take the other job. Be polite about it, but don't let them keep you hanging.
2. Don't worry about not having enough experience if you were honest with them.
Good Luck with your new job!
okay theres this guy i like and he likes me.. this saturday night... we're supposed to do "something". i no what it is because we talked about it. Well... to get me out of the house.. he's gonna say that we're going out to eat then to the movies. I think we still might go to the movies. im not sure yet. But then all weekend we're hanging out. I just have to let him know what time i have to work.
Well this morning.. he asked me if i was seriously ready for it.. i told him i am. i just keeep getting nervous when we talk about it. Like yesterday... my older sister rode with us.. i knew he wanted to talk bout it becuase i saw the look on his face.. so i made her ride the bus today.. and we did talk bout it. Mostly the whole way to school. Should i go through with it? I mean we both want to but we're both scared too. Because he's 18 and im 15! and as u know he can get introuble for it. but i dont want him to get introuble. We both want to go through it.. i definately want to. I never did n e thing with a guy b4. i knew him for 9 years so its not like im gonna do it with a complete stranger....
please let me know....
Maybe... maybe not....
Are you trying to tell us that the two of you are thinking about having sex this weekend, but your nervous? It's normal to be nervous before trying anything new.
If so, here's a checklist.
1. can you discuss sex with him - directly, using the words "sex", "pregnancy", and "disease"? You seemed to have issues using the word "sex" here.
2. what method of birth control are you using? do you both know how to use it? what it's failure rate is? If you get pregnant, what will you do?
3. will this be a regular activity, or is this a one shot deal?
4. how much lying will this involve? are you comfortable with lying? will you have to lie to your parents? your friends? his parents and friends? who can you you talk to it about? You both really need to have at least one other person you can talk to about the situation (in addition to being able to talk to one another).
5. Are both of you virgins? If not, has he been tested for STDs?
6. Will you be able to get the proper medical care? After you have sex, you need to start getting annual "well woman" exams, especially a pap smear.
Given the tone of your post, I'm going to suggest that you not have sex with him this weekend. Go ahead and go out with him, even make out with him. If the two of you have already been touching each other inside and outside of your clothing and you feel an intense need to do "more" with each other, try using your hands to get each other off. Have plenty of tissue up to clean up with. If you've already done that and still want to do more, try oral sex. Flavored condoms are not that hard to find, or that expensive. He can cut one up the length to make a dental dam for performing oral sex on you.
Please note that depending on the laws, he can still get in trouble for doing these things. I don't know what state your in, what the age of consent is there, or what the details of the law are. Some states have a "min age gap". http://ageofconsent.com/ageofconsent.htm has the min ages for many countries and all the US states.
Don't rush these things, don't let anyone else rush you. Make sure that he knows that it's ok for you changing your mind at the last min, even if you've agreed already to do a certain thing. You'll be a little nervous your first time, but it should "feel right" enough where you don't get to the point of asking a forum on the internet if it's "ok".
If in doubt, wait.