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Life is full of hardships and though being as young as I am, I've dealt with a lot over my time. I'll admit, I've never had a death of a loved one, getting stung by a bee, had cancer, or died and revived so I can live to tell about it, I still have some know hows on how to deal with it all. I know things here and there that have nothing to do with anything but it helps in times of need. Its all a matter of paying attention and figuring out what could have, would have, or should have been done.

I can give great advice sometimes, buts a matter of fact that you can't just read it and go,"That's a great idea, I might do that..." Take into account that advice is only as good as the person who uses it, not the person who gives it...
The golden moments in the stream of life rush past us and we see nothing but sand; the angels come to visit us, and we only know them when they are gone.
George Eliot
English novelist (1819 - 1880)


Character is what God and the angels know of us; reputation is what men and women think of us.
Horace Mann
US educator (1796 - 1859)

Be not forgetful to entertain strangers, for thereby some have entertained angels unawares.
Hebrews 13:2

We are, each of us angels with only one wing; and we can only fly by embracing one another.
Luciano de Crescenzo

A man does not have to be an angel in order to be a saint.
Albert Schweitzer
French philosopher & physician (1875 - 1965)

God always has an angel of help for those who are willing to do their duty.
T. L. Cuyler

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My friends and I were having a discussion in my AP US Government class because our teacher was absent and we were bored. Anyway, one girl was telling me how, if you're not legally certified and you were to, for example, give someone CPR or the heimlich maneuver, even if you save their life, they can sue you...
She said once she was lifeguarding at a club and somehow a pingpong table fell over on a young girl and the parents wanted to sue for emotional damages or something like that. They club had to settle because their lawyer said the lawsuit could win. I just have 2 questions...

How is it legal that you could sue someone for saving your life just because they weren't certified to do so?
How is it moral to do that? Your life (or child's life) was SAVED, how are you going to morally justify suing someone... are you that cheap and can you possibly want money that much?

I suppose I might understand if someone performed one of those and the person died because (and it should be proved) it was done incorrectly... but come on.

How is this legal? I plan on asking my teacher next time I see him, but I was just curious as to what laws would justify this.

People sue mostly because they feel they can get money out of the situation if they can find a good reason. One lady sued McDonalds because their coffee was hot when she spilled it on her lap. One man decided he could sue God just to prove you could sue anyone! Nowadays, laws for suing have been over used and corrupted to a point that you could willingly get into a fight, get yourself beat up and suing the person or people who beat you up for medical bills, emotional damage, attempt of murder, etc... all you need is a reason and a good lawyer and you could sue anyone for anything.

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Ok whenever i have proplems at school with someone im always kinda worried or scared about whats going to happen it gets me realy nervous or somethig i cant help it, please anyone with any ideas to help me or have similar problems tell me how to get over it

Sounds like you care for someone dearly, but when you worry, you over exaggerate the problem in your head.. One of the best ways to cope with this problem is to talk to someone about it. Another good way to try to cope is to write out all the possible bad things that could happen and either burn it or shred it or throw it somewhere you won't ever find it again. That way you get all those negative thoughts out from your head and into reality on paper, and you can easily take them and push them aside. After that, try not to ever think about the bad, only the good. Keep a positive out look. Even if you feel its the end of the world or going to be, keep your head up and keep moving. The longer you dwell in the past and fix your mind on problems, the worse life will seem. Look to the future, and only look to the good.

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I have huge crush on this guy. I'm in 8th grade and 13/f. He talks to me a lot and every time we get new seating arrangements he always ends up sitting behind me. He pulls me hair and jokes around a lot too. I don't know what you would consider flirting though. But he talks to me about random things. We have some stuff in common so far that I know of. I wish he would ask me out, of course almost every girl would but if he ever did I might say no because of embarrassment. What do you think I should do? And by any chance do you think he might like me? I have 3 classes with him and 2 of them he talks to me. But of course he talks to other girls to but not a lot. Thanks so much!

