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My friend wants a boyfriend
I have a friend who wants a boyfriend but says that she doesn't like anyone. She says she wants to feel like she's loved by someone, but there is no one in our grade that she likes. How can i help her?
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you cant do anything for sure.
shes just being picky.
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She probably does like someone but is too shy or afraid to tell anyone. Try to get her to talk to guys more and include her in your conversations.
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Often, I have seen that when younger girls feel that they need a boyfriend there is a deeper underlying issue going on. I don't know how old your friend is but she may just feel that all her friends have boyfriends that she feels left out of the loop. I know that happens when you get much older and your friends are all engaged or married and you're the only single one left.
If she has really low self-esteem and maybe depressed sometimes, one can feel that they need someone to love them because they aren't able to love themselves. She shouldn't just date someone because she wants a boyfriend. She should go out with someone that she can be friends with. If not in her grade then (depending on your age) with someone in another grade. If she wants to meet more people, then there are always (once again depends on age) that you can go, which are more social (talk to the nice guy in the coffeeshop or something like that- or some places where people your age like to hang out).
In due time though she will find someone that she likes and will date. There isn't a set age that yo uneed to have a boyfriend. Let it happen naturally.
Yours,
Arun
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get a guy from outside school or your grade he can b older but not yunger thats wrong!!!
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This is a tough one. Not because finding a boyfriend is going to be hard, but because when she does find one, she's going to discover it doesn't really help (for any length of time). At your ages, a boyfriend isn't going to love her, and the relationship is unlikely to last more than a few months. She needs something much more stable to fulfill her need to be loved.
It is important for all people to know that they are loved. Make sure she knows that you care about her, and that you value your friendship. If you attend a religious organization that gives hugs and tells people they are special and loved, invite her along. It is important that she knows that she's loved by her friends, even if it sounds corny. If you know she has relatives that love her, remind her of that too.
Encourage her to do things that she enjoys doing. She may meet a guy there, or she may not, but at least she won't be wasting her time. Trying to find a boyfriend and not finding anyone will only make her feel worse about the situation. Most of the time people hook up with people they really like when they're *not* looking.
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You can be her friend. True, she might have some boy problems but who cares. The best things in life are family, friends, and doing things you love. She might really want a boyfriend but she probably would want friends more. Be a good friend and try to fulfill your responsibilities as a good friend and you can watch out for a good potential boyfriend along your journey in school. Good luck
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