The most likely possibility is that he does like you. Most signs of him liking you you could notice(or already have noticed) are things like him looking at you often, making eye contact he either looks away or smiles, etc. Really, I think you should just keep talking to him and laughing along with him. If he starts talking about some random thing, you go along with it and keep the conversation going. Whatever he does, play along with it. But if things get too far or uncomfortable for you, say it, dont hide it.

I can give you that much, but I got nothing on how to flirt XD sorry...

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I am doing a project about communication for my economy/business class

Which country is the most active in writing letters to communicate (mailing a note)

which country would depend on computers for news/messages

If my memory serves correctly, Im pretty sure Japan is the most reliant on tech for news and messaging.

Who writes Im not really sure, but I think Africa or Mid Asia would be the best choices.

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So i am starting to like this guy i work with! He just started working at my store... I am not sure if he likes me or not.. but i was just wondering if it is weird or not to date someone you work with?? and if we ever dated should we keep it a secret from everyone we work with?

Actually, its okay to date a co-worker. There really is no law that states otherwise, but your boss may have set up a rule against it. So be aware.

And if you two ever do start dating, its really up to you whether you keep it a secret or not. If you feel its too embarrassing to share, then compromise.

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Okay. Well. Yeah. =]

I'm a 17-year-old guy and I'm bisexual. It took me a while to admit to it, but I finally accepted it. =] Anyways, I've told my mom and she has no problem with it. My parents are divorced, by the way. Well, I want to tell my dad, but he is extremely homophobic. I seriously think he would yell at me. He lives in another state. I visit him in March.

Should I tell him I'm bisexual, and if I should, then how? I'd like to tell him before March because I wear eyeliner and don't want to stop wearing it when I see him.

I would suggest straight up telling him. How he reacts is how he will react. If he can't accept you for the way you are as his son, then you don't deserve to him as a father.

But I'm sure he will just think awkward of you because you technically aren't gay. Your bi, so you still like girls. So what would be a good idea is to hang out with him for like a guys night out or something and promise to only think about girls when your around him to help make him more comfortable. That way hell still know, but won't think much about it.

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Heyy!! Me and my friend are going to this math thing...its for gifted kids and they take it really serously but us and our teacher are just going to have fun. anyway, we wer thinking about dressing up as kinda-dorks but we dont want to look ugly! Any idea how we can be smart-looking and still cute??

Thanx so much!

Xo,

I would say dress up like a uniformed stereotypical nerd. But, not too stereotypically nerdy. Like dress formal-casual or uniformed and wear glasses have the pocket protector and things, but still wear make up and have your hair look nice and stuff. Really, I've noticed that people who tend to be smart dress more formally than others, and most wear glasses. So a hint for glasses, find some old pair of glasses you or a friend or family member doesnt use and pop out then lenses, unless you wear glasses

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Yes. Anoher Myspace question. But anyway I have a screenshot so you can see what I'm talking about! :]

http://img185.imageshack.us/img185/8610/blahtv9.png

I circled the things I wanted codes for.

1. How can I make my navigation bar look like that? With a box around it and a color (maybe a pic?) inside, and after the "forum" link, the rest of the links hopped down another line.

2. What's the font and the font size?

3. How do I get a box around all my tables with a background color/pic inside? (I've seen this before with a pic inside. Of course the background has to repeat >.> xP)

4. How can I customize the bars on the left side? (Where it says "so and so's interests")

5. Where can I find codes that lets me customize the bars that say "general, music, tv, movies, etc"?

Sorry this is so long and I have so many questions =\ Anything would help!! (websites, myspace profiles, etc.) :] Thanksss sooo much! ;D

1 There some website that has these codes, Ive seen it in several of my friends profiles. Find a website like http://www.pimp-my-profile.com/ or something that allows you to color links.

2 Font is the lettering system used by computers. Such as when you go to open office or a document program, it tell you your using Arial Font. to change the font size for words or phrases try using this and to close it use

Again, try the website above to find the codes your looking for. Or search other sites that edit myspace profiles. Best to be specific too...

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Okay so, one of my guy friend's told me a few weeks ago that he likes my friend, lets call her R, and R is extremly pretty, prettier than me... and she doesn't feel the same way about him, but I am beginning to like my guys friend, he'll be called A, and A is well...shorter than me...and I don't want to tell him I like him, because we all (me, R, and A) all have one class together and I don't kow how long this feeling will last...because the marking period is almost over and that means our one period together will be over.
so my questions are:
1. what should I do about A
2. do u think that we have a lil difference in height bother him?
3. Will he get over my friend?
4. How do I let him know that I'm intrested in him without actually telling him and being blunt or way to obvious?

Thanks in advance.

lol, ok, dont worry.(BTW I might jump around your questions so try to bear with) Unless hes dense(oblivious) he should eventually notice shes not interested. But that is only an assumption. He could be stuck with his head in the clouds over your friend while she just ignores. But as long as your sure that your friend isn't interested, the more likely he'll get over.

About the height difference, Ive heard that guys are actually attracted to taller girls. But again, only an assumption. I mean, unless you stand over 3 inches above him, the difference really shouldn't matter. High School is full of height differences(and trust me, I would know -_-) so it shouldn't really weird him out much.

And if you really dont want to make it overly obvious that you want to show him you like him, try hanging out with your friend when hes around. Get into conversations you can actually fit into. Get to know him and let him get to know you. Assuming he doesnt already know all about you that is. So if you do, just hang out with your friend when "A" is around, and dont leave if "A" leaves. It might make others start thinking. Also make sure that "R" isnt there to be a distraction if you can help it. Unless he gets over her very quickly, its likely he'll pay more attention to her. But, dont act like a wall to block her out. Just try to find a way to blend into the picture.

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Well basically...

In the last 2 maybe 3 weeks Ive been suffering with various aches and pains, such as
-Headache,
Nausea,
Dizziness and
Chest Pains...
Also other little aches & pains like across the top of my eyes.
But worst of all, Im ALWAYS dehydrated. And often feel sick after eating, and I dont eat more than I should, I eat just under what I should eat, as I can only eat a small amount until Im full up.

I cant figure out what it could be, and it usually only occurs towards night time, however the sickness and dehydration is constant.
I get plenty of sleep so it cant be sleep related.
So Im really stuck for what it could be.

Someone suggested I get tested for Diabetes, but noone in my family has ever suffered it, and I would expect my pains to be more severe for something like this...

So basically, does anyone know what all these symptoms could be tied too? I dont want diagnosing as such, I just want possibilities. Thank You!

Seeing a doctor is the best idea there is, he'll give you better suggestions.

But for eating, eat small foods that are healthy and avoid acidic foods and spicy foods.

Dizziness and nauea could be a lack of oxygen to the brain, so try to learn how to yawn on command or sit back down, sit up straight and take deep breaths

For the chest pains and head ache, try ibuprofen.

If your dehydrated all the time, carry water with you all the time, drink vitamin water or other fluids with vitamins and minerals. Avoid caffeinated drinks because they make you even more dehydrated. Also, eat small fruits that contain water in them like grapes or chopped apples.

Try taking vitamin C and other normal vitamins.

Another thing I think you should try is to eat small foods with fiber in them. It could help you feel hungrier more often by clearing out your digestive system. It might also help with your feeling of sickness by removing what ever is in your body, because its possible your having a reaction to something that entered your body as well...

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Hey people,

There's this guy I really like from Uni for over 2 years now, but he's not the dating type as it seems as he's quite focused on studies. We're med students. The thing is we're kind of friends, i've done a lot for him as a friend, so it's more of a one-wayish thing. but he's really nice, it's not a love-at-1st-sight thing, cause i fell for him months after we met. It sort of developed into this really crazy thing and it's driving me nuts.

I'm not in the same batch anymore due to certain circumstances and I really miss him so much. We went on a trip to a fun park once, and when i refused to go on the scariest ride there, and I said I'd die if i go on that, he said, "I'll die with you", but it was really soft and I dont know if it was a random thing or he meant it..i've no clue.

I talk to him online sometimes, i usually say hello first. He never says hello first, even when we meet. I really cant read him, need some help..

Acc to our common friend, he said I take the effort to dress well and look good etc.. so that means he notices me, right?
I thought he couldnt care less about me.

THe thing that's bothering me is, the last time i logged on MSN, he signed off 5 mins later, it sounds really immature, but I'm quite affected by it.


I've fallen way too hard for him and it's the first time i'm feeling this way for someone, but how do I know what he feels? it's really hard causeof the small things he does like the MSN thing for instance..

Dont worry about small things like the event on MSN. Hes just naturally hard to get and (by what I can tell from what you wrote)slightly oblivious. The point is he actually notices that you dress well and look nice, which is a good sign that he pays attention to YOU. And the hello thing is actually kind of normal for guys like him. Im the same way. I dont say anything because I dont know if you want to talk to me. But when you do, the conversation goes.

And if you really want to try to read him, you need to hang out with him as much as possible. Study with him, ask him to do assignments with you, get him to help you with your education, because it seems that his head is within learning overall. This might even let him realize what you think of him.

And if it really bothers you(the MSN thing) then its best to tell you thats probably a sign he knows and he doesn't know what to do. Because logic won't give him a good enough answer. So just let it go and continue on okay? Good Luck b^_^

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ok so im trying out for track tomorrow and im really nervous. and on top of that my crush is trying out!!! im freaking out im scared im going to totally embarass myself. any tips to help calm down and get my mind off of him? and also if you know of any good running tips please tell!!! thanks alot

For starters, dont freak out. Keep your mind on the track and not impressing him.(Assuming your a girl by the heart because you didnt specify(sorry)) If you have to, keep yourself busy. But when practice is over, trying hanging with him to boost your confidence level. That way, when you see him you wont be so freaked out. But if you feel you could never do this in your life, then take it easy and slowly and gradually get closer to him. Because if you both make it, your going to have to get to know him.

One running tip is to endurance run. Take a jog in the morning if you can or after school. Stretch out your arms and legs before you run. Drink a lot of water or gaterade or something because your legs are going to hurt. DO NOT over run. If you feel your at your limit(unless its practice) then stop and take a breather. During practice they are going to make you run a lot, so if you get tired during practice slow down and take deep breathes. As long as you show your giving effort, youll look good. But again, you should try to exercise outside of practice as well.

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I am 15/f and I have brown tags all over my neck. Usually you are supposed to get these when you are MUCH MUCH older and I'm getting them on me now....and it really lowers my self esteem because I already have problems with my self esteem because of my body, don't get me wrong, I love my life and I'm not gonna do anything drastic
but what should I do? I'm going to a dermetologist but my mom said there realy is nothing you can do about it because it grows back. Am I abnormal? What is wrong with me??
Thanks in waaaay advance.

You really shouldn't worry about it. But if it really bothers you, your dermatologist should give you suggestions. Unless its a skin reaction from irritation, try putting foundation over it that is the same skin color as yours or a lotion that helps alter skin color when you go out and don't want it to be seen.

And no your not abnormal, you body is simply reacting differently to something than most people would. A lot of people are different like that. So don't feel like a freak or something okay?

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I'm in high school, 15/f, a freshmen and it seems like everyone in my school besides me drinks and does drugs. I will NEVER drink or do drugs because it ruins your life...but at lunch one day, my friends were all talking about how they went to one of my friends house, let's call her A, and how A's mom was home and they still got away with drinking vodlka and beer and getting crunk together. Only one of my friends had a sip of vodkla and nothing else at the party but all of the sudden I was sooo mad. The day before the party, my friend who only had a sip of vodlka [lets call her F] was like, to A, "yeah, I'll have a drink, and I'll get close to drunk." and A was like, "F! I am sooooo proud of you! You don't know how proud I am of you that you are going to get drunkk!" and I got sooo mad at that I just bursted out and said to A, "Why is that something to be proud of?!" and A was like, "Because F swore off everything remotley related to drinking and drugs, so I am sooo proud of her that she even said that right now." and I was like, "well, I'm not going to drink and I'm not doing drugs." and everyone at the lunch table just looked at me except for my other friend, lets call her S, agreed with me. Then I didn't go to A's party and Monday I heard some pretty bad stories like of the people getting drunk and how they got it all on video...it like made me mad.
I'm mad, and I thought higher of my friends and now they all think I'm a loser, except for F and S, because I don't want to drink and do drugs. What should I do? any comments will be greatly appreciated and thanks ot all of you who read all of that because I know it was confusing and long.

First of all, get your friend who went in the wrong direction back in the right direction.
Second, stay who you are now, your on the right path. And if you remain on that path, others are more likely to follow.
And if you can, try to get others to realize the dangers if you can. Otherwise, try to find as many people who are just like you and stick with them, even if they can be a hassle or arent the kind of people you hang out with or whatever. As long as you can be with others who have the same thoughts as you, you are more likely to stay on that path.
And if it worries you so much about the others and their use of drugs and alcohol, try to get those people to quit or help those tat want to quit do so. Other than that, you should just treat them like they were normal people unless they are high, drunk, or doing drugs.

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heyy :)
okay so i got an ipod touch but i have no clue how to put movies on it.
i downloaded movies from limewire,
but it wont let me open them on itunes.

thanks

Its because the type of file your trying to put on your touch is wrong. GO find a website that lets you download a program that converts movie files into .MP4 files. Then you should be able to watch movies. Of course, this is a guess that the touch uses the same files as a fifth gen classic...

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okay so me and my boyfriend have been dating for a couple years and we both decided we were ready for sex. we tried but the problem was he couldnt really get it up. he's 17 he should be able to... when finally did get it up it was last a few minutes then it would be gone again, he never came.

i don't really know what to think. I am not trying to sound conceited but im not really unattractive, i have a nice body because i work out alot and a cute face and we're really in love so i dont really understand how he is having so much trouble getting turned on...

i've done everything i can think of, i've given him head and he said it felt good but the feeling just kind of went away before he came. i've asked him to tell me what feels good and he said i was already doing it right but obviously it isnt working! i wore sexier underwear and done little things that generally turn guys on like kissing his body, touching him, teased him or just kind of went for it, set the mood - nothing works

so, question #1
is my boyfriend just not attracted to me? what can i do to turn him on? i ask him and he says im doing everything right but i cant be....

question #2
guys, what REALLY turns you on?

Theres a possibility that he isnt attracted to you, but I doubt it. There is a likely cause hes stressed about something. Or has his mind on other things. There are several possible answers and some I dont really want to get in to... But overall, get him relaxed before you guys start... you know... doing it. Give him a massage, tell him to calm down, clear his head of all things, and massage his head, back, shoulders, whatever. Whisper in his ear about a tranquil or happy place. The funny thing is, Im actually telling you, you should not try to turn him on, but try to do the opposite(sorta). If you get his head cleared, your more likely to turn him on afterwards. Because its probably true, you are doing everything right, its just sub-consciously, his mind is off.

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for English to have to write a short essay and use satire. I have noooo clue what to write about, everyone has come up with really good ideas and i don't wanna steal any of them, i need help!

A satire is basically making fun of anything that you think is wrong in the world, that others think is right. Like, say you hate the government. You make fun of them, making them make stupid calls, hiding ridiculous things, etc. Your simply take something that you can easily make fun with and change it up. Use over exaggeration, make things that form irony and oxymorons and super imaginative values. If you need help figuring out what I mean, watch things on Comedy Central. Like the Colbert Report or the Daily Show. South Park is a good one too. And so is Mad TV, those are all Satires.

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i downloaded this program called 'block website buddy' and i blocekd runescape cause i was really mad at my brother and he was ALWAYS on that game and now i cant unblock that program unless i buy the software.. which i really dont want to just for one site. so what should i do? i cant use web proxys either.. so idont know what to do?

Uninstall, or if you have Windows, System Recovery(if you have it) it should get rid of that program and release Runescape, but, you'll also lose some programs that have been recently been installed and saved documents...

But overall, either should work

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okay im a 16/f and there's this really mean girl at my school who won't leave me alone. i had problems with her over the summer and before that. like over the summer she started saying shit to me on myspace and i said shit back to her. and over Christmas break i added her on facebook and on myspace. because well i forgot about what happened between us and i don't hold grudges against people. well on myspace she messaged me and was like don't send me a friend's request because i don't want to be your friend or whatever. and i cussed her out and got mad and then i told her i didn't care if she wanted to be my friend and she needed to leave me alone. and then i blocked her and then after that i sent her another message telling not to ever start shit with me over the internet and if she had something to say to say it to my face. well she said she will at school the nest day and i assumed that she didn't go to my school anymore because she stopped going. well the next day she was at school! and to make things worse she's in my health class 5th period!! and she saw me and when she did she turned to a bunch of other girls and was like omg nikita is in this class ugh i hate her and she and the other girls said a bunch of shit about me.. and now all she does in that class is talk about me and stare at me and give me mean looks. and then she started calling me a bitch in the hallway but i took i as a comliment and then after tht like today after school i walked passed and she was like you better watch youself bitch and i didn't say anything. well i was wondering i man i ignore but she still says mean things to me. and im not sure if i should tell the school what happened since i message her last time.. so what should i do? sorry its really long but please help me!!

Shes picking on you because your a target that fights back. And the more you fight back, the more of a reason she feels it gives her to continues. Just ignore her, and don't do anything about it. If she tries to talk to you, walk past her like she wasn't even there. If she messages you, you leave it alone like its nothing. One of several result may occur though.
Shell forget
Shell feel bad
Or she will resort to violence. And that is when you need to take into action. If there is something that suggests she is going to do something that will hurt you physically, tell a counselor, dean, principle, security guard, hall monitor, whatever. Make sure you hang out with friends a lot too. If you have numbers, she is more likely to avoid confronting you. But the number one thing to do is not fight back. If you have to, only imagine what you want to say, but dont say out loud. And dont confront her either. If she goes one route to class, find another. The best idea to resolve this conflict is distance and patience.

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Hello, all.
A few years ago I tried contacts, but had a hard time getting them out.

Now, three years later, I feel like I want to try them again, but I feel kinda iffy because this year I've gotten A LOT of compliments on how I look (over the summer I resolved to swallow my shyness and be outgoing so I could show people who I really am instead of hiding it away).

I know if I get contacts, I'm going to look weird, because people aren't used to me without glasses. Also, my crush has seemed to be showing more interest in me (I've been hanging out with him more lately, a rarity this school year because of our busy schedules...I've been so happy!)

I've asked some friends whether or not I should get contacts, and some of them say I look adorable in my glasses. Basically I'm afraid of losing my compliments and possibly my friend's increased interest in me if I get contacts...so any advice would be WONDERFUL!

Thanks so much, and sorry it's so long!

Getting contacts actually help a lot over time. Everything takes time. I wore glasses way back when and nowadays I love to wear my contacts because I feel I look better in them. Plus, glasses tend to rub around and spread acne. Getting contacts can also lower that problem over time. Eventually, you can get them in and out with ease and look you best everyday XD

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